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10 Chastity / Forced denial Benefits.

I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.

It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you - and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he is lowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently.                              

Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages  per week than you’ve ever had before.                         

Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive, passionate and caring.                                                                               

His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial.                                                           

You’ll never have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it - most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if you’re in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about you for days at a time eager to please.                                                               

The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, there’s no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’ll train him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating.                                                                                           

You’ll never have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better ;)  its good to use these things against him, teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand.                                        

Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful, attentive boyfriend you have. They will be jealous of your strong, committed relationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied.                        

He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice?                                                       

He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.

In summary, you will get a lot more pleasure in any way you want, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and will never cheat.

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If you agree with this list then please reblog so more couples are better informed and can seriously consider exploring chastity / forced denial

Just remember to keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.

Yours truly, 

-Tatiana xoxo     http://maleslaveswanted.tumblr.com/ 

It's not my fantasy but her.

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How to get your boy into Chastity!

1. Tell him why you want to place him into a chastity cage *”I want you to always be your horniest around me"*

2. Start Cheap. I recommend a cheap device from Ebay. Search for  Male Polycarbonate Chastity.

3. Put it on for him. Be careful and gentle. The first time takes a while. If he has hair down there, leave it. He will discover he needs to shave on his own. Shaving will be his gift to you, if you want it.

4. Put his clothes on and take him out somewhere where you can both see how it feels while walking, sitting etc.

5. Take it off. Have him jack off for you. Then have him do it again. And again.

5. Have him put it on himself. This is usually the time he will bring up shaving. If he wants to shave, do it right. Downward strokes. And after have him put deodorant on it. Not lotion or oil as so many recommend. You want that freshly shaved area dry to prevent razor bumps.

5. Tell him he will be in it for three days. That’s just enough time to drive him crazy. 

6. Introduce him to his nipples. Have him wear a Shirt and lightly play with them. Not nipple torture, light pleasure. Explain to him that the nipples are directly connected to his prostate area, and with training he can have an orgasm that feels great, but leaves him just as horny. This will take the attention off his penis while giving him a new path to pleasure. Anal play is for you, not him. (Nipple orgasms have become my favorite!!!)

7.  Monitor him. Check for his comfort. This might not be the right cage for him. It can be too tight over time or too loose and pull out.

8. On day three he will really want to cum. It’s time for his first ruined orgasm. Have his hands behind his back, take the penis portion of the cage off only and stroke him making sure to let it go just as he is about to cum. This will ensure that this way of cumming is not pleasant for him and over time, he will not want it any more. Lock him back up. This time for 7 days. 

9. Have him really concentrate on using his nipples for pleasure. After some practice he will be able to release some boy juice into his cage relieving some pressure from his balls, but keeping him horny.

10. On day 7 give him another ruined orgasm. Keep on this 7 day schedule until he requests more. 

Now you have a good boy that wants nothing more than to please you.

Oh how I wish

Harnessing, The Male Orgasm: “Karezza”

Karezza’s side effect not only increases his energy and libido, but also mystifyingly alters his Psyche into one that’s much more acquiescent and venerating.

Chances are good that you haven’t a clue what karezza truly is, even though it is rapidly evolving and becoming “mainstream” worldwide. But before I give my progressive explanation, here’s a bit of context… Human mating has some very un-Disney characteristics. True, new lovers are jacked up on thrilling honeymoon neurochemicals. For example, they have extra nerve growth factor and cortisol flowing through their veins when they’ve first met. Dopamine-releasing areas of the brain are activated and stimulated frequently. Their serotonin is often as low as the levels of OCD patients—which is why fresh lovers obsess over each other. In addition, odd things are going on with their testosterone levels: They’re lower than normal in men during early romance and courtship, and higher than normal in women—bringing their libidos more into sync.

Yet all these potent neurochemicals return to their base levels by the end of year two or three at the latest. Once that booster shot wears off, cracks tend to appear in the relationship. That’s when habituation can set in, if couples don’t learn to actively counter it. The standard sex advice for committed couples—which is to heat things back up to earlier intensity with more variety in the bedroom—often backfires. “Heat” can gradually numb lovers’ response to pleasure, making vanilla pleasures even less fulfilling. Mates may end up on an unsatisfying, but very demanding, treadmill of seeking new highs, while feeling less overall pleasure.

Karezza is an organic (female empowering) way, to hack our pair-bonding machinery and remain hormonally (neurochemistry) attracted to each other. The fundamental enlightenment pertaining to Karezza has turned up in various cultures over thousands of years. In the simplest of terms, Karezza is affectionate, slow sensual intercourse without the goal (or reward) of explosive MALE Climax. Healthy Healing Intercourse is generally frequent, although not necessarily daily (but could be). But couples typically engage in daily “bonding behaviors” with Karezza. These attachment cues are very powerful, and have been shown to reduce stress as well as strengthen bonds.

