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The Hotwife Inside of Me
part 1
My husband Mark and I have been married for 16 years. We lived together for about 10 years before that. Some of that time together has been very difficult for us as a couple because of work schedules, children and just the day to day complexities of modern life. Feelings of despair would come over me at times that I didn't understand and had probably been building up inside me for years. Our marriage was definitely not heading in the direction I had imagined it would as a young bride. We had been struggling just to survive for quite sometime. Of course some problems are far worse than others. We each had affairs with other people outside of our marriage, keeping it hidden from each other and yet continuing on with a seemingly normal family life. To make matters worse for me, Mark had an ex wife that he married when he was only 20 years old.
I hated her because she was a self centered liar who really only cared about herself. I resented the fact that even though Mark and I were together she would use their kids to interfere by dragging him to events and other social occasions. I always felt his ex was trying to get him back. I knew deep down inside that he hated her even more than I did, but the insecure feelings I had about her never subsided. We were happy for the first 8 years of our life together. We lived a nice life. It wasn't always easy and the years of balancing the needs of the kids and the commitments required by their ever increasing activities caused us to slowly grow apart from each other. We began lying to each other, often with complete and total impunity. A destructive pattern of ignoring and all together dismissing our marital needs and vows became common in our day to day life. In general life had become a bore. Sexually we went from doing it almost every day to lucky if it was once or twice a month. For me it became a routine that stopped fulfilling me. Mark objected but I just couldn't get motivated for him again.
I worked in the local government offices as did Mark, but at a different location and department. We had many of the same friends and their spouses in common. One day I was talking to a group of friends around the lunch table at work and I found myself curiously exchanging glances with a co-worker named Billy that I had known since childhood. We were friends through high school and would often hang out together. I had always liked him and I always felt some chemistry between us but it never amounted to much more than some youthful kissing and touching. Eventually we would only see each other on rare social occasions. That was until he started working at my office. By that time we were both married, but we started to rekindle our old friendship. As adults now we began to confide with each other all our marital problems. He told me his wife had lost all interest in sex with him not because she didn't love him but because she suffered medical conditions that made it difficult for them. I told him about every disagreement I had with Mark and it felt like a great stress relief for me.
At that time Mark and I were on a very rocky road. A few years before I had an affair with the office supply guy from the company that delivered to us. I began to dress sexy on Tuesdays when he would show up. I felt a crazy impulsive sexual attraction to him. We hurriedly fooled around a few times in the company storage room then I began making up a late or early work excuses to hook up with him in hotels that Mark only mildly questioned. After about a year of fooling around he got transfered out of town and much to my disappointment I never saw him again. Mark knew about it. I didn't tell him, but he knew. He showed me the evidence he had found and I denied it but he knew I did it and he knew I was lying. I just didn't care.
Mark was no saint either I knew he was fooling around too but I didn't know with who and I honestly didn't really have the energy to care much. Mark and I had agreed that separation was best for us at this point and Mark moved out of the house to his own apartment. Mark began dating a mutual acquaintance of ours who had just recently been divorced. I don’t know why but I was very upset when I found out that he was dating her. I tried to hide my anger and bottle it up inside. I didn't talk to anyone about it not even Billy. This went on for a few months that to me seemed like years. As revenge I quickly dated a couple of guys Mark and I knew and I made damn sure he knew about it by making it obvious to our friends so they would tell him.
I hadn't talked to Mark much over those months but I did try to reach out to him on occasion in an attempt to get him back. I would invite him over for dinner. I would wear the sexiest outfits I had and even went shopping to buy new stuff. When he came over I left phone numbers in plain view for him to see. In our bedroom I left out worn dresses that smelled like fuck and even my cum soaked panties from the guys I was having casual sex with. I did it to make him jealous, but he never showed any signs of it to me. On more than one occasion we hopped in bed together and had mind blowing sex like we had when we were just dating. This continued on for about 3 months. He would come over but then he would leave. I confronted him every chance I got to find out what he really wanted. He always had the same response. I love you and I want you to be happy. I would ask him then why if he loved me would he ever leave me? Again he would respond because I want you to be happy and this seems to be making you very satisfied and content. I was confused because I just wanted our lives back and nothing I did seemed to be helping.
