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Hello to all the followers of my blog, from today I thought I would post an article about the hotwife lifestyle every day. Today's article is:

What is a Hotwife?

The term “hotwife” has a specific meaning in the context of certain adult, sexual, and relationship dynamics. It refers to a married woman who has the freedom and permission in her marriage to pursue sexual relationships with other men, often with the knowledge and encouragement of her husband. This lifestyle choice is typically consensual and part of a mutual agreement or understanding within the marriage.

The concept of a hotwife is often associated with the broader context of non-monogamous relationships and can be seen as a form of open marriage or ethical non-monogamy.It's important to note that such lifestyles and choices are deeply personal and vary greatly between individuals and couples. They are based on the principles of consent, open communication, and mutual respect.

As with any relationship dynamic, the key elements for a healthy and respectful hotwife arrangement are clear communication, consent, and established boundaries that all parties agree to and are comfortable with. It is also important to approach such topics with sensitivity and respect for individual privacy and choices.

Introducing Your Partner to Hotwifing

The concept of hotwifing, where a married woman engages in sexual relationships outside her marriage with the consent of her husband, can be an exciting and fulfilling aspect of a couple's sex life. However, introducing this idea into your relationship requires careful consideration, respect, and open communication. This article provides guidance on how to approach the topic with your wife in a sensitive and respectful manner.

Step 1: Self-Reflection and Research

Before initiating the conversation, it's crucial to understand your motivations and the implications of a hotwife lifestyle. Research the lifestyle thoroughly. Understand the emotional and physical aspects, and consider how it aligns with your current relationship dynamics. Being informed will help you address any questions or concerns your wife may have.

Step 2: Open and Honest Communication

The key to introducing your wife to the idea of hotwifing is open, honest, and non-confrontational communication. Choose a comfortable and private setting to bring up the topic. It’s important to approach the conversation with sensitivity, ensuring that your wife feels safe and respected.

Step 3: Express Your Feelings and Desires

Clearly and calmly express your desires and the reasons why you think hotwifing might be an exciting addition to your relationship. Be honest about your feelings, but also be prepared to listen. This isn’t about convincing or persuading; it’s about sharing a part of yourself.

Step 4: Listen to Her Perspective

After you've shared your thoughts, give your wife the space to express her feelings. Listen attentively and respectfully. Her initial reaction might be one of surprise, and she may need time to process the information.

Step 5: Address Concerns and Misconceptions

Be prepared to answer questions and address any concerns she may have. It’s likely that she will have many, ranging from the impact on your relationship to issues of jealousy and safety. Be patient and provide reassurance.

Step 6: Emphasize the Importance of Consent

Make it clear that her consent and comfort are your top priorities. Reiterate that exploring this lifestyle is only an option if she is genuinely interested and comfortable with the idea. There should be no pressure or expectation for her to agree.

Step 7: Take It Slow

If your wife shows interest, it’s important to take things slowly. Start by discussing boundaries and rules. Communication should be ongoing and transparent. You might want to begin by simply fantasizing together during intimacy before moving on to any real-world actions.

Step 8: Continual Check-ins

Regular check-ins are vital. These conversations should focus on her feelings, experiences, and comfort level. Ensure that she feels she can always say no and that she has control over how and when to proceed or stop.

Step 9: Professional Advice

Consider seeking advice from a relationship counselor, especially one experienced in consensual non-monogamy. They can provide a safe space to explore these ideas and address any underlying relationship dynamics.

Conclusion

Introducing your wife to the concept of hotwifing requires a foundation of trust, mutual respect, and open communication. It's a journey that, if pursued, should be embarked upon together, with both partners feeling valued and heard. Remember, the goal is to enhance your relationship and explore new dimensions of your sexuality in a safe, consensual, and enjoyable way.

MiriamHotwife

Anyone you'd like to invite?

Such a great post. I must help to keep it alive.

Sexual Questions ;)

