Erkology - Station99

How to Develop the Functions

Here are some tips to strengthening each of the eight functions. I would suggest strengthening the weaker functions in your stack primarily, and put less focus in on your shadow functions. If you are in a loop, this can be used to develop your auxiliary function. You can also use it to generally develop your tertiary and especially inferior functions if these are weak. Having a developed inferior function can also help prevent you from falling into “the grip”, so it’s good to try to have a good control over all of your functions. 

Extroverted Feeling (Fe): Find a close friend and share how you’re feeling with them. Journal about your feelings and read them over to yourself or someone else. Talk to a therapist if these outlets aren’t enough for you. Reach out a hand to help others out: volunteer, give someone advice, listen to someone talk about their problems. Find groups of people or situations where you can put yourself in the shoes of others so you can develop your empathy skills. Find situations where you are around those you care about. Ask others their opinions on decisions that affect others, and take time before you take action to consider how it will affect the people around you. Ask for affirmation from those closest to you, and remind yourself to give it to others as well. Examine the facial expressions and manners of speaking of those around you and try mimicking them.

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Study an area of morality and ethics that interests you, and consider what your viewpoints on the situation are. Consider why humans as a whole or other people in your life do the things that they do, and how morality as a concept even exists. Consider social justice arguments and find one that you have a strong opinion on. Take time to step back and consider how you are feeling, what values you are exerting, what your likes and dislikes are in a certain situation. Consider yourself as an independent, unique individual with a set of morality outside of society. Journal about your feelings. Think about what is important to you in your life and what motivates you personally.

Extroverted Thinking (Te): Try to develop your ability to be assertive: ask for that raise, propose something ambitious, etc. Formulate your ideas into a concrete plan and share them with someone around you. Use data and facts to back up your assertions. Plan an event or other project and focus on the whole over the details. Remember that external organization and structure is necessary in a society, and try to incorporate your skills and plans into one around you. Develop your aura of confidence and consider how others view you in a professional light. Take charge of a project and lead with self-assurance.

Introverted Thinking (Ti): Find some word game, puzzle, riddle, etc. that challenges your intellect and causes you to think. Find something that interests you and research it until you fully understand its intricate details. Have an intellectual debate or discussion. Apply yourself to some hobby or area of study and try to develop your internal sense of discipline and focus. Look at projects and consider the weak points and areas of improvement. Take time to draw back and consider things in an objective light, understanding the situation instead of becoming emotionally influenced. Develop your sense of independence, and work on projects that allow you to use your personal skills and get a sense of personal achievement.  

Extroverted Intuition (Ne): Play games or engage in activities that encourage divergent thinking and creativity. Think about some event (general or specific) coming up in the future and imagine all the great things that could happen during it. Surround yourself with people and pieces of art/literature/movies that are creative and exciting. Look at the future as a place of exciting opportunities, not of possible anxieties. Make a bucket list of things you could do in your life that excite you: the crazier, the better. Think about the things that you would want to change in your life. Brainstorm all the possible ways you could do it. Go on a spontaneous adventure with your friends.

Introverted Intuition (Ni): Watch a stranger out in public and try to paint a picture of what type of person they are from the way that they look. Reflect on the underlying themes or symbolism of a book or movie. Look at the overt facts of a situation or how someone is acting and piece them together to try to understand what is actually going on underneath the surface: how they are actually feeling, etc. Take individual pieces of information and concisely bring them together to form one general idea. Project yourself or a situation into the future and try to understand what will most likely come to be. Reflect on why things are the way that they are, even seemingly straightforward things. Follow your gut belief in a situation.

Extroverted Sensing (Se): Find a hobby such as a sport, artistic endeavor, craft, etc. Work with your hands on a project and try to physically understand how something works. Take a walk somewhere in nature or go to a museum and focus on the specific details of the beauty around you. Listen to music and try to pay attention to the individual sounds. Remember to live in the moment and experience life as it is happening around you. Do something spontaneous and crazy with your friends. Take a step back and remember to take things for as they are, and not to overanalyze anything. Think about the things that you want to or need to do this moment and go do some of them.

Introverted Sensing (Si): Take out old photos and try to place yourself in the emotions and experience of when you were there. Go visit a place of old memories or watch a movie you loved as a child. Re-start up an old family tradition. Create some sort of routine in your life to give you a bit of reassurance and organization. Appreciate the simple things in life and seek the unassuming nature of contentment. Reflect on the lessons you have learned in a situation once it has passed. Realize that not all mistakes need to be made, and that sometimes it is better to stick with what is safe.

Introvert problem

I felt feverish in the middle of the day, still I went about doing what needs to be done. Work has been so busy lately and adding to it the pressures of applying for another job. Just came from a 16 hour duty and still I need to wake up early. I feel so tired and I think I'm going to be sick. Then it struck me. I didn't realize that I've been around too many people lately and just didn't have my alone time.

