Latest Posts by fuckifellagain - Page 3
Hey man I'm a big fan of your art! I love how you draw him a bit blockier. He's just a guy being put in circumstances.
Circumstances indeed
I love being a party pooper every time someone mentions harry potter I have to be like I hope jk rowling and her little shitty ass magic dystopia rot in hell and I hope that show you're so excited about gets cancelled with the shittiest ending possible
what if....Jayfeather was....mama's boy,,,,
So like, is a trans woman who likes the smell of gasoline simply not a real trans woman now? Because only male-brained people like the smell of gasoline because Man Like Car Vroom Vroom Car Manly
The idea that gender is biological or linked to anything biological is bioessentialism. Aside from being intersexist, this idea is ALSO transphobic.
This is just "gender is what's in your pants" but with neurobiology most of you don't know jack shit about.
The brain is not sexually dimorphic to the point you could call ANY brain 'sexed', in any capacity. The structures within the brain that vary in size in relation to sex traits (insula, left amygdala, hippocampus, claustrum, pallidum, and a few others) are slight, and only loosely connected. These traits are sexually dimorphic only in a non-rigid way, such as height or facial proportions. Being tall is not seen as a strictly 'male' trait the way having a beard or testicles is. Being short is not seen as a strictly 'female' trait the same way having a uterus or breasts is.
We don't call tall cis women or short cis men intersex, why the hell would we call people with slightly uncommon neurological structures vaguely associated with sex intersex? Not to mention, we have literally no idea if these neurobiological variances are even what causes gender dysphoria.
By nature of these things being averages; There are cis people with these brain differences who are literally perfectly fine being cis and have no dysphoria. There are trans people without them with dysphoria so debilitating they don't go outside and prefer showering with the light off.
Further on dysphoria, I dislike the way it is all called "gender dysphoria", as if social dysphoria and physical dysphoria are the same thing. You can wish to change your sex traits REGARDLESS of your gender identity. Yes. Cis people can have dysphoria and can go on HRT and get surgeries because they have gender dysphoria, without ever changing their pronouns, going by a different name, or identifying as a different gender. Trans people can be comfortable with their bodies despite fully identifying as a different gender, getting a new name, pronouns, etc.
Gender is social. Not biological. The idea of "biological gender" is inherently transmedicalist.
Aside from this, co-opting intersexuality and making it about perisex people because your dad has weird double standards regarding intersex & perisex trans people is absolutely unacceptable. Fighting intersexism with more intersexism just makes you (shocker), an intersexist.
Your parents said "Only intersex people can be trans", and instead of responding with "no, that's wrong, here's why-", you went "You're right! All trans people are intersex", how on earth does agreeing with your parents' bigotry help intersex or trans people?
When you say "all men are bad" are you including high support disabled men in that? Or are you ignoring their existence because it'll make you have to confront how hateful and harmful that sentiment is.
Are they not men to you? Do you think high support disabled people are "too disabled" to know they feel comfortable in their gender identity? Do high support disabled trans men not exist to you? Do you think high support disabled trans men are just "confused mentally ill girls who aren't competent enough to know their own gender"? Do you somehow think high support disabled men have systemic power?
Come on.
im so fucking serious when i say that no one is crueler to visibly disabled people than girlies with blue wolfcuts and sharp eyeliner wearing hundred dollar sweaters from shein.
Feb 10 2025
Talking to my Black and brown trans sisters, I heard regrets. Some felt their surgeons had made them more womanly in ways that echoed whiteness: smaller noses, pointed chins, almond-shaped eyes. I wondered, what does femininity look like outside of whiteness?
Look, we have to care about marginalized men across the board, not just trans men/mascs.
Not only is that insulting to trans men by insinuating that we have some sort of special virtue over cis men for being assigned female (which isn't even true for many transmascs and is interexist/exorsexist to imply) but it ignores the fact that the patriarchy views marginalized men as a threat to patriarchal masculinity.
Patriarchal manhood is perisex, white, abled, cis manhood.
Any other type of manhood is seen as deviant.
Patriarchy sees disabled men as a threat to patriarchal manhood because under patriarchal standards, men are seen as emotionless workhorses. If a man is unable to perform to the work standards of capitalism, he is seen as a failure of a man. The system actively seeks to harm, torment and kill disabled men.
The patriarchy is inherently steeped in white supremacist ideals, black and brown men may be circumstantially afforded privilege at the expense of other marginalized people, but the goal of the system and people in power is not to uplift black and brown men. It's to use us as a tool and mouthpiece to spread their hatred, ready to discard us at any moment. Never play their game.