Part of the challenge with Karezza is that we ladies think we already know everything important about SEX. Actually, we have a lot to learn about the subtle, lingering changes in the brain that follow the intense neurochemical event of male and female orgasm—and even more to learn about the neurochemical effects of excessive orgasm (that is when male orgasms are not properly harnessed and preserved).

These brain events haven’t been studied much, but even the limited research that has been done makes it clear there’s a lot going on that could have a subtle impact on lover’s post-climax perception of each other as well as their moods. As this kind of female empowering information becomes more common knowledge, the wisdom and benefits of Karezza will be evident. For now, experimentation is the best way to see its transformative benefits.

·        What is the point of sex without “allowing” the male Ejaculation? Wouldn’t it be frustrating?

First, a bit of context. As a culture, we have psychologically trained ourselves that sex = male orgasm, but for many primates this isn’t true. Various apes and monkeys often copulate without ejaculation.

Even among humans, the karezza concept has cropped up repeatedly over the countless centuries, going by various names: “Taoist Dual Cultivation,” “Cortezia,” “Amplexus Reservatus,” “Tantra,” “Polynesian lovemaking,” and so forth. Of course, cultures sometimes regulated sexual activity in other ways, too, such as kosher sex or taboos on intercourse after a wife gives birth until a child was walking.

The point is, that a less fertilization-driven approach to sex is not as unnatural as we’ve been led to believe by the Modern Church and today’s Sexperts… It’s just unfamiliar.

With Karezza, Frequent and Prolonged Feminine Pleasure (Bliss) becomes of paramount importance to the male, as well as Revered and Habitual.

Logically It seems like karezza would be horribly frustrating for males, but surprisingly IT IS NOT —provided lovers (1) learn what they’re doing and why, (2) take a slow enough approach to sexual intercourse, and (3) make love in gentle “waves.” That is, when things heat up, the male is reprogrammed to relax their arousal, to drop down a notch repeatedly, and end in a relaxed, perhaps even trance-like (fully erect) state.

Karezza definitely takes a bit of getting used to however by both the male and female. He has to routinely “learn” to stay back just enough from the very edge of orgasm—as he helplessly throbs in mindboggling blissful “captivity”. (If you learn this the hard way, cold water should ease the pain.)

·        What benefits can couples get out of karezza?

As lovers engage in karezza intercourse consistently, they tend to become more sensitive to pleasure. Therefore, even though orgasmic intensity is absent (or rare) for the male, overall pleasure (both inside and outside the bedroom) is often greater. Because Karezza helps protect a healthy balance in the reward circuitry of the male brain (the part that governs our appetites, moods, cravings and behavior), it can make relationships less volatile and therefore more sustainable.

In addition, non-performance driven sex is very helpful in restoring powerful erections in men, with certain types of erectile dysfunction. It can even ultimately cure premature ejaculation—especially when combined with Michael and Diana Richardson’s “soft entry” technique.

Men describe karezza with phrases like deeply satisfying, can make love often without fatigue afterward, feel more virile, feel welcomed into her heart. They report greater attraction to their partners—of any age, greater ease in giving up addictions and having sex more frequently than before. Said one, “I have fallen deeply in love with my wife really for the first time. We’re like teenagers … and are able to have intimacy and sex now that was simply unheard of before.

Women say things like blissful, easy, pure contentment, heart-burstingly Loving. They report that their relationships grow more harmonious and playful. Some report less menstrual pain and feeling and looking younger. Paradoxically, women often report that they become Much More Orgasmic, probably because they can relax more during sex, and relish the feelings of the (throbbing) passion - “incarcerated” deep within them . (The absence of vigorous thrusting means that the vagina doesn’t naturally tense up to protect against the cervix being bumped painfully.)

It’s likely that one scientific basis of the improvements men and women see (when the male orgasm is properly harnessed) is the increased emphasis on soothing daily affection, which may help sustain the release of oxytocin (the “cuddle chemical”) or increases the brain’s sensitivity to it. Not surprisingly, oxytocin is vital for Potent (Virile) Erections and Sexual Responsiveness. It is naturally released throughout affectionate touch and lovemaking. Oxytocin also plays a role in orgasmic sex for the woman—but firm karezza “restraint” for the male - always sustains oxytocin levels better, as it doesn’t generally promote ejaculation, which triggers a rapid drop off of oxytocin.

Karezza is ideal for all couples who live together, especially those who are in female led relationships. It helps the woman keep the romantic feelings flowing in her relationship, even without the hit of those extra new-love neurochemicals discussed earlier. It often gives males something they may not even have realized they missed: a sense of being wanted, accepted and welcomed “in” by special invitation of one’s beloved, consistently…

Karezza can also be very helpful for couples in which the male is recovering from a porn addiction.

