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Police in the United Kingdom are not great with stalkers and obsessional people, so it pays to have your own tool kit to navigate when this type of person strikes.
In the very beginning stages, and if you are aware of them, a stalker is stalking you before even contacting you. Creepily, they are watching you from some short distance, gathering all sorts of information both large and small, and when randomly presented.
The stalker builds a picture of their prey, often incorrect but littered with some facts that they might have accrued, which will be like little tokens of abuse when they start putting their delusional ideas to you, others, professionals, and police. They mix the two for their potent, psychological attack.
I have experienced various stalking incidents from both male and female predators which has allowed me to in turn, study them. They were not going anywhere fast, so I observed them and all of their behaviours until the cows came home - and in my mind, then trampled them to death heh. Just kidding, although they day that these stalkers naturally die in their own ways will be an absolute relief*.
When professionals and police do not understand what they are dealing with, and they often do not, they are easily duped by the stalker into their own worlds of delusion. I have seen both police and support worker walk straight into stories of protective lies and deceit that stalkers weave in order to keep their weird little worlds going, with they prey then being told that they are crazy, need psychological intervention, or are suffering due to their own past, previous poor relationships in the world.
Stalkers know very well what they are doing, they just choose to make it okay by means of rationalisation, lying, and deep, dangerous delusion. My advice? once you clock a stalker, do not give them anything directly, no confirmations of anything that they ask, no accepting of invites, no interaction where able, and if having to interact, be very bland. They are eternally bored, and adding to that boredom will potentially repel this freak.
Most importantly, tell absolutely everybody what has happened, be frank about it, and do not worry about feeling like you are spreading rumors about the stalker, because it is a true fact what is being told.. not what the deluded stalker would prefer as the truth in their own world. Get this persons weirdo card stamped wherever and whenever possible in your local community.
Unfortunately, stalkers will move on to another person. There is nothing that anybody can do about that but at the end of the day you must look out for yourself. If you spot others in your community struggling with the same person, you can offer them some reality affirming support because you understand first hand how the stalker is operating - no matter what it looks like, and no matter what the stories are that are spun, the person is a stalker, and a stalker can be absolutely anyone regardless of age, gender, roles, or what they look like.
Stalkers are obsessional and delusional - do not allow them to impose themselves into your life.
Be blessed :)
* for the record, relief once a stalker has finally passed away is a completely natural feeling.