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I Edge My Husband...

I edge my husband because:

-It’s what his body wants, whether his mind knows it or not -It’s more pleasurable for him to be edged and denied than for him to cum – simple biology -I can do this every day, and he’ll stay aroused and excited every time -He makes the sexiest noises when I edge him -I love watching his mind go numb with pleasure -He gets so stiff and hard for me, I can’t resist touching it, and I want him to stay that way as long as possible -He stays in a hypersexual state, always eager to pleasure me any way I want -It arouses me to see him lost in bliss -Edging him is so easy, and it gets easier every day I do it -I want him to be happy, and he’s obviously happy when he’s on the edge -I love that he trusts me with his most intimate, natural reflex, so I trigger it as often as possible (or almost-trigger it!) -He fucks me so hard after I edge him for a few days – he’s like an animal, I fucking love it! -He thinks of me all day and texts me the sweetest things -He works hard, doesn’t get enough respect, and deserves to “zone out” for a -while in my hands or mouth -It makes him dream about me, so I’m part of literally every moment of his life

And more, and more…

Thanks to HealthySexyMarriage

Holding You

Holding you. Your body spooned to mine. We are a perfect match to each other. My arm wrapped around your waist… my fingers lightly tracing a design on your soft stomach. I could lay here forever feeling you next to me. My head nestled in your shoulder. The faint scent of your perfume makes me want to pull you closer… make you part of me. Not a few hours ago, it’s scent more present, your perfume was an aphrodisiac for me as the heat of your passion drew me to take you so many ways and then moaning into your throat as I emptied my passion into you.

I want you to sleep… but I can’t put last night out of my mind. Can you feel it? My arousal from our memory is beginning to manifest. I’m feeling myself growing inside you. My fingers continue their gentle dance on your stomach as my crown, aroused by last night’s memory, gently and steadly presses past your moistening lips. Oh god it feels so good growing inside you! Feeling your wetness cover me as I harden completely. What thoughts are in your dreams my sweet? I will fight every instinct I have and remain motionless inside you for as long as I can, but it’s going to be a battle I eventually lose.

You shift slightly… pressing into me. Taking me deeper… the battle is lost. I pull you into me and begin to move inside you. My cock slides slowly… deeper into you. You moan in your sleep… you probably think this is a dream. Enjoying the feel of each vein on my swollen shaft as it succumbs to the spasming of your walls and rubs across your hardened little clit. I can’t help but gasp as I feel the beginning of my end start deep in my ball sack. I’ve woken you and your first words “oh fuck baby,” ring in my ears.

I respond, “Oh god baby take my cum…. Fuck!… All of it!” I can’t pull you any closer… I can’t fuck you any deeper…. I can’t hold back the geyser shooting out of me as your pussy walls grip my spasming cock and your orgasm joins with mine. Your mind’s eye explodes as you feel my cum shooting inside you… my hand squeezing your breast…. my animal noises as I bury my head in your hair and suck your neck. For a timeless moment we are nothing but two bodies feeding off each other’s lust to enhance our own mind numbing pleasure. Our crescendo being me thrusting and holding deep inside you… pumping out the last streams of my cum as you spasm and quiver around my swollen shaft… your body jerking involuntarily and covering me with your own release.

And there we are, a dance of sexual need out of sync with an indecipherable soundtrack of words grunts and moans. Incongruous movements eventually harmonizing as orgasms play out and aftercare takes over. Together… bodies motionless as we began…our breathing synced. I can feel you drift back to the sleep I took you from… I can’t wait to fall asleep… still inside you… still holding you… my last conscious experience the faint smell of your perfume mixed with the scent of our sex.

Some time during the night I awoke to my loving husband wrapped tightly around my body. I could his hear his low snore as he slept. I could also feel a very subtle but rhythmic push of his hips against my backside. He was hard and pressed between my thighs.

I smiled. Even in his sleep he's... I just shook my head.

I lifted my leg slightly and his warm manhood slid between my legs and up against my pussy. My butt and thighs were slick from his fluids. His subtle thrusting continued while he snored softly into my shoulder. He slid slightly back and forth for a few more minutes. I could feel my own wetness coating him making it easier for him slide through my sex. His thick crown scraped against my clit causing my own hips to grind back against his.

When I could no longer stand it I angled my hips and pressed his cock into me with my fingers.

A deep moan reverberated against my shoulder. I waited to see if Hubs had awakened but his low snore continued. The subtle thrusting of his hips continued. I moaned into the pillow. Several minutes passed and his hips continued thier slow rhythm. I came and tried to not to wake him. I shook slightly against him and his arms held me tight. Several more minutes passed.. his thrusting continued, just an inch or so at a time. He moaned slightly between soft snores.

I held his arm as another orgasm built in me. I snaked my fingers down and rubbed my swollen clit as he thrust into me. My eyes rolled back as his torturous pace altered and he thrust deeply into me. His snoring broke and his arm tightened agaisnt me. I felt him swell and the pulse deep inside me as he came. His thick hot seed sprayed into me again and again.. and again. I could feel it coating me. Another deep breath told me he had awakened from his dreaming. He groaned deeply and kissed my shoulder as he continued to cum. His thrusts became more purposeful, pressing himself deeply into me.

I came again shaking in his embrace.

Once we had calmed a bit he kissed my shoulder and neck. "Sorry babe." He apologized. His voice deep and groggy.

I slipped my cum covered fingers up to his mouth "I'm happy to be woke up like that anytime." He suckled my fingers clean and kissed my neck.

We both fell back to sleep as he softened inside me.

The benefits problems with chastity

If you are into male submission, it isn’t hard to find lists upon lists of the benefits of male chastity. As someone who loves the game of chastity there are some very serious side effects of chastity that some men experience that they don’t tell you about on those lists. Instead of a fun and kinky game, it can get dark and bitter FAST. This happens when chastity is done wrong.

I am here to help. What I say won’t apply to every situation or person. But if you as a keyholder (or someone with a keyholder) isn’t having fun with chastity then this might help you.

But first some highlights of these list of which I speak. Here are some common benefits I found when browsing through a dozen or so such lists (type Chastity Benefits or similar terms in your Tumblr search bar or your favorite search engine)

1. His desire for you will skyrocket 2. His libido doesn’t crash 3. Male masturbation is evil and this stops it 4. He’ll stay faithful to you 5. He’ll be more helpful around the house

etc, etc, etc

This is a sampling but you can easily find more. I will go through each of these examples and explain why I think they are flawed, and how to make it better. But before that I am going to let you in on the basis of every problem with chastity right now. 

