Latest Posts by cainterburytales - Page 3
Trying to stop motherfuckers from fronting when they shouldn't is like herding cats I swear to god I'm so fucking done
who let this bird on the train
“Headmates need to be miserable all the time 24/7!!!” actually headmates need delicious homemade Mac-n-cheese
bastard sounds great in an irish accent. if an irish person calls you a 'daft bastard' it just feels right
the welsh have the monopoly on things ending in hell. fuckin hell and bloody hell hit different in a welsh accent. its like music to my ears
the scots have piss and shite for sure. "its pishin it doon out there" "this is a load of shite" absolute poetry
if i may speak for the english i think we do penis related words very well. dickhead, knobhead, twat, etc.
and for all the shit we give them, you gotta admit that no one can deliver a 'goddamn' quite like an american. theres a certain weight to it that you just cant achieve in other accents. when an american says goddamn you know shit just got real
getting attached to a piece of media where a character is split into two (or more) or has multiple people in their head is probably a plural canon event
we don't understand the point or basis of the majority of syscourse but it feels like we can never admit that to any other systems because everyone seems so caught up in it
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So within two days of each other, Fox News writes an article comparing aromanticism and asexuality to pedophilia, and then Matt Walsh releases a video saying asexuality is a mental illness and asexuals are tricking teenagers into having depression.
Not sure what’s going on right now over in Conservative World, but it’s a hell of wild U-turn for them to suddenly switch from “Oh no! The left is sexualizing our children!” to “Oh no! The left is asexualizing our children!”
it was not on wheat...
"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there
Hi!! We’ve recently discovered we’re a system, and your posts have been immensely helpful.
Currently, we’re trying to improve intra-system communication and get to know each other better. Do you have any ideas for activities that might help with that/activities we could do together? Thank you! :)
Hi! I think a little tip is to treat this as making new friends/getting to know your friends, because often that's just what it is! Obviously there are differences, but still. And communication is different for everyplural, sometimes systems need to really focus and meditate to talk, other times they just need to be doing something to call one another to front or have something to focus on. It's important to figure out what works for y'all :]
So what we personally really enjoy doing is things like board games, card games don't really work for us but if we're co-con/front board games are really fun, and often require enough communication to strengthen it but not too much that they're unplayable without it. Plus they usually work for our younger headmates who sometimes feel left out from our older ones
So some fun activities could be, that I could think of hehe:
Just asking questions : including truth or dare and such, 20 questions, you can even look up ( or buy if something physical would help ) questions for groups, etc. A great way to talk and get to know one another
board/cardgames : as I said, these can be really fun and are 'compatible' with a lot of systems, especially board games were good for us early on
making picrews of yourselves : if you're unaware, picrew.me is a site people can make character creators on that others can then use. This can help not only with communication but we find it helps differentiating ourselves, it's also fun to just make characters up together!
^ a game we play is one person makes a character, and then we all get to make up a backstory and such for it. Picrew isn't even necessarily needed for this
arts and crafts/creating in general can be really fun plus you get something out of it. Anything and everything art wise can be a really fun group project, even just all of you doodling something personal on a sketchbook can be fun and is a great way to get to know one another
exquisite corpse/consequences : not a game we can always play, but when we have played it's been really fun so it gets an honorary mention ( look it up if needed, I didn't even know the name and we'd always called it various things like "paper fold game" or "the nonsense character" lmao )
story/option games : now these for us always result in arguing(/affectionate) on what choice to pick, but games like these are also really enjoyable for us and require a lot of communication to do
^ puzzle (games) also
what do you individually like doing? Why not try out each others interests or hobbies! if you don't have any or aren't sure, find some together and see what you enjoy!
and that's just a few activities/games to both get to know each other and in consequence have communication ingrained in them, and personally the best way we've improved our communication is just talking and talking!
Other systems are highly encouraged to add onto this! this is just what we could think of, and have personally tried
Good luck getting to know each other!! ^_^
Also no idea what this is but it was included in the original placeholder draft and.. I've grown fond of it..
I know you may think you deserve the pain that you’re in, that you don’t deserve to recover or be happy.
But you’re wrong.
You don’t deserve this pain. You do deserve to recover and be happy. I promise.
My system is traumagenic. I'm pretty fucking sure. But I hesitate to say that I have a dissociative disorder. Even though I have been seeing a trauma specialist for almost five years now, my system is open with him about our experiences as far as we are comfortable, he acknowledges us individually, he has helped us work together, and he's told us that if we ever do want to see someone who specializes in dissociative disorders (which he is not, he "just" specializes in PTSD) that he would be happy to refer us.