1. First kiss? 2. First time masturbating? 3. First sex toy? 4. First kink tried? 5. First time doing oral? 6. First time having sex?
 -Turn Ons 7. Biggest turn on? 8. Biggest turn off? 9. Quickest way to get horny? 10. Weirdest thing that ever turned you on? 11. Top 3 places to be touched? 12. Ultimate fantasy? 13. Do you like the idea of a three or moresome? 14. Do you send nudes? Do you like receiving them?
 -Preferences 15. Sex or masturbation? 16. Spit or swallow? 17. Cut or uncut dicks? 18. Rough or sensual sex? 19. Oldest person you’d sleep with? 20. Loud or quiet partners? 21. How much foreplay do you like? 22. How much teasing do you like? 23. What is too big for you to take? 24. Do you do hookups or only sleep with a partner? 25. How much kissing do you like during sex? 26. What’s the most attractive part of the body?
 -Location 27. Would you have sex in public? 28. Last place you had sex? 29. Where would you most like to have sex? 30. Do you like spontaneous sex, or do you need to be in the mood? 31. Could you go through with a hookup at a strangers house?
 -Kinks 32. What’s your biggest kink? 33. Are you okay with name calling in bed? 34. Would you do any BDSM? 35. Do you prefer to tie somebody up or be tied up? 36. Do you like orgasm denial/forced orgasm? 37. Do you like overstimulation? 38. Do you like having pain involved? 39. Do you like biting/being bitten? 40. Have you ever been made to/made somebody beg for it? 41. Do you have any strange or extreme kinks? 42. Have any roleplaying preferences? 
-Masturbation 43. Do you own sex toys? How many? 44. What do you masturbate to? 45. How often do you masturbate? 46. How often do you use sex toys to masturbate? 47. Do you masturbate with penetration? 48. Do you go for multiple rounds or settle at one or no orgasms?
 -Oral 49. Do you enjoy giving oral? 50. Do you prefer giving or receiving oral? 51. What makes you orgasm the fastest when receiving oral? 53. Can you deepthroat? 
54. Do you like playing with your clit? If so how do you prefer to do it? 55. What’s your breast size? 56. How often do you go braless? 57. Do you finger yourself? 58. How familiar are you with your g-spot? 59. Do you squirt?
 -Sex 60. How often do you do unprotected sex? 61. How loud are you in bed? 62. Do you enjoy having nipples played with? 63. Do you like/dislike cum? 64. How good are you at dirty talk? 65. Do you get sleepy after an orgasm? 
66. Do you trim, shave or leave pubic hair untouched? 67. How do you prefer partners pubic hair? 68. How many orgasms can you have in a day? 69. How many other people know your bra size? 70. What do you wear to bed? 71. Any funny sex stories? 72. What food if any would you use during sex? 73. Would you give somebody a sex toy as a gift? 74. What’s the weirdest porn you’ve ever seen? 75. Do you often get horny in public? 76. Ever used something that isn’t made for sex in the bedroom? 77. Have you ever walked in on somebody or been walked in on? 78. Do you have any friends you’d sleep with?

Anyone want a Hall Pass?

How are you progressing toward actualizing the lifestyle in your marriage?

It's going well. It's still at fantasy stages, but she hasn't gotten bored with it and plays along nicely. Last week, I took my daughter to a school event. My wife worked late and we met back at home around 8pm. I asked if Robert (gym hotty) had come around while we were out. She ran with it completely, telling me how she had to kick him out early when I messaged that we were on our way home. I love my wife when she does stuff like this.

I thought this was a given for most of us...

Check it out

I imagine my wife has a fuckbuddy/boyfriend because she has needs that she is ashamed of and to embarrassed to tell me. I'm her husband, best friend and father to her child. She's "stuck" with me long-term but a boyfriend is disposable. If she expresses these desires with him and feels ashamed, she can just dump him and never see him again. I love to give her this freedom to express herself so freely. She tells me about her dates, but I know she leaves a lot out and my imagination fills in the blanks.

Fairly regularly.

I do... Not too sure why, but I do.

Second favorite kind of video to get.

Yup. I just wish she'd use it.

How I wish I could give her this.

Soooo many fun ideas here

Non-Cheating Hotwife Challenge

This is for a non-cheating “Hotwife”.  These dares involve flirting and risqué behavior only which are designed to increase trust, confidence, desire, appreciation, lust, intimacy and FUN in the marriage. NO ACTUAL CHEATING TAKES PLACE!! Make up your own “rewards” for achieving certain point levels.  

 1 Point

 #1 – Suck a lollipop seductively in public.

 #2 - Play naughty ‘truth or dare.’

 #3 – Send your hubby a kinky pic of you while shopping.

 #4 - Let your hubby take sexy pics of you flashing in public.

 #5 - Talk to someone on the phone whilst you use a dildo or a vibrator.  Bonus point if it’s one of your husband’s  friends or a male family member.

 2 Points

 #6 - Go out in public in a short skirt with no panties.  Bonus point if you bend over with people around!

 #7 - Wear a skirt and remove your panties in public not far from people.

 #8- Get your hubby a cock cage and lock him up while you dress provocatively all week.

 #9 – Role-play that your hubby is a stranger and you’re a horny, cheating wife.

 #10 - Flash your boobs to a stranger.  Bonus point if it’s “accidentally” to a male acquaintance!

 3 Points

 #11 – Eye fuck a guy. Bonus point if it’s in front of your husband!

 #12 – “Forget” to wear your bra in public when it’s somewhat noticeable.

 #13 – Wear a loose fitting top in public.  Bend over in front of attractive people.  Bonus point if no bra!

 #14 - Have your hubby make his dick bigger with a penis extender and role-play that he’s a big-dicked stranger.

 #15 – Tell your hubby he can cum only at the thought of you with another man.

 4 Points

 #16 - Go out without a bra on while wearing a sexy shirt with your hubby.

 #17 - Hubby picks out a revealing outfit for you for the day. Whenever you catch someone looking, smile.  At the end of the day, tell your hubby about it while he strokes himself.

 #18 - Flirt with another man while you’re seated.  Cross your legs slowly as you talk and see his reaction. Bonus point if you’re wearing a skirt/dress. 5 bonus points if wearing a skirt/dress and no panties!

 #19 – Flirt strongly with a girl.  Tell your husband all about it if he’s not there.  Bonus point if your hubby is present!