IGNORING HIM RUINS EVERYTHING

Yep. If you want chastity to work it means a lot more sex. A LOT more. But it isn’t the traditional type of sex. It is talking and tasks and receptive sex on his part. If as the keyholder (mental or physical keyholder, it makes no difference) chastity is some kind of sexual oubliette where you throw your partner and forget about them then you are begging for problems and pain. The benefits of chastity only happen when you replace what you have taken away from him, with something more enticing than orgasms. And remember, that for most guys, we are biologically wired to do almost anything to cum! Mother nature dedicates whole parts of the brain to sex and desire (for most all people) so you are working with some strong bio-magic. Be aware of what you are getting into. It has the power to raise sexual skyscrapers you didn’t know were possible but it can also ruin and destroy people and relationships. You know the phrase…. “With great power there must also come –  great responsibility”. 

So on to how we make those benefits a reality.

5. This won’t happen with chastity. Period. If you lock up his dick and then expect him to just start doing more house work you are a fool. Taking away a joy in life isn’t going to make someone more helpful. And it is just an abuse of the kinky relationship. Kink is about fun, house work is about necessity; it is everyone’s work. If you don’t think your boy is pulling his share, or would like them to do more, then JUST SAY SOMETHING. It is that simple. You don’t bring kink into. If he doesn’t help when asked, a few grams of steel, or a mental command, isn’t going to change that. And if you don’t feel like asking every time, have a conversation where you explain your needs and wants and then work it out between you. Don’t expect kink to magically fix things if you can’t talk. The same holds true for getting flowers, cards, romantic dinners, etc. OPEN YOUR MOUTH.

Now, how to do it right.

If you are in a D/s relationship, which playing with chastity automatically makes it a D/s game, make it part of the fun. Be explicit about what you expect and why. And tell him often…. more than that…. even more than that… Yes, daily, hourly. You get the idea. And then give him reasons to do more chores that relate to chastity. Trade time out or release for the floor waxed. Or Don’t remember the dishes and it is a ruined orgasm for you. Or You gave up your manhood so now you do a woman’s job. Play with the power he has given you and tailor it to the way the two of you play. Examples?

Your boy into sissification? Great. That little thing has no place being out in the world were it could be mistaken for a man’s cock. Lock that shit up and go get your gurly ass dressed and in the kitchen where gurls belong. (Because dishes are more fun panties and heels.)

Your man’s a pain slut? Sit in a chair behind him with a single tail and give him a lick every sixty seconds until the dishes are done. If he drops one or doesn’t do it to your satisfaction, he starts all over again… with the strokes every thirty seconds. 

Is he a service sub? When you get home, inspect every dish and point out how disappointed your with every mistake you find. Let him feel bad for failing you.

etc, etc, etc.

You get the idea. Whatever your style looks like, use it. But for the sake of all that is kinky, play with it! Don’t ignore it. Don’t make them wait in silence for a someday. Follow through on what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it. And if that is more than 48 hours away, your are doing it wrong (more on that in a bit). An inconsistent or forgetful dom is a bad dom. And bad doms make very bad subs.

Oh, and for those that have missed the earlier point on equality but immediately took the role-playing comment (woman’s work) as sexist … go away and quit messing up the fun for everyone else who gets it. Sexism is sexy (for most). That statement means, as an example, that we know that corsets where torturous devices that women were forced to wear at one time. Women died from wearing them! But today we love them because WE DON’T FORCE WOMEN TO WEAR THEM ANY MORE. We have taken the torturous and made it fun. We do that with physical pain. Ever spanked a … SLAVE? We do the same thing with emotionally painful topics. In fact, it is by playing with these outdated ideas, turning them on their heads, and making fun of them that we remove the power they once had to hurt. As I said above, house work is everyone’s work. Kink means that putting a cage on a man and making him do ‘women’s work’ is just fun because it is role-playing, not a forced reality. 

4. If you believe that a small bit of metal and a lock that can be popped off with a screwdriver or small cutters is the only thing keeping a cheating man faithful to you then you are not just a fool, you are an idiot. Sorry to be harsh, but think about it. There are men who will throw away safety, power, wealth and even the lives of themselves and others just to fulfill one of our strong biological urges. If your man isn’t strong enough, or loves you enough, or respects you enough, or isn’t civilized enough to not fuck someone else without the consent and discussion of all parties involved then I promise you that your little cage isn’t going stop him. He is a jerk to start with, don’t play with him. Period.

Now, how to do it right.

Use your words. Make a role-playing game out of it. Talk to him, often (see above) about how you love the power over his orgasms he’s given up, or how you can play with others but as sub he can’t, or how as a sub he hasn’t earned the right to play a top role, or how he’s the bottom bitch now, etc. You know your man and what buttons to push to make him excited. Use it. And use it often. If he isn’t getting to play with his dick then you need to play with his head. And far more often than he ever played with his dick. Whatever you do, help him remember why he made a vow to you and why you are worth the chastity.

3. This is some amazingly anti sex thinking going on there. Listen to sex advice shows or read non-sex positive help books for couples and you will hear the lamination of the women (not being sexist, being Conan) over how awful his masturbation is. He does it many times a day and he doesn’t want to play with me and its like he’s cheating and… and… and… BULLSHIT. Masturbation is something most every higher animal does and most every person does unless there has been trauma. Emotional, physical, cultural or religious trauma but it takes some kind of trauma to make someone give up the benefits of masturbation. Male masturbation is not evil. 

Now I will admit that like any activity, it can be over done or become all consuming. But that is a discussion of addiction and not one of kink. There is a difference. And if you can’t see the difference you need some education on what addiction is.

And I will also admit that there are those that chose masturbation over their partners but this is because of … trauma! If your bed has become so painful to be in, difficult to obtain, tricky to navigate, or he feels to shamed to join you, or random to the point of no longer being a realistic option then yeah, he might rub one out… often. But that isn’t because he prefers it. It is because it is ‘that’ or the relationship ends (going separate ways or it loses what it once was). He has needs that occur at a duration or time that you cannot or will not meet. And he has found a way to meet them that saves your relationship. This isn’t true in every case but it is in more cases than people want to admit. :-(

How to fix this?

Welcome to the reoccurring theme of a fun, positive and kinky replacement. You are locking him up and taking away the right of orgasm. And like anytime someone locks up a natural animal you become responsible for their care and maintenance. You get to control when, AND HOW, he releases. It could be never. In that case, you have to find a suitable replacement that is applied at least as often as what you are taking away (i.e. masturbation… which can be multiple times a day for some guys). This replacement could be submissive acts, kinky words, edging, etc. And then the occasional ruin or miliking or prostate release. Whatever you do, make it fun (even in an evil way) and make it very frequent. And if it doesn’t result in frequent releases (kinky talk, submissive tasks, etc) then it has to be as frequent as his normal masturbation schedule (if not more so).

2. Nope.

This might happen in the first few days as he gets horny as hell. But if you keep ignoring it, keep his sex drive in that sexual oubliette, you know what happens to that powerful, biologically fueled, drive? It changes to something much darker. It could be anger, depression, sadness, rejection, violence, etc. Whatever your man’s dark nature is, being forgotten and ignored will bring it out and bring it out amplified. When you forget him, the best you can hope for is to crush his spirit to the point where he doesn’t care anymore. In any case, you will kill the spark that made you love him in the first place. That darkness will cause the game to come to an end in a miserable failure and might put in place lasting emotional trauma that you can’t fix.