This all started in the spring of the year and by now it was well into December. Work had a Christmas party every year that Mark and I always attended together along with the same group of our close friends that knew us intimately and that were aware of our current situation. I told Billy the day before that I was going to the party alone and he said his wife wasn't going either so we made a plan to go together jokingly we said as each others dates. I was nervous but also glad to have other people see us in public together so they would tell Mark they saw me out with Billy. Mark was well aware of my friendship with Billy and he had often asked me questions about him. I told him it never really worked out the few times we tried to "do it" when we were younger because we had been drinking way to much. Mark had always been curious about my ex boyfriends and I really thought he was jealous. I also knew that most guys were very jealous of their wives exes and mostly didn't want to hear anything about it, but Mark liked to talk about it. I never really gave it much thought. I chalked it up to some sort of curiosity on his part. Occasionally he would just bring it up out of the blue and I would get annoyed. It never occurred to me until much later on that really he was trying to tell me something, but I was to wrapped up in my own life to realize it.
It was down pouring rain that night and I had spent an hour doing my hair and make up just in time to get soaked, I thought. Billy was supposed to pick me up at 6:30 and it was already 6:00 with no sign of the rain letting up. I called him on his cell phone and told him to park in the driveway closest to the sliding glass door and if it was still pouring just come in the house I would leave the door unlocked and we would wait out the storm.
I had picked out the hottest most revealing sexy black dress I could fit my into without busting out of it. I wore my special five inch pump stilettos because I wanted to look as dirty and desirable as possible to make Mark as jealous as I could. I also had quietly fantasized about fucking Billy in my car out in the parking lot before we went into the party so that in addition to the dress I would also have that hey guess what I just got my brains fucked out look at the party.
Billy showed up on time and the rain had gotten even worse. Billy was a very tall well built good looking man who always had that certain bad boy vibe about him. He was a jock in school and he always had pretty girlfriends. As he walked in the door with his hair dripping from the rain he ran his hand through it and brushed it off to the side and for that one moment it seemed like we were both kids back in school. We had a few drinks as we waited but no rain let up. We talked for a while and I finally told him what was going on between me and Mark. He never really liked Mark. He thought Mark was arrogant. The more I told him the closer he got to me eventually wiping the tears from my cheeks and gently caressing my hands and finally hugging me as I told him everything. It wasn't long before we found ourselves kissing and touching just like we had in the past. He reached behind and unzipped my dress as I reached down and undid his belt and unzipped his pants. I felt his enormous cock through his underpants and I was unbelievably turned on. He was breathing harder than I was as he whispered in my ear "should we do this?" I knew he had never been unfaithful to his wife, but he did not know that I had been unfaithful to Mark. I whispered back yes yes I want you to fuck me hard and I want to feel your cum deep inside of me. He responded by putting his hand between my legs and immediately inserting his fingers into my soaking wet pussy. I leaned back and grabbed his rock hard cock stroking it fervently as he worked me to a quick orgasm. I gently arched back and spread my legs wide open for him. Billy moved down and began eating me out. I screamed with ecstasy as he made me cum multiple times. Finally I couldn't take it anymore because the sensation was so strong. I pushed up wrapped my lips around his cock and gave him what I felt was the best blow job I had ever given anyone. It seemed nearly perfect. I was releasing years of built up stress. We desperately ripped the remains of each others clothes off. Billy jammed his cock between my 34D titties and with an uncontrollable urge he blasted his cum all over my face. I jumped up on him and rode his cock like a veteran Texas rodeo star. His 12 inch cock was definitely the biggest I had ever had.
That's when something happened that at the moment I didn't understand. As I was riding Billy to orgasm after orgasm I began to hear noises, the kind of quite noises only a homeowner would be in tune with. Gentle silent creeks and faint knocking. At first I dismissed it at as the dog or perhaps a squirrel in the gutters until I realized it wasn't.
I first caught a glimpse of Mark in the window outside the living room where Billy and I were fucking. Billy was laying facing the fireplace and I was riding him facing the front picture window that was always uncovered even though we had curtains. I thought for a second that I had just imagined it but I opened my eyes again for another second and saw him. Suddenly I became this sex crazed person I didn't even recognize. I was fucking Billy so hard that I literally thought I might rip his cock off with my pussy driven by this sudden excitement of being watched by Mark.