 #20 – Go to dinner with a low cut top and your tits out.  Put your tits on display every time the server comes to your table.  Bonus point if the server gets caught obviously looking!

 5 Points

 #21 – In front of people (strangers or acquaintances), say slutty things.

 #22 - Get a lap dance at a strip club with your husband watching.

 #23 – “Accidently” show someone a hot pic of you while showing them something on your phone.

 #24 - Get hit on and picked up by a hot guy.  Your hubby can “rescue” you at the right time.

 #25 - Go to dinner with your husband.  After the meal, slip your panties off and sit at the bar and flirt with other men as he watches.

 6 Points

 #26 - Go out without a bra on while wearing a sexy shirt without your hubby.

 #27 - Go out in public with a remote vibrator in you and talk to attractive guys.  Your hubby watches and controls it.

 #28 - Dress revealing.  Look at an attractive guy until he looks away.  Bonus point if he approaches you!

 #29 - Make up a story about getting it on with another girl while you give your hubby a handjob until he cums.  

 #30 - Have an anonymous dirty conversation with a stranger online.

 7 Points

 #31 – Time how quickly your hubby cums when you talk about:

a.   Fucking another man

b.  Sucking another man

c.   Him and a stranger (guy or girl) sharing you

 #32 - At a party, leave at least one extra button unbuttoned.  

 #33 – Make up a story about fucking or sucking another guy while you give your hubby a handjob until he cums.  

 #34- Wear a button-up top.  Hubby dictates how much cleavage is shown.  Smile and flirt with every person that looks. At the end of the day, tell your hubby about it while you blow him.

 #35 – Next girls’ night out, wear a dress or skirt with no panties.

 8 Points

 #36 – Hubby gives you money to buy new shoes.  Wear a skirt with no panties while trying them on while someone assists you.

 #37 - Wear a short skirt, dress or revealing top with no wedding ring. Have fun and see how much attention you get.  Share it with your husband as you stroke him.

 #38 - Have your hubby fuck you slowly while you tell him a made-up fantasy about fucking someone else.

 #39 - Use a vibrator while watching porn (any genre - your choice) while describing how hot the guy is or how big his cock is while your husband is forced to masturbate.  

 #40 – Fuck in the bathroom of a club or bar after flirting with strangers.

 9 Points

 #41 – Tell your hubby a made up story about having sex with someone else while he fingers you.  Bonus point if it’s a true story from your past and you let him know!

 #42 - “Accidentally” rub against a guy’s dick through his pants with your hand or ass.

 #43 - Wear a short skirt.  Do things like crossing your legs, adjusting your shoes, etc. to see if any strangers try and look up the skirt.  If you catch them, smile.  Bonus point if no panties!

 #44 - Dress sexy and sit at a bar by yourself.  Smile, flirt, bend over, etc. as your hubby watches.  Then go home with your hubby and fuck!

 #45 – Hubby dresses you as he sees fit.  Go out and do whatever he asks.

 10 Points

#46 - On a girls’ night out, send your husband pictures of you flirting and having fun with other men.

 #47 - Get 3 guys to buy you a drink at the bar.  Do whatever it takes to make it happen!

 #48 - Go to a club and dance with another man while your husband watches.

 #49- Go out without your hubby, flirt with strangers, and keep texting your husband giving him updates about it.

 #50 - Wear sexy, tight, short or revealing clothes when his friends are over.  Do things like bending over, etc. to show it off! See how often you both catch them sneaking peeks.

Very clear.

HOTWIFE TIPS

Unbreakable Rules:

1. HONESTY…NEVER lie about ANYTHING.

2. COMMUNICATE…Listen to his needs, after all your husband is letting you fuck other men, the least you could do is listen to and fulfill his sexual needs. My husband is a big dominate man but SEXUALLY loves to be told what I’m going to do & how he can’t pleased me, little humiliation is in some cases important to the husband ..so guess what ? That’s what I do.

3. NEVER become attached to a lover. DON’T let it happen EVER…FOR ANY REASON. If you do you’re an IDIOT.

4. If you have solo sex(only with his knowledge), return to your husband as soon as you’re finished fucking your stud so that he can have his wife, fresh AND NASTY from her encounter. Be a SLUT !

5.ALWAYS RECONNECT with him immediately after sex with someone else. TRAIN him to want to use you. That way he will encourage you to fuck other men for his satisfaction.

6. ALWAYS Give him respect in ur life

7. SHARE the experience with him. This is for the enhancement of your relationship and for mutually exciting sexual experiences….NOT to make other men feel good. Always make sure your hubby feels INVOLVED and SATISFIED and he will put you on a pedistal and let you be the slut you want to be. If husband not present you must video your time with your stud all the times. Ladies, is very important for your husband to feel satisfied make him go crazy for you. Be the nasty slut he wants you to be.

#savita

Whew... absolutely!

It would be awesome to know that someone is getting off to my posts.

Yes I wonder 🤔🤔🤔

Absolutely!

The best of both worlds.

This week's fantasy: my wife has an online boyfriend.

So my fantasy right now is for my wife to have an online boyfriend. He's not a local so she can't meet him in person. She has progressed past the stage of texting and is now having video call sessions. I want to watch her, but she says she's too self-conscious to have me watching her as she can't let her guard down and just enjoy him. As a result, I let her do this in private.