When a black man is killed and people's reactions are "well he was a big guy" or "he was a thug" in order to justify the killing, yes, this is racism, but it's racism using sentiments that are steeped in hatred and demonization of black masculinity. It needs to be part of the conversation.
I've had this conversation a couple of times with people who disagree with me and have never gotten a helpful response to "how does this help marginalized men" when they dissect every issue from manhood/masculinity.
When a black man is told to smile more so he doesn't look so threatening, "Well that's just racism"
Ok well it's racism based on the assumption that black masculinity is dangerous. Can we talk about that?
When a trans man gets ostracized from queer groups once he starts presenting more masculine or has to hide his masculine traits and self deprecate his identity to be seen as redeemable, "Well that's just transphobia"
Yeah? AND it's transphobia based on a hatred of perceived masculinity and embracing manhood.
I've seen trans women and intersex people get harassed on here and transvestigated for not denouncing all aspects of manhood and supporting marginalized men. This is a fucking problem. If you can only respect people if they completely denounce manhood, which is a NEUTRAL way to identify, you end up hurting so many people and emboldening ideas you claim to fight against.
If you have an issue with this discussion acknowledging this and think it's at odds with women's issues, you have a serious problem with gender essentialism. If you see overlap of these issues happen to people of different genders, it does not make these issues any less harmful to marginalized men.
It just further solidifies that the reasons bigots use to harm us are based in absolutely nothing, because sex and gender do not work how they impose it on the rest of us.
I'm sick of the conversation continually boiling down to "trans men are hurt because we're seen as women" or "that's just misogyny" Yes that's PART of it but that's not EVERYONE'S experience and it's not the whole story.
Acknowledging the ways the system vilifies manhood that does not fit the standard will lift up all marginalized men (and I don't mean lift up above women, all genders should be supported and lifted out of oppression, this is just one facet of the work that needs to be done to combat gender essentialist thinking). Ignoring these issues leaves us bowing to the patriarchal standard of manhood instead of allowing people to create healthy expressions of manhood outside of it that may even be a mix of all kinds of diverse forms of gender expression. The latter is what gender liberation looks like, being able to choose how you express your inner self to the outside world regardless of what that might be as long as it is not harmful to others. I want that, that's beautiful.
I'm not leaving my brothers in the dust while I get mine.
i feel like a lot of discourse around identities could just be boiled down to “you could not pay me to care about this”
never forget about katherine hepburn's tboy swag
I come from a culture that has no nudity taboo - nudity is not considered inherently sexual, or somehow traumatising to witness. What that means in practice is that there is a clearly drawn line between sexual and non-sexual nudity. There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a sexual context, and nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a non-sexual context. However, it is 100% inappropriate to be nude in a situation where it is not obvious from context whether this is sexual or not.
I've seen random kids who briefly escaped from their parents bolt across a public park buck-ass naked after they were playing in the water fountain and their parents were in the middle of changing their kid from wet clothes to dry clothes when the small nudist escaped. Changing your small kid's clothes right there in public is ok because there is obviously nothing sexual about a child whose clothes got wet. But although people will have baby pictures of their kids in the bath or just running around the house like that because sometimes little apes hate clothes for some reason, it's considered common sense to not share those pictures on facebook mom groups and such, because you have no way of knowing who's seeing them, and that blurs the line of context.
It all boils down to the clearly defined context. Bathing nude in the same sauna with five of your co-workers at the office christmas party? Clearly nonsexual, therefore completely fine. Your friend-with-benefits inviting you to come over and opening the door in nothing but a doggy collar and the most porn-scented perfume? Clearly sexual, therefore completely fine. A woman checking her breasts for lumps in the gym lockers just before or after a shower? Clearly non-sexual, therefore completely fine.
But if you went to the bank today and there's some guy who walks in and immediately strips naked, doing his banking business wearing nothing but a deep smile and being clearly very content with this situation, you have no way of telling whether he's getting kicks out of this or not. There is no contextual reason for him to be nude. Therefore, that is inappropriate.
Then you go home and post on tumblr - as one does - going like "there was some dude completely fucking buck-ass naked in the bank today. That was fucking weird and I wish he had not done that." And someone immediately swoops into inform you that actually nudity is not inherently sexual or inappropriate, and there are cultures out there that have no nudity taboo. It's not fair to call somebody a freak for something like that, maybe that guy was just finnish.
