Aroace - Blog Posts

Dude. Not me getting reddit just so i could join🥲

I made a subreddit for Alastor content without sex and romance

It’s called r/aceinthehole

Feel free to join! I especially hope those of you that are tired of all of the sexual and romantic content with Alastor enjoy this subreddit!

HELP I THOUGHT PEOPLE WERE JUST BEING REALLY DRAMATIC ALL THE TIME ABOUT CRUSHES IN MIDDLE SCHOOL

As an aroace person I actually never had that feeling of being broken. I thought everyone was the same way and some people were just dramatic 😭

i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues

Me, whenever Ida speaks:

as an asexual aromantic person i should be allowed to want to kiss someone. i should be allowed to want to hold hands with someone and sleep in the same bed as them. i should be allowed to do intimate things with someone i love and i should be allowed to have partners that aren't inherently romantic or sexual and have those relationships be respected. i should be allowed to have romantic thoughts and do romantic actions without experiencing romantic attraction. i should be allowed to be asexual and aromantic and live as i want to.

person: but if you're asexual AND aromantic, what DO you like?

me: money

pan people are allowed to:

have gender preferences

not have gender preferences

be attracted to genders in different ways

be attracted to genders in the same way

experience attraction where gender is a determining factor

experience attraction where gender is not a determining factor

be in any kind of relationship

not be in any relationship at all

use gay/bi/queer/etc as personal umbrella terms

also identify as bi

not want to be referred to as anything but pan

be aro, ace, aroace, or anywhere on the ace/aro spectrums

have control over the terminology used to refer to them

have full control over their identity/label(s) in general

this has been a psa

Me, an asexual: This actor on this TV show has a really beautiful face. It’s amazing how pretty it is.

Friend: That was the most asexual way you could’ve complimented his appearance.

Me: Certainly not. I could’ve said “He makes me thirsty… thirsty for coffee whilst sitting across from him staring at his glorious face :) ”

Friend: That was actually clever; I’ll give you that one.

is there anything troubling you? anything you want to share? i’m here for you.

i’m asexual.

one of my favorite types of fanfic is smut.

i’m still asexual.

my playlist is full of insanely vulgar music.

i’m still asexual.

i love making dirty jokes.

i’m still asexual.

i’m aromantic.

one of my favorite types of fanfic is romance.

i’m still aromantic.

i listen to a lot of love songs and attribute them to my friends.

i’m still aromantic.

i love playfully flirting with people i’m close with.

i’m still aromantic.

You don't have to have everything figured out right away, there's no deadline on understanding your identity or knowing what labels are/aren't right for you.

Aroace culture is seeing people talk about how hot your favourite character is, and feeling deeply uncomfortable. And feeling even more uncomfortable when you see antis claim that you love the character only because they are sexy, while in reality it's because you see yourself a lot in them.

Mr attendant

Hello Mr attendant sorry to interrupt I promise it won’t be that long

I was just wondering if I could return my heart

I think is kind of defective cause I can’t fall in love

I’ve tried so hard to make it work, I watched every rom-com movie and followed step by step the instructions of love

I went out and found some cool and other not that cool people to practice but all I could feel was nothing

I checked my notes twice and ask for direct instructions but it seems that no one knows what’s wrong

I know that feeling emotions is not the problem cause during all this period I have felt everything: confusion, disgust, desinterest and also love

I have felt love but couldn’t felt the romantic part so I was thinking, if you’re not that busy, would you check my heart? Cause I think I need a refund.

🧡💛🤍🩵💙

🧡💛🤍🩵💙

for me a crush is just a person who stands out from the others. I don't want any relationship with them (friendly, romantic or anything)

Aesthetic or sensual attraction

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Hello I am aromantic and I was wondering if there was a term that applies to me better

• I very rarely have crushes or romantic attraction and it's very weak

• I want to be in a romantic or queer platonic relationship

• when i have a crush i am not interested in a romantic relationship or a queer platonic one

im an aroace mash burndead truther my goat feels nothing for no one 🥱🥱

i rest my case

Something I find interesting is that instead of some of my favorites becoming hear me outs, every single favorite character of mine becomes my child. This is made better by the fact that in my friend group, we call each other 'mother' or 'child'. In short, our family has expanded beyond this dimension and has become some sort of cosmic entity that consumes fictional characters into a sort of familial hivemind.

You ever see your friends all happy cause they're dating eachcother, and they're hanging out and all their conversations are about love because of it, and it's sweet, it's so nice seeing your friends happy, but it just makes you feel a little lonely? Like, I wanna be part of it too, but I can't. Normally I have no issues with my sexuality, but I'd be lying if I said I never wished I was allo.