We fucked for hours and I knew Mark was watching us that whole time. I had pretty much wore out Billy and he was none the wiser about Mark. Billy and I talked for a bit and I wondered how long Mark would wait outside. I knew he was not a violent man, if he was he would have kicked in the front door which I had half expected him to anyway but clearly he didn't. "So much for the party" I told Billy as he walked out of the house back out into the now tremendous thunderstorm. I stayed there by the door naked and nervous. Billy was gone about 5 minutes when I got enough courage together to open the door and go into the garage to see if I could spot Mark. I felt as though I was gushing cum out of my pussy and I wished that Mark would fuck me hard. As I turned on the lights I saw him standing there by the garage door soaked to the core but with a smile on his face from ear to ear. I asked him what he was smirking at and he told me he saw everything. At first a rush of denial came about me but what could I say? He saw it and I knew it. I told him to come inside and get dried up. As we walked in together he leaned over to me and told me I smelled incredibly sexy. I knew I smelled like fuck. He got on his knees and grabbed my ass and started kissing my body. I was hesitant to let him kiss my pussy but pleasure made me forget the loads Billy had left in me. Mark ate me with the greatest pleasure I ever remember as I straddled his face. When I could no longer take the incredible sensations of his tongue I stood him up and with love and raw sexual energy we kissed for a long time. I looked Mark in the eyes and asked him if he liked what he saw, if he was turned on by watching Billy's huge cock fill my pussy with cum. His look of satisfaction answered my question without him having to say a word.
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50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
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Use smooth, steady, slow rhythmic licks. Slow and steady wins the race
I am new to this whole oral sex thing. My husband decided to eat me out the other night. He made these motions with his tongue and told me to guess what he was spelling against my clit. I thought it would be weird to have him do that but it really relaxed me and I had fun with it. So guys: Spell out little messages like “I love you” or “You taste good.” It will take any hesitation away from your girl while she’s decoding your playful messages.
At Wal-Mart they have these little ice trays that make tubular ice for bottles. They sell the trays for a dollar each. Get small pieces of (what my husband and I now refer to as) Cooter Ice. Slip them around the clit and into the vaginal opening. It makes for wicked sensation.
In regard to oral sex in particular, you MUST know your lover’s sensitivity level. I, for one, am ultra-sensitive. If someone just dives in and attacks my clit, uses teeth, has no variation in technique, then I will probably still orgasm; however, I will be too sore to go again for hours or even days. This is extremely irritating!
If I start moving toward your tongue, it’s because you and I have found the exact “spot”…let ME move, don’t you move.
The secret is to soften the tongue and work around the clitoral area rather than aggressively attacking the clit. Variation of pattern is also important. Once I’m truly horny, an occasional flick of the tongue is ok—but only occasionally. I also think that stimulation of the G-spot, which is basically adjacent to the clit on the inside of the vagina, is important as it creates a much deeper, more intense orgasm.
Nothing is more erotic than being held open with gentle loving hands. It gives direct access to the clit and he works it so well. I melt every time! When his elbows are planted at shoulder width (my lover’s shoulders are quite wide) and he has me open and exposed, working away, there is no way I am able to get away.
I totally agree with starting slow and looking her in the eyes. That drives me crazy. Another thing that makes me crazy is when my guy moans or growls while kissing and licking my pussy. The reverberations from the deepness of his voice drive me wild! Not to mention hearing him enjoy himself gets me off even harder.
If you boys start it… KNOW that it may take awhile! Finish what you started and once you’ve found her hot spot, stay there!
If I know I’m going to get a good eating from my man, I will eat pineapple throughout the day. He says it makes me taste unbelievable! I’ve also heard watermelon and celery will change the taste of your juices.
Having had my pussy licked, sucked, eaten, and savored by both men and women, I can tell you that the best way to find out what she likes is to get her to play with herself. Follow her lead, and it will change each time. Sometimes my pussy wants it hard, really hard, and sometimes only the slightest feather touch will make me explode.
Keep a steady rhythm going, and keep your tongue relaxed! Pointed tongues are too harsh on the clit, and actually desensitize. Another thing to keep in mind is that just because she’s moaning louder doesn’t mean she suddenly wants you to start going faster, make crazy figure eights, or gnaw on it. It means she likes EXACTLY what you’ve been doing. When a guy is doing something I really like, I’ll usually say, “Don’t stop,” which means, “Don’t stop exactly what you’re doing right now.”
