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If we ship something (or our characters otherwise have a very developed relationship romantic or not) know that I definitely want to talk about it. All the time. I am totally willing to talk headcanons, scenarios, do plotting, all of that– but I don’t want to seem like I’m being pushy by bringing our muses’s relationship up. I just want to know that if I do talk about that sort of stuff with our characters that I don’t come off as annoying… Or seem like all that I’m thinking about is our ship. If you do let me know it’s okay to talk about it whenever, though, totally expect me to send you anything I think of when it comes to our muses relationship! There’d certainly be no shortage of things to talk about. I just want to make sure that you’re just as engaged in it as I am.

me? projecting my entire identity onto fictional characters and forming unhealthy attachments to them? it’s more likely than you think.

jesslynshepard:

friend: can i send you this meme / turn this into a thread? me:

psa on posting speed;

i am a slow roleplayer. not only do i get distracted easily, i get overwhelmed easily. sometimes i can’t talk and do drafts at the same time so i am sorry if i ignore your message. i am deliberate and methodical with every word choice. i like to spend my time on my writing and getting to that emotional level within myself to evoke a proper response with each reply. i’m not good at whipping out thread after thread. i never have been. i’m sorry if that’s the way you roleplay and i don’t match up, but i like to think the quality of the writing makes up for my lack of speed. thank you so much!

The Seven Deadly Partners

I am by no means trying to tell you what you should and should not do, nor am I aiming to police the internet. If you’re comfortable with some of the following, that’s fine but this is a list based on my own personal experiences and what I have learned from them and it’s to help as a warning to those who might not know what to look out for as they’re new to RPing.

((If you choose to reblog this post for others to see you may do so only on the condition that you do not tag or mention anyone who you feel is one of these partners. This is not a call out freebee, that’s not what this post is for!))

1. Possessive Obsessive

    These are Partners who become easily jealous when your muse interacts with other muses. They don’t like the idea that your blog is a multiverse/ship blog because theirs is not or whatever reason they give for it. They might even go as far as to contact others anonymously to tell them to leave you alone without even consulting you first. Some of these parters appear to become upset or aggressive when you don’t know everything about their muse or you refuse a plot suggestion from them. They will try to isolate you in such a way that you are only able to write with them.

2. Guilt Tripper

   Those that don’t like what has happened in a thread or that you’re writing with someone they don’t like and then threaten to leave the site if things don’t change. That it would be your fault if anything happens to them or their blog, even threats to alter their muses relationship with yours. This is an attempt to control how and who you interact with. This is manipulative behaviour and should not be stood for.

3. The ‘Game Master’ 

   These partners are those that come up with the plots only they control everything in the plot, your muse isn’t allowed to actually be your muse because it effects their muse or their plot. In the end you must consider if you are writing your muse or if you are writing an NPC for them. You owe these people nothing you don’t want to give, no matter how controlling or guilt tripping they then become when you confront them.

4. The Stifler 

    Similar to the Game Masters, these partners smother your muse with threads but every single one of them is centred around the needs of their muse and not yours. While their muse grows and develops, there’s no breathing room for yours to do the same. You burn yourself out in keeping up with their threads but don’t feel like you or your muse are getting anything in return.

5. The Stalker 

   They ask for all of your URLs and it can be quite flattering, only they become annoyed if they find another blog of yours elsewhere you haven’t mentioned, or that you don’t interact with them through a certain muse of yours. These people might just be excited and eager to write with you but they have no right to expect you to do so on any of your blogs.

6. The Victim

   This one always, always plays the victim ooc. Whatever you do that they don’t agree with suddenly turns into vague blogging, sending anonymous messages, setting their friends on you or blatantly ignoring you in the IMs. It turns into a public call out post in which they expect their followers to side with them no matter what and deny you the chance to explain your side of the situation, yet they do not block or unfollow you, wanting to see the chaos play out. When eventually reasoned with, this usually results in a sob story from them in order to get your supposed forgiveness and as if you might return to everything as normal… beware the apparent victim.

