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PRIDE MONTH!!
PRIDE
Happy pride month to every single loving people out there!
You are all amazing, don’t let anyone tell you any different. This is YOUR month, YOUR month to show off your amazing dashing clothes and kick ass make up and hair!
Make sure to be super carefull as well!! HAVE FUN A PRIDE GUYS!
Pride Month 2022, Yami_No_Kurama
Well, hello! Sorry, but it's not a Pokemon Uranium Comic update~ It's for tomorrow, I promise, don't worry. I just wanted to do the Pride Month for once. (Mainly because I feel confident enough in my drawing skills lately) Welp. There it is. For the ones who are new with the flags, here is mines: - Black, Grey, White, Purple lines: Asexual - Black Triangle, Grey and White big lines, Green small line: Demiromantic - Pink, Purple, Blue, White, Pale Green, Medium Green Lines: Neutrandrogyn (To make it easier use She/Her for me) Well, I guess that's it. See you tomorrow!~
hi. i made some images.
feel free to take them and use for whatever you may need them for. no credit required
Sharing a recent commission that holds a very special place in my heart 🥹🫶
My commissions are still open!!
this panel is so beautifully drawn. before this, the other panels are more zoomed in on the two of them, but this one takes quite a few steps back and they seem so small.
the way it shows tori so small immediately sent my brain to making a connection to how she might feel alone in this because she doesn’t have many/any people to talk to who will understand aspec identities in general (PLEASE GO BECOME BEST FRIENDS WITH ALED PRETTY PLEASE IM BEGGING YOU-), and her and charlie are the only two in the panel, alone in the world. there’s so many other people there but they’re separated. just like there’s so many people in the lgbtqia+ community but aspec people often feel set apart and are often less understood or less accepted overall.
not to mention how the speech bubble is (proportionally) so large in this panel compared to the others. this is like, woah, it’s a scary thing to say, but you said it. and they’re at the top of the ferris wheel and the climax/breaking point of their conversation. tori figured herself out, she knows that she’s ace, and i have a feeling telling this to charlie is so freeing to her and takes such a weight off of her chest.
I JUST THOUGHT OF THIS WHILE TYPING - the two birds in the top corner are little bits of tori and charlie. one of them is the weight lifted from tori, she’s letting it go, setting it free, and the other is a bit of charlie going with that bird to help it and guide it through the sky to a safe place, he’ll help her feel safe and loved no matter what. i love them so much.
Idm being ace anymore. I should've never had an issue with it but I did. I thought I'd feel empty. I'd never feel passion , I'd never get to experience the vulnerability of sex. I'd never get to show someone parts of me that I hide from the world.
I know now that being ace doesn't limit that. It just presents different ways of doing it. I'm not sure if I'll ever get into a long-term relationship anytime soon, but I think I can live with that. I get to daydream possibilities and look forward to it. Even if it never happens, I'll be fine. I like being alone. I like crocheting and listening to music. I like reading random books and writing essays on them. I like trying new recipes. I like myself and I wouldn't mind spending some alone time for a long time, yk?
This is just a random post lmao, idk what to put here
★ Aatamixx, the Echoflower System's Introduction 💫🪻
Hello, welcome to my blog, I'm Aatami (AKA Mishka or Snep)! Well, that's just collectively speaking. If you're talking about the whole system, you can call me (us) the Echoflower System. My collective pronouns are he/him, but kit/kitself, nya/nyaself, and star/starself are all good too. I'm pretty new to Tumblr (well I had a blog in like 2020, but I've forgotten basically everything about it… also I use parentheses way too much, gosh), but I plan to use this blog as a sort of archive for all the xenogenders I've coined, as well as getting into the MOGAI and plural communities on here. I hope I can find my people on this website. /lh
(This post will be periodically edited as things about myself change, of course.)
★ So Now That I Know This Aatami, Where Can I Find Him? ★
In case you had it in you for even more rambling, you can check out my about me literature on Toyhouse (I use it like a Carrd). More things are already linked there, so I don't need to re-add them all here. I also use the account that it's posted under for posting the occasional bulletin (and storing my original characters, but those are all private and will remain as such for the foreseeable future).
★ Small Facts About the System ★
(Switching to using plural language for this was a little jarring lawl, I'm very much used to referring to myself singularly.)
★ We have OSDD-1B (recognized by our psychologist, but unable to be officially diagnosed due to not being disordered — we've achieved functional multiplicity, surprisingly enough) and are of mixed traumagenic origins
★ We are an aceplex
★ We're a theriosystem
★ We are very male- / masculine-heavy, due to our gender dysphoria affecting everyone
★ Because we're so male-heavy, we default to using he/him instead of they/them when referring to an unspecified alter or one whose gender identity is unknown
★ We're also somewhat angel-heavy
★ Due to our maladaptive daydreaming, our system has countless paracosms (the most active ones of which being the worlds our original stories are set in, as well as our fandoms, especially ones we're hyperfixating on)
★ Our headspace is exclusively set in our daydreams, and is not something that's just there in the background — it has to be consciously visualized and visited (or well, accidentally while zoning out)
★ We are a dreamway system of sorts, but I should mention that we don't experience walk-ins and pretty much none of our alters are paragenic
★ Our alters almost never interact in the headspace, but they can use things like the Simply Plural chat and get a conversation going if need be
★ Alter Signoff Chart ★
(I originally planned to list their roles here too, but I ended up deciding against it, since I'm unsure of what some of their purposes are and uncomfortable with sharing a few others.)
