Transfem - Blog Posts

t4t relationship where we had crushes on each other as kids, grew up, switched genders, and finally got together

Scratching her back cuz i love the marks and she's just chilling

Tgirls are so hot it's unfair

I wanna treat her like a

Princess

you gotta take that tgirl out for lunch and insist that you pay for the meal. she deserves it.

You guys should try falling in love with a trans woman. It's fucking ethereal

This is true for trans guys and trans girls too

Happy Trans Day of Visibility to you all! I know being out and proud is really hard in a LOT of places right now but know that I see you

Literally, I'm watching you right now 👁👁/j

Anyways have a repost of my boy Kevin since I'm not home to take pics of him right now and I'll probably forget later

yes hello? god? i'd like to make a trade in. this body? it's got some flaws, and isn't all i thought it'd be. i'd like a reimbursement, or a discount on a new vessel. thank you for your cooperation, i will be shopping here again

*in a donald trump impersonation*

and you see i am flat as a board, yes flat as a board i say, there are no boobies here, simply none, which is a shame, such a shame that there are no boobies, none to be found, i look here and i see none at all

Right, considering the current state of corporate politics on this site, and that it seems that only those affected seem to be actively speaking on the matter, it is up to I, the only fucking cishet on tumblr, to drag this out to a wider audience.

REBLOG IF YOUR ACCOUNT IS A TRANSFEM SAFE SPACE.

We need to show these higher ups how much we truly value them.

Support everyone, even if you don’t understand them!

All trans people are valid and deserve to be seen.

Right, considering the current state of corporate politics on this site, and that it seems that only those affected seem to be actively speaking on the matter, it is up to I, the only fucking cishet on tumblr, to drag this out to a wider audience.

REBLOG IF YOUR ACCOUNT IS A TRANSFEM SAFE SPACE.

We need to show these higher ups how much we truly value them.

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Trans women are women.

This post doesn’t fix anything. It doesn’t roll back harmful laws, it doesn’t offer you legal protection. It’s understandable if you currently feel more bitter than encouraged when you see statements like that on social media. What can a silly little slogan do against this wave of hate and danger we are currently experiencing?

And yet, I think it’s more important than ever to post those silly little slogans. Here’s some reasons why: 

Silence can look like agreement. Transphobes and fascists love to paint the picture that the „silent majority“ agrees with them, that they’re just saying out loud what everyone else is thinking. The „silly little slogans“ provide an accessible way to disprove that. They don’t fix everything but they offer an easy way to break that silence and show that transphobia actually isn’t as common or fashionable as fascists would like people to believe. 

Complying in advance is never a good idea. If you give up on posting stuff like this because it feels like the transphobes are winning anyway, well, then you’re giving them exactly what they want. You’re basically agreeing that they already won. Quiet surrender is awfully convenient to fascists. Don’t give them that power. 

Social media posts are also seen by trans people. Even if you feel like you’re not gonna change anyone’s mind: you can at least let trans people know you care. We need little rays of hope now more than ever, and social media posts definitely can be a way to make each other feel a little less alone. In fact, I think repeating a slogan can actually be ideal for that because they’re so easily recognizable. There’s comfort in that clarity. It takes off some of the mental load of trying to figure out if you’re a safe person or not. And that’s valuable in exhausting times like these. 

So no, this post doesn’t fix anything. But it doesn’t have to. It just has to be one small, firm act of resistance. A reminder that not everyone has given up. A reminder that trans people are real, loved and deserving of protection.

Trans women are women. Let’s say it again and again. Lets say it out loud. Lets say it until the hate feels small in comparison.

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

Potentially cute but currently cursed and exhausted

explain your gender in 10 words or less without using boring words like “male”, “female”, “nonbinary”, “masculine”, “feminine” or “androgynous”.

go!

the world is like

you have my full support, trans men and women

trump is crazy!!! WHO ARE THE ASSHOLES WHO VOTED FOR HIM!?

Trans women are women

Trans man are man

Love is love

Kys

DONT LIKE, REBLOG

so people who do this may see it.

The growing problem of "they" for trans people

Something I've noticed growing more common in my life recently has been people using exclusively "they" when referring to binary trans people who don't use "they"

Why is this a problem?

Using "they" when referring to someone when you don't know is seen as "better" in a lot of spaces now, which I can agree with as you don't know what their actual pronouns are. The problem I've noticed is that when meeting a trans person, a lot of people seem to default to "they" even after being told what pronouns they actually prefer. This can be for a lot of reasons, but the most common ones I hear are "I didn't want to assume" and "its not misgendering, they is neutral!"

Example situation

Person A meets person B, a trans woman. A doesn't know B's pronouns and so refers to B as "they." B corrects A, saying she prefers "she," but A continues to say "they" because its gender neutral. However, A does not do the same to cis women.

Do you see the problem now?

The use of exclusively "they" on trans people but not cis people, no matter your excuse, shows that you don't really see them as what they identify as and is quite transphobic since you're literally ignoring their identity and not seeing them as how they want to be seen.

"Okay, what should I do?"