7. The Bleeder

   These are the partners who blend whatever is happening in character into out of character things. Sometimes it is just a one off and many, many people have done it in the past, but when it keeps happening there should be red flags and warning bells ringing. If your partner cannot differentiate between OOC and IC expect considerable drama!

PSA

Hey followers. I’ve seen a couple of call-out posts on my dash over the past couple of weeks, highlighting the alleged bad behavior of certain roleplayers. Whether these posts contain truth or not, I just want to share this with everyone:

It’s OKAY to say NO. It’s okay to block someone the moment you feel threatened, uncomfortable, scared, or manipulated. 

Yes, it’ll hurt their feelings. They might get upset. But your safety is more important. Don’t write/do/participate in anything you’re not comfortable with. If you’re terrified or anxious of confrontation, just block them and let it be done!

Your concerns are vallid. Your fears are valid. This person might be triggering you and sure, they might not have the context! If you feel comfortable with explaining it to them do it. If you don’t, or if you do and they don’t seem to care or understand, block them. Say no. Cut out what you can in life that makes you upset or anxious, because you will have a lot to deal with offline already.

Please be safe. Please use the block button. Please turn off anon if you keep getting garbage anonymous messages. Please say no.

If you don’t know how to “soft block” people –

Block someone, then unblock them immediately. This will make them unfollow you unknowingly and simultaneously have you unfollow them, too.

If you need to block certain words/phrases/usernames from your dash – use the extension tumblr savior . 

And the most powerful tool of all –  If you’re scared, upset, triggered, feel guilted or uncomfortable – 

LOG OUT. 

It doesn’t have to be forever and you don’t have to delete your blog. It doesn’t have to be for very long at all – you don’t  have to announce it! 

But Tumblr should not affect you once you sign out. It is a website. You have higher priorities. You are a living, breathing, beautiful human being who deserves to be treated with respect and cherished. It’s so easy to see people as simply text on a screen when you’re online, even subconsciously; that anonyminity can encourage people to be mean, to take out their problems on others.

Don’t be that person and don’t be the victim of that person. You deserve better. You deserve to enjoy Tumblr as a hobby and a place you visit online. Do not feel bad about saying no or using the block button – that’s what it was created for!

Take care of yourself and your friends. You’re going to be okay.

OC’S !!! AND !!! MULTI-MUSE !!! BLOGS !!! ARE !!!  IMPORTANT !!! TOO !!!  REBLOG AND SPREAD THE LOVE BC THEY DESERVE SO MUCH MORE CREDIT THAN THEY ACTUALLY GET.

I feel like a lot of people don’t want to ask questions they have about gender/sexuality to LGBT people because they don’t want to offend them because we talk about cishet people asking stupid or intrusive questions a lot

But actually when you’re questioning it’s really helpful to be able to ask some ‘stupid’ questions although you’re too afraid to

So can y'all LGBTQIA+ people reblog this if you’re totally fine with people asking questions about your gender/sexuality, as long as they do so respectfully

i want to write relationships that are complicated.

i want to write the on-again-off-again relationships. i want the screaming matches and the cancelled dates and the hurt feelings and the second guesses and second chances. 

i want to write people who completely shake up each other’s daily routine and flip their entire world on its axis. i want them to drive each other crazy and question why they bother sticking around and then remember the way their partner laughs or see them in a moment of vulnerability that tells them ‘this is is why i stay. this is why i love you.' 

i want to write relationships with struggles. with class differences and financial divide. two people who are so completely different they somehow complete each other. i want the jealousy and the feelings of inadequacy that goes with it. 

i want to write people who aren’t afraid to be honest with their partner. who aren’t afraid to say 'yeah you’re being an asshole’ followed by 'but i still love you, you idiot.’

i want the first time they see their partner cry and the morning after their first intimate night when everything feels so right.

i want people who get so used to one another that they stop going the extra mile. i want the ‘you don’t make the effort because you already have me’ argument.

i want relationships that challenge each other to be better people and make each other question their beliefs and moral compass. 

but most of all, i want to write relationships that are real. that make you feel something. i want to go on the emotional rollercoaster right along with them.

that’s what i want.

hystericalnoisemaker:

drparisa:

lakidaa:

people who know who my OCs are

people who like my OCs

people who like to know more about my OCs

reasons i haven’t replied back:

- i’m socially exhausted - i don’t have the time right now - i don’t know how to reply - i have a bad memory and got distracted - i’m having a depressive episode and don’t have the energy to socialise

not reasons i haven’t replied back:

- i’m ignoring you just because - i hate you - i’m fed up with you - i don’t want to be your friend anymore

PSA -

VILLAINS ARE VILLAINS.

