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fellow LSN disabled people, this is coming from a place of much compassion and love. i hear you when you say you’re jealous of MSN/HSN people’s support. how you wish you could have such support. mental health is complicated and it’s hard to see through emotions and trauma.
but i really need you to understand that our higher support needs disabled friends aren’t inherently privileged for having said support. while it may be that if you had that same support your QOL would improve, they most likely need the support you’re jealous of to literally survive.
the point i really want to make here is there is a difference between support for QOL and support to SURVIVE. people die without these supports. that is not a privileged position to be in.
you’re allowed to be upset and angry that you don’t have the life you want and deserve, but please focus those feelings on society and governments. because they are the ones that created a world in which it is so hard for us to exist.
we need to be friends to each other, not throwing around misdirected anger and blame. please take time to listen to MSN/HSN disabled people and learn about their experiences, there are so many people out there begging to be heard.
so i spent a day admitted, the went home after having some relief. then it all came back full force 12 hours later so im back in emergency. lol
on day 5 of a migraine get me out of here
it hurts hearing other disabled people talk about medical mistreatment.
like i am partly grateful to not be alone of course, but i really wish it wasnt a common or even standard occurrence.
breaks my heart.
why arent more able bodied people fighting for disability advocacy?
see disabled people as humans, as peers, as equals.
we deserve access to everything you do. we deserve the chance to have a happy and comfortable life just as you do.
dont push us out of sight and out of mind.
we do not deserve that. we are equals.
i feel like rewording these in some situations could be helpful.
the way that these are often phrased makes them automatically worded negatively: “still” “un-employed” “doesnt” “didnt” it all assists in the effect of the insult, when none of these things are inherently negative or wrong.
this isnt to say you should have to reword these facts. but you can, if you want to start re-scripting the way people see your life, possibly including yourself.
saying just, “i live with my family.” instead of “still” implies it as more of a statement than a complaint. also saying “family” instead of “parents” may help in some situations as it puts you all on the same level, saying parents makes some people think you are being childish, when in fact you are all adults.
when it comes to “unemployed.” its a bit tricky. if you are searching for work, you can easily just switch it out for “im searching for employment.” or if you are studying instead say that. but if you are like me - where neither of the above apply, you can try things like “im working on my health.” or “im trying to discover my passions.” etc.
“doesnt have …” or “didnt do …” can easily be changed to “i chose my health” “i chose a different path” or “it wasnt right for me.” these are all options to switch it from something you failed at, to the thing that you prioritised or can do instead.
Can we stop using "still lives with their parents" or "unemployed" or "doesn't have a drivers license" or "didn't graduate high school" as an insult or evidence that someone is a bad person? Struggling with independence or meeting milestones is not a moral failing.
its okay to mourn.
its okay to mourn the childhood you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the career you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the children you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the education you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the friendships and social life you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the hobbies you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the travel you could’ve had.
its okay to mourn the life you could’ve had.
nobody gets to tell you that you need to cheer up.
alright lets get this out of the way.
school bathrooms should be unlocked during school ALWAYS
school children should be allowed to go to the bathroom ALWAYS
school children should NEVER have to ask to go to the bathroom, just tell the teacher that they need to go
schools should NEVER question a child on why they need the bathroom
schools should NEVER make jokes about how often a child uses the bathroom
schools should NEVER get angry at children for using the bathroom
NEVER should a teacher approach a child about their bathroom usage.
if there is a concern or problem with a childs use of the bathrooms, the school should speak to their parent or have a meeting involving the parents and the principle.
if there is misuse of the bathrooms, the school should speak to their parent or have a meeting involving the parents and the principle.
you never know what children could be dealing with, whether they have bladder issues, gi issues, mental health issues or other disabilities. some children may be using the bathroom to hide from bullies, or they may have addiction issues.
it doesnt matter. its shouldnt be the teachers job to police toilet usage. only when there is an issue should limits or supervision be put in place, AFTER meeting with their parents and potentially the student to figure out the reasons for such issues.
i know this is really controversial but im really sick of horror stories from kids like me who dealt with the shit that is school bathrooms
The sound and the colors of Leaves : 2467 / General Audiences / Matt and Clint bond over their mutual love for fall and leaves and their disabilities
The sound and the colors of Snow : 3959 / General Audiences / Matt helps Clint get the support he needs and they take a walk through wintery NYC
The sound and colors of Flowers : 2531 / General Audiences / Matt and Clint are working together as the city warms up.
The sound and colors of Sunshine : 3570 / General Audiences / Matt and Clint suffer in the heat and talk about Family.