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How to ask a provider for money and gifts: feminine tips

this advice is only applicable for provider men and provider men only

your 25 year old boyfriend who’s fresh out of college with a student debt on his back will probably not do these for you

your crush earning 10$ per hour working as a cashier will also not be the correct target for these

this advice works on 

1. men who really, really, REAALLLY like you and want to impress you because they view you as the prize

2. men who have the means to spend on you

first tip on asking men for money is this:

men are your mirror, 

they will mirror back the energy you give off

so if you come to a man all nervous with shifty eyes, hands clasped tightly together saying “oh i don’t know if this is asking too much but i would really like it if you got me xyz” 👉🏽👈🏽

this is a huge ick for a provider man

and he will mirror that energy right back, if you’re not confident asking for money he doesn’t feel good giving it to you

imagine you’re at a job and want to ask for a raise, will you say

“hey guys, not sure if we have the budget for this but it would be really great if i can get a 10% increase” 👉🏽👈🏽

that’s not the energy that you bring when asking for money, 

you have to be confident, straightforward, and ask for money as if it’s the most natural thing, as if you’re asking a waiter for water at a restaurant

here’s a few examples

“babe i’td make me so happy if you bought me these shoes”==> straightforward, you are talking bout your feelings and how HIS action would directly impact your happiness 

“i’d love to wear this dress for you, do you think you can get it for me” ==> you’re making this about him, you want to wear the dress FOR him, you want to represent him well and show off how good he treats you, this is an immediate ego boost for the man, 

+ asking “do you think you can get it for me” is only appropriate if you are in the early dating stage, this is being polite and not entitled but also slightly condescending because you’re questioning if he can do it/afford it, masculine men will want to prove it to you, but as you get comfortable in the relationship you should ask using the method in the  first example

remember, provider men WANT to spend money on you, it makes them feel good, masculine and capable, the only thing they expect back from you is a smile and feminine gratitude, 

“your receiving is your giving!”, aka men get a kick from taking care of their object of affection

so if you act all shy and victim-y or like you’re apologetic that he has to spend money on you, it’s a turn off for him and makes the spending not fun !

gratitude should look like this:

“thank you baby, i love how much you spoil me and take care of me”

 “i love how you show me you love me” 

this makes the man equate spending on you to an act and display of love!

“ you know me so well, you always pick exactly the thing that i want” = praising his attention to details and his dedication to pleasing you

“you’re the only man/ the only one who can do xyz”

men looove when you place them above other men, telling him he’s the only one who can do certain things for you really gets into their head, use this one carefully you don’t want him thinking that he’s the first man that spent money on you or treats you right, you strategically use this one for exceptional occasions. finally, 

how to act when a man doesn’t want to spend on you

never get mad, angry or entitled, 

that man just showed you his true colors and his intentions with you, in true “Elle Woods” fashion, tell him with the sweetest most innocent voice you can muster

“oh i’m sorry i didn’t know you were in a financial difficulty”

this line works like a charm to repel broke men, and to offend stingy men with money, 

if you have the means and you’re not spending then that equals to broke 😉  

my ask is open if you have questions on this specific topic ✨

a small step in the right direction is still a step in the right direction

self care princess 🎀🧁

Tips for the classy, elegant, girly girls 💗

Beauty

The key to looking classy : glowing and dewy skin, red lips and rosy cheeks and nice hair.

Invest in quality hair products (Kérastase, Olaplex, etc.) Shiny, healthy looking hair makes all the difference.

More skin care, less makeup.

Natural hair masks with eggs, plain greek yogurt and apple cider vinegar. I know it sounds weird but trust me, it works.

Contour your face with spray tan.

Wear lip liner every day to define and color your lips.

I realized heavy makeup rarely looks good in the sun. Stick to mascara, concealer under your eyes and blush. Keep it simple!!! Your natural face is beautiful!!

Hygiene

Moisturize your hands multiple times a day to have soft hands.

Buy products with natural ingredients. Yes, the Miss Dior body lotion smells good and the Chanel « Le Sublimage » serum looks beautiful on your skin, but the ingredients are all very bad. Full of endocrine disruptors, carcinogenic ingredients and more... Keep these products for special occasions. Stick to natural products for the day-to-day. Your body will thank me!

Vanilla and floral scents are a go-to. The Glossier perfume, Candy by Prada, Gabrielle by Chanel and Miss Dior by Dior are very sweet and feminine and not too agressive.

