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Women Need More Than 1 Sex Partner

Anthropologists and sex researchers have puzzled over why women are multi-orgasmic and men aren’t.  It really doesn’t make sense if your model is that men are more sexual. Shouldn’t men be able to have multiple orgasms quicker than women? Yet it makes perfect sense when you realize women evolved for having multiple partners.

Of late, scientists are starting to believe that women who had greater orgasmic capabilities had greater survival outcomes thereby passing their genes onto their children.  This was partly reproductive.  A woman’s chance of getting pregnant was greater if she had sex with multiple men. Pretty simple.  In addition, the offspring's survival was greater if she had sex with multiple partners outside of her most fertile time of the month.  Multiple partners would help to take care of her and their children.  Consistent sex led to deeper social connections.

Women evolved to have multiple partners.   That was the natural order until relatively recently when the practice of 1 woman for 1 man took hold. 

All of this is confirmed by people in the lifestyle. A man’s sex drive  remains fairly stable even with multiple partners.  However, a woman’s sex drive skyrockets when she has multiple partners.  The way it takes shape might be different. Some women like a more connected approach with 1 or 2 additional sex partners.   Some women need the variety of many casual sex partners.  Either way, the husband benefits from having a more confident empowered wife.  A happy wife equals a happy life. 

More husbands are realizing this and helping their wives by encouraging them to take on additional sex partners.

Very insightful.

Men like to Watch - Women like to be Center of Attention

For people reading here, it’s probably clear. Men like to watch. Women like to be watched. That’s why a hotwifing dynamic works. When it comes to including others, men fantasize about watching their wife with another man. Women fantasize about being with another man and being watched by their husband.

The research proves it out. Men want to watch. Women want to be watched. Why? The researchers don’t know. They speculate that perhaps women are taught to be the center of sexual attention and for men to pursue women, perhaps it’s male competition. competitive elements. Perhaps it’s just a natural dynamic. Women would naturally have multiple partners. Sometimes a man would watch, other times he would join in.

The interesting bit is that men who fantasize about this have a higher self-esteem than those who don’t. It takes a strong man to encourage his wife to enjoy herself with another man.

I'd love to hear these from my wife.

We're going out this Friday night. Our kid is out with friends so we're going to our nearest bar "to be adults".

You have no idea how much I hope she flirts with someone.

Hold thumbs for me.

Please give me advice regarding Tumblr posting.

I had a post blocked due to sexual content. (I thought it was no more raunchy than anything else I see here, but no crying over spilled milk.). Thinking that it just needed to be responsibly labeled as "Content Mature" and of "Sexual nature", I bulk changed all my posts' labels to mature.

As you can see in my activity graph above... my activity immediately disappeared despite posting 2 more [text only] posts. It's as if Tumblr is not feeding my posts out anymore.

Can anyone advise me? When you post new memes of a sexual nature, do you label them, or just ignore it?

I feel like I'm being throttled because I'm now following the rules.

Let's change the memes

There are so many captioned images out there in circulation, but they are all running off one common thread, using the same formula:

They are fantasy situations intended for the stag/cuck to feed our hotwife fantasy. None are for the actual hotwife's enjoyment.

Let's change this!!!

Instead of re-posting other people's memes, let's rather make our own. Let's make them intended to send to our wives encouraging their hotwife desires. Let's make posts that we can send to our wives as naughty sext messages. It seems wrong to send her a pic of another hot woman propositioning me to be my hotwife. It should be of a big cock being offered up for her pleasure. (or similar)

We keep talking about how we do this Hotwifing thing out of compersion, that it's all for her enjoyment, but these memes are so obviously for our own pleasure feeding our own fantasies that they feel a little hypocritical. Let's start a new wave of memes - memes we can send to our wives. memes that they will enjoy and expand their thinking.

So, who's on board?

(BTW, I'm a graphic designer, so if you want me to make a few for you because you have the ideas, but not the tools to make them yourself, just pop me a message)

Absolutely.

I'll gladly admit it here, but you're right... it will be difficult in my every day life.

How you started that talk about her be a hotwife?

Whew, as with most things, we struggle to remember how things started.

I think the first thing I did with her was to play a game. I made cards with questions on them and had her pick cards and answer the questions. The questions hinted at hotwifing eg: her first sexual experience and if she'd fantasised about having a threesome. 15-odd questions later and it was very easy to tell her how I find the idea of her being with another man was a very sexy idea.

I didn't justify or explain it. I just left it at that.

A week later, I tied her hands and blindfolded her, and told a little story about inviting a friend over, and then made love to her while wearing a penis sheath so I'd feel different. She really enjoyed it and next thing we know, the fantasy was acceptable.

