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Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, y'all!!!!

Be yourself, embrace your aromanticism, and don't let anyone tell you who you are or who you should be!!

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Am I the only one who has a few specific friends who I'm really close with and love to be around, and, if they wanted to, I'd be completely down for making our relationship into something different (romantic, queerplatonic, etc.), but at the same time, I don't activity have a crush on them or want to push for a different relationship bc what if they don't feel the same way or don't know what queerplatonic relationships are.

I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.

Am I the only aro-spec person who switches between wanting a committed partnership, be it romantic, platonic, queerplatonic, etc, and wanting to be as far away from relationships as possible?

Was I the only aro-spec person who had the experience of thinking that I had crushes growing up, but looking back, they might not have been crushes because 1. I could never or only rarely name any traits that I liked about them (and those rare times that I could were traits that I simply admired), 2. I felt immense relief when they rejected me, or 3. I just wanted to have a crush, so I chose a person and consciously decided to develop feelings for them, not knowing that it doesn't work like that?

Something I recently realized that helped me understand my aro-spec identity is that my "crushes" that I can remember weren't actually fueled by romantic attraction for the person. They were actually fueled by attraction towards the idea of dating/liking them, but not actually them as a person. I wanted to find my soulmate and as soon as I found someone that I thought fit that ideal, I would start daydreaming about being with them, but I wasn't really attracted to them as a person, just my idealized version of them and the relationship. As a result, I couldn't really name any traits about those people that I liked, aside from surface level ones like, "funny," "nice," and "hardworking." And while I was aesthetically attracted to them, I never really fantasized about kissing them or being super romantic with them (aside from maybe hand-holding or hugging), and if I ever tried, it made me uncomfortable and felt like I was violating them. Did anyone else have a similar experience or is it just me?

Reblog if you

- really want a queer platonic relationship - have a QPR - really want an asexual relationship - have an asexual relationship - are aro-spec - are ace-spec - are aroace-spec - have a pet - want a pet - are openly queer - are openly LGBT+ - are a Supernatural-fan - are a geek - are a Sherlock-fan or just love Lilo & Stitch

Did any other aroace-spec people try to write fanfiction when they were younger, but struggled to write romance/romantic scenes? Because I vividly remember trying to write fanfiction when I was younger, but not really knowing how to write the romance because that wasn't something that I felt that much. And this goes for all kinds of romantic fanfic, reader insert, OC insert, shipping, etc. I tried writing all of the above, and every single time, I was unable to write, or even sometimes start, the romantic scenes, because I just didn't know what exactly that felt like or how romantic relationships started. And even when I could get through writing fanfic, it just felt SO unnatural and weird to actually write; like not bad, but just odd, like not realistic. But somehow, people really liked it, so I guess I did something right lol

Idk if I'm the only aro-spec person who is like this, but I need to talk about it bc it's been on my mind so much lol

So, like...in general, I have a complicated relationship with romance. In fiction (books/movies/tv/fanfic), I only really like queer romance. Two guys? All for it! Two girls? All for it! NB person with someone else? All for it! Granted, there will always be exceptions and romance stories that I prefer more than others, but by large, I tend to enjoy most queer romance stories that I consume. HOWEVER, for some strange reason, when it comes to straight romance stories, I almost always get squicked out or uncomfortable!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHYYYY!!! Like, it could be nearly identical to a queer romance story, but I would still be uncomfy if it was heterosexual, and I don't know why!!!!!!

When it comes to irl romance, I'm usually either indifferent or uncomfortable with it, no matter if it's queer or straight. Like, I can usually handle it, unless they're full on like making out or smth, then obviously, I'm extremely uncomfy and averse, but if it's casual, then it's just whatever.

But, honestly, I don't know what my deal is with the fictional romance!! I've even forced myself to like some straight romance in the past, but it's always SO forced.

So, yeah, that's how I feel. Can anyone else relate, or is it just me??

I WANT A QPR SOOOOOO BADDDDD!!

I want someone that I can call my partner, but not necessarily in a romantic way. I want someone to hug and be close to. I want someone who I can listen to and who can listen to me. I want someone who shares my interests. I want someone that will agree to discuss and respect our boundaries with one another. I want someone who I can just be with, like we can just exist together. I want someone who will go book shopping with me and just listen to me gush about different books. I want someone who will walk down the halls with, and maybe we'll hold hands and maybe we won't. I want someone who will always be ready to comfort me and who I can comfort whenever they need it. I want someone who will help me calm down and think through things carefully. I want someone who I can explore and go on adventures with.

Basically, I just really want a queerplatonic partner/relationship.

HAPPY FIRST EVER INTERNATIONAL AROMANTIC VISIBILITY DAY

Also the part where I have to explain it in increasingly stupid ways because some people just cannot understand aromanticism. Or choose not to. I honestly don’t know which one is more depressing. Like no, (friend’s name), this doesn’t mean I don’t think you’re good enough or that I just haven’t met the perfect nameless person yet. That ain’t how it works, buddy.

I dislike being aro. Kinda feels like I'm missing out. Like I love the idea of a relationship, but I'd HATE being in one, and that is HELL.

i’m asexual.

one of my favorite types of fanfic is smut.

i’m still asexual.

my playlist is full of insanely vulgar music.

i’m still asexual.

i love making dirty jokes.

i’m still asexual.

i’m aromantic.

one of my favorite types of fanfic is romance.

i’m still aromantic.

i listen to a lot of love songs and attribute them to my friends.

i’m still aromantic.

i love playfully flirting with people i’m close with.

i’m still aromantic.

Aroace culture is seeing people talk about how hot your favourite character is, and feeling deeply uncomfortable. And feeling even more uncomfortable when you see antis claim that you love the character only because they are sexy, while in reality it's because you see yourself a lot in them.

why are all the examples for bellusromantic kissing I'm not interested in the kissing I'm interested in snuggles and handholding and friendship dates

I quite literally became a new me in 2023 by finally accepting the fact that I am Aroflux Cupioromantic (still also consider myself panromantic at the same time)

I’m officially an Aceflux Bisexual Aroflux , between Cupioromantic and Panromantic mess. And Nonbinary Demigirlflux. Look mami, I’m a triple flux!

I’m literally a melting pot in romantic identities too goddamn. Happy 2023 y’all.

Source | Day 225

Monday February 20.

Aromantic Awareness Week!

It's Aro Week! This one is a bit special, folks. Today, for #aromantic Awareness Week, we are celebrating all things aromantic. This one is for you mighty fine folk. Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (ASAW) is a week to spread awareness and acceptance of aromantic spectrum identities, the issues the community faces, and not to mention a chance for the community to celebrate their experiences and existence! ASAW generally occurs the first full week (starting Sunday) following Valentine’s Day. It was conceived, in large part, as a way for those in the aromantic community who had difficulty finding space for their experiences in such a universally romanticized event to come together and celebrate their own unique experiences.

Here at Tumblr, our community is doing what it does best and marks Aro Week with its winning combination of pizzazz, thoughtfulness, and good humor. You can check it out below or catch the latest over at #aromantic.