Latest Posts by thelonersstuff - Page 2

me, closing document: this is awful and pointless

random commenter on ao3: this made me smile (:

me, opening document: guess i’ll write 50k more

man it's so fucking funny when I actually solve a wordle bc in my brain it makes me feel like this gif

Imagine investing in yourself, not giving up, staying committed and following your dreams....and it works out for the rest of your life.

Advice your mother should’ve given you.

Stick by your word and stand firm with your boundaries. Don’t allow people to poke, probe, and push your limits, boundaries, and no zones after you told them not to. Don’t be fooled, all people need is one warning to get the memo that something is off limits, but no one will respect a person who is all talk and no action. Put action behind your words, no one will take your words seriously if you don’t, empty threats get you nowhere. People only continue trying you when they know/think they can get away with it. Say it with me, first times a warning, second times a done deal. Don’t disrespect yourself by going against your boundaries and personal code. 

Something doesn’t have to be important to you to be important. Just like you have things you value that other people don’t, or loved ones you care about that others have never even met, respect the fact that peoples priorities might lie elsewhere and that they find things important that you might not understand or see the point of. You become a better friend, family member, partner, roommate when you give people the space to be who they are and try to compromise whenever necessary.

“If you were born into a family that had expectations for you to play a specific role in order for them to affirm you, your work is deconstructing their ideas of who you were supposed to be and demanding respect for who you are. You do not owe your family a character. Have whatever relationship you want with your family, but live free. Express your truest self. Know that you were born to be known by those who have eyes to see you… As. You. Are.⁣”

— Nate Postlethwait

When things are coming up (new workplace, a trip, a presentation) they feel scary sometimes because you’re not ready for them. The biggest mistake you can make is to think that you not being ready is just a state you’re in forever, when in reality it’s often just a matter of time. If you’re afraid, try not to use it as an excuse but as an indication that there’s room for improvement. Until the time comes, figure out what you can do in preparation, where you can ask for help, what you can practice and improve. You are dynamic: you have the ability to grow into the version of yourself who, despite the fact that they’re still a little nervous, is ready for whatever’s coming.

“Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.”

— Paulo Coelho

don’t be embarrassed that little joys take up a lot of space in your heart. sometimes they’re the most important things there are in your life, and deserve your attention

things that seem small can be really brave:

getting up in the morning

asking for help

stopping when you know you’ve pushed yourself too hard

admitting when you were in the wrong

forgiving yourself

making an effort even when you don’t have the motivation

reaching out to others when you feel alone

+ much more

“The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things. Choose her over everything.”

— Unknown

I think a lot about how we as a culture have turned “forever” into the only acceptable definition of success.

Like… if you open a coffee shop and run it for a while and it makes you happy but then stuff gets too expensive and stressful and you want to do something else so you close it, it’s a “failed” business. If you write a book or two, then decide that you don’t actually want to keep doing that, you’re a “failed” writer. If you marry someone, and that marriage is good for a while, and then stops working and you get divorced, it’s a “failed” marriage.

The only acceptable “win condition” is “you keep doing that thing forever”. A friendship that lasts for a few years but then its time is done and you move on is considered less valuable or not a “real” friendship. A hobby that you do for a while and then are done with is a “phase” - or, alternatively, a “pity” that you don’t do that thing any more. A fandom is “dying” because people have had a lot of fun with it but are now moving on to other things.

I just think that something can be good, and also end, and that thing was still good. And it’s okay to be sad that it ended, too. But the idea that anything that ends is automatically less than this hypothetical eternal state of success… I don’t think that’s doing us any good at all.

"But not shaving is so unhygenic!" Girl I'm so sorry, I don't mean to be nasty, but the razor bumps and ingrown hairs near your urethra and anus beg and plead to differ. Your immune system is fighting for its life in ways you can't imagine.

everything is a learnable skill

reminder that anger isn't a bad emotion!! in fact, no emotions are inherently bad. your anger is usually trying to protect you. it's a part of you that wants you to be treated right. of course you should always consider your actions, and you may feel angry at someone that hasn't actually done anything wrong in which case you shouldn't lash out at them, but you're still allowed to feel angry. listen to your anger, sit with it, hear it out. maybe it's not always reasonable but that's not it's job. you're allowed to be angry.

