For the boys to enjoyđ
Just a friendly reminder that buying me a drink doesnât mean you get an invitation into my pants. In fact, it doesnât even earn you an invitation to talk to me. No one asked you to spend that $6 and itâs actually rude to buy someone a gift and just expect to get something back in return, this ainât Christmas. I donât OWE you my attention.
Paying me a compliment doesnât make you my hero & my number your reward. Just because Iâm flattered doesnât mean Iâm interested. & I donât OWE you an explanation for turning you down. Sorry not sorry about your fragile masculinity.
Being nice doesnât mean I want to fuck you. Donât mistake my kindness for flirtation. Being put in the âfriend zoneâ isnât a bad thing but if you want more out of our friendship, speak up. If I reject you, either move on or respect my decision. I am not a bitch for not returning your feelings and Iâm not holding a gun to your head telling you to stay my friend when you feel rejected. I donât OWE you sex just because Iâm a girl & youâve been nice to me.
Just because my body is sexualized doesnât mean Iâm obligated to be sexy. Contrary to popular belief, femininity exists outside of the male gaze. I dress how I want, when I want. Iâll wear as much or as little make-up as my cold, black heart desires. I donât need to live up to some weird & unattainable fantasy of what you think a âwomanâ should be. Shaving isnât a prerequisite for womanhood. My body is hairy, get over it. How or IF I choose to remedy is MY decision. & if you think my makeup is misleading, thatâs on you. What do you think makeup does? Iâll tell you, makes me FEEL beautiful & hides my imperfections, bozo. You want me to be natural but then complain when Iâm hairy & you can see my stress breakouts? Yaâll make ZERO sense. And anyway, I donât OWE you perfection.
Going on one date with you doesnât guarantee a second. Having sex with you one time doesnât make me obligated to do it again. Saying yes once doesnât give you an all access pass to my pussy. Consent is ALWAYS required because I donât OWE you a good time.
I am a human being. Not an object. I have thoughts & feelings & I donât OWE ANYONE SHIT. Some of the best advice I was ever given was really simple & I try to remember it every single day.
âNO is a complete sentence.â
** I am a heterosexual, married, woman. This post is not targeting any one group of people/persons. Yes, it sounds like Iâm speaking directly at men but thatâs only because thatâs been MY experience. Really, these are all statements that can be aimed at anyone, by anyone. In general, no one owes anyone else anything (I mean, unless they saved your life and you feel indebted to them or something but thatâs another topic all together so I digress.)
What a nightđ