She sets up her laptop in the bedroom and I have to leave. I sit in the next room. I try to listen in, but can barely hear anything through our thick walls. My imagination goes wild. This feels like it lasts a lifetime as I struggle to understand my feelings. I'm a bit jealous and feel left out, while still feeling very much part of this sexual encounter and incredibly arroused. It all feels so right because as her husband, I'm responsibly for her sexual satisfaction, and this is how I can give it to her - by not denying her this deep need she has. I even feel proud of my strength and trust.

When she's done, she calls me back in. The bed is covered in abandoned sex toys. She pushes them to the side and I get onto the bed. We kiss passionately and we have awesome sex. She's hot, sweaty and very wet. I reclaim her, but I'm certain she's imagining herself having sex with him as an extension of her online session. I'm the human touch she craves with him but couldn't have. When we're done, we cuddle, recommitting our love for each other. She tells me about what they did online, but a few dreamy pauses hints that she's not telling me everything. Clearly he releases a side to her she doesn't want to reveal me. Things she can't say or do with me since I'm her husband, loving life partner and father to her daughter. That's fine since I want her to enjoy her sexuality as much as she possibly can.

After this, she doesn't speak of him again all weekend. She's tucked him away. It's as if he doesn't exist and I'm, once again, the only man in her life.

This is how our Friday nights play out... and I don't even know what he looks like.

That would be a lovely surprise.

This really is solid advice. Thank you.

So, my girlfriend and I are planning on having our first threesome with some guy she knows and after having an anxiety attack about the whole thing I was wondering... Is there a way to make it so I don't get too jealous over this and feel the urge to cut his throat while he's making my girlfriend feel good? He's 7 while I'm 6.3-4. She's said that we don't have to if I don't want to and she'd be doing this purely for me since its my turn on and I hate that it is but what can I do?

This is a slightly different request for advice than I normally receive. Usually, I get some form of “How can I convince my wife/girlfriend to…yada, yada, etc?” In your case, your girlfriend is giving you the green light to experiment, but you’re justifiably cautious.

I have to assume you’ve read through all of the advice posts on this board. If not, it’s probably worth your time to do so now. Otherwise, read on.

My first piece of advice is simple: if you’re not absolutely certain that you’re ready, then I’d hold off for now. You can always do this later, but you can’t re-cork that genie after it’s out of the bottle.  I will never be able unsee my wife fucking other men, and she can’t be unfucked, but that’s okay for us. If you’re not sure that you’re okay with that, slow down. You don’t have to stop, but slow down.

I think a common mistake people make with this stuff is that they jump straight to sex. Why not simply watch your girlfriend make out with the other guy? Maybe she can simply give him a handjob while they fool around. Remember when you were a virgin and it was awesome simply to get to first base? A hand up the shirt was a powerful adrenaline rush. It’s kind of like that.  Anything you do will blow your mind anyway, so there’s no rush to have vaginal penetration. Have her sit between the two of you while you take turns making out with her, feeling her tits and/or fingering her. Maybe if you get relaxed enough you can encourage her to go down on him, or him on her. Or take turns grinding with her, or maybe you make out with her while he goes down on her. There are so many fun possibilities besides simply jumping headlong into sex.

A word of caution. It sounds like you’re planning on doing this with some guy she knows. That’s kind of a warning flag, if you’re at all worried about jealousy. She has some degree of relationship with this guy, and it sounds like she knows him more than you do. That might exacerbate any jealousy issues. Are you going to be worried if she’s contacting him later, or driving yourself crazy wondering who just texted her? I have no doubt that she’s on the up and up, but I’d be more worried about your mindset after it’s over. Maybe it seems safer to explore this with someone other than Stranger Danger.  We preferred our first time to be with a complete stranger, so that if it was awful we could at least close that particular door forever.

You’re going to feel some crazy jitters beforehand. If you drink, a few glasses of wine may help settle the nerves. Too much wine will probably make it worse. I’d advise against being drunk for this – if you need that, you’re probably not ready.

I have no doubt you’re talking and fantasizing about this during sex with your girlfriend. That’s always hot! Now try talking about it AFTER you have sex. After you cum and you’re getting up from bed, maybe discuss some of the logistics  – where does she want to meet with him or do you need to buy condoms for him or if she wants to go out and grab drinks after it’s over. If you make yourself sick doing that when you’re not really in the mood, then maybe you should think twice about doing it for real. Because after he fucks your girlfriend, eventually you’re going to orgasm and have to deal with a few moments of post-orgasm angst.

That reminds me. It may help to have something to do after the big event. Are you planning to go out for a late dinner? Drinks? Breakfast the next day? Give yourself a “next step” after the deed is done. Something for both of you to do together.

I’m hate sounding so preachy, but I wanted to respond thoughtfully. We love that others vicariously enjoy our experiences through this blog, but we’d feel genuinely awful if we played any part in irresponsibly encouraging others to do something for which they weren’t ready.  Your girlfriend sounds awesome, that she’s willing to try something like this in large part because it turns you on. Tell her how awesome that is.

