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Ok so this will be poorly formatted and maybe a bit long.
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I came to terms that I was aromantic a couple months ago though I identified as aro-spec for nearly a year before that.
I realized I was aro in probably a bad way.
For a little over a year, I had convinced myself that I had a crush on my friend who we will refer to as Eggroll.
Eggroll is a sweet girl, she truly is, but she is also obsessed with romance and love and touch and affection. This was something I had to come to terms with in the time of our “flirtationship”.
She was constantly reaching out for I love you’s, constantly in need of affection and live that I simply couldn’t provide. I tried my best, over and over, I forced myself to see a life with her, dates with her, dances, just sweet little moments.
But I just couldn’t get behind it.
This wasn’t the first time this had happened, throughout school, I found myself trying to find people that I found cute or even mildly liked but wasn’t overly close with and slot them into the all to important role of love interest that society insisted was normal for someone of my age.
But it just wasn’t.
And eventually I had to tell Eggroll how I felt.
She was also a bit codependent and a tad insensitive and didn’t listen while also being constantly but hurt if I ever told her I found something rude or was uncomfortable with something.
I told her, over text, one Wednesday, a really emotional day.
She understood, although she felt sad, she sprung right back to her feet by the next week and now is constantly “in love” with nearly every pretty girl she spots.
I’m happy for her, she’s happy for me.
And I get to be happy in my own skin, with a label that I love, that I can relate to.
My experience isn’t the same as everyone else’s but as someone who witnesses identify crises every week and has had many of their own, I am always open to helping anyone who needs it.