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my biggest advice for (especially but not exclusively new(ly discovered)) systems is... to take everyones advice with a grain of salt. whats good for one system is catestrophically bad for another. a lot of posts frame their advice as perfect and infallible (which i doubt is intentional on the posters part), but it really isnt. just do what works best for your system.
Caretaker culture is aggressive caretakers sitting there, arms crossed and glaring at whoever's refusing help in front like 'you really gonna tell me you dont need assistance rn. really.'
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wish I can wipe my memory after season finale
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positivity for angry sysmates.
shoutout to persecutors. shoutout to protectors. shoutout to anger holders. shoutout to sysmates who aren't willing to mask their anger. shoutout to sysmates who lash out to protect their system. shoutout to fictives of villains who are unapologetic about their source
I don't get why there are no resources for healthy expressions of anger. Are we as a society fundamentally opposed to people feeling anger? Are we afraid that if people get angry they're going to cause destruction so as an alternative we want anger to just not exist? Anger will go somewhere regardless of whether we want it to exist or not, and if a person who has good reasons to be angry, is not allowed to feel angry, they'll get eaten by self hatred and depression because that's what internalizing anger does.
It's also interesting that when abusers and people in power are angry, they can pretty much do whatever they like. Say no to them, they're having crazy revenges, they're tearing apart your stuff, they're starting wars, they're telling you how they're going to kill you in detail, no self restraint, no consequences, nothing. Anger is theirs to do as they please with and in response the society is just, too scared to do anything, so they assume that this specific anger is 'justified' and 'cannot be helped'. However when victims of something are angry, then they're labelled as 'unreasonable' and 'dangerous' and 'unable to move on from things'. Their anger is a problem that needs to be squashed, erased, there's apparently no justifications for these people to be angry, nothing that is reasonable or okay for them to do about it, they just get demonized and shamed for having a completely rational response to injustice.
Is that it then? Those who are able to act out on their anger, get justifications and obedience, but those who are helpless but angry for very good reasons, are just to be suffocated? Anger is allowed only for some parts of human society and it's the most violent, destructive and dangerous part of it too? Where is this getting us? Is the amount of injustice ever going to decrease if we defend injustice, and fight for it to keep going on?
If I look up ways to express anger, I get stuff like 'anger management steps', and 'letting go and moving on from anger', like excuse me. I didn't even get to express 1% of my anger and I need anger management? I have never had problems with controlling my anger, the struggle is to get it out at all! To integrate it into my personality, to hold people accountable without having to think about it, to show resistance when I'm being stepped on! What anger management? Why am I pushed to move away from anger, I haven't even arrived to anger!
Why is it assumed that every person who struggles with expressing anger is a maniac breaking things, enacting revenges, trying to injure or murder people, lashing out and doing harm to everyone around themselves. I can guess why. Because all of the resources are created for people who are letting their anger run wild without a cap and who use anger to get their way. The world is adjusted for people who are allowed to be angry, who were never pushed to the point where getting angry meant loss of survival, where expressions of anger would lead to torture. I am apparently not even considered to exist. I'm either a maniac or not a target audience for anger resources.
If someone's been traumatized out of being able to feel angry, people don't think it's worth having this person angry. It's very obvious this person has giant reasons for anger, so if we let them feel it, they could become 'dangerous', or 'just like their abuser'. You know, being angry at the abuser does not make anyone like the abuser, it makes them Normal. Rational. Having Self Worth. Human. Logical. Reasonable. Engaging in everyone's best fucking interest because you know that abuser is going wreck havoc forever and if nobody is even angry at them, it's giving them an even easier time. Anger is scary when it's in hands of abusers, in the hands of victims it is liberating, just, it puts things into perspective and back where they belong.
Now give me the fucking resources to get angry. I'm sick and tired of hating myself.
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Here’s some positivity for system protectors!
For many systems, having roles can provide individual members with purpose and drive. Many headmates come with roles, but some adopt them later in life. Protectors do so much for the systems they protect, and their efforts don’t go unnoticed! This post is for all the system protectors out there!
🛡 Shoutout to protectors who have always existed in their systems, protecting them since their formation!
⚔️ Shoutout to protectors who were consciously created in order to help protect the system!
🛡 Shoutout to protectors with chronic pain or illness, who find they’re not always able to protect their system when they need to!
⚔️ Shoutout to protectors who are hosts, frequent fronters, or permanently frontstuck!
🛡 Shoutout to protectors who work behind the scenes, protect the system by managing symptoms, or never front at all!
⚔️ Shoutout to protectors who handle in-system conflict, and work as mediators and negotiators!
🛡 Shoutout to protectors who feel like they can’t do enough to protect their system!
⚔️ Shoutout to protectors who struggle with negative emotions like guilt, shame, anger, jealousy, or sadness!
🛡 Shoutout to protectors who didn’t start that way, stepped up to fill the role when it was needed!
⚔️ Shoutout to protectors who are therian, otherkin, copinglink, or nonhuman in any way!
🛡 Shoutout to protectors who help their system survive in ways that others might think are “weird” or “cringe!”
Every system is unique, and each protector has their own individual ways of helping their system flourish! There’s no need to compare yourself to protectors in other systems - you’re doing the best you can and that counts for something!
Thank you so much for all the hard work you put into protecting your system. Your efforts aren’t going unnoticed - we see you, we know how difficult protecting a system can be, and we’re rooting for you in all that you do! Thanks so much for reading, and take care!
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