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Hotwife Lifestyle - Understanding Our Man’s Hotwife Fantasy and How to Use That to Our Advantage

The fantasy of having a “Hotwife” is growing, in fact, research shows it is growing at a higher rate than a good majority of the other lifestyle alternatives, including the old staple of “swinging” and the modern “open relationship”.  Why is it that a fantasy that revolves around only one part of a relationship – the woman – going out and finding pleasure from another man more intriguing to an increasing number of men than going out and “getting some” for himself?  

Basic psychology tells us that men are highly competitive creatures.  They have a drive to compete with other males of the species for the best mate – this isn’t so much different than what happens in the animal kingdom.  Most men have an innate drive to compete with other men when it comes to the “best mate” or the “most attractive woman”.  With this being said, one of the reservations of most women who find out about their husband or partner’s Hotwife fantasy is that he is somehow “weaker” than the rest because he wants to give up his position as your only partner.  Is this really true, though?  Could the truth lie somewhere within today’s man’s loss of natural competition in everyday life, and a desire to maintain a level of competition after marriage or “monogamy”?  Is this weakness, or rather the ultimate confidence?  

Cuckholding aside, because this aspect of the fantasy requires a bit more in terms of a “woman led” relationship, and a bit more from the man in terms of a desire for mental sadomasochism, a good majority of men enjoy the idea that they have been able to “capture” the best mate and even when she’s out having amazing physical and emotional experiences with men who may have qualities that actually supersede their own – a better body, a larger cock, youth, more prowess in bed – their woman actually WANTS to come back to them at the end of the night.  While most Hotwife-Husbands do get some level of turn-on from the jealousy and the possibility that their Hotwife may actually be enjoying their dates more than they enjoy being “at home”, the overwhelming desire is the competition and the “win” in terms of having a wife who chooses them again and again even after being allowed to go out and have other men.  

As Hotwives, we may be the focus of the fantasy, but there is that deeper and more psychological desire of a man who, even after committing to one woman, is able to compete with other males sexually.  This is why the desire for “reclaiming” a Hotwife after a date is so strong – it’s actually been scientifically proven that men who are able to reclaim a partner after she has been with someone else have an increase in testosterone levels, which means stronger desire, more powerful erections, longer lasting erections, and an overall stronger sex drive.  So, what does this mean for us as Hotwives?

He Enjoys the Jealousy, Go with It

As women we’ve learned that inducing some jealousy can actually be a good thing when it comes to dating – before we’ve found our “person”.  We use our female prowess to keep the men who we are seeing guessing…why?  Because they seem more interested in us when it seems as though we may not be 100% there.  So, if this works in the dating world, why wouldn’t it work once we’re married? In contrast, women typically don’t respond as well, or in the same way to jealousy – we tend to worry, question, and sometimes shut down if we feel that he might be “just not that into us”.  Naturally, because of our own feelings on the matter, we tend to avoid making our men jealous once we’ve committed to them, because we, ourselves don’t want to feel as though we’re in constant competition with other, more attractive, sexier, younger, etc., women.  Why would we do something to the man that we love that we, ourselves, would hate?

For men, though, and especially those with Hotwife fantasies, jealousy is a big component and tool for us to keep our men hot and bothered.  Sometimes just the mere mention of being flirted with by that cute guy at our favorite restaurant, or our interest in the sexy personal trainer at the gym is enough to send our men into a sexual frenzy.  It doesn’t take a lot to feed the fantasy.  It’s not ALL about dates and recounting how well we got worked over in the bedroom (and how much we loved it), though that is the ultimate turn on for our men, it’s also about the little things – the mention of our interest in someone else, the sexy messages that we send to potential lovers or Bulls, the “tease” of how much we loved what our last Bull did for us and how much we’re looking forward to doing it again.  Remember, this ignites the “competition” element of things, which is natural for men.

The More You Enjoy it, the More He Enjoys it

You may be thinking, “But I’m doing it for him, I’m not doing it for myself” (a common theme by A LOT of Hotwives), but in reality, our men WANT us to enjoy our encounters. They want to hear about what this “other guy” did for or to is that sent us over the edge, and yes, they want to hear what we liked better about the “other guy”.  I know it seems crazy, because we don’t want to imagine our men, even if we did allow them to be with other women, thinking that their “others” were better, sexier, hotter or had something that we don’t.  That’s because we don’t have that “competition drive” like our men do.

Let’s face it, despite what our men tell us – “It’s all about your pleasure” or “I don’t get anything out of it unless you’re enjoying it, because I love you so much” – this isn’t some ultimate “unselfish” thing our men are doing for us.  These things come out of their mouths, but what they are really saying is “I want to know that you came three times while he was fucking you, and you STILL want to come home to me”.  It’s their kink, and we have to understand it.  

So, if you’ve actually taken the step into the world of Hotwifing, you’re going to have to learn how to properly tease your man into believing that, just maybe, your Bull was better than him in some ways.  Whenever you think “But I’m only doing it for him”, follow that us with “I’m doing it for him and he WANTS to know that I absolutely enjoyed it”.  Find some aspect of your encounter that was mind-blowing, and recount, in great detail exactly what it was that sent you over the edge.  This may require a little bit of embellishment, and that’s OKAY…trust me…embellishment is your friend in this situation.  Tell your man about your Bull’s amazing cock, how good if felt, how good he tasted, how fantastic he was at oral sex, etc.  These are the things that will ramp up that competition streak in your man and make him want to reclaim you with increased vigor and desire.  