How do you do it right?

DO NOT IGNORE HIM. Don’t forget him. Absence DOES NOT MAKE THE HEART GROW FONDER. Constant teasing and torture and playing and edging and whatever other fun kinky things you do will. If it is done often it WILL make his libido skyrocket and bring out the fun, kinky side of him. He may get super submissive. He may beg. Plead. Claim he’s dying. :-) But he won’t be mad, depressed, violent or feel forgotten. He will feel loved, owned and played with.

1. You know what? This is the same as the last one. Go re-read that again.

In the end, chastity is an awesome game so long as the keyholder (as always, physical or mental) doesn’t take a fire and forget approach, or the ‘absence will make the heart grow fonder so if I forget to play with him one day, two days, a week, two weeks, he’ll really be ready to play when I do finally grace him with the merest crumb of play time’ approach. If you do that, it will backfire spectacularly. 

Chastity can do all those wonderful things the Tumblr blogs say it can. It can make your man feel, and be, much more submissive. He can find a renewed spark in you. He can feel loved, cared for and not shamed for want to play with the person he loved. So long as you don’t ignore your dominant role and don’t forget to play more often than the activity your are replacing (his desire to orgasm) then it will work.

If you want to read some full articles, here are places to start from.

http://flrreding.tumblr.com/post/155699679122/the-following-is-an-insightful-piece-written-by 

https://plasticchastitydevices.tumblr.com/post/170104656799/to-10-benefits-of-male-chastity

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Beauty and Authority in the eyes of a submissive cuckold

My Wife is most beautiful when She dresses and behaves to catch a man’s eye and hold their attention.  She can be provocative, and some might say “slutty” when it suits Her, but She always comes across as confident and unashamed.  When She flirts with real men, She glows with sexual vitality.  She knows exactly what She’s doing and what She needs to do to ensnare them, but She makes it seem so natural that they never see Her as the predator She is.  

She flirts to get Her juices flowing and to see how a man’s charisma, sexual strength and energy match Her’s.  She does it right in front of me, because She knows i adore this power She possesses over me, and over the real objects of Her attention.  i would not dare interfere and there’s no way i could ever object or do anything but support Her. She also enjoys displaying Her power over me and the amusement of “outing me” as a submissive cuckold to Her suitors and friends that might be observing Her hunt.

Men see Her inviting them to take the lead, but i see Her authority, sexual freedom and power to seduce men for what they can give Her … what She needs that i can never provide Her.  She may enjoy sexual submission to a real man, a bull or even harness the energy of a horny man-cub that’s old enough to perform without being intimidated or childish.  

She has the authority to seduce them, choosing Her prey and taking pleasure from them anyway She pleases.  I have the honor of knowing my devoted submission and love for Her is even more valuable than what their large, hard cocks can provide Her and we both understand it’s Her right to have things both ways … or anyway She wants them.

Chastity Words of Encouragement

Chastity…

If Your husband/boyfriend or special gurl or sissy has asked You lock him in chastity, You may think he is asking you to do some sexually perverted, kinky, thing that You don’t understand and don’t want to understand because it is sick and perverted. The fact is, he is not sick and perverted, he just wants to have fun, sexually.

There was a time in Your marriage when sex was fun and exciting for You, too. Wasn’t there? He just wants to get that back again. He is not asking You to do anything that is difficult, or perverted. He is asking You to play a game with him. A sexual game in which You control when and how he has sex. That’s all. So give it a chance. You may be surprised at how much fun You, Yourself, can have

Chastity is an amazing fetish. Most people think it’s some kind of punishment or chore, but it isn’t. The feelings you receive from abstaining from orgasm are just sublime. Guys feel aroused right up until the point where they orgasm, then everything is reset to zero after orgasm they’re no longer turned on and in order to become even remotely aroused they have to wait again for the feelings to kick in.

Well, what if they didn’t orgasm. What if they didn’t masturbate every evening? What if they abstained from orgasms altogether? Would the feelings of arousal increase and increase? Yes. Yes they would. Which is why chastity is an immensely popular fetish.

Chastity popularity

It is such an intimate act to show trust in his partner for a man to hand over the key to his “crown jewels“ and to allow him to be locked up, to await “HER” pleasure. It is quite surprising that so many people have dabbled with the man wearing a chastity device, and they are the second most often bought sex toys after vibrators.

Chastity - A Joint Decision

For chastity to work well it has to be a joint decision. If you’re both eager to try chastity then the belt or device you choose should also appeal to your wife. It’s no good you buying an expensive belt and she hates the sight of it.

Some women find the transparency of the CB-6000, CB-6000s or the Curve nicely displays the enslaved penis, many would-be keyholders like the quality and hygiene of a stainless steel device. Other women like the thought of the traditional Florentine style belts believing they are more secure.

Others initially prefer to go for something like the Stallion Guard as a low cost device to experiment with before deciding on a more secure belt or cage. There are keyholders who like to allow and see the penis fully erect whilst it’s encased, belts and devices most suited to this concept, known as “penile negation”, include the Samurai and Caterpillar cock cages from Mr S. Neither of these 2 devices can be considered long term wear, however, they’re an ideal purchase as an additional chastity device to your collection, and allow your keyholder the opportunity to employ different techniques of teasing.

Some keyholders love these devices because they relish the sight of a fully erect, straining cock unable to escape.

Chastity and Masturbation

All men, given the ability, masturbate and way more often than most women think they do. This is something that is difficult for him to control and even more difficult to part with. Young men have an abundance of testosterone so masturbation doesn’t seem to interfere with their pursuit of young women.

However, as men grow older masturbating usually translates into the husband ignoring his wife for at least a couple days. Chastity puts a stop to the masturbation and works in many ways; it changes his mood, demeanor and libido. Most importantly it changes his desire to please you. It is not the goal for him to do the cooking or the cleaning or the laundry but you will find that it will happen, not routinely but it will happen because as he continues to build up his sexual energy that he no longer has the ability to release as he pleases he will divert that energy towards pleasing you.

Your being the source of his sexual pleasure will change his feelings, he will adore you, love you in a way that you desire and he will be eager to please you because you are, as I said, the source of his release. He will find, over time, he is happier and that will be because you’re happier. He will love the emotional boost the two of you share.

This isn’t as kinky as it sounds

If your sex life to date has been restricted to intercourse and perhaps mutual masturbation, chastity play can sound like something pretty weird. It isn’t. Nothing has to change about how you make love; what changes is when. The partner who wears the chastity belt has given the partner who has the “key” the ability to decide when sex can take place. Since most chastity devices effectively prevent masturbation, it means one partner gives the other control of all orgasms. This can be a great deal of fun for both people.