This is so true

How do you know if an INTJ likes you?

I wrote something about it in a post in my main blog some time ago, here’s the link if you want to look at it. However, as it is much of an embarrassment for me, I will try to write a better one. Seriously, you don’t need to look at the link.

INTJs are private by nature, so the way we show we like a person may not always be evident. Some ways to tell if an INTJ likes you would be:

A change in attitude. And by that I mean something that it won’t go unnoticed because the INTJ suddenly seems nicer, more willing to help and smiles much more. This is different from the way I’d help a person I don’t like, for example for the person I like I’d take so much more time to make sure they understand what they needed me to explain, ask if they need extra help, and try to understand their point of view so my explanations will adjust to their way of thinking. That also applies to emotional help: one of the few occasions in which I’d ask you if you are okay is when I truly care. That leads us to the next point.

Stalkerish mood. You might not see it, but deep inside the INTJ is observing, analyzing and memorizing everything they learn about you. This helps them find patterns in the way you think, so it is easier to predict how you will react, what will make you happy, and almost everything we consider valuable to get closer to you. This is usually noticeable if you ask their friends: the INTJ pays close attention when they mention you, and would like to know every detail when with other people they wouldn’t care. So for example, it shouldn’t be a surprise that the INTJ knows much more about you than what you have told them: either they have figured it out by observing, or based on what other people they have come to this conclusion.

Challenges you. This includes asking for your opinion, to support it with facts, and in general trying to see where you can reach. Before liking someone we decide if it’s worth the effort. It may sound arrogant, but the truth is that we don’t want to pursue something that won’t work. It has nothing to do with you, but rather with our sometimes impossible to meet standars. What I mean with that is that once this phase is over, they will ask for your opinion, observe your work or something like that and point out some flaws, but not because they don’t like you or anything, but because we would like the people we like to improve and grow, so we offer what we believe is constructive feedback. It sure looks like we don’t like you, but I swear we become even more cynical when we like someone.

Stands up for you. Due to what I said in the previous point, if they have high regard for you, they will defend you against anybody: somebody we like and trust will have our constant support.

Goes out of their way to talk to you. I don’t spend time with people I don’t like if I can avoid it (and that’s probably 99% of the time), so if your INTJ is making the effort of finding time to talk to you, ESPECIALLY if it takes away time for doing activities that are important to them, like homework, housework, or any other they might be focused in, they care. A lot.

Shows off their intelligence, wit and sarcasm. It depends on the person we like, but we try to show how intelligent, witty or thoughtful we can be. For example, if I like an ISTP I will try to sound more witty than if I like an ENTJ, in this case I will try to show off my intelligence more. So if you see that your INTJ starts mirroring your behaviour to try to adjust to what you might like, chances are that for once we have abandoned all reason and decided it is worth all the effort.

Hope these are useful, thanks for asking!-Laura

Irene Adler- The Final Problem

In the scene where Eurus told Sherlock to play the violin, Sherlock played Bach. However, Eurus wanted him to play "you". This was very interesting because what Sherlock played was Irene Adler's theme from ASiB. Now she deduces that he's had sex ( subtle hint with Irene) just because he played that song. Now in the ending montage (I don't know if this is what they really intended but I want it to be a clue,hahaha) Sherlock texted " You know where to find me- SH"- To whom might this text intended for. My guess is Irene because who does Sherlock text using the initial SH in the show? It's only Irene

Just a question

Seriously, just asking. What do you guys think when Eurus admitted to having had sex with a nurse Sherlock assumes said person to be a "he/him"?

INFJ gets a job

INFJ: I have to get a job in order to make money and survive in this world…..

*gets hired for a new job*

INFJ: I hate working

INFJ: I forgot to remember what they are teaching me

INFJ: I’ll just go with it

INFJ: Im trying to not have anxiety that I have to work. every. day.

INFJ: I want to be free

INFJ: You can’t tame my spirit

INFJ: Today I work this crap job, tomorrow my dreams will come true

Laughing because

Here we have

• Sherlock texting Irene back

•  Flying halfway across the world to take on armed terrorists to save her 

• “Oh, but I will have the cameraphone, though.”

•  “The Woman. THE Woman.”

• Just him imagining her in an extremely intimate and sentimental manner in the middle of a life-or-death situation, NBD. (And it’s made clear that this is not unusual.)

•  “The Woman Will Cry”

• Irene as the very first of Sherlock’s pressure points:

• The red rose she sent or left Sherlock in his hospital room (red roses are symbols of ‘one true love’). The fact that he took it with him when he snuck out.

• Sherlock having a conversation with John about Irene’s importance to him in his Mind Palace, including the fact that he kept a picture of her in his pocket watch:

• Every single person involved with the show to any significant degree giving numerous quotes supporting Adlock.

• And of course, The Lying Detective, where it becomes canon that Sherlock kept her moan text alert five years and several phones later, and that he does indeed reply to her.