I find that just the tip of my partner’s finger inserted in my pussy after he’s been eating me out for little while - barely moving, just sort of tickling the entrance - makes me go nuts. Pussy eating is a delicate matter, so don’t thrust your finger too vigorously. You’re just trying to gently tickle her into coming!
I like a guy to ask me how I like my pussy licked so I can help him find that awesome combination that makes me squirt without worrying about hurting his feelings or making him think I don’t enjoy his moves. It takes a really great and confident lover to ask for feedback during hot sex. It makes me crazy!
I like my man to slip his fingers into my cunt while he is paying attention to my clit! Men, if you look like you are really enjoying yourself, too, it makes all the difference. A former boyfriend used to growl into my pussy when he went down on me which was unbelievably erotic and made me feel really wanted!
Don’t forget about using the nose too! I love feeling my man’s nose nuzzling my clit, and feeling his breathing on me, especially the moaning exhaling and him inhaling (smelling) me. Also, I don’t know why, but the “wet” sound turns me on… the creamy, squishy, squelching noises.
Don’t bite the clit. Men don’t like having their dicks bitten and we don’t like having our clits bitten either. It hurts and will very quickly get us out of the mood.
Don’t drool and don’t make loud sucking sounds. It’s disgusting. A major turn off.
Popsicles are a good idea. They make a guy’s tongue cold and the sensation is amazing. That, and the taste will be better for the guy. It’s a win-win situation.
Deep kiss her clit. I love my partner deep kissing my clit, taking both lips of my vagina. I want him/her to suck on them for a long time before concentrating on my clitoris.
Tongue fucking is what rocks my world. Clit play is nice to get me hot, but after that, I want your tongue flicking across my hole for a while, teasing me with the idea of going in, then giving it all to me. Clit play gets boring after awhile and many women are too sensitive there anyhow.
Don’t forget to warm us up first. Just like BJs aren’t that great if we take your pants off and deep throat you off the bat, we like to be teased with the idea for a while, and get really, really aroused before you get started. It makes the orgasm THAT much harder.
I hate the finger penetration while sucking on the clit…it’s distracting. Most guys just suck the life out of you because they think it’s wonderful. Licking is wonderful too. Try it. The most important thing is to watch her reaction. If she’s just lying there quiet, then she is bored and wishes you would stop.
Don’t forget to be patient. It’s not like in a porn movie - most women do not have an orgasm with in a minute or two. Like any good thing in life, it takes time and is worth waiting for.
Stop and make her need it. Finger her now, slowly at first, and kiss her thighs. Start again by flicking her clit with your tongue, light pressure, then experiment with other pressure and movement. Everything on the clit feels good, but some moves feel GREAT! Play around with tongue pressure and fingering and ass fingering or ass tickling/licking (if she wants it).
Use your entire face. Nothing is more frustrating than a hesitant tongue. The chin rubbing on the opening to the vagina adds to the pleasure. Also, let her know you enjoy it as well. Moan a little. A woman can tell if it’s a chore.
Definitely start off with light kissing and slow deliberate strokes of the tongue. Then do some circling. If your girlfriend feels your tongue is too rough when you start off, you can tell because her movements will be too jerky and squirmish. That’s your hint to either slow down, decrease pressure, or find another place to lick for a few minutes till she warms up.
Once I’m warmed up, I like spreading my legs wide and enjoying the hot wet lickage. What turns me on the most is talking dirty. I like asking my dude if he likes my pussy. So tell her some stuff (in between licks) that will blow her mind and enjoy what is bound to come next.
My tip to all men is don’t put a whole lot of saliva in her when you’re licking her. It feels better when there isn’t a loogie inside us we can feel.
Don’t shake your face - no one likes that! Also, complimenting her on her appearance down there boosts sexual confidence, which could lead to bigger and better things.
There is nothing I love more than his mouth on my clit and two fingers inside me. It doesn’t really matter if his tongue moves back and forth, side to side, or in circles. All that matters is that once he chooses a method he sticks to it and DOESN’T CHANGE OR STOP. After a little of this I’m begging and pleading for his fingers inside me at the same time. They don’t need to thrust because everything is already so sensitive. He just slides his fingers in and does a slight “come here” type motion while continuing to use his mouth on my clit and I usually respond by coming quickly indeed!