One drawback is that the woman’s appropriate harnessing of male orgasm (with karezza) is unfamiliar and easily mischaracterized. It’s therefore difficult to explain to an unaware partner. It’s off the radar of most “sex positive” mainstream advice. That’s somewhat ironic because couples practicing karezza tend to Make Love, much more frequently than they did with orgasm (ejaculation) driven sex, they just take frequent (repeated) calming breaks. Moreover, research is revealing that relaxed slow “Balls Deep” intercourse is especially beneficial (as compared with various other sexual activities).

Karezza is obviously more challenging for new lovers because of all those compelling honeymoon neurochemicals discussed above. For the same reason, it doesn’t work well in casual hook-ups, where novelty is the prime aphrodisiac. It’s also problematic for long-distance lovers. They don’t have the option of daily bonding behaviors, and when they reunite after a separation, there’s understandably a lot of intense sexual hunger present that makes a relaxed approach challenging.

·        What simple steps can you recommend to astute, curious ladies who want to try it?

Get educated. It’s almost impossible to make any progress with karezza unless you have a clear understanding of why you want to do it. It’s a duet, not a solo. Teach Him, Train Him and use your provocative feminine skills to talk him into practicing Karezza with you.

Through a Man’s Penis, Passion & Libido, Nature Has “Given” Man INTO Woman’s Hands, and The Woman who Does Not Know How to Make Him Her Subject, Her Slave, Her TOY, and How to Thoroughly Control Him with Her Smile in the end is Not Wise.

Indeed I have!

So I Was Talking To My Best Friend..

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Oh great another new fucking year. 🙄

My Own Chastity Story

I’ve mentioned that a few years ago my wife and I tried some chastity play for a while. It started off as “just for a couple of weeks,” and when a couple of weeks went by, we (and yes, it was a “we” decision, we’re not into any serious D/s) thought we’d go for a month. The month turned into two, then three and then six, and it ended up being almost 8 ½ months of 24/7 wear in my CB3000. Although I was unlocked for sex periodically, I was not allowed to have an orgasm during that entire time. Since it was mostly her idea in the first place – we had been looking for a kink to experiment with and that seemed to grab her fancy – I went along with any decision she made about it, just so she could get comfortable with the idea.

At first, she unlocked me a couple of times a week to have sex, and then I would clean up and we would replace the cage. After a month or so, we invested in a good strap-on harness and a good silicone dildo, and my unlockings became less frequent, several times it being four, five, or six weeks running. She prefers penetration over oral, so the harness really worked well for her. When the time came for our agreement to end, we were in the middle of some marital differences, so we put away the toys for a bit. We thought about playing once in a while, but frankly, after 8 months, going for a couple of weeks just didn’t seem quite as exciting, so we didn’t bother with it for a while.

Anyway, about seven or eight months after we had ended the last session, my wife left for a trip to visit some family for a week. I stayed home because of work (and because I enjoy my alone time anyway). So after spending the first day masturbating a few times out of boredom, I dug out the CB3k, cleaned it off and locked it on myself. Surprisingly, it didn’t take long for me to get used to it again, so I left it on for the rest of the week. When it came time to head to the airport to pick her up, I was going to remove it, but at the last minute decided to leave it on. I got the bags, we had dinner, and she didn’t discover it until we got home. She felt it against her leg, but didn’t say anything until later on when we went to bed. She then asked why I had put it on and how long I’d worn it (just for the hell of it, and all week). We talked and then made out for a few minutes, and that’s when I discovered something: she was wet. No, I don’t mean the moistness that women get when they’re aroused; I mean literally dripping down her legs with excitement.

I made love to her with my fingers and my mouth for a while, maybe 20 or 30 minutes, and then she asked me to put on the harness. I entered her, slowly at first, resting my weight on her and remembering how to angle myself for her pleasure. By this time I was rock-hard inside my cage, my balls were tight against the ring, everything straining to be free. I found my rhythm, and brought her to a tremendous climax literally within a minute. I slowed to give her time to breathe, and she indicated that I should keep going. As I continued my slow, deep thrusts, she began talking to me – something she rarely does during lovemaking – asking me how it felt to be locked up again, telling me that she missed me inside the device, and telling me how hot it made her to feel the dildo deep inside her with my hard cock inside the cage bumping into her ass. In no time at all she was coming again. And again. And again. It seemed that each time was more powerful than the last. Finally, I whispered in her ear that I didn’t want her to allow me to come that night, that I would stay locked up because it was obviously making her so hot, and she came so suddenly and so hard that she gave herself a headache. We relaxed for a few minutes and then went to sleep. Well, at least she did – I was awake for a while longer, trying to calm down.