Hello! I bet your wife is sexy. Only because my wife is and I love the hotwife fantasy. Actually my wife has stepped out on me in the past but it's been awhile.

Yes, she is very sexy. I can't get enough of her. I don't expect her to be everyone's cup of tea, but nobody is. We all have our own tastes and kinks, and she's mine. I wouldn't change her for anything.

I'd love for her to follow through with this fantasy, but that has to be totally up to her. I'm encouraging her experience of pleasure through my kink, so if she doesn't find pleasure in it, I won't push her.

Our Gym Hottie game

So this morning I challenged my wife to strike up a conversation with her Gym Hottie and swap names. To get his name and give him hers. No more being complete strangers, just watching him across the room.

She said she's game and will do it!

I'm so aroused and excited! I love my wife...

Yup, that's me.

Kinky vs selfless

I'm still trying to understand my feelings and why I find the idea of my wife having sex with another man in front of me to be such a huge turn on.

At first I thought it was just another kinky fetish - something new to keep the sparks alive.

Then I thought it was the logical argument of "sperm competition" that makes the husband rise to the challenge of other attractive men.

But now I think it might be selflessness. It's less about the act of sex in front of me that I find arousing, but rather seeing her revel in arousal, pleasure and freedom of expression. To see her throw off the shackles of societal norms and just do what she wants.

This sexual freedom is a gift I can give her, rather than an act she performs for me.

My wife's "Gym Hottie"

My wife and I gym separately at different gyms. I asked her to have a little perv next time she trained and she's come back having spotted someone who's caught her eye. She doesn't know his name, so we refer to him as her "Gym Hottie".

For about 2 weeks now, she's been giving me updates on how she managed to train next to him or cross paths while returning weights.

Thinking about her at gym watching him do his stuff, getting all hot and wet over a muscular, sexy hunk is enormously arousing to me. I hope she gets brave and chats with him. Some active flirting would be amazing and totally send me over the edge. I also love the fact that she's found someone she genuinely finds super attractive, not just settling for someone to make me happy with some made up stories.

I'm trying to play it cool, but everyday I want an update. I'm encouraging her, but don't want to push her.

She's soooooo sexy. I love her to bits!

This is the absolute sexiest thing we can talk about.

She has my permission, but it's still very early days for us. It's still to happen. I know one day it will.

Bring it on.

I do.

Re-blog if you're a happily married couple too.

A little sexy fun on holiday

My did something amazing this weekend. We were away on holiday (whole family came along, so nothing naughty could really happen), but on the Saturday night, we were making love and she starts telling me about this guy she met at the bar that afternoon while I was out cycling. How she flirted with him and pressed her body up against him and felt his hard cock push back. How she brought him back to our cabin and let him fuck her hard and then sent him away before I returned.

I know it was just a story and it hadn't actually happened, but hearing her talk about it was so amazingly arousing. Needless to say I didn't last long. This was really fantastic and is sitting in my mind, days later.

I have an awesome wife and love her to bits!

I can't wait for this to progress to the real thing, but I'm in no rush and this has to come from her - I can't push her to do something she's not ready to do.

Does anyone have any advice or ideas to help smooth along the process?

I encourage my wife to wear hers. It's a very special feeling to see her wear it.

She shared a dream

How awesome is this... my sexy Hotwife told me about a dream she had. In it, she was in a bar, dressed sexy and wearing her anklet. She'd crossed her legs so the anklet was nicely displayed. She had 3 guys flirting and hitting on her with lots of mild touching (hands on knees, etc.). She said she was enjoying the attention.

Now I don't know if she was just being nice and telling me a story that she thought I'd like to hear, or if it was genuine... but it sure got me worked up hearing about it.

I can't wait to reach that level with her and actually do it.

This was a little explanation card I created to help explain the whole Hotwife thing to my wife. It explained the design of our emblem - a fox head with antlers (Vixen & stag). This graphic was engraved on a charm on an anklet that I used for proposing to her.

I have this graphic on my desk at work and as her profile on my phone. Everything I see it, I think of her. It symbolises a new phase of our marriage, and I feel a dating 20 year old again.

Any symbols for Stags to wear?

So we've only just started this exciting journey. I've designed an emblem that represents our Stag & Vixen relationship, had it engraved onto a heart charm and presented it to my wife as a "Hotwife Proposal" as an anklet. (I happily announce she said "yes". I was more nervous over this proposal than when I first proposed to her 25 years ago).

I'd like to wear something that indicates that I'm married to a Hotwife without it being some kind of humiliating cuckold message. Perhaps a piece of matching jewellery that other Hotwife couples will recognise.

Is there any accepted jewellery for Stags, like anklets are for Hotwifes?