ADS THAT SUDDENLY TAKE UP THE WHOLE PAGE
Memento Mori
Got reminded again of my old coworker who was a massive misogynist but also trans inclusive. Told me he believed trans women are indeed women because "only women would be stupid enough to want to be women"
I wonder what he's doing now
teusday dragons
as promised eons ago, here is part 1 of the new and improved teusday dragons.
go print them off, stick them to your walls, plaster your dad's car with them, put them as your account banner, eat them, etc etc
more flags
Put the leek on the flag in the dragon's hand. And then give the dragon long turquoise pigtails.
you guys have some very strange suggestions, but who am I to disrespect the will of the people-
HATSUNE MIKU???
I've told this story before but the non-negotiable in allyship really reminded me of my gaming group. So one of my best friends is a twin and while I know *her* pretty well I don't really know her brother as well despite knowing him for roughly same length of time. We play videogames together and her brother asked to join us so at some point I took him aside and had The Talk with him because we at that point had a recently out trans fem within the group and she had just barely started hormones and hadn't done any voice training etc so I fully intended to head any trouble off at the pass.
So I basically had the "respect my friend's pronouns or die by my sword" discussion because while he knows I'm a trans guy and had so far been chill, I didn't know if that extended to all trans people.
What I did not expect was for him to pull an uno reverse on me and invite his two trans woman friends to game with us as well and did a "no no, *you* respect *my* friends' pronouns or die by *my* sword".
When I was working at Petco, one of my coworkers came to me having a total panic and anxiety meltdown and when I finally got them to tell me what was going on, the revealed they had sought me out because they were having Transgender Feelings and wanted advice. I ended up giving them my old binders that were too small for me but a perfect fit for them, and one of my roommates gave them their first masc haircut.
A few weeks later a customer speaking Spanish was saying many nasty things about my coworker and reacting with disgust. Another coworker- a cis gay man who speaks fluent Spanish- came to get me first so I could pull the other coworker away while he effectively cussed them out in Spanish. He told us the sparknotes version of the English translation and it was mostly horrifically transphobic drivel. My coworker had responded mostly neutrally to me being trans, but for him to be visibly steamed the rest of the day over my other coworker definitely bumped my respect for him.
And I've talked about how a cis lesbian friend of mine visibly bristles at anyone she even thinks is being shitty to me about being trans to the point of making them splutter and back down.
A cishet woman I am only sort of acquaintances with once caught me wincing at being she/her'd at a trial and asked if that had been happening all day. When I responded the affirmative, she stormed off and I didn't see her the rest of the day. The next day, any time anyone referred to me there was an audible pause before a deliberate choice to choose masc versions.
Another trans woman who is a friend of mine once beat up a bully for calling her trans boyfriend a heshe when they were in schooling together.
It's about holding the line. It's about making the active choice to show up for each other. And it's about linking hands and refusing to budge.
If you cannot hold the line with me by your side, then we are not moving together.
Intense love for both Triffany Lottablog and her voice actor Haviland Stillwell. Both are beautiful and I love them.
ST DAVIDS DAY, YAY
eat your welshcakes
Waht if we kissed on the pokemon legends z-a anti homeless architecture bench,
call me ignorant but i genuinely don’t understand why sports have to be split up by gender.
Losing my mind over this
i can make any narrative transgender
this is going to be a generalized take, so please forgive me, but women are an underrated enforcer of femininity.
I’ve noticed this with hairdressers. multiple times I’ve gone to lady hairdressers and said “cut it all off,” and they’ve gone “hmm alright,” and basically just trimmed the split ends. meanwhile I can go to a dude and say “hey, can you make my hair slightly shorter?” and he’ll go “on it boss,” and shave me bald.
twice now, I’ve also had lady tattoo artists add pink to femme up a tattoo, despite that not being on the initial design.
god, also thinking about this brought back a memory. my mom once threw a fit because my shoes were “too masculine” (they were black women’s flats), saying that I’d upset my dad and ruin the formal event we were going to. I wore the shoes, my dad didn’t give a shit.
I dunno. it just feels like the misogyny is coming from inside the house sometimes.
adults disciplining children: i think i will communicate with this brand new human in the loudest, rudest, most obnoxious and socially off-putting way possible
"you don't like mpreg?" i don't even like fpreg
SAY IT WITH ME: MEDICAL GASLIGHTING IS MALPRACTICE
me when someone abruptly asks me if i want to go and do something fun together but the fun thing wasn't part of my daily plan:
