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Just a quick sketch inspired by someone's profile pic I recently saw.

As the years pass, our love grows creating space for more.

Wow! Very insightful.

Hotwifing Saves Marriages.

What is hotwifing and how can hotwifing save marriages? Contrary to pornography lore, hotwifing, hot wife or hotwife is not a physical description, it is a powerful emotionally supportive state of marriage. Any woman can be a hotwife regardless of their physical attributes. To define, a hotwife is a married woman in a strong committed marriage who makes herself sexually available to other men for hotwife dates either with or without her husband present. She does this with her husband’s full knowledge and consent. In hotwifing the husband yields the traditional role of sexual dominance to his wife. The husband always remains willingly and faithfully monogamous to his hotwife which is referred to as a stag husband. All of his sexual desires are focused on his wife having sex with other men and all of his pleasures are derived in the intimacy his hotwife provides him. Hotwives may wear very sexy clothing, usually purchased for them by their stag husbands and flirt outrageously with other men in order to achieve the hotwife date. Hotwives may openly display hotwife jewelry that lets men know they are married and available. She may desire her husbands help in arranging her dates. In any case the husband cedes the decision as to whom his hotwife has sex with. Hotwifing is not about humiliation or denigration, it is rather a form of loving emotional control both psychologically and physically. The hotwife always balances her husbands physical needs and wants and her psychological control of him in her role as the hotwife. A stag husband may desire to watch, participate or happily await the return of his hotwife from her date so that she can share all the details of it with him. The stag husband is given secondary, but equal, sexual importance. The hotwife builds and caresses his ego through her dominance and she never forgets to give her husband sexual satisfaction. So how can all of that save your marriage?

For couples that have experienced infidelity like we did, hotwifing allows them to renew their vows of commitment to each other and start their marriage from a new point together rather than apart. Most importantly it leaves the past in the past because in the new vows the couple commits to focusing exclusively on the future and each other.

Hotwifing gives women the ability to fulfill their wildest sexual fantasies with the encouragement of their husbands. Research has shown that many couples have hotwifing fantasies, but most of them are unable to express themselves because they fear what their partner might think of them. This single misunderstanding of sexual desire is one of the leading causes of the high divorce rate. For a woman one of the many potential benefits of hotwifing in a marriage is the open and uninhibited fulfillment all her sexual desires within the realm of real and honest marital commitment from her husband. It is really simple, stag husbands won’t cheat because they have no need or desire to. For men it boosts their understanding of female sexuality and it frees them of jealousy, which is the number one poison to relationships. Imagine a life free of jealousy and you will find true happiness and peaceful harmony in balance with unlimited love for one another.

Hotwifing empowers wives with freedom. The wife gets the freedom to enjoy the full experiences of sex. Women often desire and routinely fantasize about having sex with men other than their husbands. In the old taboo society they rarely got that chance because of deep seeded jealousy. When a man freely encourages his wife to enjoy the sexual pleasures of other men, he is undeniably giving her his heart and soul. He is directly displaying trust in their marriage. The husband enjoys the ability to control his normal feelings of jealousy so his wife can experience a new kind of intimacy free of guilt. This can be of great spiritual and emotional comfort to both the husband and wife.

Hotwifing frees wives from the jealousy of their husbands. It is a proven fact that jealousy is one of the major reasons many relationships fail. Insecurity is a leading contributing factor in disagreements and breakups that result in divorce. Hotwifing can help to rid the man of his feelings of jealousy, and when he gives his wife the freedom to be who she wants to be, she knows her husband has her best interests at heart, which helps her to increase her trust in him. Hotwifing creates trust and communication within relationships. Solid relationships are built upon trust and open communication. If you want to be in a happy, lasting relationship, you must ensure that you understand each other and also give each other the chance and freedom to be yourselves. These kinds of open and honest conversations increase trust and communication between the couple and bring them closer together. 

Hotwifing makes wives feel beautiful and desired. As a man, you will feel that you actually have the hottest woman on earth, and it’s every man’s desire to have a woman who is another man’s dream. Hotwifing gives men the perfect chance to appreciate how beautiful and desirable his woman is, which typically serves to increase both his love and respect for her. Ultimately hotwifing can help a mans libido. In some instances it has been known to assist a husband to overcome some forms of E.D.

Hotwifing boosts marital confidence. It gives women a real chance to express themselves to their husbands. When a woman knows that she has the support of her husband to do whatever she desires, she feels incredibly self confident about herself, which helps to change her perception of the traditional societal roles of husbands and wives

Hotwifing increases intimacy by giving both the husband and wife the perfect chance to gain important knowledge about themselves and each other that can help increase the intimacy of their connection. The new adventures and the wide variety of options dramatically deepen a couple’s marital bond making it strong, confident and trustworthy.

Hotwifing provides a greater sense of sexual confidence and satisfaction for both husband and wife. Hotwifing actually saves marriages. Yes you heard that right, it can save a marriage. I can tell you without hesitation that it saved mine even if it took my husband nearly 20 years to realize it. Hotwifing creates a perfect platform for couples to attain both mental and physical satisfaction. The wife is able to have sex with men she desires, which quenches her thirst that in a traditional monogamous marriages might otherwise lead her to affairs and betrayals.

Even after feeling the sting of betrayal couples can use hotwifing to regain trust, because hotwifing requires 100 percent honesty from both husband and wife. Honesty is the one element of hotwing that is non negotiable. Gone are the days of living secret lies and affairs. Women have said that while they knew their husband thought they were beautiful, being desired by other men was even more validating to them. “Your husband is supposed to think you’re beautiful.” When wives feel they are no longer perceived as beautiful they can become depressed and cheat to make themselves feel wanted again. Couples that can together successfully negotiate the absolute intimacy and unique boundaries provided by hotwifing can easily save even the most troubled, stale and dissatisfied marriage. It gives couples a new freedom to describe to each other their most base, deepest secrets and sexual desires. Couples say that after the wife has sex with other men, their own sex lives were newly fueled, and the couple had sex the way they did when they first started dating.

Scientifically the fuel to this fire may be found in the neurochemistry and biology of sperm competition. Hotwifing couples essentially subvert mechanisms intended to prevent illicit pregnancies, co-opting our basic biological processes to serve a role in fanning the flames of the marriage long past the time they might have normally subsided into a relationship where sex is ok on occasion but primarily viewed as not necessary by one or both. Sex at 40, 50, 60, 70 and beyond can take on new exciting prospects that can be of well documented health benefits for the couple. Research has shown that older couples with a healthy and frequent sex life are often happier and tend to live longer more fulfilling lives. Overall the positive effects of hotwifing in marriage are far greater than many people could possibly imagine.

Hotwifing is no longer a dirty little “secret” confined to swingers clubs by adventurous 30 somethings. It is rapidly becoming a mainstream norm for mature couples to help rescue their failing marriages and keep them forever secure.

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Feel free to share and keep adding to the saved marriage story with your own success in hotwifing. Keep us posted though. Thanks

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Please try out my app I've made. It's still early days, but please let me know if I'm heading in the right direction.

It's an adult version of Bingo. As you do something on the board, tap it. The goal is to complete the whole board. You can also upload your own list of tasks in the form of a simple text file.

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Playing with AI - an anklet for the Hotwife lovers... and a little extra for foot lovers. ;)

Yup, all part of the fantasy. I love the idea that there are men out there jerking off to the thought of my wife.

I think she might like the idea as well...

Absolutely. The whole point is that you enjoy it.

How awesome. I hope our firstime will be as successful, and we'll learn a lessons from you. Thanks.

(I appreciate you didn't go into all the sex details and focused on everything around it - it makes it feel so more genuine and not some fantasy porn written for views.)

Wife’s first hotwife experience with another male. The story is long and meant to help others starting out.

It was 2019 just before Covid. After 20+ years of hints and conversation about her being with another male, she finally agreed. Just prior, we got our feet wet by attending a local swingers club. We watched other couples have sex and I could see her light up with intrigue and excitement.

We joined a swingers website and began looking for her first. At the same time we established (mainly I established) rules for the encounter. For example, condom use for everything, light kissing, and established code words if either one of us changed our mind.

She found a guy that was new to the LS. He had not been with a hotwife yet but it was his fantasy to be with a married woman. We all chatted a bit through kik and then set up a meeting at a local lounge. My wife and I agreed that she and the male would have a drink at a table and talk while I sat at the bar. This way they both would be less nervous and get to know each other before going forward.

Being our first time, I had many mixed emotions. I was feeling horny, excited, jealous, upset, anxious, and sick. I sat at the bar, ordered a drink and a snack. I watched them talk and laugh and her inch herself closer and closer to him as the minutes passed. I was jealous and upset by this. It was all new and I never saw it before. I was upset not knowing what they were speaking about. What was so funny? She was laughing constantly. I kept thinking, is this guy funnier or more charming? Looking back, I was way into my head. It was not such a big deal. But at the time, I didn’t like it. But also, not enough to call anything off.

Throughout the 45 minutes or so my wife and I made frequent eye contact to make sure both of us were still good. She motioned me over and she asked for me to walk her to the restroom. This was how we planned to check in and decide if we would go forward. She asked if I was ok to keep going and I asked if she wanted to first. She said yes and I agreed. I asked if she asked him if he was good to go. She said she asked him bluntly before calling me over, “Do you want to fuck me”. He said, “Yes, very much so”.

We had already checked into a hotel near by just in case.

Side note: I always book the rooms. I want to be sure there are no hidden cameras, weapons, or any other risk. It also gives my wife time and space to prepare.

While she was in the restroom, I sat with the guy and laid out our rules. Light kissing, condoms at all times, no marks, light spanking is ok, nothing anal. He was all good and I asked if he had any boundaries or rules. He said no.

My wife returned and we headed out of the lounge. My wife held his hand and I walked in front of them. Before separating to our cars, she gave him a kiss. We got in our cars and headed to the hotel close by. My wife and I were both nervous. I was still hung up a bit on their conversation and the laughing 🙄. She said he was just telling stories about his family and work and a lot of it was funny. 🤷🏻‍♂️

We got to the hotel and my wife freshened up. He arrived and they had another drink while sitting on the couch next to the bed. I sat in a side chair and watched. They had short small talk then my wife checked in with me with her eye contact, I nodded yes and she proceeded to climb on top of him while hiking up her short skirt.

My heart was pounding and I was instantly hard. She looked so hot on top and he was in awe.

I love fucking my wife. She is a beautiful smoking hot Latina with killer curves, natural DDs and a nice plump butt. Being able to watch her in complete view while not having to worry about cumming, performing, or positioning, really just allowed me to take her beauty and sexiness all in.

She slowly removed his shirt while he unbuttoned her blouse and she felt on his cock through his pants. I love when she does that. It shows her desire for it. She unzipped his pants and started stroking his cock. He was a bit slow to get going. He admitted he was nervous. He was a bit bigger than me but nothing crazy.

Again, my wife made eye contact to check if it was ok to keep going. I nodded yes. She put a flavored condom on and began sucking his dick. That’s when it all became clear that there was no going back. She has another man’s cock in her mouth and she will be getting fucked. As much as I wanted it to stop, I wanted more for it to keep going. It was so hot and watching her being so horny and slutty was amazing. She was so wet, he kept saying it and I could see it.

He then went down on her and I watched her enjoy every bit as she squirmed and let out whimpers of pleasure. They then moved to the bed, changed condoms and we were ready for her to become a hotwife.

He was laying down and she took the lead, climbed on top, grabbed his cock, and placed it inside her. She let out a gasp as she usually does upon first entry. But seeing it was so much hotter. I know how tight, wet, and good she feels. I also know how good she rides and how she fucks you back while in missionary. They did multiple positions but he would lose erection from time to time. He was nervous and I am sure not comfortable as I was watching. Knowing this, she made herself cum relatively quickly. He then pulled out, removed the condom, and came on a towel.

They cleaned up, had a bit of small talk and then he left. Overall, it was a nice introduction for us. He was a gentleman, followed the rules, and went at her pace.

After he left, we actually had to rush home to relieve the babysitter. This was one element we definitely fucked up. We should have made sure we had alone time for reclaiming and reconnection. We had planned for this but spent more time than expected at the lounge and a bit more time at the hotel. So, we did not reclaim at the hotel, we drove home while recapping the nights events. I wanted to know all the thoughts she had and if she thought it was good. I was selfishly wondering if he was better than me. Did he lick her better? Did he fuck her better? Again, looking back these thoughts were dumb and completely unwarranted. But you will go through them.

When we got home, our little one was still awake. 😡 So we had to wait that out and the high from it all was starting to dwindle as “life” starts to hit us again. We actually ended up going into our garage which was set up as a gaming room. We did the reclaiming there but it was not great. It was rushed and we had to be quiet. Big lesson learned.

We are now ending 2024 and we have had many more experiences and we have evolved greatly since. From bigger cocks, backseat play while I drove, to swinger party sex, couples, and bare play.

Hit us up for questions or if you want to hear about the subsequent adventures.

My sexy hotwife getting ready to be taken again with me watching!!

AI image generator advice

I'd like to run my sketches through an AI generator and see if I can get photo-realistic versions of them. Can anyone recommend an AI Platform that will offer "sketch to image" generation that also allows adult content?

I think I need to take her shopping.

Just sharing a beer on a hot (and steamy) Saturday afternoon.

Nice...

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Excellent.

Ground Rules

Another day of Hotwifing advice and of course..your questions and stories is upon us. Today I am going to address the topic of Ground Rules.

I have heard some major horror stories in the lifestyle from couples who swing and from couples who Hotwife and all due to this one most important topic. Due to the fact that there are 2 people involved in both lifestyles, you have to remember that feelings and emotions matter not just with you, but also with your partner. Without solid ground rules that address the feelings of both partners, this lifestyle can and does destroy marriages and relationships.

As a Hotwife myself, my goal in the lifestyle is not just to fuck other men, but to enhance my marriage with my husband. In fact, the latter is priority number one! And if you don’t do the same, then you are not Hotwifing….you are just dating and playing the field.

To avoid the tragedy, ..set ground rules….both of you! My Stag and I do not have many ground rules now but we started off with a ton of them. And if you are just starting off in this lifestyle, I can recommend a few to use on your own. Experiment with them. Use them if you like. Add to them if you like. Delete a couple if you like. It really is all about what works best for you both as a couple.

A good one to start with is to set the ground rule of ..You do not message or contact men without your Stags approval. And you do not agree to meet anyone without his approval. This will eliminate the possibility of jealousy.

Another good one is that you will not have a playdate without your Stag being present. The truth of this one is that your Stag most likely really will demand this anyway for safety sake.

Another is that there is no kissing (I can’t do this one at all and my Stag has never laid down this rule but there are those who are serious about this one)

Couples who are ok with the wife playing alone, some set a rule for the Hotwife to take pics and video each and every time they have a playdate. (This is one of my Stags rules).

Another good one for beginners is to always include the Stag, whether that be by the sex itself or the constant eye contact or touching. This is used to assure the partner that you are his always and it also helps show affection in a very intimate setting.

Some Stags require their Hotwife to dress super sexy. But I think this is a given anyway!

Another very good one for beginners is to set the rule that anytime one of you is feeling uncomfortable with anything, that you immediately stop and talk about it until you come to an agreement and set the boundary or draw a line in the sand.

Remember you can set whatever ground rules that you like. And also remember that this isnt just about you. Do not get into this lifestyle thinking that your needs are to be met only. That doesnt work. This lifestyle is for you both. Keep each other in mind at all times and you will have a great time!

This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and stories of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions or stories today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! ♂️♀️♂️ ~LillybGoddess

Another post I don't want to lose.

“Wife Sharing IMPORTANT: ALL WIVES INTERESTED IN UNDERSTANDING MEN SHOULD READ THIS! The Hotwife Phenomena - The New Threesome By: Dr. Sherry Lee, Ph. D. From: Psychology Today (Dr. Lee has lectured and published in the area of analytical psychology, and she developed one of the first electronic systems for the quantitative analysis human behavior. She started her counseling work by leading gestalt therapy groups. Apart from this, her several decades of professional experience has been largely limited to urban, affluent, female subjects.) What Has Spurred the whole Hotwife Phenomena? Although motivations for the Hotwife phenomena actually cover a wide spectrum, here we’ll cover a few of the most common. First let’s get this out of the way. The Menage a’ Trois is out, it’s yesterday’s news, and most women are glad to see it go. Why? Because for at least the last hundred years or so we women have had to indulge this male fantasy (usually with our best girlfriends as the second woman) and frankly guys, we’ve had enough. No, we don’t really like to perform oral sex on our best friends just because you think it’s hot, sorry. We’re not lesbians and even though it looks like we like it in every porno you’ve ever seen, the last thing that turns us on is watching you, our boyfriends/husbands screw another woman right in front of us. We just aren’t wired to like that. It’s biologically programed into us not to like seeing our mates mating with other females. On the other hand, we women know that a lot of you men out there DO like the idea of watching us, your girlfriends and wives, get it on with another male while you either watch or better still, join in. Surprised? You shouldn’t be. Polls show that more and more women, especially those in their late thirties and older, who are passed or passing their child bearing years, say that the threesome they do find extremely exciting is the kind of threesome so called “Hot Wives” are having and that’s the MFM or Male-Female-Male threesome. These women are hitting their sexual prime during their late thirties and early forties and many of them like getting attention from younger males. These women don’t want to cheat on the men they love, they want to have their boyfriends and husbands to let them be the sexual creatures at the peak of their sexual powers that the media has falsely convinced men happens when women are in their twenties. It’s just not true. While many males my be suffering from a drop in their testosterone levels in their forties and feel like their sexual peak is a distant memory, the women in their lives are just getting warmed up, maybe even hot! What is a Cuckold? A husband who is a cuckold is aware of his spouse’s activity, most likely actively encouraging it and derives sexual pleasure from it. Biologist Robin Baker speculates in his book “Sperm Wars” that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain. Baker believes that when a man thinks that his female mate may have been sexual with another man, the man is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female in an effort to “compete” with the other man’s sperm. While this is just a theory it may help explain the desire by many men to have their wives sleep with other men. He may value the relationship and not want her to jeopardize things because of the deceit and secrecy that normally accompany affairs. In short, he wants to know about and approve any extramarital sex, and even have some control over it. The cuckold husband wants his wife’s sexual encounters with men to be for sex only, with no marriage-threatening emotional entanglements. The mass media often cast beautiful and desirable women as both sexy and prone to sexual liaisons. Whereas this type of woman used to be considered a “fallen woman” or even a “whore,” in some minds she now seems to represent an enticing new standard. Some women used to brag about how they could avoid marital sex, and despite the views of some radical feminists, such women are now suspected as being man-haters, latent lesbians, or simply having personal problems. Now, many women find a certain excitement in being viewed as sexually liberated. For some, especially some older women, there may be a certain ego gratification in still being viewed as being sexually desirable — even discretely promiscuous. While holding to the security of her primary relationship, she may revel in experiencing sexual freedom. At the same time, some cuckold husbands want their wives to appear ladylike on the surface (in public.). But, among the majority of these men, they want they wives to be known as “hot”, “sexy”, and “not hung up about sex,” or even “great lays.” Although this type of wife was once considered a threat to husbands — and it still is to most — the more psychologically secure males believe that a healthy and well-adjusted (and desirable) woman enjoys sex, and has the right to be just as open about it as men. Also, the husbands involved often pride themselves in being secure enough to handle a hotwife. He may even brag to another man about how his wife loves sex and can’t get enough (which, not coincidentally, may be very much in contrast to the attitude of that man’s wife). Implicit in the comment is that the husband has no problem with this, and that, in fact, he thinks his wife is very “hot.” In most cases sex within a Hotwife marriage is just that. Hot. Women in the Hotwife lifestyle report having higher than average self esteem, they report far fewer incidences of infidelity on the part of their husbands, an above average libido, and overall feelings of being attractive, especially to younger males. Many women realize that other women regularly enjoy “good sex,” and although many wives have grown ambivalent about sex within their marriages and are reluctant to try new things, these barriers frequently fall with the expectations of new sexual partners. With new men there appears to be unspoken desire to “not disappoint” and “to be good in bed.” Even though she may have started to have doubts about her sexual desirability, as a hotwife she will find that men are again interested in her. For some women this can constitute a kind of new “sexual awakening.” This transformation can be quite disturbing for a husband who isn’t prepared to handle it. But for those men who have always thought that their wives were not only devoted to them but should be admired, even lusted after by other men, it is a dream come true. Contrary to the most commonly held belief that all cuckold husbands are by default the submissive type with a small penis inferiority complex, most of these men are actually extremely confident in their masculinity and their “manhood”. They also report having no desire to have sex with other women. Their hotwife is almost always the sole focus of all their sexual fantasy and activity. In my experience, this may be the only class of men who can actually be believed when reporting this. In some circles a woman may wear a bold ankle bracelet on her right ankle to tell men “in the know” that she’s a hotwife. (At the same time, most women who wear ankle bracelets do so without realizing the possible significance.) Once seen as a hotwife, she may flirt with select men, making it clear that she’s available for sex. Women As Sex Objects? Many women feel that being a hotwife turns a woman into a sex object. This seems to be primarily based on the premise that enjoying sex is a masculine prerogative. However, more and more women are finding that this is not so. Most women have lived their lives trying to act “like proper women” and shunning men “who have one thing on their minds.” Now, according to one woman, “I let guys know I like sex.” Thus, she may soon get beyond, “what other people will think” and concentrate on the pleasures of the sexual experience — in particular, experiencing regular orgasms. This is often bolstered by the excitement that surrounds the culturally taboo aspects of a married women having sex with other men. Usually it’s the Husband’s Idea All of this notwithstanding, the cuckold husband/hotwife phenomena is typically the idea of the husband who not only knows about the high number of female affairs, but is even sexually excited by visualizing another man having sex with his wife. According to one husband, “I had to really change my view about how a wife is supposed to be, especially with guys finding out she’s ‘available’ even though she’s married to me. But now I really get off on having a woman that guys think is hot and who they want to have sex with. Fact is, instead of being embarrassed or defensive, I brag about how she loves sex, and then I casually mention that this sure makes her a lot different than most wives. In a very good way.” According to another husband, “…as far back as I can remember in our marriage, I’ve always been turned on and excited by the idea of encouraging her to let guys give her all the sexual attention she can handle. …She and I feel closer and more attracted to each other because of all the attention she gets from men. Especially the younger guys. They all think she is hot and they’re right! My wife feels that as long as we are together when she’s with another guy, everything is OK. It’s a huge turn on for both of us.” From her husband’s perspective, he has long ago ridded himself of the “fallen woman baggage” that pervades most of our culture, the fact that his wife is pursued by men, makes herself available to men, and sometimes has sex with other men, introduces a bit of competition for her. This can strengthen the husband’s resolve to “treat her right” although most husbands with hot wives already have a sort of “wife worship” fetish you might call it. They tend to buy their wives pretty clothes, take them out, and tell them how attractive they think they are and make them feel that they are attractive to other men. He may fantasize about a powerful (safe) man sexually awakening and dominating her, and forcing her to break free of sexual inhibitions. Some husbands know how exciting a new sexual partner and experience can be, and want to offer some other men this experience with their wives. A husband may also fantasize about having a wife that is, to a degree, driven by both a physical and a psychological need for sex. Visualizing or seeing first-hand other men meeting this need in her —but only with his permission— may excite him. The Woman’s Perspective Women have a different perspective on being a hotwife, of course. According to one woman, “I’ve got a sense of freedom in enjoying the company of men and not being paranoid about a jealous husband, or even being worried about what people will think. If I want to have sex with a guy I find attractive, all I have to do is tell my husband and I have the freedom to do it. For me, having my husband there is a huge part of the turn on. Knowing it excites him makes it more exciting for me. Of course I’m excited that a younger, good looking guy wants me and thinks I’m hot, I’d be lying if I said I didn’t. But just sleeping with another guy without my husband feels more like cheating than a turn on. Some women go on dates without their husbands and a lot of husbands are OK with that. For me, I want my husband with me. I want him to see me being taken by another man. It’s really hot, for both of us.” At the same time, the hotwife does not want jealousy or resentment to ruin her marriage or threaten the unusual freedom she enjoys, a freedom she knows that very few husbands would be willing to grant. Therefore, she needs to be careful to be totally open and honest to her husband about her lovers. This means that there will be no secret conversations or secret meetings with men. It may also mean that the husband may want to approve of the men she has sex with. The cuckold husband may want his wife to announce her sexuality by wearing revealing clothes. For example, he may accompany her to a night spot in a distant city and have her dress in ultra-revealing clothes or tell her to go out without wearing any panties. This can serve to get them both used to the resulting male attention. Rather than being jealous, having a wife that is seen by other men as sexually “hot” may provide him with an ego boost. (Dare we suggest that for some men hot wives are replacing hot cars as a source of pride.) Thus, while the male and female motivations might be quite different in the cuckold husband-hotwife phenomena, the ultimate goal can be the same. The husband will have to deal with meeting men who have had or want to have sex with his wife. To compensate for any suspected loss of his virility, the husband may remind others of his own previous sexual escapades. At the same time to prove his lack of jealousy, he may freely admit to men that his wife regularly enjoys sex with different men, and he may even subtly offer her to select men. According to one man, “I like to set things in motion like that just to see what happens.” The Quintessential Issue What may seem desirable for the husband or wife while under the influence of testosterone, libido or fantasy, may later seem like a huge mistake. The result may be regret and marital estrangement. Clearly, the cuckold husband/hotwife idea is at odds with cultural conditioning and human tendencies toward jealousy and possessiveness. Although these traits may not be desirable, they are the norm and must be recognized. Even assuming that both partners are okay with going in this direction, most of society isn’t. With most people there is still a sigma associated with a promiscuous wife and a husband that lets his wife have extramarital sex. Most people who find out about this will respond negatively toward both partners. This can be a problem in a work environment where “character” is a part of job performance and promotion considerations. (A common male chauvinistic attitude with roots in the “wife as the husband’s property” notion says that a husband should keep his wife “under control,” and if she has affairs she definitely isn’t “under control.”) While many couples are able to keep their sexual activities private, they may live with the fear that they may be found out. At the same time, self-employed people who live in large urban areas, or people who work around like-minded individuals probably won’t have this concern. All this being said, given the ever-increasing number of affairs, and the emerging attitudes about condoned affairs in countries such as Japan, one wonders if somewhere down the road to cultural enlightenment U.S. society won’t be ready to accept open relationships. We seem to be in the early stages of that now. Although the transition will certainly be bumpy, if we are able to shift our emphasis to love and commitment to hold relationships together, rather than the refutable doctrines about sexual exclusivity which simply cater to jealousies and insecurities, it would not only eliminate much heartache, but it would remove many of the “justifications” for dissolving relationships and an ever increasing divorce rate. Links: http://ccucksm.blogspot.com/ http://hotwifeblog.com http://www.ourhotwives.org”