Throwback to when I thought that everyone had to have romantic feelings and because of that I got into romance books and series to learn the definition of romantic attraction because I thought that if I knew what it was I would feel it like I was supposed too

(Spoiler Alert: I in fact did not ever feel it and am happily aroace)

"what if you havent found the right one yet🥺🥺" what if i hit you with a metal pole

A Captain’s Love

A fully colored digital comic of the Strawhats from One Piece.

The first page only contains a panel with the words "A Captain's Love.“

The second page shows Luffy and Nami holding hands and smiling at each other. Pictured underneath is a close-up of their interlinked hands and the gray silhouette of a person asking "So, are you guys dating?" Another panel shows Nami's reaction: an appalled expression on her face and "huh?" written in bold red letters.

The second page depicts Luffy sitting on Zoro's lap, happily eating meat while Zoro is drinking. Next to them is a gray silhouette again, asking: "isn't that weird?" At the bottom of the page is Zoro's reaction: an intimidating glare with "WHAT" spelled out in big red capital letters behind him.

The third page contains a drawing of Luffy and Usopp, sleeping on spread out blankets and pillows on the floor while cuddling. Again, the silhouette of a person is in the corner, remarking: "you know what people might think." Usopp's reaction in an extra panel is giving the person a deeply disapproving side-eye, asking "oh yeah...?"

The fourth page depicts Luffy tighly hugging Robin while lifting her in the air as both of them are grinning. The gray silhouette of a person is asking: "Are you really gonna let him act like that with your girlfriend?" Pictured underneath is Franky, deeply confused expression on his face, only responding with a bewildered "uhh...."

The last panel shows Luffy, grinning and holding his hat. The asexual and the aromantic flag are pictured behind him.

The aroace pride flag really does suit Luffy

Happy pride month, from your aroace friend from the Fog. 

I’ve been cooking this one for a while, but with the most recent “The Bad Batch” episode, I feel this is timely. 

Before I go into it, I want to get it out there that there is NOTHING WRONG with HC-ing an autistic character or an autistically-coded character as Aro/Ace, and there is NOTHING WRONG with being an Aro/Ace Autistic/Autistic person. My issue is with a PATTERN and not any specific HCs that I’ve come across. I also need to say that my Autistic experience is not the same as anyone else’s, I cannot and do not speak for all Autistic people. We exist on a spectrum here. I will also be using Autistic and Autistic person interchangeably here because I have no personal preference, though others might.

That being said, I notice that A LOT, if not MOST Autistically-coded characters are popularly headcanoned as Aro/Ace in their respective fandoms. Sometimes there’s canon evidence and sometimes there’s not. Some of them I agree with and others...make me wonder if they’re just being thought of that way because of the pervasive stereotype that Autistics are incapable of romantic or sexual feelings. 

In my own experience, I’ve had a handful of encounters where people are really shocked that I’m in a committed romantic relationship and that I am very comfortable with my sexuality and sexuality in general. It goes hand in hand with the typical “you don’t LOOK Autistic” response from people. It’s all part of a wider stereotype that infantilizes neurodivergents, separating them from commonly recognized markers of adulthood (and by extension, personhood) like a developed sex drive, desire to be romantically close with others, and independence. None of these things actually define what an adult person is, by the way.  

In those encounters, I usually feel infantilized and talked down to. It’s an unpleasant reality of my life that I can usually escape from in my fandoms, but echoes of it resonate in previously safe spaces with this pattern. I have to wonder if everybody is actually thinking their HCs through or if they’re just slapping “Aro/Ace” onto the character because they subconsciously don’t think of Autistic people as capable of romantic or sexual feelings, especially with characters that actually have canon romantic/sexual feelings ON SCREEN or CONFIRMED by the creators. (I thought about providing examples of Autistic/Autistically-coded characters that get Aro/Ace headcanoned often here, in spite of canon evidence to the contrary, but headcanons are supposed to be fun and I don’t want to start an argument about these characters here, especially if that headcanon is important to someone).

In summary, the Autistic community is an incredibly diverse one with people of all walks of life. Please don’t shunt us into just one way of being because of stereotypes, even if we’re just fictional characters.

Also, please watch Overly Sarcastic’s Trope Talk on Robots for a nice little lesson on coding and how it affects the Neurodivergent and Aro/Ace communities. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZGRdxP_8Js&t=1s

concept:

aroace chuuya who comes off as really rude and flippant when it comes to people flirting with him but in reality he just does not get it and thinks the flirting person is just getting too personal and weird and rude

aroace chuuya who loves the concept of dimly lit dinner dates but like, platonic, and doesn't understand why people assume he's the flirty type because of his love of fine wine, he doesn't see the correlation

aroace chuuya with extreme sex repulsion because he values the privacy of having his body to himself so much he refuses to allow anyone else to change things or do things to it, even intimately, because he associates any sort of anything so connected to his body with the abuse of his past as an experiment even though it's not related

aroace chuuya.