The More You Want Someone Else, The More Your Man Wants You

Again, you’re playing on the competition and the teasing aspect of things here…  The more that you act as if you WANT to be a Hotwife, the more that your husband or partner is going to WANT you.  His desire for you is going to skyrocket, his sexual desire for you is going to make it so that he’s ready to chew his own leg off to get you back in bed.  I have experienced this firsthand many times…if I am completely honest about an “encounter” and admit to “D” that my Bull was lacking in some way, or I didn’t quite “get there”, he isn’t nearly as turned on as when I tell him about how amazing things were.  I don’t like or believe in lying, but I do advocate for being selective and stretching the truth…maybe your lover wasn’t the best at giving oral sex, but maybe he was an amazing kisser, so a good answer would be “he was amazing with his mouth” and leave the rest up for interpretation.  

We’re women.  We are strong and capable and we are smart.  And the truth is, this is a GAME we are playing for and with our husbands/partners, so we need to get our heads into the game. Furthermore, this is an intellectual game, and we need to use our intellects to get to where we want to be.  Where do we want to be?  We want to have a husband/partner who is absolutely drooling over us, believes we are the ultimate sexual goddess, and in is jealous enough to realize that in order to “compete” they will need to step up their own game in order to “keep” us satisfied – be that with amazing sex, extra romance, other rewards, or all of the above.  

Happy Hotwifing!

-S

I’m cleaning my house today with my little cage on. Does anyone wanna see?

She had just gotten back from her bulls house and I was fingering his cum out of her pussy to my waiting tongue

Gonna repost this one.

I’d be a really good husband.

❤ Especially when Hubby finds the Big Black Stud for you ❤

Wish I was the girl with her tongue out!

“Heaven to me.”

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(via askun)

REBLOG if you’re ready to serve your Queen tonight  ;)

XoXo Jenny

All the time.

Would you do this for my girl?

THE GUIDE

I was once the black cock virgin guided by another, “broken in” for the first time right in front of my boyfriend.  I so desperately want to be the one to guide other couples in the same way.  

I would love to be there for your wife or girlfriend, holding her hand as I whisper into her ear, kissing her open mouth as she moans in pleasure from his superior cock.  Then once he’s finished with her, I’ll guide you to your first close up view of her stretched and forever-changed freshly blacked pussy.  I’ll spread her lips for you as we watch that man’s warm creamy load starts to pour out of her.  I’ll tongue her clit as you clean her out.  Let me be your guide.

XoXo Jenny

Looking for a hotwife who will lock me up

She’s sexy and wants a cuck!

Living this Snowbunny life style is really expensive 😥 I gotta look amazing and perfect for my bull everyday to keep him happy ❤ So bois capable of spoilin me are welcomed to say Hi! ✌

And as I said here’s the new Friday pic I promised you all! 😘

Dont forget every Reblog puts a smile on my face so please do it! 😚 For me 😍

It's My Birthday!!!

And Now Im Sure Im Gonna Regret This But...

If You Reblog This Post & Follow Me

I'll Send You A Naughty Pic Of Myself 😘

I Want Every Cock On Tumblr For My Bday 😁

Cutiesexywhitegirl

This is so hot!

THE NEED

I never need my boyfriend more than after a long night spent with other men who only see me as an object, a piece of flesh to fuck and brag about to their friends.  They don’t care about my hopes or my dreams.  They don’t care to get to know me or have any substantive conversation that doesn’t directly relate to, or lead to sex.  They don’t care about my boyfriend or how much we love each other.  

They will never have what we have.  They will never understand the power of our connection or the timelessness of our bond.  They only get an evening, a few short hours of intense passion.  They mean nothing to me.  They don’t realize it, but to me they are the equivalent of a living sex toys that I’m just using to fulfill a burning desire, an essential “NEED” that, I’ve come to learn, can not be tamed or filled by a single man.

Through it all, there is only one man who is there, time and again, to make me feel loved, respected and needed.  Even after an evening such as this when I’ve returned to him with the cheap scent of another man’s cologne fresh on my body, he holds me.  Even with the salty taste of another man’s cum fresh on my lips, he kisses me.  And even though he knows other men just spent the past few hours thrusting their over-sized cocks deep inside of me, his one true love, he still makes me feel like his princess when he gets on his knees before me to sooth my sore, cum-filled, black cock addicted pussy with his soft hungry mouth as he looks up at me with his kind and oh-so-generous eyes, my sweet, loving cum-addicted prince!

XoXo Jenny

My pleasure baby!

No I want to eat it out

Nope I want you to sit on my face so I can eat your dirty pussy first. Then I want to reclaim you.

I’d love too baby!

Hell yes I would.

Taste for myself please!

I want this!

The 30 Day Anal Orgasm Test

It is a fact that ALL men, CAN cum with no stimulation to their penis.