We had things to do during the week, so we didn’t even get a chance to talk, let alone have a repeat of that first night. But finally the weekend came, and Friday night found us freshly showered and in bed, our bodies hot against each other. I reminded her that I hadn’t come in over two weeks, and in response, she placed my hand on her mound so I could again feel how wet she had become just thinking about my frustration that week. No oral tonight, she asked me to put the harness on right away, and we spent the next hour in some more serious lovemaking. Again, I noted how turned on she seemed to be, and she kept repeating that she was getting off more and more on the idea of having me locked up. And that’s when it started to come out; she whispered that she wanted to keep me locked up even longer than the last time, to not even let me out for a moment. Each time she mentioned it brought her to another climax, and by the end of the evening she was as worn out as I’d ever seen her. She went right to sleep from sheer exhaustion, while I lay awake for a while, not just from my own frustrated arousal, but also from this new development on her part. Was she really serious?

A few days later I began to get an idea of just how serious she was. We went to bed early one night, and began kissing and fondling each other, and she said that because she was tired, she only wanted me to take her with the dildo for five or ten minutes. So during our lovemaking, I asked her how serious she was about not letting me out and about going for longer than last time. Nine months? Ten? Perhaps a year? She started to respond that the idea of my agreeing to go for a year was so hot… and she climaxed right in the middle of her sentence! Oh yes, she was serious; she’d love to see me frustrated, to know that I’d be aroused and excited all the time just for her. Our “five or ten minutes” soon turned into 45, and again she fell asleep out of exhaustion. Needless to say, I was awake – again – for quite some time.

Fortunately, we managed to make time for each other a couple of days later, and I tried to keep our lovemaking slow and paced. I asked her how serious she was, and each time she kept responding that she wanted me to stay locked up for a long time. Then she asked the tough question: Did I want to know how long? I thought about it, and told her no, I didn’t want to know – I was willing to leave it completely at her discretion. Oh, how that sent her into a series of short, fast orgasms; and when she was done, she asked me to tell her again, to beg her to keep me locked up. Each time I told her that I didn’t want to come sent waves of pleasure through her like I’d never seen. She even suggested that we make a replica of my own cock, so that she’d never have a reason to allow me to be out, and I told her that we could check blowfish.com for something, since they had several that were very natural looking. She wondered how I’d feel about being “replaced”, and of course, I told her that as long as I was keeping her satisfied, it was good enough for me. Ah yes, that was the right answer, and she soon finished, exhausted and happy.

Needless to say, by the end of the week we had checked the Blowfish site and had decided on the Bent Realistic (medium) because it seemed to be the closest thing to my own natural shape and size. I spent the money for the expedited shipping, and soon found just how closely it resembled me – close enough to make her very excited and me very nervous. We couldn’t wait to try it out, though, and soon I was half proud and half jealous of this new addition. The large head stimulated her better than the dildo we had been using, and best – or maybe worst – of all, she kept saying how much it felt just like my own cock. I found that I could position it just a little lower on my hips, and before long my wife was whispering in my ear thoughts and fantasies of keeping me locked in the device for longer and longer periods, of not ever allowing me to come, of forever feeling my cage pressed against her ass while I filled her with my new silicone “friend”. And each time she whispered a new fantasy brought her another wave of pleasure, another climax, and another satisfied sigh.

We finished with her asking me to lay on my back so she could ride me. This is my favorite position because I enjoy watching her. As she pressed herself onto me, I felt the stirrings of a “release”, what I call it when my body is about to release its semen without an orgasm. I told her what was happening, and she paused and asked me to stop. It was very difficult because I’d gotten so completely turned on from pleasuring her, but I managed to hold on. When I was back in control, she told me that she didn’t even want me to release unless she gave me permission, perhaps once a month or so. She continued to move her hips on me, slowly, just enough to keep herself aroused, but not quite enough to come. She told me that she found herself even more excited this time around than the previous session, and while she couldn’t explain what the attraction was to her, it became obvious that she had developed a serious kink, perhaps even a fetish for this. As she worked herself into the last climax of the night, she confessed that the hottest thing in the world at the moment was knowing that I was caged, frustrated, and aroused just for her. She said that she was serious about not allowing me to come, and in fact, about not even allowing me out of the cage for at least six months and probably for a year, to a year and a half – right up until the summer. Could I handle it?

I don’t know.

Could I?

Could you?

Do yourself a favour.

If you think you are a mistress and want to extract money out of me, you're on a losing battle.

If you call yourself goddess then you are deluded as there is no such deity except in your own mind. Go seek professional help. So to sum it up - fuck off!

I am locked right now. In a tiny little steelcage. I hope it let schrink my dick to a little knob, worthless and unable to satisfy any women.

Totally this,!

Totally this,!