Please Be Aware That Angel With A Shotgun By The Cab Was Released On August 23 2012 Which Means That

You ever have a compliment that just sticks with you for literal years and years? Maybe forever?

For me, it’s when I was working as a figure model for art classes at my university (because it paid well due to being an early-morning thing and was easy to get because nobody else wanted to apply due to the near-nakedness and pervasive body image issues in our culture). There was this one professor who was always so happy when I showed up as the female model for that day because he said that I had a “good sense of motion”, and it was fun to draw. (Which, in itself, was a great compliment because I am a clumsy, self conscious person.)

But what really got me was one day we were doing 15-minute poses, which are harder to do because you need to come up with something interesting and dynamic, but you have to be able to hold it for a quarter of an hour without moving even a little bit. They didn’t have any specific guidance for us, so I just… did something. Idk. But about five minutes into wandering around helping the students and talking to them, he paused and told me that I was doing a good job, and, “What a fun pose. You’re reminding me of Rodin’s ‘Eve,’ there. You always have a very Rodin sort of energy about you. Thanks for waking up early for us.” And then just went back to discussing the use of ink with one of the students like he hadn’t almost reduced me to tears.

Then I went home and looked up Rodin’s ‘Eve’ and was blown away because she actually did look like me? I had ended up in that pose almost exactly just by chance, but she also had a soft, squidgy tummy and the hip dips and weird butt and big feet and thunder thighs and strong calves, just like me.

And I don’t have a great relationship with my body. Very much the opposite. I frequently hate the way I look and fit into it, but then occasionally from the depths of the past comes the voice of an art nerd telling me I’m like a Rodin sculpture, and I feel like, “Yeah, I have Rodin Energy so suck it, brain!” And it helps me reframe the way I’m thinking about myself because I can get outside of my head for a minute and see that while I’m frustrated with my body, it has an art to it just by existing. Soft tummy? Fun to draw, nice curves! Big thighs? Strong lines! Dimples and wrinkles and slopes become a place for light to sit. Bodies are so cool, and that includes mine! Even if it’s not quite what I want it to be, it’s still a work of art that nature sculpted just for me.

And for him it just seemed like such an off-handed, normal, natural thing to say. He thought “Hey, that looks like Rodin,” and so he said it.

Just… Idk. Compliment people. Say what’s on your mind. You have no idea whether it’s going to totally change a person’s life. It’s just words to you but it could be really, deeply important to them.

Oscar the nuno

Be sad but get up. You don’t have to shower. You can put on the same clothes you wore yesterday. Nobody will care. The sky is blue, wildflowers are blooming by the side of the road. Strangers have stories to tell. Go for a walk, go for a drive, go to a greenhouse, a bookstore, a movie theater. You can stay in bed but nothing is going to happen there. Sometimes you’ve really just got to get the fuck up.

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Healthy Coping Mechanisms

Hello! I thought I would compile a list of healthy coping mechanisms for you all, but I also thought I would explain what coping mechanisms are and why we need them.

Just a disclaimer before I get started: I am a first year psychology student, I don’t know everything but I do know some and I have made sure to do my research before making this post.

What Exactly Is A Coping Mechanism?

By definition, provided by the APA, a coping mechanism is any conscious or nonconscious adaptation that helps decrease tension and anxiety in a stressful situation. In other words, a coping mechanism is a skill or strategy to help alleviate your stress or anxiety.

Coping mechanisms are linked to coping behavior and coping strategies.

However, one thing to note is that not all coping skills will work for you. The effectiveness of a coping skill is dependent on a few factors: the situation or the circumstances; the type of stress you are under; and you, the individual.

Why Are Coping Mechanisms Important?

They are not only important but necessary in order to help alleviate stress. Coping strategies also give an individual some sort of control in a given situation. If an individual does not know how to cope or they do not have coping strategies, it could lead to them hurting themself because they cannot process what they are going through. They may find ways to cope that are harmful to them because they don’t know how to manage the situation they are in. 

Example: an underage person begins drinking alcohol regularly to cope with their depression.

Also, having healthy coping strategies means that you realize the problem, and you want to fix it. So you’re taking active steps towards that.

What Are Some Types Of Coping Strategies?

Emotion-focused

Centers around the management of the emotions that accompany an individual’s stress

Problem-focused

Centers around gathering information about the source of one’s stress and then learning new skills to adapt to the problem.

Appraisal-focused

Centers around an individual changing the way they think

There are more but these are the main 3. 

Examples of Maladaptive (bad) Coping Strategies:

Substance use

Self-harm

Eating when you’re stressed

Avoidance

Lack of sleep or sleeping too much

Procrastination

Isolating oneself

Self-deprecating humor

Trying to escape the problem

Examples of Adaptive (good) Coping Strategies:

This is probably the part everyone has been waiting for but I wanted to do some explaining rather than just giving you all a list of good coping skills. 

Emotion-Focused:

Call or text a friend

Journaling

Write a letter to the person(s) who is upsetting you but never send it. You can do whatever you like with it afterward.

Breathing techniques (e.g.,  breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, breath out for 4 seconds; breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, breathe out for 8 seconds)

Appraisal-Focused: 

Write down 2-3 things you like about yourself and/or your situation, once in the morning and once at night. Or whenever you need to.

Write down positive or motivational quotes and stick them in places frequently go or look

Counteract every negative thought with a positive thought. 

Other:

Go for a walk

Do something creative (e.g., draw, paint, write, sing, play an instrument, etc.)

Blow bubbles (it may seem silly but it works!)

Read

Exercise or any other kind of physical activity

Puzzles (any kind, but personally I like ones that make me think!)

A woman's place is on the battlefield

there’s no way

Classic issue between girls 

The thing is that Loid thinks of himself as a completely average normal person, which means whenever Yor has anything in common with him hes like "excellent, we are so good at being normal. I picked the perfect wife, she even knows about poisons"