Above all, talk this whole thing out with her. Seriously, it’s no big deal to tell her about your anxiety. The anxiety is what gets you off, but you’re not sure if it will overwhelm you during the act. It will help her to know the (somewhat intentional) torture you’ll be experiencing during the moment. Make sure you establish something like a  “safe word” with her before you play, if you would like it to stop without you having to make a big scene. Agree that any of you can shut it down if you’re not feeling it, and nobody gets to have hard feelings about it.

And if you decide you’re ready, remember that you love each other. Don’t forget to remind each other of that before, during, and after.

Let me know if this helps. I’d love to hear how it goes (or doesn’t’ go), and I’m sure virtually every follower of this blog feels the same way.

I would. Hopefully one day...

Second favorite kind of video to get.

Absolutely. The idea is very hot.

Question is... do I get to read her chats afterwards?

The Realities Of Hotwifing

There are so many hot picture captions/memes on Tumblr about hotwifing, cuckolding, the stag and vixen lifestyles, and all the other forms of alternative relationship arrangements we get out perverted and kinky selves into.

But you know what bothers me sometimes? 

How our perceptions and expectations about these arrangements can get skewed without us even recognizing it. 

Expectations for what it’s all like, what it should be like, how it happens, how often it happens, why it happens…all those expectations get influenced by the things we immerse ourselves in. 

This is especially the case for people who are new to the lifestyles or who are looking to get into the lifestyles.

Simply put, the eroticism and sexiness of hotwifing images/memes we see on Tumblr notwithstanding, they leave out some of the realities to it all. 

Sometimes though, it’s good to be reminded of the realities, and that’s what this post is all about. 

For example, you’ll never come across a picture like this…

…with a caption on it that says something like, “ “Honey I just got back from my date with another man, and he was a TERRIBLE kisser. I didn’t enjoy it at all.”

Or perhaps one like this…

Or how about one that conveys just how common it is to get all ready and excited for your first in-person meet, only to have the guy be a faker or flake…

We don’t see things like this because it’s not sexy to see or think about. We only reblog things that stoke our desires. And that’s normal for the most part. After all, sex isn’t the only thing that “sells”…SEXY does too. 

Don’t get me wrong though. I’m not saying the hotwifing lifestyle can’t be enjoyable or sexy or pleasurable beyond your wildest imagination, because it can. It can one of the most fulfilling journeys a couple can take together in their entire life. 

It just sometimes helps to be reminded every now and again that if it all doesn’t go down or happen like you read about in most online hotwifing stories or see in the hotwife pictures/memes,…DON’T WORRY…IT’S ALL NORMAL!

Nothing is wrong with you, or your partner, or your relationship, or your experience. You’re most likely not doing anything wrong. Navigating the lifestyle can be difficult and frustrating at times, and it comes with tons of challenges. 

So if at any point, you run into a challenge or a setback or have a negative experience along the way, remember that it comes with the territory and you shouldn’t fret too much about it. But most importantly…

Don’t be afraid to share your “negative” experiences with the online community! It can help you and it can help others to know that living out this lifestyle in reality is a bit different than living it out in fantasy. That’s why…

Share the realities you faced in your hotwifing, cuckolding, stag & vixen-ing journeys by replying to this post. Or simply like/reblog because after all, reality checks can be positive every now and again.

Excellent. We've even done a few of these without realising it.

So you want to talk dirty but you have no clue what to say?

Dirty talk is an awesome way to explore your fantasies in a safe environment, but it can also be a daunting task if you’re not used to expressing your sexuality in such an explicit way.

What do you say? How do you say it? And how do you know he’ll like it?

Diclaimer: the following advice reflects our kinks and likes but the principles can be used for any fantasy you want to talk dirty about. We’re very much into hotwifing both of us. Basically he enjoys to watch me being fucked by a hung guy. He’s not into humiliation or being put down, but he do like to hear that another man can give me just as much pleasure as him, sometimes even more. For me, I enjoy walking that fine line where he’s a mix of horny and jealous. I want him to be horny thinking of me cumming over and over again, but I also love to know that it does sting a little bit when I tell him that a bigger dick can turn me into an obedient little slut and make me cum instantly.

Some safety rules.

First thing first. We don’t want your dirty talk to turn into a stupid argument, so let’s get some safety rules down first.

• Talk about what he like and doesn’t like beforehand. What I’m writing in this post is based on our likes and kinks, and they are not universal guidelines. You should always talk to your husband and find out exactly what it is he would love to hear from you. It’s important to keep this conversation non-sexual, so you get an honest answer, not a horny answer.

• What is said in dirty talk might not reflect real life. This goes both ways. Dirty talk is a great way to explore fantasies and boundaries, but not everything said when you’re raging horny is valid when you’re not. If something is said that surprises you, talk about it after. And remember, you’re going make him REALLY horny, so he might express fantasies or thoughts that is just that - fantasies and thoughts, and not necessarily something he wants to act on. In the same way you need to be clear about how you’re also just exploring your own fantasies as well as his, and might say something in the heat of the moment that you don’t necessarily mean or want to act out in real life.

• This is dirty talk, not a lie detector test. You’re allowed to exaggerate to increase his enjoyment, but I strongly advise you to reveal the truth after he’s had his orgasm so you won’t create a distorted image in his head.