Villains are not a precious little punching bag that’s going to stand there and take your shit and be sassy with their hand on their hip. If you mess with the bull you get the horns – if you push a villain, you will get the wrath of a villain. If your character is rude/disrespectful to a villain, especially one in a high place of power, and the villain lashes out (whether it be verbally or physically) – 

THEN YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO BE UPSET ABOUT IT. WHAT DID YOU EXPECT TO HAPPEN?

Don’t write with villain/cruel/evil characters if you can’t deal with a villain/cruel/evil character being less than nice to your precious cinnamon roll of a character. Surprise! That’s not how this works! If the villain suddenly kills your character without having spoken to you first, then you have absolutely every right to be mad. But if your character receives a verbal lashing or non-lethal physical response that is in character for the villain to give, then you need to deal with it. 

I’m also sick of this sense of prerogative way of thinking certain characters hold when it comes to villains. This mindset of, ‘oh this person is evil, bUT OBVIOUSLY THEY’LL LOVE ME AND I’LL BE THEIR SPECIAL SOMEONE THEY WON’T HATE ME OR TRY AND KILL ME.“ NO. STOP THAT. You cannot go into interactions with villains expecting them to absolutely fall in love with your character/be best friends with them. This is why it’s most times excruciatingly difficult to ship/bro-ship with villains. And even if this does happen, you should expect a villain to still be aggressive and/or rude from time to time. 

A VILLAIN DOES NOT STOP BEING A VILLAIN JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP.

I’ve written villains for a long time now, and one thing has been made perfectly clear – you will get shit for writing your character too IC and you will get shit for writing your character too OOC. You will be fucking cursed out for your character being aggressive to those who are rude to them, and you will be blasted for writing them being nice even just from time to time. So fellow villain writers – just let your villain flag fly. Don’t fucking listen to people who try and give you shit either way for your portrayal. To those who do not write villains – respect them. Just because your character is sassy and spunky, doesn’t automatically give them the right to try and be disrespectful to someone who is most likely superior to them.

TL;DR IF YOU CAN’T STAND THE HEAT, GET OUT OF THE KITCHEN. IF YOU CAN’T DEAL WITH SOMEONE BEING CRUEL TO YOUR MUSE, DON’T WRITE WITH VILLAINS.

I’ve got 99 icons and the particular expression I need ain’t one.

ancient roleplaying proverb (via withabox)

burnbooking:

roleplayers are people, not just accounts.

this is something that i’ve been meaning to talk about for a while now. it’s begun to weigh heavily in the community that i write in as well as those of others. it’s the idea that we should take pride in callout culture and completely obliterating accounts. that a callout post needs to be written for any and all transgressions, that one half of a story is gospel, and that roleplayers can be judged as problematic by association.

let’s start with face-saving apologies. the type of apology that a roleplayer will half-assedly give just to have a receipt of one. to appease those they hurt when the harm was intentional and in no way plan on improving themselves as a person. the kind of apology that is issued so they will sympathized with rather than ridiculed. these apologies are absolute bullshit. if you’re going to vague or be a bully or act out, own your behavior. i’m aware this sounds hypocritical coming from a burn book but what happens on the dash is a lot different than sending something to us. when posting on the dash your content is broadcasted to a direct audience. the same community. here, it gets thrown into an aggregate void and spat back out. don’t vague or talk behind someone’s back and believe that it won’t get around to them.

it shouldn’t be a goal to attack someone over petty shit. don’t criticize people for liking or not liking something that isn’t heavily problematic. you can dislike the vampire diaries but write with a stefan salvatore. you can hate damon salvatore as a character and still like the vampire diaries. what doesn’t need to happen is posting harmless opinions on your own blog and then being attacked for them. if someone is so hurt over another rper disliking their fandom then maybe roleplay isn’t for that person. stop being so fucking petty.

