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How to Invite A Third to Join You for A Threesome?

If you are in a relationship and both of you want to explore new sexual experience, threesomes can be a good idea for you. However, it is not easy to find a right third one. In the following, there are some tips on how to invite a third to join a threesome. Hope they are helpful for you.

Communicate with your partner openly and honestly

Before inviting a third person to join you, you have to communicate with your partner openly and honestly. You should discuss your fantasies, desires and boundaries with each other, ensure you are on the same page.

2. Discuss your boundaries and expectations

Discuss you and your partner’s boundaries and expectations honestly, including sexual acts, emotional connections and any other limitations may exist. Then, respect each other’s boundaries and ensure everyone will feel comfortable and safe.

3. Choose the right third

Discuss what type of person you are interested in inviting with your partner. First, make sure you want to invite a female or male. Then, discuss whether you want to have this experience with a friend or stranger. A friend is not recommended, because it may destroy your relationships or make you feel awkward after the experience. If you want to invite a strange, make sure you are both interested in him/her.

There are many ways to find a stranger for a threesome.

Find one in social dating groups

Find one in a swinger club

Find one on a threesome dating app/site

Hire a professional one

4. Approach the third with respect

It is important to approach the third partner with respect. Tell him/her your desires, needs, expectations and boundaries openly. Also, you should respect his/her boundaries and feelings.

5. Communicate clearly

It is crucial to communicate all of your expectations, desires, concerns and boundaries clearly and transparently with the potential third partner. Ensure you three have a mutual understanding of what will happen during the experience.

6. Prioritize consent

Consent is the fundamental aspect of any sexual encounter, especially important in threesomes. Remember to check each other’s boundaries and feeling during the threesome. If anyone feels uncomfortable and want to stop, stop immediately.

7. Safe sex

No matter who you invited in for a threesome, remember safe sex. You need discuss safety measures with your partner and the third before proceeding.

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