What dirty talking is not

Dirty talking is not overthinking how to phrase the perfect sentence. In fact, once you start articulating your husband’s fantasies, I guarantuee he will be so horny he couldn’t care less how well you phrase it. Just the fact that you’re talking about his fantasies means that he’s too busy trying to keep his orgasm back to even care. Just relax and say something. Anything.

Don’t rush it

The goal with dirty talking is of course to make your husband have an amazing orgasm, but do not rush it!

I’ll dare say that for your husband the process and the talk itself is way more exciting than his orgasm. So take your time and let him  enjoy and simmer in it.

Don’t worry about repeating yourself

You might be thinking “but I already told him that story 3 times, I can’t think of something new”. Don’t worry about that, just tell it again. Trust me.

And now…. Without further ado here are my secret dirty talking methods that’ll make your husband lose his mind.

And then what

I find that the biggest obstacle in dirty talking is how to start it. That first thing you break the ice with. It can feel a bit awkward at first, but you’ll quickly get the hang of it. I’m a big fan of something I call the and then what technique. Basically you just start with a rather innocent question or statement and then evolve into the next natural thing that would happen. So you say something, and then pretend someone asks you “and then what” and then you answer that question.

So let’s pretend for a second you’re on top of your man, riding him cowgirl style and you want to spice it up a little.

Simply starting with a “you like the way I fuck you?” Is enough to break that awkward ice. He’ll answer yes of course. And then what? “then imagine how Mark (using names of actual guys you know works amazingly) would feel if I fucked him like this”

And then what?

“I would bounce up and down his cock just like this. He’ll get to feel how tight your wife’s pussy is”

And then what?

“then I want him to….”

You get it.

Reliving the past

My husband is very much into hearing stories about guys I used to fuck so this one is his favorite type of dirty talk. The way it goes is when I give him a handjob, blowjob or even ride him, I would say something like “you like the way I stroke your dick?” (asking if he likes it is always a great way to break the ice and initiate dirty talk without feeling awkward). This always gets me a very enthustiastic “YES!” to which I answer something like “this is exactly how I used to stroke [name of guy I used to fuck]’s cock…” (pause for dramatic effect) “except… His was a lot bigger than yours”. This line alone is usually enough to almost bring him over the edge, and if not it’s a great way to go into more details - how did it feel to stroke a much bigger dick, would you do it again, perhaps the guy used to get so horny that he would fuck you before you could finish the handjob, etc. Details, details, details, I can’t stress it enough.

Fair warning: not everyone is into hearing about your past! Make sure your husband is into that before springing this on him.

The commentator

This one is super easy because you don’t feel like you’re talking dirty, you’re just saying what’s on your mind. So the way it works is to watch porn with your man and simply make comments about the movie paying. Particularly about the guy and what you like about him. Compliment his dick, go into details about what you like about him, think out loud like “I really wish I could get fucked like that one day” / “look how big his dick is. He would make me cum so fast with that”

If you’ve fucked someone who reminds you of the guy, by all means tell your husband about it. Watching a porn with a guy who’s fucking some girl senseless and hearing your wife drop the bomb that the guy is the exact same size as some dude she dated in college is a sure way to make your husband look at the porn and all he will see is you being fucked right there on the screen. Very hot for both of you.

The yes ladder

This is a really simple but very effective technique that is easy for new dirty talkers and is guarantueed to drive him crazy.

In a nutshell what you do is ask him some questions that all leads to a yes. With each question the intensity in what you’re asking increases. There’s something crazy hot about this almost confessional way of talking dirty and being “forced to admit” your deepest fantasies. This is a great way to get yourself going, and to test out boundaries.

Optional: let him know ahead of time that you’re going to ask him questions and if he says no just once, he don’t get to cum. See what he’s willing to say yes to - just remember these are forced and horny yesses expressing what he likes in the heat of the moment. They don’t necessarily count in real life.

Example of a yes ladder.

“you like this huh”

“would you like it if i did this to another guy?”

“would you let me pick any guy i want?”

“what if i want a guy who’s bigger than you, would you allow that?”

“do you want him to fuck me hard?”

“what if he makes me cum really hard, can you handle that?”

“what if he makes me scream out his name, can you still handle it?”

“can I fuck him right here in our bed?”

“would you allow me to fuck someone I’ve dated before?”

“even if he really knows how to fuck me good?”

“what if I want him to fuck me while you wait in the other room, will you do that?”

You get it, just continue like this. Make the questions increasingly more provocative and test his boundaries, maybe even cross them if you know he can handle it.

The O-bomb

This method works extremely well if you’ve been teasing and playing with him for a while, keeping him right on the edge and he’s SO close now that you can make him cum any second.

All there is to it is asking him “do you want to cum?” he’ll answer yes almost pleading. And that’s when you drop the O-bomb. The O-bomb is some of the blue thought you put into his head and force him to cum to before he can even react.

For example: he just said yes he wants to cum. You then say “good. I want you to cum while you think of me cumming all over (name)’s big dick” and then you simply force him to cum before he even gets a chance to react. As he’s cumming you keep feeding him the thought over and over until he’s done. “yes, cum while you imagine how he makes me scream” etc.

