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Today is some 2021 art of Caiden and Jaiden. This is actually a redraw of some even older art I could probably find later in the abyss of my hard drive

As someone who's aroace, I am begging asexuals to stop derailing aromantic posts. If you're questioning whether or not you're asexual, do it in an asexual space. Her entire blog is solely about being aromantic. The post is clearly about being aromantic.

Learn what aromantic means.

more heterosexual girls need to get aromantic asap. you don't want a wedding you don't want kids you don't want marriage you don't want roses or chocolate or romantic date nights. you WANT a boytoy that gives you good weed and good dick. and by god i will fight for your right to have that

Hey, massively important!!! I know shit feels terrifying right now, but being loud is having an impact

got this from someones insta but yea man

WE BOOPIN NOW

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When I finished the painting on the right, I used the leftover mixed paint to make the little thing on the left. It was something I saw another artist do, and I think I'll keep doing it

Watching a video on aphobic memes reminded me of something...

It was basically like "Asexual and aromantic people don't face systemic oppression!"

And... we do. Take a look around at how much value society places on sex and romance. Many systems rely on the expectation you will fall in love and get married. We've all heard the meme about getting married for tax reasons. Romance is even used as a measure of happiness. I'm in therapy, and my therapist will sometimes have to use certain charts and templates with me. A good chunk of them always involve discussing romantic life. I'm blessed that she is perfectly accepting of me being aroace, and we've even discussed how harmful it is that there's so much pressure. I've heard of other people in the community who had their asexuality/aromanticism treated like a problem in therapy.

Or, in the medical industry: I was having severe abdominal pains and went to the ER. The nurses were absolutely convinced it was an STD, despite me swearing I'm not sexually active. They only focused on the idea of an STD. It later ended up being an intestinal issue. They pressured me into doing a pelvic exam, then used the wrong size instrument so I was screaming in pain the whole time. All because they couldn't believe there was a patient who did NOT have sex. Who was NOT in a relationship. The expectation was that teenager = sex.

We are continuously taught this idea that everyone has sex and falls in love. All of our systems are built around it. Our whole society expects it. If you are not in any relationship, you are stereotyped as lonely and/or crazy. If you are in a purely sexual relationship, you are stereotyped as being vain and sex-crazed. If you are in a purely romantic relationship, you are stereotyped as leading your partner on and incompatible with others.

I'm fortunate enough to have grown up surrounded by people who loved and supported me for my identity. I love myself for my identity. But even I have still faced discrimination and harm as a result of it. I still get anxious when a doctor touches me. I still feel left behind when I see my friends getting into relationships. But I don't want to change myself.

I want to change the world around me. We deserve better.

"well actually repulsed aro/aces can still be in relationships/have sex" SHUT. UP. SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP. I know! IM ROMANCE REPULSED!! but if you even tried to ship me (and a few of you did) i would come at you with KNIVES. STOP SPEAKING FOR "all aro/acespecs" YOU DONT. SHUT UP

okay, i've gotten sick of this shit. please reblog and like and share and stuff so tumblr can know this is a problem.

i keep getting communities suggested to me on tumblr. this wouldnt be a problem... if it wasnt communities i do not care about at all. there are some fandoms i want to genuinely avoid, seeing as i have no interest in the content and honestly am potentially triggered by it.

speaking of the getting triggered part. it gets worse and genuinely very important.

there are certain nsfw communities that get randomly reccomended to me, and some of these topics can be genuinely triggering, such as r@pe f3tishes (yes, i genuinely got a post from an nsfw community featuring that recommended to me) and other VERY potentially triggering things.

though i think it's important for people to have safe spaces for that kind of stuff (such as the nsfw one, like it is not my place to kinkshame, but to people who have not shown interest in it it can be harmful), there should be ways to avoid these

my solution? the ability to block communities. not just say "not interested" (because we all know that hardly ever works)

if anyone knows any other solutions, please let me know. this is starting to genuinely bother me and make tumblr not very fun to use, which sucks.

Another repost of older stuff. I just really enjoy how the colors came out, and I think this was my earliest test of doing an outline.