Get your nails done. Keep them short. I usually go for French tips or a neutral color (light pink, beige or navy blue).

Always have gum with you.

Drink a lot of water!

Fashion

Find our what your color palette is and dress accordingly.

Opt for classic pieces like white polos, cardigans, basic white or grey t-shirts, white button-down shirts, cute skirts, white dresses, well-fitted jeans (not ripped or faded).

Ditch your white Airforces. Wear loafers or basic flats instead. I personally like Vejas when I'm wearing a casual outfit. Not only do they look better but they're also way better for the environment than Nike.

Casual does not mean sloppy. I do not wear leggings or sweat pants in public (except when at the gym of course). If you don't feel like making an effort : linen/cachemire lounge wear flare pants or a basic white dress.

I realized designer bags or clothes that have really big logos on them look tacky. I got a white YSL Loulou bag but basically never wear it because of how tacky it looks.

Small habits that made a difference

Having your hair done every day. Please.

Do not wear hairbands on your wrists.

No holes or stains on your clothes.

Wrinkly clothes are an abomination. Please steam them or have them dry-cleaned.

Have good posture at all times. Pretend someone is always looking at you.

Expand your vocabulary and stop cursing.

Watch YouTube videos on etiquette to refine your manners.

Braid your hair before bed. It makes your hair grow so much longer for some reason.

Have signature jewelry. For instance, every day I wear a set of small golden hoops earring with diamonds and a matching gold/ruby pendant that were gifted to me.

That's it!

wearing cute pjs to bed>>>>

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A girls world💖

THE FAIRY GODMOTHER FROM CBBYZAC.COM

I love the beach idc. Im a beach truther. There's no such thing as a perfect beach day I will go when it's cloudy i will go when its sunny i will go at night i will go when its windy i love the beach. I'm a beach bum and i'm proud of it

came home drunk last night and got way too excited to see my cat

Stay green☘️🥑💚

The start of a new month:

Clean out purses

Set monthly goals

Make plans with family and friends

Schedule appointments

Review and prepare for any birthdays, weddings, etc

Deep clean

Go over budget

Clean out the fridge

Plan your to read list

you must have a hobby outside of work, school, eating, sleeping, and social media. create, create, create, move your body, enjoy yourself and allow yourself to escape.

Ways to Check In with Yourself

What I personally use, and you could too. I check in with myself everyday.

1. Asking myself if there’s anything that’s bothering me at work

Sometimes I’m bothered by work I’ve been procrastinating about; or reaching out a contact I know I should’ve reached out to earlier. I then start making a list on my notes, making bullet points for each task.

Noting it down helps me visualise what I need to do, and ensuring that I get it done.

I do this by using prompts. I write these down in my notes app, I open them whenever I decide to check in with myself.

These are my work check- in questions:

A. Am I stressed at the moment?

B. If I am, why?

C. What do I need to do for myself right now?

D. Do I need someone else’s help for this?

E. If yes, who is that person?

F. What do I need to do today in order to end my day with a peaceful mind?

2. At social events - going to the bathroom alone to collect myself

Sometimes, at events, I’ll go to the bathroom for 5 minutes to regroup myself. I ask myself how I’m feeling and what I’m feeling… if I’m at a party, this is the point where I consider if I can drink* more or not/ sober up a bit. I also take the time to make a semi decent game plan.

A. How am I feeling?

B. Am I in a state where I can drink more?

C. When was the last time I drank water?

D. Am I hungry?

E. How am I getting home - do I have a cab booked, is someone going to drop me, am I going home by myself?

F. Do I want to leave right now or am I having a good time?

*I do not encourage minors drinking - please drink responsibly

3. Using this free app called How We Feel

I absolutely adore it. It helps you check in with your feelings, identify them, understand triggers and show you a different perspective on handling things.

Personally speaking, I’ve set the reminders to 3 times a day (morning, afternoon and evening) so that I can track myself better.

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Thank you love❤️

Everyday of trying is a successful day

get up

Alo Addict 🧘🏼‍♀️🎀🥑

Little things you can do to upgrade your life

Sit up straight

Walk confidently

Speak slowly and don’t use slang, incorporate new vocabulary.

Think before you speak. Is that TMI? Is that negative? Words are powerful, use them wisely

When someone gives you a compliment, always accept it with a “thank you” even if you disagree

Compliment strangers

Drink a cup of warm water when you wake. It has the same effect as lemon water but it’s better for your teeth

Aim to drink 2L of water a day.