The story

My personal favorite. One thing is to talk about imaginary stuff that could maybe some day happen. Another is to talk about stuff that actually already happened simply by telling him a story about some incredible hot sex you’ve had, either because the circumstances where hot, because the guy knew what he was doing and fucked your brains out or the guy happened to be seriously hung.

This is also super simple for you because you dont have to make anything up, you simply just tell what happened and describe the situation.

Don’t worry about elaborate descriptions or anything. Trust me he’ll ask you to elaborate when he hears something he likes. Just describe what happened and how it felt for you. Especially the “how it felt” part is very important.

The talk

Now in the safety rules i told you to talk about what he likes and dislikes without touching him so his arousal won’t reflect his answers. This time you do the exact opposite. Simply have a conversation about what he likes while slowly touching his dick. There’s something really hot about just talking while casually stroking him. And you’ll be able to measure his response simply by the way his dick throbs, which is incredibly hot.

How to start it: just casually ask him a question about his likes and as he answers you slowly start touching him while asking him more questions.

The close your eyes and imagine

Sometimes it can be a lot easier if your husband can’t see you when you talk dirty.

Example:

“close your eyes. Do you like my hands on. Your dick? Now imagine i was doing this to another guy. Stroking his big dick just like this. I would be so turned on knowing it isn’t you. My pussy would want to feel him inside me. Imagine how he would push me down and fuck me. Imagine how i would gasp when he starts to stretch me. How I would scream when he goes deeper than you.”

Do you see how the above also make use of the and then what technique to tell the next part of the story?

Putting it all together

Now, I know reading about it and actually doing it is two very different things. When you’re first starting out I actually advice you to plan out your dirty talking. This might not be as sexy and spontaneous, but while you’re still getting the hang of it it’s nice to be a little prepared so you don’t run out of things to say. I would also advice you to start off doing it while giving a handjob, as you will have a much easier time focusing on what to say than if you were giving a blowjob or having sex.

Let’s break the ice with an innocent “do you like the way it feels when I stroke your cock?”

When he says yes I would then say something like “good…. Now close your eyes” wait for him to do it.

Then: “would you like it if I did this to another man?” - “yes”

Then: “you know, [name of ex / bull / fantasy guy] used to love when I stroked his dick. Of course his was a lot bigger than yours, I could barely close my hand around it”

Then: “do you like that, thinking about how I used to stroke his big cock?” - “yes”

Then: “having that big cock in my hands always made me feel so tiny and horny”

Then: “do you want me to show you how I used to suck him?” - “yes”. Then put all your effort into giving the best head you have ever given.

Then: “mmh… Can you imagine how good his cock must have felt in my mouth? I used to suck him just like that until he came in my mouth”.

By now he should be getting pretty close, so it’s time put on the finale. Ask him “do you want to cum?” - “yes”. Start stroking him faster.

“tell me…” - make him say that he wants to cum.

“I want you to cum while you think of me getting fucked by [name]. He would always make me cum so hard. Imagine how I used to scream his name” - if you really want to go all out you could start moaning the name of this other guy, whether that’s your bull, an old fling, your husband’s friend or who ever you like to fantasize about.

Do you see how easy it flows from do you like it, to imagine it’s someone else, to describing how you used to do or would do it on someone else?

With time it will come naturally and you won’t have to plan ahead, but to begin with it’s nice to have an idea of how you want to start it, how you want to end it and how you bridge that gap.

There you have it. My secrets to driving your husband wild. Now go… Make him lose it.

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Hi SoccerDad.

Nice to meet you.

Can I recommend "harder" as a safe word?

‘then may I suggest you pick a safeword baby’…..

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Really well said. 80% resonates with me.

Why He Let Me Do It

I had asked my husband to write a few notes about why he "lets" me do it. I don't mean to seem like he controls me, because he doesn't. However, if he told me tomorrow he'd like me to stop having sex with other men, I would. Because in the end it is about our marriage. So here's what he wrote.

Because it absolutely makes our communication stronger. There are no secrets, and that is super sexy and hot. Even when we're out and you say something like, "that guy is super hot". Every woman thinks it, but few have the freedoms to say it because of their own insecurity, or the insecurity of their husband, which comes out as jealousy. 

Sex was always good with you of course, but it's way better since it started. Way better. It's more erotic, since we open up our marriage. It never fails either--when you've been with other guys, our sex after is more passionate. I can feel it. 

I see your confidence and the fun that you're having. It doesn't take away from us, it adds to us, and to you. I love seeing how erotic you are, and I love it when you describe an encounter with your guys. Most men would be threatened, I am not. I love it. 

I love surprising you by planning a date for you with a random strager men. I love how it brings out the femininity in you. 

I love the not knowing. I go to work, and I don't know if you're having sex with someone. That makes every single day erotic in a hard-to-define way. In the times that I "catch" you in the act? Super freaking hot. 

All of the different possibilities that are opened up by this--the physical, mental, are all a lot of fun, and thrilling. I love the fact that you get a lot of sexual satisfaction, from me and from others. But in the end, I know you love it, and it brings us closer together. That's the best part. 