Ask your girl while you are downtown, “Right here?” and have her guide you. And once she says “YES, right there,” don’t stop. Don’t change technique or location unless she asks you to. Too many times I have been right on the verge of cumming and the guy changes positions, my clit goes into spasms and I didn’t even get to enjoy it. Damn, that pisses me off.
A rigid pointy tongue is horrible, but a soft flat tongue is amazing.
Enjoy it! We always get more pleasure if we feel that the guy is REALLY having fun. If I see that my boyfriend is doing it under pressure, I won’t enjoy it either.
I like to lay on my back while he rests his head on my left leg and begins to kiss, lick and suck me. He purses his lips as if he is saying “OOOH” and grasps my clit with his mouth, thrusting his tongue through his lips and rolling it around my button. Sometimes he goes back and forth and then around, always doing this very gently at first, then with more pressure as I began to go crazy. In Asia they call this cunnilingus technique “polishing her pearl.”
My boyfriend does this thing right on the clit, kind of like he is saying “LA LA LA LA!” really fast and then slowly licks up every once in awhile. Oh my god! It’s great! People, I have had multiple orgasms from this little technique! And boys, I advise trying this on your girl!
I like it when my lover’s tongue slowly takes the tour of my labia then moves up to my clitoris, and while their tongue is concentrating there, their lower lip moist from saliva and my love juices is brushing gently around my perineum, with an occasional glance across my anus. It makes my asshole pucker and the sphincter response sends ripples through my vagina.
Just because she has cum does not mean that you are done. Don’t be afraid to give her clit a gentle massage with your tongue and lips as if you’re calming it down just to get all worked up again.
Make noises when you’re eating the pussy. You want her to believe that eating her pussy is the best thing you ever tasted. Think of your favorite food and pretend the pussy is just that.
That other girl was right about the “tongue fucking.” Generally tongues aren’t long enough to stimulate the area really well. The general entrance isn’t all that sensitive and it won’t really accomplish much. I’m not saying to only stick to the clit…by all means, have a wander, especially in the beginning. But just don’t spend too much time trying to “tongue fuck” unless you’re Gene Simmons.
I love it when my boyfriend hums on my pussy. No songs, just a hum. It feels like a vibrator while he is licking on my pussy
My boyfriend wasn’t confident he was getting the right spot to start with, so we found it helped to place a CD over my vagina so the hole matched the position of the clitoris. That way he couldn’t go wrong.
Some women like a consistent rhythm when getting eaten out. Don’t just dive in. Pay attention to where you are licking, how fast, and how your tongue is shaped when you do it. I personally find that a flat tongue against my clit at a steady pace (usually medium speed to start and gradually faster as I get closer to an orgasm) is most satisfying, especially if you are a beginner.
There is nothing worse than a guy who finds a licking technique that the woman likes and then changes his speed or tongue position mid-lick because he is afraid she is getting bored. Really your girl is just going to get frustrated and it is going to be harder to make her cum. If she acts as if she likes what you are doing - STICK WITH IT!!! Don’t change your technique because your guy friends tell you that it is best to try a bunch of tricks all in the same session. Just pay attention to her!
Focus on the clit! Guys usually just want to lick all over, but that’s never going to get the girl to orgasm anytime soon. Just focus on licking the clit in a solid motion or in circles, and then simultaneously finger her in her vagina. Do both of those at the same time, and she’ll be reaching orgasm and begging for more!
I like when my man spreads my legs wide then takes both hands to hold my lips apart while he licks around my pussy, gently flicking my clit, slowly at first then faster and faster until I cum. It drives me wild. It really makes me feel like he is so into eating me out and that there’s no other place he’d rather be.
We have something like 5 times the nerve endings as men do “down there.” So more pressure, more motion, etc., really isn’t more. It’s just distracting and/or painful.
As a woman, the best thing I can say is, don’t just start going at it! It is uncomfortable and it helps if you set the mood first. Teasing and blowing really feels good. Let your mouth do the work, not your hands!
I love it when my man uses ice cubes. He gets a cup and fills it full of ice and then slowly pushes them in one by one. When they’re in, he starts to lick and kiss my clit, and once they’re melted a little, he’ll suck them out one by one. It’s an amazing combination of the two temperatures and gives me an amazing orgasm.
Ask her what she wants! We are all different and like it different ways. What worked for your last lady might not be on the list for your next. I like a tongue soft and light on my clit until I tell you to suck it! WE will let you know what feels good. Just ask!
