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BDSM Links And Resources

I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.

If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.

Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.

Websites:

Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.

Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.

DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.

Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.

Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.

Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.

Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.

The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)

Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)

Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)

How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)

Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)

Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)

Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)

BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)

What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)

An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)

Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)

Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)

Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)

Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

Milestone!

I haven't been on Tumblr too long, but I had to share some incredible news. My wife has just returned home from a month long recovery in Thailand, where she had her SRS. My wife now has a PUSSY!

  I’ve had this meme on my Tumblr page for years. Literally, years.  Recently, I noticed that they removed it for “Violating Tumblr’s Community Guidelines.”   Really?! Where? How? I know that ceiling is terrifying, but, seriously…

神奈川沖浪裏

Model: Selkeys

Rigger: Akai Ryuu

Photographer: Akai Ryuu

shot in Warsaw, 2016

Shibari and Rope Bondage Resources

Looking for tutorials? Blogs to follow? Want to figure out that one tie you saw at the dungeon last week? This post has got you covered – written to be accessible for complete newbies, with resources even old hats at rope bondage can appreciate be they bottom or top.

(1) Tutorial Websites and Videos  

Beautiful Bondage 

Cam Damage

Crash Restraint Website

Crash Restraint Youtube

deGiotto Rope

EpicRope

Esinem Website

Esinem Shibari Classes   

Evie Vane’s Videos 

Kinbaku Luxuria

Kinbaku Today 

Kink Academy  

Kissmedeadly Doll References

Miss Eris 

ReKink Rope Bondage Tutorials

Rope Baby  

Rope Connections

RopeTopia Resources

RVA Rope

Secondfloor Lotus Studio

Shibari.Ph Resources 

The Dutchy

The Twisted Monk

Two Knotty Boys Video Downloads

(2) Safety and Technique Information* 

* = most of the website and video list also covers safety information

Kinky Clover Rope Bottom Guide   

How to Be an Awesome Rope Bottom

A Guide For Rope Bottoms and Bondage Models 

Bondage Safety for Bottoms

Resources for Rope Bottoms 

Safety with Rope

BDSMWiki: Beginner Rope Bondage 

Blackout: What to Do When Someone Faints

Crash Restraint Rope Advice  

Fixing Problems Before They Happen

Free: Bondage Safety 

Rope Incident Reports

On Circulation 

On Nerve Damage 

Pain in Kinbaku

Nerves in Rope Bondage

Nerve Injury Reference Card 

Nerve Injury Treatment and Management

Remedial Ropes

Self-Suspension

Shibari.Ph: Read This Before Trying Bondage  

What is Shibari?

Who Can be Suspended?

(3) Books 

The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up by Evie Vane

Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane

Rope Bondage The Smart Way: A Step By Step Guide To Using Rope Bondage In BDSM by Pete Riggs

Shibari You Can Use by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay

More Shibari You Can Use  by Lee Harrington and RiggerJay

Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys

Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes by Two Knotty Boys

The Seductive Art of Japanese Rope Bondage by Midori

The Beauty of Kinbaku by Master “K”

Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage  by Shin Nawakari

Rogue Hojojutsu by Douglas Kent

Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land by Douglas Kent

Complete Shibari Volume 2: Sky by Douglas Kent

Bondage For Sex by Chanta Rose

Tie Me Up! The Complete Guide to Bondage by Stephan Niederwieser 

(4) Tumblr Blogs  

@schwein-child , @goodmorningm0therfucker , @kissmedeadlydoll 

@camdamage  @ropebaby , @hornyropebunny @tohjiro 

@japanesebdsmofficial  @squirmforgood @evilthell, @amaury-grisel-shibari

@rumen-basheff , @kanan0690, @theropediary @jewelryandfire 

@cubicletocollar, @em-ties, @strictly-dirtyvonp, @secondfloor-fet

@gaping-lotus, @jesseflanagan, @nawayoi  @uncoiled-rope , @boshai, 

@tieduptee, @furi0usge0rge, @daddysprettypinkprincess, @shibarikuma, 

@daddyrigsme, @shaktibliss @nikolasromanov, @tied-yuno,  

@kinkyropecuriosity @danielriquelme-shibari  @tentesion, @wykd-dave, 

@ella-winters, @squirmforgood, @bondage-gifs, @master-rene-will, 

@orpheusblack, @alekzander-kinbaku, @misunguided  @untitledminor,

@tied-yuno, @kbnawa, @ropedisco, @cordineclubarchives, 

@tiedandtwisted420, @fred-rx, @skinny-redhead, @nikolasromanov, 

@enbydea, @neckropenightmare, @hangknot, @se7enbondage 

Tumblr blog list from @thebeautyofrope‘s awesome post because I simply could not do a better or more complete job myself

Please note that none of these links, references or websites are meant to serve as a complete guide to rope bondage by themselves. Rope classes and real life instruction are invaluable, and online materials do not make a complete substitute for learning best possible practices. Stay safe and have fun!