People who ship That Other Ship in her tags:

• “WhY is this ADlock being forced down our throats out of NOwhere?!?!?”

Just my thoughts on GoT Battle of the Bastards

Spoilers* Spoilers* Spoilers

On Sansa- At this point in time, I think Sansa doesn’t trust anyone, not even Jon.. Well let’s say she does trust him but not that much. After all that’s happened to her, it’s just difficult to trust someone even if it’s her own brother. I also think she didn’t tell him about the Vale army because she isn’t exactly sure if they will come or not. In addition to that, Jon might change battle plans thereby alerting Ramsay’s camp then they might change plans also. She knows how manipulative Ramsay is.

True, not telling Jon about the possibility of the Vale army coming is a questionable move by Sansa. Some might say she is selfish for sacrificing Rickon, because well that is really selfish. But is it an intelligent move to try rescue him? She knew from the moment she saw shaggydog’s decapitated head that rescuing Rickon is going to be a fruitless effort. Why would Ramsay keep him alive after the battle?

Sansa may be showing that she can play the game but she is still learning. Her moves might not be best. I, myself, don’t think it’s a good idea not to tell Jon about the Vale army or not to pursue saving Rickon, but it is Sansa’s move based on her character.

I hope we see a fitting funeral for Rickon though, or that they show us Sansa crying for the death of her brother just to show us she did not this fully cold hearted person. I hope she would trust Jon more because they need each other now more than ever.

These are just my thoughts though..

MBTI and heartbreak~

(If this does not apply to you, I do apologize. These are purely from my own impressions and experiences.)

ISTJ: When ISTJs go through a heartbreak, they are like zombies. Blank faces with a lot of stormy emotions underneath that they have no idea what to do about. They will often feel loneliness and won’t hop on to another relationship easily.

ISFJ: During a bad time, ISFJs will become incredibly moody and unreasonable. Anything can set them off and trigger their tempers and outbursts as well as plenty of self-pity. They will get over it quickly and are quick to make up to people whom they’ve wronged, but the cycle quickly repeats itself. 

INFJ: It takes INFJs a long time to get over a heartbreak. There will be plenty of thinking as well as weeping. Eventually, they will fast learn that whatever is done is done and they cannot change the past. Soon enough, they have gotten over everything as if it never happened and will smile again. 

INTJ: After heartbreak, it is as if all the emotions they had kept so well-hidden had finally snapped. They cannot comprehend this despairing feeling as well as confused as to how these feelings can be so erratic and chaotic inside their calm disposition. After this passes, their days will be numb and zombie-like.

ISTP: They will hurt and hurt a lot and they have a special way of showing it: biting sarcasm and cynicism. It still hurts though. 

ISFP: They will cry and vent to friends and families. After that, they either go into emotional withdrawal or move on rather fast. 

INTP: Don’t worry, they’re fine…No. They are not. But after a long time of brooding, frustrations and contemplation, they will come to terms with the situation and move on with their lives. 

ESTP: Heartbreak is not such a bad thing for this social butterfly. They simply think of it as an experience to be learned but every so and then, they will have thoughts back on it and feel a strange sense of melancholy and nostalgia.

ESFP: What? Heartbreak? Impossible. -broken and tearful laughters-

ENFP: ENFPs will be rather overdramatic and vocal during heartbreak about their wounds and hurts. They will demonstrate to their peers about how broken they are with negativity and drinking may be involved. However, these are one of the few types that are able to get over their heartbreak the fastest because of the constantly active Fi and its fickleness. 

ENTP: They will vent and cry it all out. But once it’s done for an ENTP, it is absolutely done and they are ready to go out with the world again.

ESTJ: Silence. It is hard to tell what the ESTJs are thinking during horrible times as they like to keep every single complaints and sadness to themselves. They look nonchalant and indifferent from the distance, but upon closer inspection, you can tell they have never forgotten and possibly haven’t gotten over the heartbreak. 

ESFJ: ESFJs during heartbreak will try to heal themselves by ranting and complaining to other people showing them how it’s not them whose heart is broken, but the person who broke their heart. They will try to come off cool as if they are not bothered by anything, but their gossips and rants naturally give everything away.

ENFJ: This is a really sad and unbelievable time for them. ENFJs will constantly question why things went wrong and why was it not fixable. They will probably shed a few tears over this honestly. After that, they start blaming themselves for wrongdoings that they probably didn’t even do.

ENTJ: On the outside, they look completely controlled, self-possessed and utterly impeccable as if they have no care for other people’s miserable souls. On the inside, it feels as if they had been stabbed a thousand times. They do not move on as fast as they like to think they do.

INFP: Contrary to popular belief, INFPs move on the fastest. Because they are so full of internal feelings, by the time of actual heartbreak, they have already used up all of their energy and now there is nothing left but absolute apathy and smiles as they easily move on and leave your sorry ass behind.

I am seriously torn between two good things. Which one should I choose?