Drawing in my bullet journal.

My handwriting is not ✨pretty✨ but I was really happy with this.

Based off of this post by @ffspunk

“Crystallize your goals. Make a plan for achieving them and set yourself a deadline. Then, with supreme confidence, determination, and disregard for obstacles and other people’s criticisms, carry out your plan.”

—

Paul J. Meyer

No matter what tries to get in your way - or who attempts to talk you out of your dreams - decide how you need to make them happen, and stick to it.  Let your determination block out all of the negative as you keep reaching higher.  You WILL get there.  :o)

Photoshoot for sky ft . Trees, clouds, calf and sun 😁 #randomclick #randomclicks #mobilephotography #beautifulsky #photography #photooftheday #sky #skyphotography #photographylovers

Not very dear modi ji

Aapse nahi ho payega

Regards

Men need to normalize having friendships with women without a sexual or romantic foundation. Some women are just really cool people to know, regardless of your attraction to them.

“I don’t want to be happy. I want to have you by my side. To have you by my sadness and my depression. To have you. Your love. Your care. That is much much precious than happiness. I am a nothing and a no one. But I am everything in your hands. So hold me.”

— Mohammed Zarir, from a letter to T.M. (2020)

me giving relationship advice: communicate or end it

“Don’t lie to an over thinker. It never ends well. Such people have trained their brains to look for holes in a story. If shit doesn’t make sense, they think about it over and over until it makes sense. I’m that person.”

— Unknown

Why do people and be that I mean guys prefer a prettier face than a good nature??

I experienced this today💔.

And I was crying not because of the guy but because of the fact that I can never be upto that mark.

Very well said

I used to think it was important to have common interests with the person that you are in a relationship with but now I think it is more important to be similar in other aspects. like how kind you are. how you treat the people you care about, how you treat strangers. how you deal with anger. how you deal with pain. and not necessarily dealing with all these things the same way but being perceptive enough to understand what action each situation calls for. it’s important for both people to be on the same page about what that action should be. it’s important to me to have that kind of synchrony.

I don’t care how problematic someone’s opinion is. They could spew the most racist, sexist trash in the world, but that person will never be worse to me than the cancel culture mob. Why? Because having an opinion isn’t an action. It can be ignored. It can be changed as the person grows. It is reversible.

You know what isn’t reversible? Murdering someone’s reputation. Ruining a life. Making death threats. Burying someone in shame with the FULL INTENTION of NEVER allowing them to become a better person, all so you can feel righteous for having “beaten the bad guy.”

Stop ruining lives. We need to learn how to express disagreement maturely. Cancel culture isn’t some ghostly all-powerful entity; it is individuals making the choice to add their screams to the mob. If you have participated, then YOU are culpable in this crime against human decency. And I know you are better than that.

We have court systems and juries to accuse people if they have committed a crime, if they have actively broken a law. Freedom of speech means having an opinion is not a crime, no matter how distasteful we find it. Hurting someone with words isn’t right, but it still is not a crime. And we should be thankful, otherwise everyone who has added their screams of hate and outrage on social media would be in prison.

Please. Let’s relearn how to love each other. Let’s relearn how to have grace with each other, educate each other, be good examples to each other so others will WANT to follow our example. No one has EVER genuinely changed their opinion because someone was degrading them as a person, and forcing everyone to follow popular opinion out of fear of public backlash isn’t freedom. It is tyranny. And it’s just going to lead to more hate.

Thank you for your time.

Truths that have changed my life:

You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate.

You’re never asking for too much or asking for the wrong thing; you’re just asking the wrong people.

Rejection is redirection. Better things are waiting elsewhere. Trust in synchronicity.

Here and now is worth being alive and enjoying the moment to the fullest. Not someday when you will have X and Y goal accomplished. You are worthy of letting yourself be happy here and now.

The only limitations in your life are those that you impose on yourself - first and foremost, mentally. So release them.

Work on your goals lowkey, and only share the progress with truly dear people to you, that you know can treasure the delicate energy of a blooming goal, with only positive energy.

When you let go of the old, you tell the universe, “I’m ready for the new.”

Amazing things await you, if you allow them into your space. Believe that you deserve better, and you will.