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So I had recently started seeing an ex girlfriend again back at the beginning of the new year. When we together before it was very serious just a couple years ago but things didn't work out. We kind of stayed in touch until she started seeing someone else and we lost contact. She later messaged me after and told me they broke up. In the beginning we were keeping things VERY casual even discussing seeing other people or fun sex stories. This turned into us fooling around and eventually starting to see eachother a lot more often and acting a lot like we were in a relationship. We did specify that we weren't official but eventually did say neither of us were seeing / looking to see / or had plans or prospects on seeing anyone else. She even told me "you don't have anything to worry about" "I'd let you know and tell ypu if I ever wanted to do anything else with anyone" and "I would never be interested in having more than one partner in or around the same time frame" and things start going really well with us hanging out/seeing eachother. Just a few weeks ago I stumbled into her facebook and found out that she has been intensely Sexting with a friend of hers while talking about wanting to hook up. Not the end of the world but I keep reading and find out just recently they hung out and she blew him, he spanked her, and choked her (all things we like to do and play around with). I'm not so upset about the fact that it happened but that she went out of her way to lie to me and act like nothing was going on. I'm really hurt by the dishonesty and behaviour but I have to admit part of me is really turned on by it. We have discussed before the idea of open relationships or threesomes or bringing someone in but the idea had always included full openness and honesty with eachother. I don't know if I could trust her again or if I should even give her a chance. I did call her out and she apologized and promises it wouldn't happen again but also said she still doesn't want to make anything official at this time because she isn't ready because of her breakup. We are hanging out less often but still trying to keep things together while we decide what to do but I'm at a loss. Does anyone have any advice or help they can give me. (not just looking for the obvious "sissy type" answers or role plays, I'm honestly asking for help. Thanks.