Our decision with regards to my system is that "it is what it is." I don't have a formal diagnosis and I don't want one. The PTSD diagnosis has been enough to get treated. There's a lot of medicolegal bullshit that can happen from having something so severe in your medical record. Unless my system gets to a point where we feel that even more specialized care is something we need, we don't see any medical reason to pursue that. Frankly this is the first therapist that my system has had overall good rapport with and I don't want to switch. Neither does my host.
I also don't see the existence of my system as something that is disordered by necessity. Our collective trauma is the injury that we need to heal from, not our multiplicity. When I think about what I want for my system, I don't see a future where we disappear or become someone else. I see a future where we are all safe and happy.
WEREWOLVES versus FASCISM
idk i dont mean this with as much derision as might bleed out but it is exceedingly clear that some of you were never considered retard-faggots as a child and therefore never subject to the subsequent torments Pure Children would subject Retard-Faggot Children to.
[* the use of these slurs is not reclamatory but is also not pejorative. the use of these slurs is academic, technical, and descriptive.]
in one of your answers you mention “The Four Co’s of Functional Multiplicity”
would you be willing/able to expand on that a little bit? /nf gen
I intend on making a whole post on this tbh!! So ill give you the basics- If you want, you can send in another anon with “hey this is the anon that asked for expansion on the four co’s” and Ill answer it directly with the link for the post when it goes up! Or just ask to be mentioned when it goes up- whatever works for you, works for me!
The Four Co’s of Functional Multiplicity are basically the four skills that you need to use in order to thrive as a system. They are as follows ;
Co-Consciousness
Co-Habitation
Co-Purpose
Co-Support
I’ll go through these in simple terms bc of said long post but basically
Co-Consciousness : this doesn’t necessarily mean everyone fronts at the same time, but refers to the passing of everyday memories that are important to function. Due to our trauma/types of trauma, it can be dangerous to share trauma related memories, so those are usually kept close to each alter and are worked on, in therapy, with said alter. Things we personally share are things like appointments, important dates, plans that are made, important events in our life (such as high school graduation), routine changes (such as getting a job), and self care memories (showering, eating, if we took our meds etc).
Co-Habitation : Quite literally- getting along and conflict resolution. For us that looks like openly communicating between alters, trying not to fight/torture/abuse each other, sharing time when asked or explicitly stated (such as X alter wanted to front to do XYZ activity, so they get to front for that), using polls to make big decisions, roundtable meetings on a weekly basis (which we struggle with, despite knowing how much it helps us), and learning healthy debating techniques (bc there is such a thing as healthy debate). This is one we struggle A LOT with, so I dont have the best outline for it.
Co-Purpose : Coming together to live a life worth living. This means things like a collective identity, working together to try and find a job we all like, deciding how we date, deciding where to live- stuff like that. We also struggle a lot with this one because, well,,,, we all have our own goals, and not all of us are willing to put that aside. So co-purpose also includes properly grieving that you simply dont have multiple bodies so you can’t just have “multiple purposes” if that makes sense. Like you can, hobbies and sharing time exists, but we can’t exactly split up and go to college or work in the fields we individually want. Does that make sense? Idk ill go more in depth in the actual post.
Co-Support : being there for each other EVEN IF you dont all get along. Helping others with coping skills, extending kindness to even the most ““evil”” alters. This one is so self explanatory that I wont even go into it more than this for the sake of the future post.
BUT YEAH!! Those r the four co’s of functional multiplicity!! I hope that answers it good enough until the post, godspeed.
is your system a council or a twitch chat
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The Norwegian research vessel Lance is stuck in the Arctic ice, 2015
i can be trusted on a nature walk i promise. i promise i will stay on the trail and will not run off into the forest never to be seen again i promise
i hope i am not just a mutual to you but also the strange creature in your bushes that makes you say “jesus fucking christ what was that”
Traumagenic and endogenic headmates aren't enemies by the way. Sometimes they play Minecraft together. Sometimes they hold hands. Sometimes they kiss. Sometimes they cover work shifts or school for each other. Sometimes even within the same system. This goes for disordered and nondisordered systems too btw.
The thing is. Forcibly drugging someone IS violence. Forcibly restraining someone IS violence. Locking someone up against their will IS violence. Denying people basic bodily autonomy is inherently violent. Psychiatry is a carceral institution that commonly uses violence in the name of "treatment". But we as a society have accepted this violence as "necessary treatment", so instead of talking about the inherent trauma of forced treatment, we just pathologize mentally ill people for reacting to these violent acts with anything but calm acceptance. And while we basically never question whether it's acceptable to forcibly lock up and drug a mentally ill person, their very human attempts to defend their body against this violence will then be seen as "proof" that they deserve it and need it instead of the self defense it is
Even if you were a difficult child, you didn't deserve to be hurt.
yoou guys wont be laughing when i suddenly collapse unconscious and have to be taken to the hospital. then youll all see <- normal thought process to have while doing anything i dont want to