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I’ve reposted this before, but it’s still a good read if you are thinking about getting into this.

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This is amazing. There are some posts that I feel should be collated into a kind of official guide, and this is one of them. Well done and thanks for your effort.

Suggestive Dirty Talk Options

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie playing. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.

I really enjoyed seeing your drawings, they are so personal, keep them up. It makes me want to pick up my pencils again.

Who'd have thought that on a hotwife blog on tumblr, you'd start an art revival? 🤣

Please do pick up those pencils again. I'd love to see what you produce. It also makes things more personal rather than the regular re-cycled photos.

Side note - I've seen a HUGE upswing in my traffic since posting original content. Stories don't get read and shared that much, but my two cartoons have brought me 50 new followers in 24 hours.

I really hope that's true.

This cartoon was what inspired me to do a few drawings of my own. I realised it expresses the idea better than most of the re-purposed photos circulating here. It's very easy to identify with it because he could be anyone. Thank you to the author.

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This is exactly how I picture that stud looking after a session with my wife. The next question is... who's going to clean up that mess?

My fantasy marriage - Saturday night celebrations at home. (I'd forgotten how much fun drawing is - yes I'll do more, if you guys keep re-posting them)

How I fantasize my marriage. Everyone's happy.

I do wish it, even though I don't quite understand why the idea gets me so hard

The world would be a better place if this happened more.

That would be awesome. My wife's tits are her sexiest feature.

Some one reading my mind?

Whew... how I wish I would hear this from my wife.

I like this - I'm a sucker for a good graphic.

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