Chastity play allows you to take sex out of the bedroom in a subtle way that only the two of you will know. For example, if a woman has her male partner locked up, they can agree on “rules” he should follow, such as “he must always stand when she enters the room.” If when they are out with friends he forgets, she can smile and hold some fingers up and he will know he stays locked up that many more days until he can get release.

If you don’t think this is incredibly hot to both partners, just try it! You won’t believe how exciting a dull relationship can become overnight. Take a few minutes and use your imagination. Fun, huh?

Chastity Devices

Chastity devices have been used throughout the ages in order to prevent sexual intercourse. Classically, chastity has been forced upon someone using a belt type mechanic, but in recent times, more concealable and localized devices are able to be used in order to prevent the ability to touch and interact with sexual organs. In addition to the modern interpretation of how to perform chastity, a sexual fetish has developed. Individuals now enjoy the prospect of being locked up and unable to perform sexual activities unless the other person who’s chastised them allows it.

Chastity and Confinement for Men

Chastity for men is the most common form, with blocks of specially formed plastic being placed around the penis with a small lock attached for keeping it closed. Some male chastity devices make it impossible or highly painful to experience an erection, aiding the experience of being denied sexual pleasure. One major element of chastity is the understanding that eventually, the device will be removed. The sexual fetish is undesirable if the wearer believes that they will never be allowed to experience an orgasm again. As expected, chastity is an exchange of a power dynamic, with one person assuming the role of being in charge and the other being submissive and completely subject to the will of the other person.

Chastity for couples

Male chastity is not just for men, nor is it just for women who want to control their men. Male chastity is for couples! Both the submissive male and his partner stand to gain from incorporating male chastity into the relationship. The relationship as a whole stands a great deal to gain as well.

Taking control of one small aspect of your relationship - The sex. By utilizing a chastity device, you are taking the first step toward controlling your partner. He may or may not be keen on the idea. If this is your idea, you may have to incorporate a little tease and denial to get what you want….it will work.

If you can both agree to give male chastity a chance, then be realistic about it. Start out slow and easy. Don’t plan on more than a month or even a week for a trial period. Remember, this is just a trial period. If you don’t like it, don’t get any enjoyment from it, don’t see how it can improve your relationship, then you can always quit.

Couple chastity

If you’re in a committed relationship, but you want to really turn up the heat in your sex play, then chastity could be the answer for you. Many couples engage in chastity as a means of getting back the desire they felt in the early days of their relationship, when they couldn’t wait to have sex, and it lasted for hours not minutes. A time when they were always on each other’s mind.

Chastity is also a choice for many couples when the man has been unfaithful, or has been caught masturbating to internet porn. He may choose chastity as a way to demonstrate his commitment, reassure his partner, and enhance their relationship. This is a precious pledge for any man, and the thought of this alone can be incredibly arousing for both partners.

There is no doubt about it, chastity play results in superior sexual satisfaction! Trying to earn a release, the bottom will be much more attentive to his partner’s needs. Without being distracted by his own selfish wants, his sole focus is pleasuring his Keyholder. He will demonstrate his ability and affection to his partner, going above and beyond in the hope of an ultimate ‘release’.. Remember; the couple that plays together stays together!

Chastity and relantionship

There is no one right way to practice chastity, but most agree that a man who practices chastity is expressing profound respect for their partner and women generally. Chastity is a challenge well worth undertaking because it can help lead to a transformation of a man’s relationship with his partner. Almost every account of a chastity regimen notes that the man becomes much more attentive to the needs of his partner, serving her better both sexually and in a myriad of other ways that are pleasing to her. The many religious traditions that use chastity/abstinence as a key element of their spiritual practice and service orientation are definitely onto something..

Primary benefits of enforced male

1. It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and disrespectful to women. Chronic masturbation has the effect of substantially diminishing a man’s natural sexual desire for his wife of girlfriend. It unfortunately teaches him that his orgasm is primary, and hers is secondary.

2. Because he can’t even get an erection without her permission, it instantly changes the dynamics of the relationship.

3. It keeps his sexual focus and energy on his wife or girlfriend.

4. It will substantially increase his desire to orally service his wife or girlfriend.

5. If he’s never been an ass-eater, after having his penis locked up for a few weeks, he will be.

6. It serves as a constant reminder to him of her authority.

7. Because it makes his orgasms entirely dependent on her generosity, it positively incentives him to honor her, respect her, and motivates him to please.

8. It gives him the time and opportunity to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills.

9. It reinforces the idea that pussy is a precious gift that must be earned, and is to be savored and appreciated on those rare occasions when he does get it.

10. It teaches him that sexual activity with his wife or girlfriend doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with his penis.

11. It deepens his submission to her, and will cause him to worship the ground she walks on.

12. It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and loving. It will help soften the sharper edges of his me-first masculinity. It will make him more of a listener than a talker.

13. It helps prepares him for the eventuality of anal penetration, and getting the strap-on. Because his penis isn’t being sexually stimulated, it has the effect of gradually turning other parts of his body into erogenous zones, particularly his anus and his prostate. With patience and persistence, he can be trained to orgasm from stimulation in that region via your finger, or the strap-on.

14. If his orgasms are consistently controlled and severely restricted, he will eventually get to the point where he will do just about anything to cum. You’ll be amazed by what he’ll do for you.

Chastity -  power to the woman

This voluntary act in which the man shows his trust and hands over the key to his most precious possessions to her who will then decide when he is to be released. This is an action which gives enormous power to the woman in a relationship, or the supervisor on our course and it is a gift from him to her.

It is a sexual act which frees him from the ability to pleasure himself and frees him to learn how to please his partner and thus be allowed pleasure himself.

It sounds from this description a strange and “kinky “activity, but surprisingly the approach has wide acceptance as a method to improve male performance and pleasure.

The Mental Game of Chastity

The power exchange exists in the realm of the minds so to the submissive male, being denied can provide him with more mental pleasure and more mental fulfillment than a physical orgasm.

The aroused and denied male will spend more time in subspace and thus his mind will be on a mental sphere where the female rules supreme in his life and he is much more eager to serve the female.

The mental stimulation should touch a man’s psychological triggers, which will stimulate him sexually. It is that mental stimulation that causes an intense power exchange and that can make sex more pleasurable for the woman both physically and mentally while at the same time fulfilling the male need to be dominated.

Chastity and BDSM

Chastity is a fantastic pawn in the BDSM game. It is a great tool for tease and denial, and can be implemented as an incredibly effective punishment/reward scheme. Dominants that have never fully engaged in chastity play, will have almost certainly at some point employed a ‘permission to cum?’ policy. So, what’s the difference? Well chastity play takes this concept one step further and gives the Key Holder full control over their slave’s orgasms. Many people who love to engage in BDSM have not yet discovered the joys of chastity

Locked in Chastity for BDSM

Key Holder is a term used to describe the dominant woman in a male chastity agreement. Many couples are into BDSM and male chastity is one of the many methods that these women use to dominate their men. Some men are more turned on the more they are ordered around.