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Some years ago when our marriage was slowly falling apart and I had seemingly lost all interest in having sex with him and after months and years of him trying to relive past hotwife experiences my husband sent me this text message:
I would only ever ask you to do what I know has always worked to strengthen our relationship because it has always worked in the past and because now more than ever everything we do going forward should always be built upon the love and trust we committed to years ago. If you can't trust me I can not continue to love you and I desperately need you to trust me because I still desperately love you. If you can't do what I ask without without being told or coerced then without wanting to I will find attraction to someone who will and you know how that story goes because we have both been there before. I've begged you to and you know without any doubts what I want so just go and do it and make sure you make it absolutely obvious so that I know [you] are doing it, I need you to do it without anymore pleases. Do it because you love me and you trust me and you trust yourself and you trust us and you love us together, or do you not?
Needless to say that caught my attention. Clearly we have a complicated life, but it's our life and honestly I wouldn't trade it for anything.
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Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife
I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.
Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.
When Husband is Watching You with Another Man
Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.
Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.
Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.
Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.
When Husband is Listening from Another Room
Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.
Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.
Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.
When Husband is Not Around
Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.
Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.
Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.
Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.
Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.
Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage
The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”. Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?
Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures. They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom. Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”. With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner. Is this really true, though? Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”? Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?
Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night. While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.
As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually. This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive. So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?
He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It
As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”. We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why? Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there. So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”. Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women. Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?
For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered. Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy. It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy. It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again. Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.
The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it
You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”. I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t. That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.
Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us. These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”. It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.
So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways. Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”. Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge. This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation. Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc. These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.
The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You
Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here… The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you. His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed. I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were. I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.
We’re women. We are strong and capable and we are smart. And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be. Where do we want to be? We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.
Happy Hotwifing!
-S
Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife
I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.
Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.
When Husband is Watching You with Another Man
Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.
Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.
Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.
Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.
When Husband is Listening from Another Room
Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.
Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.
Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.
When Husband is Not Around
Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.
Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.
Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.
Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.
Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.
Hotwifing Saves Marriages.
What is hotwifing and how can hotwifing save marriages? Contrary to pornography lore, hotwifing, hot wife or hotwife is not a physical description, it is a powerful emotionally supportive state of marriage. Any woman can be a hotwife regardless of their physical attributes. To define, a hotwife is a married woman in a strong committed marriage who makes herself sexually available to other men for hotwife dates either with or without her husband present. She does this with her husband's full knowledge and consent. In hotwifing the husband yields the traditional role of sexual dominance to his wife. The husband always remains willingly and faithfully monogamous to his hotwife which is referred to as a stag husband. All of his sexual desires are focused on his wife having sex with other men and all of his pleasures are derived in the intimacy his hotwife provides him. Hotwives may wear very sexy clothing, usually purchased for them by their stag husbands and flirt outrageously with other men in order to achieve the hotwife date. Hotwives may openly display hotwife jewelry that lets men know they are married and available. She may desire her husbands help in arranging her dates. In any case the husband cedes the decision as to whom his hotwife has sex with. Hotwifing is not about humiliation or denigration, it is rather a form of loving emotional control both psychologically and physically. The hotwife always balances her husbands physical needs and wants and her psychological control of him in her role as the hotwife. A stag husband may desire to watch, participate or happily await the return of his hotwife from her date so that she can share all the details of it with him. The stag husband is given secondary, but equal, sexual importance. The hotwife builds and caresses his ego through her dominance and she never forgets to give her husband sexual satisfaction. So how can all of that save your marriage?
For couples that have experienced infidelity like we did, hotwifing allows them to renew their vows of commitment to each other and start their marriage from a new point together rather than apart. Most importantly it leaves the past in the past because in the new vows the couple commits to focusing exclusively on the future and each other.
Hotwifing gives women the ability to fulfill their wildest sexual fantasies with the encouragement of their husbands. Research has shown that many couples have hotwifing fantasies, but most of them are unable to express themselves because they fear what their partner might think of them. This single misunderstanding of sexual desire is one of the leading causes of the high divorce rate. For a woman one of the many potential benefits of hotwifing in a marriage is the open and uninhibited fulfillment all her sexual desires within the realm of real and honest marital commitment from her husband. It is really simple, stag husbands won’t cheat because they have no need or desire to. For men it boosts their understanding of female sexuality and it frees them of jealousy, which is the number one poison to relationships. Imagine a life free of jealousy and you will find true happiness and peaceful harmony in balance with unlimited love for one another.