All that is required is to not let your man cum under any circumstances, for any reason.  Before we show you how you can accomplish this, one might ask, “Why do I want to make my husband have an anal orgasm anyways?  The answer is simple.  The transformation that will occur during the following process, will be sure to make your man more obedient, a better and more attentive lover, and overall better partner in life in and out of the bedroom.

So lets begin…

Set The Stage.

The first thing you need to do is let your husband/boyfriend know your intentions.  Tell him know right now that you are going to run an experiment on him for your amusement.  Tell him it will be tough on him, but the reward at the end of your experiment will be well worth it.  Let him know that you are going to teach him how to have an “anal orgasm” where he will feel a full orgasm and cum without any stimulation to his cock whatsoever.  Let him know that when he has it, that it will be the most intense orgasm of his life, and that the wait for this will be worth it.  Also let him know that you do not know how long this will take, but it will involve lots of sex, but he is not allowed to cum.  (this will make him interested for sure.)

Stage 1.

Every day you must tease your husband or boyfriend.  You must make him hard, and if possible EDGE him every day.  This is where you bring him really close, and then stop prior to the point of no return. Also be sure to tease him verbally, and talk dirty to him.  Remind him how much you own him, and how he is to serve you.  Make him bring you to orgasm as many times as you like, and for him to do things like lick your ass.  This is a giant turn on for submissive men.

The main point of this stage, is to tease and deny for approximately 2-5 days following his last orgasm.

Stage 2.

This is very much the same as stage 1 except after 5 days, you will start to anally penetrate on a regular basis.  After you tease him and his cock is really hard, flip him over, and start working his ass.  Plant some triggers here while you are doing this.  Tell him how horny he is, and how much he likes it when you fuck his ass.  At this point, use your fingers, dildos, anything you have ever used in the past, and use lots of language to keep him turned on during this.  Let him know what a good anal slut he is for you, and that good boys get great rewards.  The point is, keep the tease and level of excitement high, while you penetrate his ass.

As you are using your dildo, fingers, strap on, or whatever you want, ask him how it feels best.  Slow it down, and speed it up, and try different things.  Get him to tell you what feels best.  Find out if slower or faster is better, and find the perfect speed that he likes a lot.  Don’t just take his word for it, judge by how his body is reacting along with what he is saying.

At this point it would be a good idea to do this at least once every second day.  Every day is better, and at the same time too, so it becomes something he expects. This is part of the brain conditioning that it will take for him to have release without stimulation to his cock.  For the ultimate and best results, at some point, switch to strap on only.  Teach him that this is the way good boys get fucked.  They get taken by their boss, where and however they want.  Use varying rhythms, and lots of verbalization as you take him each time.  Ask him to thank you, and let him know how much you are turned on by his obedience.  Always let him know that there is a big reward at the end of this experiment.  Also tell him while you are taking him with your strap on, that there is a big reward at the end of your strap on.

Stage 3.

Pretty much, keep on repeating stage 2.  Do it daily or at least very regularily.  Make sure you talk to him while you are doing it.  Make sure you make him hard everytime before you start doing this.  Train him that when he gets hard and horny, your strap on cock is going in his ass.  The more you do this, and the hornier he gets, the more he will crave your strap on.   At this point it is really only a matter of time.  The only rule you need to get from this point on, is that he does not get to cum EVER again normally UNTIL he blows his load from you anally entering him.  At some point his semen buildup will need to be released, and between your verbal encouragement, and cock teasing, it will happen. Definitely.  The only thing that will vary is the amount of time it takes, and this will vary due to these 2 conditions:

how old he is

how often he had orgasms before you started this experiment

Generally the older a person is, the longer this might take, and also the less frequent your man masturbated, or had orgasms, the longer it will take.

If your man is past 50, and only orgasms once per week, this might take up to 2 months.

If your man is 18 and is used to cumming multiple times per day, this might only take 3-4 days.

Most people will fall in the middle of this and will cum within 30 days of this type of training.

One thing is for sure though.  All men can cum through anal penetration only, and this exercise is to find out how long that is for your man regardless.

HE DOES NOT GET TO CUM AGAIN NORMALLY ONCE YOU START THIS UNTIL HE DOES BY ANAL PENETRATION ONLY.

Some women elect to make this the new way PERMANANTLY after this happens.

Why?  Because keeping your man in a suspended horny state that only cums from anal penetration at your control, will make your man more obedient, compliant, better lover, better house boy for doing chores, and much, much more.  This experiment will open both of your eyes to a world of extreme production of the male, and blissfulness for the woman.

HAPPY ANAL TRAINING!

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Yes there is.

1. I can love watching her in Ecstasy

2. I can listen to her moans from the spare bedroom

3. I can hear all about it later while I jerk my cock.

4 I can hear all about it while I eat your cum from her used pussy.

So don’t tell me there is nothing I can do about it. 

Both! 😍😍😍

Yes I do I just love it so I act like I don’t know nice try tho babe.

Fuck yes!

I just ordered my first cage. Who wants to hold the key for me in south west Michigan?

Would love one!

Please baby when is he coming?

100% baby!