The woman will tease the man while he has a male chastity device on and she is the only one who has the key to open it and award him with a release. Discuss it with your partner in detail and decide if you want your chastity to be long term or short term.

If you are just starting out, you should ease into it before you commit to being locked in. If you enter into it before you are ready it will likely prolong the process.

“be careful what you wish for”

There is an old saying among those wives who adopted a chastity lifestyle because their husbands encouraged them…”be careful what you wish for”.

If some of the husbands were given a choice to go back to their old ways they would, but none of the wives would.

Deep down the caged men are happier because they wanted to be sexually controlled by their wives and now they are. Their new reality is often much different than their original fantasy because it is now your fantasy not his.

Make it Last...

Most people think tease and denial is about female domination. They think that you have to serve her, obey her in order to have a small chance to cum from time to time. This might fit in the lifestyle of some submissive men, but it doesn’t fit me at all…

My opinion of tease and denial is that you must both be happy with this. The first thing to do (and the hardest) is to speak to your wife/girlfriend about your fantasy and what it’s really about. For me tease and denial is about being horny all the time. Think about the moment when you are just on the edge of orgasm, how you feel and how you never want this to end. With tease and denial, you can live this moment much longer than most men. At first most women will say you are crazy and won’t understand why the hell you don’t want to cum like a normal human being! Why? That’s the point of orgasm denial. She must understand that she’s not denying your pleasure, she’s just keeping your pleasurable state for much longer. I’m pretty sure that if you play this as a couple, she will understand very quickly why you want that when she will see your reaction. Everything that she will be doing will tease you, please you. Just a few words in your ears will give you a very hard erection! At first, this game (because in my opinion, this is a game) should take a slow start, it means short denial periods. If the short term is what fit the most, good for you! But after a while most people playing this game will need more and more… they don’t want to lose this ache to cum!

Having an orgasm is great, in fact it’s very pleasurable and we all want that. But waiting to get it give you much more pleasure. If you have sex and you cum after 15 minutes, it will be good… you will cum and you will be released. But if you have sex for 30 minutes and don’t cum, it will be hard at first… all your body will say I WANT TO CUM! But it’s not really what you want because you know that you are craving this feeling, you also know that when you haven’t cum for many days and you have been teased during this time, your orgasm will be much better and pleasurable. The more you wait for something and crave for it, the better it is when you finally get it. For example, if you want a nice car and you work hard to get it, you will have a greater satisfaction when you will finally get it after a long wait than if you simply had the cash for it and buy it right away. In both situation, you have the car of your dream… but if it’s too easy to get it, you will not be as proud and satisfied when you finally get it. (Yes I’m comparing a car with an orgasm, but I think you get the point)

Look at this picture

I’m pretty sure that when you are in this situation, the last thing on earth you want is this moment to end! With tease and denial it’s possible! If this picture is taken in a normal sex context, she will strip, get on top of him or maybe do him a blowjob… but in the end in less than an hour (probably 20 minutes) it will be over with an orgasm. But in a tease and denial context, this could only be a prelude, you have no idea what is going to happen next. Maybe she will keep stripping and ask you to eat her until she orgasm, maybe she will masturbate in front of you while you are only allowed to watch, maybe she will suck you for a couple of minutes… or maybe she’s just giving you a preview of what might happen next and she’s putting her panties back. In this situation, one thing is sure, you will be hornier after she’s done than you were before. You will be eager for the next session, and everything that she will do or say will tease you until next time. Ok, you will not have the 5 seconds orgasm and the release… but you will have an endless sex session. From the end of this session until the next one, the only thing you will think about is how hot she is, how good she smells, how you would like to be inside her and cum! You will be eager for the next time, and when this next time finally happen, it’s going to be even better.

Not knowing what will happen next is probably the most exciting thing about tease and denial. There is no sexual routine. She’s in control of most of the sexual activities and all she wants is to find new way to tease you and always push your excitation level. In this context, she’s also more sexually confident because she knows that all you can think about is her. She feels desired, beautiful and she also feels all the sexual power she gets… which is very arousing for many women. She is having control, so if she wants an orgasm, all she will have to do is ask you to eat her. She knows that you want it and she also knows that she is not “forced” to give you something in return. Let’s be honest, in a normal relation, if he eats her pussy, he is expecting something in return. With tease and denial he will obviously be very happy if he gets something in return, but if he doesn’t he will be a little bit sexually frustrated, but he will be hornier than he was before and he will be waiting for next time with a boner in his pants! Tease and denial is about living in a post orgasmic state, I mean always on the edge of orgasm or pleasure but not over it!

Of course this game can be very complex and can be done in so many different ways, what is important, is to be happy with it. Many people will add ruined orgasm to the game. It’s a way to release some pressure, but not let him have the big O! After a ruined orgasm he will lose his erection and he will be able to sleep… but he will still crave for the real orgasm and the real release. The ruined orgasm allows you to play longer and to make him wait for the real release for a longer time. Why wait longer? Because like I said before, it’s better! A ruined orgasm or a denial is something very powerful for her, when she says no or wait or simply ruins his orgasm, she feels a huge rush of sexual power because she knows what kind of power she has in her hands. (Or maybe in her mouth). She should never feel bad about denying the orgasm, she should feel good because she’s allowing him to keep his pleasure and arousal level still high. She will feel good because she knows that he will be very receptive to any sexual or sensual thing she will do or say until his next orgasm!

Whatever you do, the most important part is to ENJOY! Tease and denial is about pushing yourself in the ultimate quest of arousal and the ultimate orgasm. Of course, after a denial it’s not easy and she must be there to motivate him… but both of you know that it’s not really a denial, but this was a prelude to the next session…

Thanks to “eroticshortstories4women”

Cuckold dating: Benefits and tips for success

Cuckold dating mainly involves the female’s assertion of her sexual relations with other male partners outside the relationship. On the other hand, the male partner knows and/or watches his partner having other sexual adventures outside their partnership or relationship. Cuckold relationships are normally based on loyalty, trust and intimacy. However, the man still remains faithful to his female partner and therefore he is in a subordinate position. Although cuckold dating can be difficult, it has various potential benefits for the couple.

Benefits of cuckold dating

1. Fulfillment of fantasies and satisfaction

One or both partners in the partnership fulfill their lifelong fantasies since the couple shares in many different activities. Moreover, the female partner enjoys the freedom to engage in sexual adventures with other male partners outside the relationship. On the other hand, the man enjoys by knowing and/or watching his partner being intimate with another man outside their relationship. Men are satisfied when their female partners are enjoying. Therefore, even a woman in a committed relationship can go out on a date and the man loves it.

2. Builds trust

The man is fully aware of his partner’s sexual adventures and this helps to get rid of jealousy. This helps to increase trust and effective communication among partners. Additionally, both partners enjoy increased faithfulness due to the reduced thought of infidelity.

