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For Victims of Abuse Who Feel Betrayed.

There is no rule that says that anyone has to like or accept cruel people, and personally, I would not even trust those who do so.

There is also no rule that says that anyone has to forgive them, unless some religious or healing aspect comes into it, where people try to win the power struggle in becoming superior to their abuser. That can be helpful, but it is not something that I would personally advocate.

Let’s have some eye opening discussion.

If the need to be liked and accepted in someone is that strong that people who create incessant cruetly are welcome and acceptable, then the person may well be an Apath (sometimes termed as “flying monkey”), a dangerous being who stands by on the fence as abuse continues, and in their own quietly masked way, support them in their endeavours in the hope of never becoming the target to the persons cruelty themselves. 

Abusers wont let apath’s off for it when they need another target, and will happily discard them in the same way as anyone else when they can no longer be used.

There is a high trend for acceptance of cruelty being created by people who think that they are doing the right thing, being all encompassing loving all human beings.

Psychologically that can help them cope if they have been victims of abuse themselves in life, with a situation which I know very well of experience wise, called Stockholm Syndrome being the culprit.

If you have been a victim of abuse and supporters of abusers are hurting you inside, that is completely valid and correct way to feel. I would hug you if I could, and say that you are in a fantastic state of mind, whilst those who are continuing the trail of cruelty are not.

Stay blessed :-)

© Saturday 19th Feb 2022

born in the wrong skin, not wrong for me. wrong for them. targets, not flesh.

I hate being a victim of sexual assault I struggle with stuff adults do all the time oh you feel sexy? I don’t you like to touch yourself sexually I can’t do it properly, I don’t feel comfortable touching myself and i genuinely get terrified when I think about having sex with my bf it’s annoying I hate him for molesting me and I hate my mother for seeing it and doing nothing, I can’t buy lingerie it makes me uncomfortable I don’t even like being naked in the shower I hate it I hate showing skin I hate when men call me sexy I used to think I was asexual but in reality I’m just still a traumatized child I hate my vagina I don’t like looking at it or touching it I wish I didn’t have one maybe if I didn’t have one I wouldn’t have been molested maybe if I didn’t have a vagina men wouldn’t sexualize me at all if I didn’t have a vagina I wouldn’t have low self esteem and struggle with confidence, I hate the way my vagina is shaped it’s small compared to other women and it doesn’t make me feel like a woman at all I feel like a child because mine isn’t as grown as theirs I tried to explain this to my therapist and she didn’t understand at the time I wish I was just born without a vagina I wouldn’t struggle so much with mental illness