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so I'll be getting news about maybe being able to move into a place specifically for autistic people and people with other mental illnesses. (beschermd wonen in dutch don't know the English term), which is supposed to help me deal with my autism and mental illness until I find a job and am able to be independent sknce my iq is avrage and so that I can move out of my transphobic mom's house^^
Rat: If it involves cutting back on the good ol' Winstons, I'm burning this place to the ground.
Bon. Demain je d'emménage. Je suis à la fois pressée, triste (je suis chez mes parents actuellement), stressée, contente... Bref, pas sûre d'avoir une nuit reposante 😅
C'est dur d'être adulte 😭
Me right now :
Fun fact: even moving out of an objectively harmful environment is scary. Change is scary. I can't really neatly define what I'm feeling as depression, but there's something that has me pausing before I enter my room because of just how empty it is. More and more my parents are getting used to the idea that I'll be gone; I guess I ensured that by picking up a house sitting job and staying weekends elsewhere so I could get to work on time, but still.
I get my new key on Thursday.
I'm excited to have freedom and be able to exist without having eggshells under my feet, but it's also so terrifying. I haven't been able to get out of bed on days I don't have work, just because there's no schedule, no one to enforce it. What am I supposed to do?
It'll all be OK, eventually, but right now it's a lot for me.
Here's to freedom, let's pour one out for childhood.
things i wish i had known when i escaped my family household and couldn't ask my parents for help
invest in a good mattress early on. there are many other ends you can save on - sleep is not one of them. this is key to how much energy you'll have throughout the day
you don't need a bedframe but you do need a slatted bed base (even if it's just pallets)
opening a bank account is easy
there's youtube tutorials for everything. how to install your washing machine, how to use tools, fixing stuff around the place. channels like dad, how do i? are a godsend
change energy provider as soon as your old deal runs out. you'll get better offers elsewhere and avoid price gouging
assemble a basic first aid kid at home: painkillers, probiotics, alcohol wipes, bandages, tweezers, antihistamine tablets - anything you might need in a pinch
and an emergency toolkit: flashlight, extra batteries, a utility knife, an adjustable wrench, multi-tool, duct tape
set your fridge to the lowest temperature it can go. the energy consumption is minimal in difference and it'll give you +4/7 days on most foods
off-brand products are almost always the same in quality and taste, if not better, for half the price
coupons will save you a lot of money in the long run
there's no reason to be shy around employees at the bank/laundromat/store; most people will be happy to help
vegetarian diets are generally cheap if you make food from scratch
breakfast is as important as they say
keep track of your budget in a notebook or excel file - e.g. rent, phone and internet bills, food, leisure so you'll have an overlook on your spending over the months
don't gamble
piracy is okay
stealing from big stores and chains is also ethically okay
keep medical bills and pharmacy receipts for tax returns
also, file your tax returns early
take up a hobby that isn't in front of a screen. pottery, music, going for a run every now and then, stuff that'll keep you busy and sane
and most importantly... you're allowed to get the stuff you want. treat yourself to the occasional mundane thing. a good scented candle. a bath bomb. that body lotion that makes you feel like royalty. the good coffee beans.
you're free and you deserve to be happy.
So I just found out my visa is expiring when I turn 23, and as a result I will be unable to stay in Germany. I’m trans and disabled and have no job, so I will need funds to support myself!!
I’ll be moving in with my grandparents in Louisiana, but I need the money to be independent, and also potentially enroll in the local colleges. Any amount helps. My commission info can be found at ko-fi, and i also have a plethora of adopts on toyhouse!