3. Builds confidence

The man feels that his wife is quite attractive since other men are ready to be intimate with her. Women gain the freedom and confidence to express their thoughts and feelings freely and openly.

4. Improved intimacy

As the cuckold couple gains intimate knowledge, their intimacy grows stronger too. This is because the couple enjoys new excitement in a variety of ways making it quite easy to attain physical satisfaction.

5. Increased interest and attention

The man wants to please his female partner more in many ways. Therefore, during cuckold dating his interest in his partner’s looks and clothing increases and as a result his partner’s wardrobe improves. Most importantly, the man becomes more caring and romantic.

6. Closer friendships

The couple enjoys intimate relationships with other people outside the relationship which helps to create stronger bonds with such friends.

Despite having many benefits, it is very important for the couple to fully understand what cuckold dating involves and come to an agreement before attempting any encounters. Most importantly, it is vital for the couple to understand how they can make the most out of the cuckold relationship.

How to make cuckold relationships work

1. Practice cuckold dating in the right way

Since the male partner gets sexually aroused by knowing and/or watching his partner getting intimate with other men, there should be a level of intimacy and trust in the cuckold relationship. Trust issues should be addressed first in order to decide if the cuckold relationship is best at the moment. This can be determined by; the state of your sex life, how long the relationship has lasted and the level of trust. This is very important especially for married people who want to have cuckold relationships.

2. Be loyal and set down the rules

Each partner needs to clearly understand that the practice is sexual. Therefore, other feelings and emotions should be on one side in order to reassure the man that his female partner will not develop any emotional relationships with third parties. In order to be on the safe side, this fear should be addressed before any encounter occurs. Cuckoldry should be a healthy and normal sexual fetish and not a practice that can damage the lives of those involved. In order to differentiate between the emotional aspect and sexual acts of the practice and secure the relationship, the couple should have a certain level of confidence and self esteem. Therefore, the couple should have a frank discussion about their concerns, what they want out of cuckoldry, and what it will entail. This helps to determine whether the practice will have any effects on the relationship and its future.

3. Keep it fun

There should be no feelings of guilt and betrayal during or after the act. This can only be achieved if the couple views their relationship as a sexually varied relationship that is open to experimentation and fun rather than a shameful or sinful one. Cuckold dating has many components besides sex. Components such as loyalty, devotion and trust should take precedence over sexual acts.

4. Be safe

Cuckold couples need to choose the third party once they have decided to practice cuckoldry. Since it’s the woman who normally has sexual relations with the third party, she must be completely comfortable with the new partner. The third party should be a like-minded person who can be trusted. This makes it easier for the three members to discuss in detail what they want out of the practice.

5. Communication

Communication is vital in cuckold dating since issues will have to be addressed in a timely and sensible manner in order to avoid complications.

The benefits of cuckold dating are greater than what most people imagine. The benefits listed above should give couples an idea of how cuckolding can be of great value especially to their relationship. Several swinger couples are also into cuckolding. Several join sites to meet other like minded individuals. The only advice here is that when you create a profile for free, simply let other member know that you are looking for a cuckold relationship.

The Starting Rules

Chastity Rules

Basic Rules for beginners. The key is to be very strict and follow every rule.

1. Take control of his orgasms • He must wear a chastity device 24/7. • You should lock his chastity cage and only you should be the “KeyHolder”. You can also use a numeric padlock. • Let him out at your discretion only and only for teasing. • Emphasize that he will never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm OR erection! without your permission. • He must experience ruined orgasms.  This emphasizes your control and stimulates his frustration. • He may only cum when wearing a buttplug and your panties. You may also gag him. • Peg him, make him cum like a real sissy • Milk his prostate • Always restrain his hands(handcuffs or rope) when letting him out of his cage. Many guys will resist after an orgasm or take control when you edge/ruin them.

Everytime you let him cum, you must ruin him. After that you make him eat his cum. You can edge him and forbid him to orgasm. You have to learn him that he may not orgasm. If he does then you have to make him eat his cum. 

Ruined -> Eat it Accidently -> Eat it

Only tease and edge! Edge every day!

2. Chastity devices • Make him buy secure permanent devices like the jailbird, holy trainer or metal cages with urethra plugs. Make sure you get the right size so he cannot escape. You can make many devices escape proof with medical glue. The best option is a PA. It is recommended to glue his foreskin with superglue so he won’t attempt to escape. This does not damage the skin but lays a sticky layer for 1 week. • The best devices can be worn 24/7 and only need cleaning every other day. He can clean it in the shower by putting soap in his cage and apply a full jet of the shower head right in the cage. it will clean his penis thoroughly. No need to take him out • Shaving can perfectly be done while wearing the device. Just move it a bit to reach the hard to reach spots. • If he has to clean his penis manually for a reason. Do it under supervision or tell him that only you may touch his penis. He is not allowed to play by himself. • Draw you name on his dick before putting him in the cage. That way you can check if he cheated or not! For him it is mind boggling not touching a body part for over a month when he used to touch it every hour.

3. Get into his head! • Learn his fantasies and what turns him on. • Tease him with his fantasies whenever possible. • Make him wear your panties all the time. Skirts, stockings, socks everything to make him remember he’s your slut at work or wherever he goes. • Make him sign these rules without letting him read it. He may experience the joy of chastity. • He must promise he will follow the rules strictly. You may threaten to leave him if he doesn’t. He will make up his mind soon enough. • Explain to him that he will only receive prostate orgasm. Sissies should cum like real girls. • Make him shave his WHOLE body! Nothing better then feeling a soft body next to you in bed at night. It will grow back so he has to maintain it.

4. You must keep him sexually aroused as much as possible. • Taunt him.  Dress sexy • Talk sexy and dirty to him. • Tell him you are going to make him do something humiliating. • Fondle him or let him fondle you. • Make him wear a buttplug or prostate massager everytime you go out. • Send him text messages with orders to do something sexual. • Make him give you orgasms frequently. • Edge him • Milk his prostate

5. Make him do something humiliating and learn when he will do anything for you. • Tease him to the edge then command the most humiliating activities.  He will do them. • Make him wear a butt-plug for a time. • Train him to submit to your strapon.   • Make him be naked when you are not. • Always, ALWAYS make him eat his own cum after your ruin his orgasm no matter where it is deposited. Sit on his face after a creampie or feed him off your hand or french kiss him!

6. No matter what you are doing, or where you are, find ways to taunt him. • Fondle him through his pants in public (or in private). • Whisper sexy or humiliating things in his ear. • Make him shop for lingerie or toys for you. • Leave notes with instructions like: “I want to see you caged and plugged with these when I get home”

7. Control your own feelings of guilt.

• He should never be permitted to have any kind of orgasm without your    permission. • If you feel he deserves an orgasm… Ruin it! • Remember, you can ruin several orgasms a day, but he can only have one full one. • Full orgasms should be for very special occasions (no more than 3 or 4 per year).

