Beetle Mugs Are Back!

too cool to jerk off to pictures of women with impossible hip to waist ratios yet not cool enough to jerk off to the concept of being killed, the rōnin pervert wanders this land in search of a slightly-higher-concept yet not totally abstract form of fetish posting

Solitude is Bliss by Nacho Rodriguez

a phrase that kinda bothers me when talking about women's historical roles in europe is "cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children." you hear it so often, those exact words in the same order even. and once you learn a little more you realize that the massive gaping hole in that list is fiberwork. im not an expert and have no hard numbers, but i wouldnt be surprised if fiberwork took up nearly as much time as the other three tasks combined, so it's not a trivial omission.

it's not a hot take to say that the mass amnesia about fiberwork is linked to the belittlement of women's work in geneal, but i do think there's a special kind of illusion that is cast by "cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children." you hear that and think "well i cook and clean and take care of children (or i know someone who does) and i have a sense of how much work that is" and you know of course that cooking and cleaning were more laborious before modern technology, but still, you have a ballpark estimate you think, when in fact you are drastically underestimating the work load.

i also think that this just micharacterizes the role of women's work in livelihoods? cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children are all sisyphean tasks that have to be repeated the next day. these are important, but not the whole picture. when we include all kinds of fiberwork—and other things, such as making candles or soap—women's work looks much more like manufacturing, a sphere we now associate more with men's work. i feel like women's connection to making and craftsmanship is often elided.

Patricia A. Bender, Geometry 300, (oxidized gelatin silver cliche-verre print with colored pencil), 2020, Unique [Laurence Miller Gallery, New York, NY. © Patricia A. Bender]

Quilted book thing- been calling it the lake book

"wow ur so good at math" ah ha but you see. you dont ever get good at math. you stay bad, but now youre bad at harder math

Let's go on a road trip with mama

my workout

500 reps yanking your chain

500 reps pulling your leg

500 reps taking the piss

1000 reps winding you up

getting on your nerves until failure

villagers of stardew valley pt 6

"I'm going to teach my sons to respect women."

A lot of women say this in response to all the sexism they see and experience. But it only works if you teach him to question all sources of power. If you're a single issue feminist and you want your son to question his privilege as a male but uphold your privilege as an adult, you'll fail miserably and it will be your own fault.

If you spend his entire childhood demanding that he obey all adults no matter how abusive and you call that "respect", then when he's a teenager and you teach him to "respect" women, he'll think women are just one more group of people who he has to submit to, and he'll easily fall for propaganda that feminism is a female supremacist movement. If you call him "disrespectful" when he says or does something sexist and you've also called him "disrespectful" for backtalk, eye rolling, muttering, or breathing loudly, he'll think you're just being an unreasonable authority figure once again. If you spank him and try to teach him that domestic violence is wrong, he'll see you as a blatantly obvious hypocrite.

Single issue activism is useless, and your child will see right through it. You can't just add "women" to the list of people your child must respect on command. If you want to prevent your child from becoming a bigot, you have to teach him to recognize bigotry in all forms, including when it's coming from you. You have to teach him to recognize that the way children are treated is bigotry. You also have to teach him to recognize ableism, racism, classism, and other ways that you may be privileged.