Simple, just ask them their pronouns and then ACTUALLY USE THEM!! If he says he, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If she says she, DONT USE EXCLUSIVELY THEY! If they say they, well. yeah, use they, obviously. If xe say neopronouns and you don't know how to use those, just ask! If any part of someone's identity confuses you, just fucking ask them instead of assuming, for the love of god, and once they tell you, don't ignore what they said.

That's all. Just please stop calling people who don't use "they" by that.

Edit:

I got this comment and thought I should clarify and add on some MORE things you should avoid doing now that this post has aged a bit, and I've had more time to think!

Please do not attack this person, i dont think they meant it in any bad way

Clarification on the term 'misgendering'

While yes, 'gender' does not directly tell you someones pronouns or what terms they're comfortable with, but misgendering doesn't only mean calling a man a woman or a woman a man. Misgendering is usually thought to only mean using a trans person's assigned sexs' pronouns or deadnaming, but it's actually more than just that, it includes what terms you use for them, how you group them, and what societal expectations you put onto them based on their assigned sex, not just their gender.

Other things you should avoid

* Obviously, these won't apply to every situation. These are just general rules to follow UNTIL YOU KNOW THE PERSON. Once they tell you what they're comfortable with, then do what they ask, not what some random tumblr post says

Calling all gender non-conforming people 'it'

Deadnaming, obviously

Using gendered pronouns for a non-conforming person

Arguing with someone over the validity of their identity

Automatically introducing someone as trans

Assuming someone is out to other family or friends

Using incorrectly gendered terms, including when referring to a group

Exclusively using gender neutral terms/compliments

Edit 2:

TLDR: Don't say, "But some people use it/its!" and read the paragraph directly above the numbered list.

Stop telling me that some people use it/its, I already know this. I used it/its at one point, and many of my friends do. As i said in the paragraph litrrally directly before, these won't apply to every situation!! Please stop trying to correct me when I already said that it's not going to be universal and to follow the person's wishes once you know them. Its making me feel like a bad person despite the fact i started it with that clarification. It's literally in the paragraph directly above your complaint. I was referring to people who use it/its exclusively when referring to gender non-conforming people who don't use it/its, instead of the persons actual pronouns. Just read.

Not a squid game fan but as a trans person, I feel the urge to repost it.

#She was the first woman that used her correct pronouns. And called her beautiful. She felt accepted for once.

trans girls will be like "i'm not really that cute tbh" and send pics and she looks like an angel

modern girls 🏳️‍⚧️

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Hello to all Long-Haired people of Tumblr! (But especially anyone who was raised as a guy in a household where guys weren’t allowed to have long hair). I have a friend who wants to grow his hair out, but his parents won’t let him. He already has quite short hair, and his parents want him to cut it even shorter, ideally to a buzzcut. My friend has been wanting to grow out his hair since around the time I met him, which was over a year ago, but his parents insist that he keeps it short. Does anyone have any advice as to how to get his parents to let him grow out his hair?

the trans flag is literally so girlypop and cute

why dio people hate it?

You can pull TransFem Maki from my cold. dead. hands. 👁️👁️

I dare you

Anyways TransFem Maki because for some illegitimate reason it actually makes sense to me.

TransFem Maki who:

After being trained like a man (eugh 🤢men 🤮) for the former part of her life, had her egg cracked after learning about female sorcerers.

*HC that it's compulsory for kids in the Zen'in Clan to learn about all types female sorcerer but they yada yada the hell out of female sorcerers because bigotry and fragile masculinity

**HAHAAA THE BIGGEST F-U TO THE ZEN'IN CLAN BEING GROWN UP TRANSFEM MAKI IS MAKING ME WEEEEEAK

Was probably bullied and ridiculed by her make family members (especially that bitch Naoya 😒) until she got into Jujutsu High and was able to flourish under the guidance of (cough transmasc cough) Satoru Gojo.

Maintains her rough personality (Because we all know that a quiet complacent woman is NOT!!! what Maki is) because that's who she is, and that helped her get a lot of respect among her peers.

Felt more accepted and more like herself when she was around more queer kids (and certain faculty memebers)

Still loves fighting and working out like she did in her old clan but now she can let herself flourish and plow down the stereotypes that were pushed up on her and ingrained her in from a young age

Always looks out for her friends (despite being as scary as she is) and is ready to crash out throw down when needed (see JJK0 and Tokyo v Kyoto games)

aroace transmasc Sukuna

transfem Maki

transmasc Geto

transfem Maki

aroace transmasc Sukuna

somebody match my freak I might be cooking

i love you transgenders i love you queers i love you creatures i love you xenogenders and those with neopronouns i love you gender nonconforming folk i love you!!!!!!!!!

yes it is :D

Right, considering the current state of corporate politics on this site, and that it seems that only those affected seem to be actively speaking on the matter, it is up to I, the only fucking cishet on tumblr, to drag this out to a wider audience.

REBLOG IF YOUR ACCOUNT IS A TRANSFEM SAFE SPACE.

We need to show these higher ups how much we truly value them.