All are just so... awesome!

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

The most definitive post so far.

Hotwife Quotes to Fire Up Your Relationship and Spice Things Up!

Hotwife quotes provide a unique perspective on relationships, marriage and love. They offer insight into the minds of those who are in committed relationships where one partner is allowed to explore sexual experiences outside the relationship. Hotwife quotes can be inspiring for couples looking to spice up their marriage or for individuals seeking an alternative lifestyle.

1. “There’s something about being a hotwife that just feels so naughty and fun!”

2. “A hotwife is a woman who enjoys the attention of other men, but stays loyal to her husband.”

3. “If you’re not married, don’t try to be a hotwife. You need permission from the husband first!”

4. “I like to think of myself as a modern-day hotwife!”

5. “Hotwives are wild and free, but always remain faithful to their husbands!”

6. “It takes two people in an open marriage to make it work—and lots of trust!”

7. “Sharing my wife with other men is an exciting and liberating experience!”

8. “The most important thing about being a hotwife is to keep the trust between husband and wife.”

9. “A hotwife can really spice up a relationship—for both parties!”

10. “My hotwife has been a great way for us to explore our own sexual desires in new ways.”

11. “It’s not just about sex, it’s also about trust and mutual respect between two partners.”

12. “When I see my hotwife looking so beautiful, it fills me with pride that she chose me as her partner.”

13. “We don’t have to be conventional; there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to relationships!”

14. “Every day is a new adventure with my hotwife.”

15. “Having a hotwife is an amazing opportunity to explore our sexuality and discover new heights of pleasure!”

16. “Being the husband of a hotwife has been the most liberating experience I’ve ever had.”

17. “The thought of sharing my wife is thrilling and really turns me on!”

18. “My hotwife and I have been able to build a strong relationship that allows freedom but also loyalty.”

19. “There’s nothing like watching your hotwife get her groove on with another man!”

20. “Exploring the world of hotwifing can be a journey of discovery for both partners.”

21. “The key to having a successful hotwife relationship is communication and understanding each other’s boundaries.”

22. “My wife and I have found that being open about our feelings has helped to strengthen our marriage.”

23. “It takes confidence and courage to be a hotwife, but the rewards are worth it!”

24. “There’s something exciting and mysterious about being a hotwife that keeps me coming back for more!”

25. “As long as my wife and I are on the same page, we can explore this lifestyle to our heart’s content!”

26. “Being a hotwife means you can enjoy all that life has to offer without compromising your commitment to each other.”

27. “My wife is an amazing hotwife; she knows how to have fun while respecting my boundaries.”

28. “We make sure that we take time for ourselves as individuals in order for our relationship as a hotwife couple to thrive.”

29. “Our hotwifing journey has been extremely rewarding, discovering new levels of intimacy within our marriage.”

30. “The trust between us is stronger than ever since introducing the hotwife lifestyle!”

31. “The number one rule for being a hotwife is to be honest and open about your feelings with your partner.”

32. “It’s all about having fun, but also making sure that everyone feels safe and respected.”

33. “Having the support of my husband has allowed me to explore my wilder side as a hotwife!”

34. “My wife and I have found that our relationship has become even more connected as we experiment with this lifestyle.”

35. “Being a hotwife gives us both the freedom to express our true desires in a secure environment.”

36. “It can be nerve-wracking at first, but with trust and communication it can be an incredibly rewarding experience!”

37. “My husband and I have found that the hotwife lifestyle has only brought us closer together.”

38. “The key to a successful hotwifing relationship is mutual respect and understanding between partners.”

39. “We may explore different kinds of activities, but we will always remain faithful to each other!”

40. “I’m proud to be a part of this amazing journey as my wife’s loving and supportive husband!”

41. “My hotwife and I have been able to explore each other’s limits while respecting our boundaries.”

42. “We don’t take ourselves too seriously; it’s all about having fun and expanding our horizons as a couple!”

43. “We feel empowered by the fact that we can both be adventurous in our marriage without fear of judgement or criticism.”

44. “The more we explore the hotwife lifestyle, the more we learn about ourselves and each other!”

45. “My wife is my biggest inspiration, pushing me to reach new heights of pleasure and connection through this journey.”

46. “Our relationship has grown stronger since introducing the hotwife lifestyle, and I couldn’t be prouder!”

47. “The hotwife lifestyle is a beautiful experience that I would recommend to any couple looking to take their relationship to the next level!”

48. “My wife and I are making memories together that will last us a lifetime.”

49. “We can both express our deepest desires in an environment of trust and understanding – all thanks to the hotwife lifestyle.”

50. “My wife is my everything, and being able to share her with others has been an incredible journey for the both of us!”

Hotwife quotes can be a great source of inspiration and motivation for any couple who is looking to spice up their relationship. Whether you’re just starting out or have been in the lifestyle for years, these words from experienced hotwives are sure to provide insight into what it takes to make your marriage thrive.

Take time to reflect on each quote and apply its wisdom directly to your own life, you may find that it helps bring more passion and connection than ever before! With the right attitude and approach, being part of an open marriage can be incredibly rewarding both emotionally and physically. So don’t hesitate start exploring today!