Darkstarrydame - Reyla

It is given to each of us, the decision of how to best live our own life. As for me, I choose genuinely.

“Don’t allow your wounds to turn you into a person you are not.”

— Paulo Coelho

a long time ago, my roommates had an argument over whether or not hamburgers are sandwiches. this actually got heated to the point of one of the guys having to get upset and walk away because he was convinced that hamburgers are not sandwich, but instead their own classification of food.

people will pick any hill to die on- we as a species cannot 100% all agree on the definition of anything. that's why we can't agree on the definition of gay, queer, lesbian, trans, bi, pan, aromantic, asexual, etc. because we as a species just can't do that. we all have a unique perspective on what concepts are and what they mean.

if we can't agree on whether or not a hamburger is a sandwich or not, i think it's best if we learn to agree to disagree on what the "true" meaning of gay, lesbian, trans, queer, etc. are and just let people live their version of that identity in peace. at the end of the day it literally doesn't matter if you don't know if a hamburger is a sandwich or just a hamburger- you're still going to eat it and gain nutrients from it.

a trans person having a different definition of trans than you, or a lesbian defining lesbianism differently than what they've been told, or any other type of queer person defining their identity in their own way isn't a threat to you- at the end of the day, it doesn't stop them from being trans, a lesbian, queer, or whatever. disagreeing on the definition won't stop it from happening; it's just petty. not every hill is meant for someone to die on. let go

For example, if it takes 5 minutes by car but 15 minutes on foot, but you rarely have access to a car, it's 15 minutes. If the subway takes 20 minutes and the car takes 30, but you usually drive, it's 30. If the walk takes 10 minutes and the bus takes 45 minutes so you walk, it's 10 minutes. Etc.

May march be good to you. But if it isn’t, may you find a way to be kind to yourself even when the circumstances around you aren’t the greatest instead of punishing yourself for things that are out of your control 🌱

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A boy can dream, can't he?