Aro - Blog Posts

Is there a fellow aroace person that only goes for fictional characters and celebrities they'll might never meet?

Frankie being bi/Aro? ✨🛐✨

I bi/Aro too (And trans Male)

Even so no one else wants to agree with me, I'll just keep loving my silly hcs AND NO ONE WILL TAKE THEM AWAY FRM ME!

Wish you like the sketch. Kade, Dani, Graham, and Charlie are BI, while Cody is Pan/Ace and Frankie is Bi/Aro

YESSSS!!!

Everyone shall taste the rainbow!

Today I came out to my brother as aroace and he said: "Oh, just like Jaiden!"

The relief of immediate understanding... I've never had that before. That's what why good representation is important, you guys. I'm so thankful for that video she made.

i’m asexual.

one of my favorite types of fanfic is smut.

i’m still asexual.

my playlist is full of insanely vulgar music.

i’m still asexual.

i love making dirty jokes.

i’m still asexual.

i’m aromantic.

one of my favorite types of fanfic is romance.

i’m still aromantic.

i listen to a lot of love songs and attribute them to my friends.

i’m still aromantic.

i love playfully flirting with people i’m close with.

i’m still aromantic.

You don't have to have everything figured out right away, there's no deadline on understanding your identity or knowing what labels are/aren't right for you.

Anyone else with this aroace experience?

I know the aroace community is not a monolith. I know we all have very diverse experiences. But I was thinking about how so many aroace folks had the "I think I'm bi or pan" moment because they felt the same/nothing for all genders.

I had the "I think I'm bi" moment too. But for me it was because I DID feel something for different genders. I felt incredibly strong tertiary attraction to boys and girls (this was 10 years ago and I was queer-sheltered so I had yet to meet an out nonbinary person), and bi felt like the right descriptor. I didn't have to "fake" crushes like so many aroaces. I just confused my squishes for crushes and blended in.

Even after I realized I'm aromantic asexual, bi still feels part of my identity. I relate to a lot of the bi experience. I feel strongly for several different genders, but I'm attracted to them differently. The way I'm attracted to guys is totally different than how I'm attracted to girls and nonbinary folks.

This is why the term "bi-oriented aroace" means so much to me. It describes my experiences with tertiary attraction perfectly.

Do you ever forget that people actually feel the way books describe romantic love? Like those aren't made up feelings? Because me too

[guy who is aromantic voice] sexual attraction just makes more sense than romantic attraction. like ok, you want to fuck someone. this is quantifiable. it is quite easy to grasp what "i want to fuck someone" looks like, even if you have no idea what it feels like. romantic attraction, though? this is a nebulous construct which seems to largely be "glorified friendship with sex" in the popular imagination. what even is the difference between friendship and romance? the line between friendship and sexual attraction, though both can coexist, is that when there's sexual attraction present, you want to fuck someone. the line between friendship and romantic attraction, so far as i can perceive it within a heteronormative, amatonormative framework, is that it is... friendship where you want to fuck someone. what?

Throwback to when I thought that everyone had to have romantic feelings and because of that I got into romance books and series to learn the definition of romantic attraction because I thought that if I knew what it was I would feel it like I was supposed too

(Spoiler Alert: I in fact did not ever feel it and am happily aroace)

"what if you havent found the right one yet🥺🥺" what if i hit you with a metal pole

I did a very quick, sketchy comic because I was extremely inspired by this post. (Credit to @pinkdiamondprince for the original post.)

The entire analogy was just fantastic and so, so accurate, and I wanted to make a comic for it, even if it’s very sketchy because my attention span is nil.

The original posts asked a specific group withing the LGBTQ+ community (A-Spec people*) what their reaction is when a Bad Bitch/Mf compliments them. The various options of facial expressions are posted below.

(it's good to note that even if people in the A-Spec community don't express a large amount for the feeling that I will explain below, many still like/try to reciprocate or experience these feelings in their relationships)

(also good to note that A-Spec people are a VERY misrepresented or conversely Unrepresented group when people think of the LGBTQ+ com. Ace people make up a large portion of the LGBTQ+ which is sometimes lengthened to include them as the A in LGBTQIA+, where the A stands for Asexual and the I for Intersex)

*A-Spec or Ace Spectrum people are a large group of people who defer from the norm of relating on various levels as seen in mainstream society:

(yapfest incoming)

Such as:

Ace/Asexual - Not enjoying, thinking about or having feelings of or about sex.

Aro/Aromantic - Ace but replace sex with 'romance' (imo as an aro person, romance is a subjective term)

AroAce - A person who is both Aromantic and Asexual

Demi/Demisexual - A person who likes (or prefers) to express sexual feelings AFTER establishing an innate emotional connection with their partner

Demiromantic - Demisexual but we again replace sex with romance

Greyromantic - (as explained by Google) " a term that is used to describe people who feel a limited or uncertain romantic attraction to others. Some Greyromantics may feel a strong emotional connection with others but do not desire romantic relationships, while others may feel a weak romantic attraction to some people but not all."

Hopefully I understood you're question correctly, anything else? 😊

A-SPEC PEOPLE