If you drink 30 min before your meal you will eat less. Don’t drink any liquids while you eat or until 30 min after your meal, it’s better for your digestion

Want a flat stomach? Don’t eat anything 4 hours before bed and only eat the size of your fist in carbs per day

Practice mindfulness, notice when your mind wanders and bring your attention back to the present

Meditate 5 min every morning or in bed at night

Charge your phone in the living room at night so you’re not tempted to look at it before bed or first thing in the morning. Plus, you’ll have to get up to turn the alarm off so you won’t snooze

Make your bed every morning

Clutter is mentally toxic, keep only what you need and keep it tidy

Aim to only clean your home for 5 minutes a day. You’ll probably end up doing more. This trick works for anything you don’t want to do

When shopping, don’t buy things the same day. If you still want them after a few days, go back

Always do your best. Always

Forget motivation. Count from 5 to 1 if you need to do something you don’t want to. It tricks your brain. You can also focus on how you’ll feel once you’ve completed the task instead of thinking of the task itself.

Buy fresh flowers for your home.

Pamper yourself. You can do it yourself at home

Get massages. You can get Groupons

Always have manicured nails and toes. Sèche Vite top coat is a must!

Buy nice pyjamas and lounge wear. Look good for yourself.

Listen to classical music when you study and when you clean your home

Listen to music when you drive. While others will be road raging, you’ll be too busy vibing to notice

Use the 50/30/20 rule for your finances. 50% on living expenses, 30% on entertainment and shopping and 20% in savings

Take advantage of banks offering money to open new accounts

Have an emergency fund: 3-6 months worth of living expenses in a high interest savings account

Celebrate every time you get money whether it’s in interest, pay checks or even money you find on the floor. You can just do a little dance. You’ll attract more wealth.

Leave money around your house. It will be a reminder that money is abundant.

Watch only 1h of TV a day and no reality TV

Don’t read gossip magazines/blogs.

Get a library card and read at least one book a month.

Cut out toxic people. If you can’t, try not to be around them as much

Socialize with loved ones a bit everyday even if it’s just a phone call. It’s good for morale

Treat everyone with respect. If someone disrespects you, know that it’s got nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and don’t get caught up in it, keep your composure, you’re better than that

Take up a hobby or two, you’ll be a more interesting, well-rounded person

Listen to podcasts

Try only changing one thing at a time. 3 months of consistency doesn’t mean you’re out of the woods, but it’s the foundation. Don’t be too hard on yourself when you stray. Habits you’ve had for 20-30-40 years will not be easy to change. Baby steps ;)

channeling my inner pink pilates princess ♡

2023 mini vision board✨

The vibes I want for my 2023 year💗

to do —> done

Cleanse cleanse cleanse!!

2023 is:

Regular facials, manis, pedis, massages, Brazilian waxes, lash lifts. Glowing skin. Glowy makeup. Fluffy curls. Microshaded brows. Laser hair removal. Veneers. Intoxicating perfumes. Shopping. Diamonds. Designer bags. Credit card rewards. International travel. Networking. Career certifications. Investing more. Brunch with the girls. Picnics. Farmers markets. Art galleries. Museums. Fresh flowers. Silk scarves. Big sunglasses. Beautiful lingerie. Silk robes. Receiving lots of gifts. Lots of sunlight. Hot yoga. Nature hikes. Tennis lessons. Green smoothies. Candles that smell expensive. Sleeping 8+ hours a night. Bubble baths. Studying foreign languages. Absorbing as much knowledge as I can. Book clubs. Pottery classes. Cooking with fresh herbs, vegetables, and spice. Champagne. Charcuterie & bruschetta. Gelato. Fresh bread. Ocean air. Hugging my loved ones. Pet cat. Giving lots of gifts. Journaling. Meditating. Gratitude. Volunteering. Donating to charity. Manners. Etiquette. Charisma. Therapy. Healthy boundaries. Radical personal responsibility. Positivity. Self care. Abundant love.

Live privately!!

social media has really warped our perception of creativity and hobbies. Stop doing things to post them. Just write. Just journal. Just sketch. Just read. Just annotate. Just sing. Just crochet. Just do the thing you’re going to do with the assumption no one will ever see or know you did it. Stop performing. Just enjoy it.