to attempt to destroy a persons reputation over hurt feelings is a stupid, selfish thing to do. keep your friend circle bullshit in your friend circle. nobody needs to be put on blast or shunned for actions that were not purposely or outright abusive or otherwise disturbing. you cannot claim to be looking out for your own mental health by seeking to turn people against another roleplayer who may have hurt your feelings. not only is it immature, it puts the other person’s mental health at risk and while some people on this website believe that the world revolves around them, i can assure you that it does not. nobody in this blue hellscape is judge or jury.

finally, it saddens me as well as the other mods to hear constantly from people who have been turned on by their friends and partners and are now having panic attacks because they’re afraid that they’re being slandered in private; that i, as well as many of my close friends, have become too paranoid to interact with certain people after negative experiences with roleplayers similar to them; that we’re still having to hear that people are being called “abusive” and “manipulative” and “toxic” for hurting another roleplayer’s feelings accidentally or handling a situation badly and then having such critical language thrown on their name.

behind every roleplay account is a person with a life and family and friends and feelings. they’re not merely account names to drag through the mud. think before you wild out or gossip or act like an asshole. it’s not all that difficult to have some god damn tact everyone once in a while.

spunstories :

psa;; please, for the love of god, don’t try to force someone to write with you. it’s uncomfortable enough to have to politely decline the first time; don’t make them more uncomfortable by pestering them. some people have anxiety issues, or feel the need to please everyone. don’t guilt trip them. don’t pressure them. and please don’t be rude if they tell you no. they didn’t owe you a response, but they took the time to write one anyway. accept it graciously. thank them for their time and move on. respect their wishes. be a considerate human being. 

Reblog with what you would tell your 13-year-old self in the tags.

Reblog if you’re okay with getting more than one meme from the same mun.

liking a character for what they have the potential to be even though in canon they’re a lot less faceted that what you want to envision in your head

“Self-inserting & OC inserting is cringy”

             PSA: DON’T STEAL PEOPLE’S HEADCANONS

They aren’t yours, you didn’t make them, someone worked hard on them, and you should be gosh dang ashamed of doing it! That is THEIR interpretation of the muse! Don’t go on to people’s blogs and start reading their headcanons for YOUR use! That’s just rude and completely out of line for you to do! Make your own interpretation of the muse and don’t try to copy other people’s work! If you want to use a similar headcanon because you genuinely LIKE it, you better bet your ass that you MESSAGE the mun about it!

                             DO!! NOT!! STEAL!! HEADCANONS!! FROM!! OTHER!! MUNS!!                                           IF YOU DO THIS THEN SHAME ON YOU!

★~ PSA.

    At the end of the day —— REMEMBER why you’re here to roleplay. There may be people on the site you don’t get along with, or a duplicate that scares you, or you may feel like you’re not the  ‘ go-to ‘  muse  .  .  .  but you need to remember WHY you’re here, & that NOTHING & NOBODY can tear the love, passion, & devotion you have for your muse // blog // hobby! Roleplaying is just a hobby after all, & people can love more than just one interpenetration of a muse, for everyone brings a certain uniqueness to their own. That includes you! At the end of the day, you’ll always have your love & devotion, & no one can ever take that from you.

IN CASE YOU’VE FORGOTTEN,  NO MEANS NO.

so when people say mutuals only?  no non-mutuals?

that doesn’t mean you hassle them.  that doesn’t mean you bitch at them.  that doesn’t mean you antagonize,  hate,  terrorize,  abhor,  shit-talk, or  guilt-trip.  that doesn’t mean you sulk, you rally against,  you call out,  you turn against,  or do anything.

you suck it up,  realize THEY DON’T OWE YOU AN EXPLANATION,  and you move the fuck on.

AND IF YOU CAN’T GET OVER YOURSELF?  WE DON’T WANT YOU ANYWAYS.

Pretty please~ reblog if you are a multiship blog!