When a couple or polycule decides to be friends, we call it a “failed relationship,” yet when friends decide they want a romantic relationship, we don’t call it a “failed friendship.” Because outside of the overly-regulated are of romantic relationships, we understand that the presence of a status quo is not success.
A lot of people seem to think they get a pass on problematic arguing tactics because they're a minority or an activist or what have you. You don't get a pass. It's not going to fly if you say "there are multiple bad things/reasons for a bad thing, don't try to focus on one." You don't get to say " *I* don't experience that problem" when someone says a problem exists, and not get called out on it. You don't get to badger someone who has made it clear that they don't want to talk to you about a subject, and have it be okay. I'm not buying it when your response to being called out is a tired variation of "I guess you're not capable of talking about things rationally" when someone doesn't put up with your tactics. Not only will your behavior be called out, but your hypocrisy will be called out as well.
"Those blankets look like there's a person under them. But my SO is downstairs, so obviously not. They're just lumped in a person-shape. I'm not that paranoid." *stomps on blankets to be sure*
"I can't sleep. I feel like I should do something productive, but what?" *looks around at clothes-strewn room* "What could I possibly do in the wee hours?" *Walks past exercise gear to put another plate on the pile* "My only option is to fuck around on the computer."
Connection noun con·nec·tion \kə-ˈnek-shən\ 1: What I would have if I could be around people, speak coherently, and make eye contact <see also: holy triad>
Little flag they put on little carts for children at the store. It is gross and disheartening in its truth. This is what children are in United States capitalism.