Extra sissy rules:

• A sissy must wear panties. He does not own any male underwear. Take away his underwear and replace it. • A sissy may wear a bra and pink or brightly colored tights or leggings. Leggings and nylon are mandatory! • A sissy must sleep in lingerie. If he does not have any, he must sleep naked. • When alone, a sissy must dress as a girl. Good sissies wear lipstick while alone. • A sissy always keeps himself free of facial hair, and is otherwise well groomed. He must always be presentable, ready to please.  • Good sissies shave their legs • A sissy must never touch himself sexually without explicit permission from his Master or from his Muse • A sissy must wear as many lovely pink girly things as possible • Sissy must be in panties and a bra minimum at all times. • Sissy must keep shaved clean below the neck at all times. • Slave is not to masturbate with out permission, and when permission is given, it must be done in a slutty humiliating sissy way that reinforces my position.   

Some text to make him horny:

‘I love thinking about your cock in that cage

I’m thinking about you inside me right now, maybe I’ll let you tonight

Fancy a blow job? He replies yes. Shame you’ve got that cage on.

How are you going to convince me to unlock you tonight honey?

I’m really horny. Come and give me an orgasm, at least one of might as well

a list of tasks with ‘unlock cock’ as the final one lol

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Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

10 Chastity / Forced denial Benefits.

I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.

It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you - and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he is lowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently.                              

Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages  per week than you’ve ever had before.                         

Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive, passionate and caring.                                                                               

His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial.                                                           

You’ll never have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it - most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if you’re in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about you for days at a time eager to please.                                                               

The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, there’s no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’ll train him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating.                                                                                           

You’ll never have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better ;)  its good to use these things against him, teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand.                                        

Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful, attentive boyfriend you have. They will be jealous of your strong, committed relationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied.                        

He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice?                                                       

He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.

In summary, you will get a lot more pleasure in any way you want, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and will never cheat.

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If you agree with this list then please reblog so more couples are better informed and can seriously consider exploring chastity / forced denial

Just remember to keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.

Yours truly, 

-Tatiana xoxo     http://maleslaveswanted.tumblr.com/ 

Finished my chores. She says I can take my heels off and put my boy clothes on over this and get dinner ready for the kids now

WHY IS YOUR HUSBAND OR BOYFRIEND INTERESTED IN CHASTITY?

The concept of being denied sexual pleasure for the privilege of pleasing you is highly arousing for your lover. We all have secret fetish dreams, fantasies and hopes and male chastity is just one of those.

It’s a secret fetish that your man finds highly provocative, arousing and very sexy, to the point that even just an image of a chastity device could cause the beginnings of an erection.

It links in with the sexual fantasy of surrendering himself to you in erotic submission.

It’s not just concerned with physical sensations, but the mind, body, emotional and inner most self. He will understand chastity as all encompassing desire, fetish or kink, that’s an intellectual, physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual experience.

From his sexual fantasy perspective the allure is that his loving wife or girlfriend holds the key to his penis. His cock becomes yours, it’s freedom is dependent upon you releasing him. You hold the key to this release. You become his Keyholder.

Your lover believes that he’s masturbating far too much and would like your help to control this by making him wear a chastity device to prevent him touching himself.

He longs to be “Loved, Locked and Owned” by you, and he believes that wearing a chastity device will demonstrate his commitment and faithfulness to you.

He longs to escape from every day realities and to allow his submissive desires freedom. This is a “need” for many men who long to set free their sexual submissiveness in the safety and security of their own homes and with their loving wife or girlfriend.

Orgasm denial is highly arousing to him.

He believes that you are superior to him and needs to demonstrate his acknowledgement of this by wearing a chastity belt or device.

A highly sexy aspect is that your husband will aim to seek his pleasure in pleasing and pleasuring you, thinking of his keyholder’s needs above his own. Wearing a chastity device help him to sexually achieve this.

If he’s found the courage to tell you about his desires and sexual fantasies he’s probably done so because he believes it’s something very special he can share with you, and feels that, in being his keyholder, you may really enjoy and relish it just as much as he.

They seem to be getting smaller!

My wife and I at the gloryhole.

My wife Sara and I were out celebrating our fourteenth anniversary. She was 36 at the time and I 37. We had no set plans and decided to begin with dinner at a nice restaurant. We finished both our dinner and the pitcher of margaritas we ordered. Upon leaving decided that neither of us should be driving. Instead we decided to walk around the city.

Several blocks away, we came across an adult arcade/bookstore and I kidded her about going inside. She had never been in one and was curious to see what it was like. Who was I to stop her? The store was rather crowded with about a dozen men and two other couples. Everyone looked fairly normal. Most of the single men were looking at magazines and rental movies.

Sensing her nervousness, we joined the other couples in the rather tame section containing lotion, novelties and cards. Before long we boldly moved to the section containing the vibrators and dildos were she marveled at the variety of designs and sizes. It was incredibly erotic watching Sara in front of so many strangers examining the large rubber dildos. By the look in her eyes and deep concentration, I could only imagine what was going on in her mind. I’m sure she was thinking what it might be like to have the different sizes and thicknesses inside her, pleasuring her.

Although extremely attractive and sexy, Sara hadn’t dated much before we married and had little sexual variety. She had even told me that the few guys she had slept with before we met were all smaller than me and she couldn’t imagine handling anything much bigger than mine.

I broke her concentration by nudging her towards the video arcade. Hand in hand, we selected a small dark unoccupied booth toward the back. I locked the door and pulled her into a passionate embrace. In the darkness, we could hear sounds coming from the booths next and nearby. Most were the sounds from the videos playing of people moaning during sex, but we also heard various muffled noises from the people in the booths.

I broke off the embrace to put a few dollars in video machine. A video of a woman being serviced by several well-hung men began playing. It was clear from both of our obvious states of arousal that this was going to end up with us having sex in the booth until we were both fully satisfied.

I stood behind her letting my hands roam under her blouse, rubbing her firm breasts and rolling her nipples between my fingers while she watched the woman in the video on her hands and knees sucking one big cock while another was thrusting in and out of her cunt. Sara unbuttoned and removed her blouse in order to give me better access. She reached behind her back and fondled my erection through my bulging jeans. She proceeded to unbuttoned & unzip my jeans and pulled my hard on free.

Her hands began squeezing and stroking my hard naked cock. I kicked off my shoes and stepped out of my pants. With her still in front of me I pulled her skirt up above her waist and pushed her panties down to her knees. She took the hint and stepped out of them and removed her skirt leaving her completely exposed from the waist down.

As I watched her do this, I noticed a glory hole between our booth and the one next door. I also noticed in the darkness, someone was looking through the hole watching us. If the guy did not have his face up against the hole, we would have easily seen into the other booth. The sudden realization that someone was watching us - my wife stroking my dick and me playing with her pussy, sent a jolt of excitement through me. Sara had no idea what was happening.

