Be you. Be proud of you. I see a lot of posts about not loving your body, not looking like everyone else, not being "the typical beauty" etc. You know what, real is real.
Ladies, If you're 5'0 and can't gain weight of you tried and are always 100lbs, have huge thigh gap, don't be ashamed of it. Rock it. Own it.
If you are 5'11, weigh 240lbs of all curvy, thick thighs stay together always...rock it. Own it.
I've never had a sub that I considered to not be beautiful. I've had a broad range and everyone I've called beautiful. Everyone I've thought was sexy.
I got told recently by an anon that I wasn't her type, that she normally liked "normal guys, better looking guys, but I had confidence for someone like me"
Seriously. That was said to me last week. I didn't even reply. I deleted it, but tonight I'm just posting this. Be you. That's all you can be. Love you. That's all you can do. Be confident in you. I guess I'm average as fuck according to this anon but damn right I'm confident in me. Confident in myself. Always will be. Own it. Just be you.
Love yourself. Be yourself. It starts in you.
Yes!
I am more than female. I am a woman. I am sensuous and sexy. I am the best fuck you ever had. I get drunk on love and sex. If you don't bring your best game you have failed and fucked yourself out of the best sex you have ever experienced. I will inhale you and make you beg for more.
I don't think men are capable of doing that anymore.
Damn me too!
Why is every man I meet unable to maintain an erection and keep me satisfied? I feel i need to ask the question, can you fuck, before I date you.
We have never met, yet I can see into your soul. We talk on the phone and when it is late and we're both tired, neither of us wants to be the first to say goodbye. I listen to your breathing, your voice as it softens and deepens, producing a velvety softness I yearn to hear in my ear. You don't know it yet, but I'm falling for you. You say things that are slightly risqué. Are you hoping to hear a naughty invitation? I pretend I don't know what you're talking about. Do you know that? You become quiet and make an almost inaudible sound. I asked, "Are you okay?" Suddenly I suspect you are touching yourself, and again I hear the same noise. The heavy silence is embarrassing and erotic at the same time. I wish I was there with you. Our friendship is complicated. We were never meant to cross paths. Our lives have been so different. One painful bad decision on the part of our spouses has brought ud together. We have leaned on each other for support and cried tears. Neither deserving of the pain their affair has caused our families, we find ourselves drawn to each other in more than just friendship. Are we making a terrible mistake? Without saying the words, we know that when we meet, it will be a passionate love affair. Is this so wrong?
Great response! I'm glad you didn't leave that opportunity to correct him on what a D/S is. I would hate to meet him.
Been reading ur blog. U need to stop calling urself a dom. All this lovey crap makes real doms sick. A sub is not for respecting and loving. A sub is for using and thats what they like. Its fine that u love ur girl, just dont call urself a dom. Real doms show dominance, use there sub and leave her laying like the cunt slut she is. Bein all sweet, and all that does is give her power over u, which makes u not a dom.
Hi there, Anon. I almost didn’t even dignify this with a response, but I think you’ve actually given me a good opportunity to say something that new doms need to know, so kudos to you.
First and foremost, let’s establish something right here and now: You don’t get to tell me what I am, and you are damn sure not the leading authority on what does and does not constitute a dominant. For the record, I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be a dom. I never even thought of myself that way until I met belovedsangi 10 years ago. I always had the characteristics of a dom, sure, but I didn’t ever put that title on myself. That title was given to me by my submissive. SHE is the one who wanted to call me Master, and Sir, and sometimes Daddy. I never told her to do these things. But of course, you probably think I am making your point for you and that if I were a REAL domly dom, I would’ve demanded those things.
And that’s where you have a fundamental issue understanding the meaning of the title. So let me help you with that.
A dom does not demand respect. He conducts himself in such a way as to be worthy of respect.
A dom does not bark commands. His presence is such that he can seduce and command with nothing more than a glance.
A dom does not raise his voice. He is the kind of man who gets what he wants without needing to.
A dom is not a braggart. He is possessed of a calm, quiet confidence that is evident in his demeanor, the way he walks, the tone of his voice, and all other aspects of him.
A dom understands balance. He knows that while a firm hand and discipline are critical in this type of relationship, knowing when to be gentle and understanding is every bit as important.
A dom is a gentleman first and foremost. That doesn’t necessarily mean that he is a fancy man who values the finer things in life, but he does understand manners and protocol. He opens the car door for her. He orders for her if she is having trouble deciding. He treats strangers with courtesy and respect.
A dom is a protector. He makes sure that his submissive feels safe and protected at all times. This means so much more than just telling her you will protect her. A dom shows her. He keeps a hand on her shoulder or on her waist in crowds so she doesn’t get nervous. He sleeps on the side of the bed closest to the door so that he is always between his submissive and an intruder. He walks on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street so that an errant vehicle will hit him before his submissive. If anything or anyone should threaten his submissive, he must be prepared to fight for her with the ferocity of an alpha wolf.
A dom earns her submission. It is not a thing to be demanded, expected, or assumed. And he continues to earn it, each and every day.
A dom values her submission. Fully submitting your will and trusting your body and well-being to someone takes a kind of strength most can’t imagine, and a dom never loses sight of that.
A dom understands that being a dominant is 10% privilege and 90% responsibility. He is literally taking her life into his hands. He is accepting the most sacred and important thing she has to give. He is taking her burdens and bearing them as his own, always, every day.
A dom is consistent. He understands that he can’t just be her protector, lover, confidant, master, etc. when he feels like it. There will be days when a dom is tired. There will be days when he is stressed. There will be days when he is broken. On those days, it is more important than ever for a dom to show his submissive that he is still everything she needs him to be.
So what does it mean, then, to be a dom? I get the feeling that you, anon, would say that it’s all about making her kneel, having your way with her, shouting orders and using her. Helpful hint: Any jackass can buy himself a whip and bark commands. That’s not a dom. Don’t get me wrong, I do absolutely have my way with belovedsangi. I love it when she kneels. I love the kinky, rough, mind-blowing sex we have. I love to dominate her in the bedroom. But for every moment of that, there are a hundred moments of holding her, of talking to her, laughing with her, gaming with her. There are a hundred moments of making her feel safe when she is afraid, giving her confidence when she is unsure, comforting her when she feels troubled. Those are all things that a dominant does too.
I love my submissive more than I love oxygen. I love my submissive with a fire that can never be extinguished. I value her and respect her in every way. I treat her like a queen and fuck her like a slave. These things don’t make me weak. They don’t make me less of a dominant. These things make me stronger than you can possibly imagine. There is nothing quite so formidable as a dominant who has found the perfect submissive to fuel his fire. Never will you see anyone love so strongly or fight so fiercely.
Bottom line, Anon, is this: you sound like a boy playing at being a man. You decided one day that you were sick of women having willpower and a voice of their own, so you decided to call yourself a dominant and seek out some weak-willed submissive who wouldn’t talk back to you or stick up for herself. You are not a dom. You are a jackass with a whip. Classic case of toodomforyou.
I need a man to take me and fuck me hard from behind. I love doggy style sex and no one wants to give it to me. What's wrong with men?