Hotwifing empowers wives with freedom. The wife gets the freedom to enjoy the full experiences of sex. Women often desire and routinely fantasize about having sex with men other than their husbands. In the old taboo society they rarely got that chance because of deep seeded jealousy. When a man freely encourages his wife to enjoy the sexual pleasures of other men, he is undeniably giving her his heart and soul. He is directly displaying trust in their marriage. The husband enjoys the ability to control his normal feelings of jealousy so his wife can experience a new kind of intimacy free of guilt. This can be of great spiritual and emotional comfort to both the husband and wife.
Hotwifing frees wives from the jealousy of their husbands. It is a proven fact that jealousy is one of the major reasons many relationships fail. Insecurity is a leading contributing factor in disagreements and breakups that result in divorce. Hotwifing can help to rid the man of his feelings of jealousy, and when he gives his wife the freedom to be who she wants to be, she knows her husband has her best interests at heart, which helps her to increase her trust in him. Hotwifing creates trust and communication within relationships. Solid relationships are built upon trust and open communication. If you want to be in a happy, lasting relationship, you must ensure that you understand each other and also give each other the chance and freedom to be yourselves. These kinds of open and honest conversations increase trust and communication between the couple and bring them closer together.
Hotwifing makes wives feel beautiful and desired. As a man, you will feel that you actually have the hottest woman on earth, and it's every man's desire to have a woman who is another man's dream. Hotwifing gives men the perfect chance to appreciate how beautiful and desirable his woman is, which typically serves to increase both his love and respect for her. Ultimately hotwifing can help a mans libido. In some instances it has been known to assist a husband to overcome some forms of E.D.
Hotwifing boosts marital confidence. It gives women a real chance to express themselves to their husbands. When a woman knows that she has the support of her husband to do whatever she desires, she feels incredibly self confident about herself, which helps to change her perception of the traditional societal roles of husbands and wives
Hotwifing increases intimacy by giving both the husband and wife the perfect chance to gain important knowledge about themselves and each other that can help increase the intimacy of their connection. The new adventures and the wide variety of options dramatically deepen a couple's marital bond making it strong, confident and trustworthy.
Hotwifing provides a greater sense of sexual confidence and satisfaction for both husband and wife. Hotwifing actually saves marriages. Yes you heard that right, it can save a marriage. I can tell you without hesitation that it saved mine even if it took my husband nearly 20 years to realize it. Hotwifing creates a perfect platform for couples to attain both mental and physical satisfaction. The wife is able to have sex with men she desires, which quenches her thirst that in a traditional monogamous marriages might otherwise lead her to affairs and betrayals.
Even after feeling the sting of betrayal couples can use hotwifing to regain trust, because hotwifing requires 100 percent honesty from both husband and wife. Honesty is the one element of hotwing that is non negotiable. Gone are the days of living secret lies and affairs. Women have said that while they knew their husband thought they were beautiful, being desired by other men was even more validating to them. “Your husband is supposed to think you're beautiful.” When wives feel they are no longer perceived as beautiful they can become depressed and cheat to make themselves feel wanted again. Couples that can together successfully negotiate the absolute intimacy and unique boundaries provided by hotwifing can easily save even the most troubled, stale and dissatisfied marriage. It gives couples a new freedom to describe to each other their most base, deepest secrets and sexual desires. Couples say that after the wife has sex with other men, their own sex lives were newly fueled, and the couple had sex the way they did when they first started dating.
Scientifically the fuel to this fire may be found in the neurochemistry and biology of sperm competition. Hotwifing couples essentially subvert mechanisms intended to prevent illicit pregnancies, co-opting our basic biological processes to serve a role in fanning the flames of the marriage long past the time they might have normally subsided into a relationship where sex is ok on occasion but primarily viewed as not necessary by one or both. Sex at 40, 50, 60, 70 and beyond can take on new exciting prospects that can be of well documented health benefits for the couple. Research has shown that older couples with a healthy and frequent sex life are often happier and tend to live longer more fulfilling lives. Overall the positive effects of hotwifing in marriage are far greater than many people could possibly imagine.
Hotwifing is no longer a dirty little “secret” confined to swingers clubs by adventurous 30 somethings. It is rapidly becoming a mainstream norm for mature couples to help rescue their failing marriages and keep them forever secure.
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