I ran my hands through her soft mound and spread her lips wide with both hands to show our guest how beautiful her cunt was. I began inserting a finger into her sex and discovered that she was soaked and ready for action. I continued to finger fuck her with two fingers from one hand and played with her engorged clit with the other.

Sara’s body looked magnificent, on display in the video’s dim light as she lean back against my chest. I looked at the hole several times and could make out that we were still being watched. I then had her sit on the bench seat beside the hole. She reached out, grabbed my cock and pulled me directly in front of her. She began licking the head of my cock with her talented tongue. The voyeur was getting a fantastic show.

I decided to tell her that someone was watching us and pointed to the hole. She looked, gasped and tried to fix her clothes. I quickly grabbed her hands and told her that it was ok. She looked at me for several seconds and then asked me “If I was sure?”

I replied by guiding her head back to my throbbing cock. She smiled at me and enthusiastically began sucking me I think partially due to her own excitement and also in an attempt to put on a good show for our voyeur. She looked so damn sexy with her lips around my cock - her eyes alternating between looking up into mine and looking at the hole.

To both of our surprise, our voyeur slowly began inserting his own cock through the hole. Sara moaned around my cock as she watched the stranger’s cock coming into our booth. I think she moaned because it was apparent that this was no ordinary cock. It was huge and it was a beautiful ebony color. It easily rivalled the largest dildos we had looked at just minutes ago. The cock was still mostly soft and was already easily 8 inches long and thicker than my normal sized tool.

I was now reeling at the kinky sexual possibilities that were now before us. Sara stopped sucking and looked up at me as if she were waiting for me to tell her what to do. I asked her if she wanted to try to make it hard. I guess that she had the same idea because she quickly grabbed it with both hands and started rubbing up and down its massive dark length. She never took her eyes off of it as she exclaimed, “It’s big and it feels good.”

I never imagined I would ever see Sara playing with another man’s cock, but it was certainly something I was immensely enjoying as I began playing with my own cock. Sara had managed to bring the faceless, bodiless cock to full attention, as it expanded in both length and thickness. It now pointed up into our booth to what I would have to guess was at least 10”.

I’d never touched another man before, but I had to admit that this was absolutely the most awesome specimen of manhood that I have ever seen. I reached down and placed my hand next to hers on the huge muscle. It was almost hot to the touch, hard and soft at the same time.

I knelt down so that we were both eye level with this impressive shaft and I began rubbing the shaft against Sara’s face. Back and forth across her cheeks, her forehead and finally her lips. As I was doing this, Sara’s hands went between her legs as she played with her clit. I don’t think she consciously realized that she was doing this.

At that moment, I wanted to see her suck this big cock or at least suck as much as she could possibly get into her mouth. I asked her if she wanted to take it in her mouth and she looked into my eyes and nodded yes. Still holding the cock, I held it just behind the smooth head and I began rubbing the tip right across her lips. I told her to open up and as she did, I fed just the head inside. Her tongue licked all over the head up to my fingers. I than feed her a few more inches which allowed her to really start using her whole mouth.

Soon she had as much of this large cock as she could fit in her mouth. I began pumping the cock in rhythm with her sucking. With my other hand, I resumed playing with her dripping pussy. Eventually she switched to sucking the cock with a twisting action. I have enjoyed this technique many, many times.

She pleasured the shaft for at least 15 minutes while I teased her clit and continued to slide two fingers in and out. I knew that her poor mouth must have been getting tired. I wanted to fuck her badly yet couldn’t tear myself away from watching her giving this erotic blowjob to a complete and perfect stranger.

It was extremely erotic to see Sara’s pale white checks bulging with the big black shaft. I began to wonder if she would be willing to let this massive black rod into her sweet juicy pussy while I watched and helped or if we could accomplish that in the confines of the small booth.

What Sara did next both surprised and shocked me. She took the cock from her mouth and kissed me passionately on the mouth. As her tongue snaked into my mouth, she began rubbing the cock against both of our faces. It was covered with her saliva. It felt so hot and wet on my face as she pulled it down closer to our kiss.

We soon began kissing each other all around the shaft, lips rubbing back and forth, and our tongues teasing each other’s by darting and flicking underneath. I was completely lost. The world was receding. There was nothing real in the world to me right then but Sara, our mouths and this beautiful long hard dark penis. I would never have done this to another man, but this was not a man, this was just a cock and nothing more, for Sara and I to share in our privacy.

As I followed the path of her tongue, she led me from the cock’s base all the way to its head. Her tongue pulled away slightly, leaving me to stop with the tip of the head perched in between my open lips. I paused and looked into her eyes. Sara smiled and asked me if I wanted to finish what she had started. I didn’t need to answer, as she knew as much as I did, how badly I wanted and needed to do this. She gently pushed my head forward as I began sucking my first cock.

I held the shaft with both hands and tried to suck as best as I could. My only experience was that of having the same done to me countless times. I closed my eyes as I concentrated, and I felt Sara’s familiar mouth now engulfing my own rock hard cock. I matched her rhythm, strokes and tongue movements in order to give this stranger’s cock the same pleasure that I was receiving.

I could feel the shaft in my mouth throbbing in unison with my own. The world further receded. Now I was only aware of my throbbing prick and my mouth. The rhythms, the sucking, the tongues, the pleasure was all the same. It was as if I were sucking my own cock. I could not last much longer nor did I want this to end.

Sara could tell I was close as she increased her intensity. I did the same. I was cumming. I could feel the pulsing, shooting jet after jet of cum into her mouth. The cum tasted sweet and salty and it easily filled her mouth - my mouth. It took me a few seconds to realize that it wasn’t just me that was cumming. He blasted against the roof of my mouth, filling it. I swallowed three times, still had a mouthful and the cock was still cumming.

I pulled back as another jet splashed my cheek. Sara was now beside me and quickly guided it to her mouth as the next shot covered her tongue. She engulfed the ebony prize as it gave up its last few shots. Now totally spent, the ebony pole soon began to soften as she let it slip from her mouth. She turned to me and we kissed. Our tongues pushed cum into each other’s mouth as we played and savored the taste. I held her in a loving embrace as we licked the remaining cum from each other’s lips, chins and cheeks.

I looked at the wall. The cock was gone. I could see into the next booth and it was now empty. As we were recovering from the sexual high, someone else entered the next booth and began watching us. Another stranger was getting to see Sara’s naked body. Her breasts were magnificent and I know the voyeur had a good view of her wet unfucked pussy. I meant to remedy that soon.

Sara smiled at me and we dressed in front of our new voyeur. Once dressed, we exited the booth and headed out of the store but not before purchasing a souvenir. We could not get home fast enough, but as soon as we did, I brought her to five orgasms with her new 10” black toy. I had a feeling that our sexual adventures had just begun.