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The Difference Between A Submissive and a Needy Bottom

It’s time for a little conversation.

I’ve been getting a lot of messages. And I think it’s important that we define some structure. There needs to be a better understanding of submission. In fact, if you ask me why I do not have a boy right now, the most common answer is geography and because the boys in my area frustrate the hell out of me.

Why do they frustrate me you might ask? Because for many of them their concept of submission is a rough fuck. Sex and dominance are mutually exclusive. There are deeply sexual elements. Our hormones are at a very high level. We have primal need that engage in in these moments. But we do not need to engage in intercourse to express our dominant and submissive attributes.

So when you message me, and your first comment to me is that you me to fuck you, my immediate thought is that you are just a hungry bottom and not a submissive. You are more concerned with your needs and desires than understanding what I means to be submissive. You just want to get something you want.

I am not saying that when you have a positive interaction with a dominant you cannot beg him to fuck you. Most boys do. However, they do so because they have earned that right to appeal to the Man.

Remember a submissive means bring joy to a Dominant. It means being their for him. It means making him feel good because doing something for another makes you feel good. You feel balanced. You feel connected.

If you want to express yourself as a submissive. Your first thought (or message) should be, what can I do to make him happy?

Adding some more time

Just locked my cock up and haven’t came since last night. I don’t know how long I should lock up for so I’m going to let tumblr decide! For every reblog this gets I’ll add 12 hours and for every like I’ll add 6 hours. My max I’m willing to do right now is 2 weeks. If I get...

I am looking for information. Be honest. Let me know via Anon if you must.

Men: How big are you?

Women: How big is your man? If you have a lover how big is he?

I will compile the results and post them. Please only answer via the comments or re-blog so I can follow along.

With 51 responses (which is sad come on people) the numbers are:

Smallest 2 inches (5.08 cm)

Largest 8.5 inches (21.59 cm)

Average 4.69 inches (11.91 cm)

Can you be honest?

Day 6

I'm going so crazy right now. Woken up early by a morning erection trying to get hard in my cage again. Luckily my roommate took my key away yesterday, so there won't be any cheating. I'm not sure how long it's going to be before I start begging him for it back thought -- If I feel this way right now, I can't imagine how I'm going to make it another 5 weeks.

If you are a sub/little/bottom/slave/etc (no matter your gender/sexuality) could you kindly reblog this so I and others may follow you?

Oh yes, for sure i do!

Started on a frenum ladder today.

Day 2

Just finished my second day in my cage. I'm shooting for 58 more. Already I'm incredibly horny. If I hadn't left the key at work, I'd probably be far too tempted to unlock now. I told my straight roommate about being locked up tonight. He thinks I'm a bit crazy, but I think I may have perked his interest a little too. I also just joined a gym, so now I'll have something to do with all this pent up energy. My goal is to have a good start at getting back into shape before I get unlocked again. Now I just need to figure out something to do with my key before I surpass my self control. Perhaps I need to find a key holder to help me out.

I like to use this blog to get to know my followers. I love the exchange of knowledge, the enduring correspondence, and even evolving friendships. Let’s play a little game I am calling stereotype yourself. So I can learn more about you. I would like you select the characteristics that you comport...