genuinely curious
there’s a difference between being polite and infantilizing. no, talking to an autistic person like they’re a child is not polite. it’s rude. you aren’t helping anyone by talking to people like they’re stupid.
this is a problem with disabled people in general, not just autism. i just saw a video where someone was talking to a disabled army vet like he was a child. that was a grown man. he made it clear he could understand “grown-up” conversation and words.
it’s one thing to treat a child like a child, it’s another to treat any disabled person like a child. we aren’t children. we are just like anyone else.
this is ableism, know it or not.
trying to unlearn misinfo and beliefs brought upon us from our abusers is by far one of the hardest things that we’ve ever had to do for our recovery, but we’re progressing.
hey brain. nice joke!! can i have my identity back now please?
thats it. THATS IT. WHY DO WE HAVE AN ELSA FICTI-
Hii I’ve recently discovered that we’re a system and was wondering what your favorite thing the person you like or your friend you mentioned has done for you!! I’m kind of scared to tell our friends but your blog gives us hope
hey! welcome to the community! one of the best things one of our friends have done to accommodate us is by doing their own research themselves! i am absolutely blessed to have them, haha. they have also made sure to respect our boundaries, including not interacting with particular alters such as littles due to our own hesitance, and other forms of assistance!
if you have supportive friends, it’s definitely great to tell them about it! we were apprehensive at first as well, but they ended up being one of our most supportive people. :) something i recommend is allowing them to ask questions and explaining the basics! and if they’ve already heard of systems before, especially from ‘cringe’ posters, make sure to re-educate them and point them to more informational places or sites to correct any misinformation.
of course, they won’t understand, at least at first, but the important thing is they are willing to learn and try and understand, even if they cannot at first.
guys….. we ALL know that rugs DONT exist. they’re just CARPETS WHO ARE TRYING TO BE DIFFERENT. if you’re a rug, it’s because you don’t know that you were actually made with carpet material… smh.
as a system, we agree on nothing, except for one thing. *yelling, in any form that can not be obviously seen as playful (and even caution on that)* is never okay if not behind closed and locked doors, and even then, we prefer not to yell in any capacity as it only harms others- especially when internal arguing occurs. we’ve seen what discourse between people, especially those you love, does to a person from a first-hand perspective.
from system to system.. how to unblur… in the past two or three months we’ve had clear knowledge of whose fronting a total of thrice… please i can’t do this anymore😭 -blurry
(dont have adhd but) painfully relatable.....
ADHD at night: I could write a book. I could get my Master’s Degree. I could go to the club and come home with 12 new friends. I could get a job at that club and meet the mother of my children. I could cure every disease and use my wealth to bring world peace.
ADHD during the day: Fold laundry too hard :( Come back next week
(they/them)disordered systemi don't care what you label yourself as, it's not my business. just keep the fucking discourse off this blog.
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