★ The Hosts ★
⚡️💙 = Fritz ★ He/Kit/Spark
🌈🌺 = Sindri ★ He/Kit/Meow/Nya/Star/.Exe
🌀🎧 = Samuel ★ He/Him
❄️🌙 = Mikko ★ He/They/Kit/Nya/Snow/Star
★ Alfred's Subsystem ★
🐾🩸 = Alfred ★ He/Him
🐾🚬 = Ekkehard (Eike) ★ He/Him
🐾🤍 = Kelso ★ He/Him
🐾✨ = Aleksi ★ He/They/Pup
🐾🎀 = Salem ★ She/He/They/Pup
★ Everyone Else ★
☀️🥀 = Akatsuki ★ He/Kit
❓❗️= Alois ★ He/Him
🌻💛 = Asriel ★ He/They
🌹👑 = August ★ He/They
🐦⬛🌙 = Corbin ★ He/Him
🔪🚬 = Dylan ★ He/Him
🐈⬛💜 = Ender ★ Xae/They/He/Kit
📘⭐️ = Felix ★ He/They
🌊🦈 = Finnley ★ He/They
🪽🏹 = Gabriel ★ They/He
🪖🔪 = Ivan ★ He/Him
🐛🌈 = Jeremy ★ He/Him
🍪💖 = Katsumi / Sabrina ★ She/They/He/Kit/Meow/Mew/Nya
🐺🩸 = Lavrentiy ★ He/Him
🌿⚔️ = Malachi ★ He/Him
🍌🦮 = Nanner (trying to think of a new name for himself) ★ He/She/They/Pup
🌐🖥️ = Prototype (trying to think of a new name for himself) ★ He/Him
🥀🗡️ = Reinhard ★ He/Him
🪐🌌 = Saturn ★ He/They/Pup/Star
🎸🧡 = Shalva ★ He/Him
🎀🐇 = Sylvan ★ He/They/Bun
🪳🩸 = Vermin ★ They/He
🗝️🩸 = (Currently undecided on a name for himself, very recently discovered.) ★ He/Him
my asexuality is best described as the minecraft 1.17 update
“caves and cliffs” but without the caves and cliffs
I love this because I to am aromantic asexual.
Yuliy Jirov from Sirius the Jaeger is aromantic asexual!
"Do you want a boyfriend/girlfriend?" no i want a best friend/roommate/soulmate that I can go on silly adventures with and hang out with and have deep intellectual discussions with and we can be life partners without any of the romance stuff
i keep seeing misinformation about this, so: queerplatonic relationships do not have a set definition. the name comes from the idea that it's "queering" the platonic relationship, tailoring it to the individual relationships' own desires. it isn't necessarily romance lite, but it also isn't necessarily whatever definition you want to impose on it. the point of queering the platonic relationship is to break away from strict allonormative views on friendship, romance, and sex, not to make a new categorical box to fit in.
the answer to "what is a qpr?" is "whatever you want it to be." sometimes that is romance lite. sometimes it's a deeply committed friendship. sometimes it's friends who have a sexual relationship. sometimes it's based on an entirely different mode of attraction. sometimes it's fluid and impossible to put into words. it's whatever you want it to be. it's queer.
The best way I can describe to an allo person how you feel about sex as a topic as a sex-repulsed or averse asexual is that it feels like a hype that never ends. As though Despicable Me came out and everyone around you was sending minion facebook memes to each other for years to come. The stores are full of minion themed products; they're in ads and your friends talk about them all the time. And deep in your heart you're like "I'm glad that they're able to enjoy something I personally don't like and am not interested in :3". But there is always this little voice in the back of your head that's like "If I have to see ONE MORE of these little yellow FUCKERS today then God help us all." You make an active choice to communicate only the former.
tbh I really dislike how aphobia tends to be discussed whenever there's some kind of incident that makes it visible to general society. The most common response seems to be some variation of "why would anyone hate asexual/aromantic people, they aren't even doing anything" and it just always sits wrong with me. It paints such a passive picture of our existence and feels like a comment influenced by the level of invisibility that aspec people have in society. Why would you be annoyed by someone who is practically invisible? Just go back to ignoring their existence, it's easy!
But despite the invisibility, aspec people are actually doing quite a lot of things that will piss off queerphobic, right-wing and religious people (and hell, even left-wing people). And the most obvious point is that we are actively not performing heterosexuality the way they want us to. People who's entire world view is "cis men and women should be in monogamous, heterosexual marriage and have (white) babies" are not going to lean back and say "oh but those asexuals and aromantics are fine". They will also hate our guts, and they will come up with all sorts of reasons, including insinuating we're all secretly into bestiality, or mentally ill, or not human, or attention seeking children. It's just plain old queerphobia, and like all queerphobia, there's no inherent logic to it which you can worm your way out of by "not doing anything".
And like, there's a lot more that aspec people do which people hate. Raising awareness about amatonormativity? People feel attacked, they hate it. Asexual people having sex? Or not having sex? People hate it! Aromantic people being in (seemingly) romantic relationships? People fucking hate it! Aromantic people having sex? Ohh people hate that!!
I guess the existence of aphobia can be confusing when you haven't spent much time thinking about asexuality and aromanticism, but in the end, these are identities that aren't heteronormative and they will be hit with the same or similar bigotry as any other queer identity. I just get tired of this response after seeing it recycled for 10 years without ever seeming to go any further.
"love is love" until it doesn't include sex
"love is love" until it lives in separate beds
"love is love" until it is queer platonic
"love is love" until it does not comply with compulsory sexuality and amatonormativity
love IS love, for aspecs, for sex repulsed folk and for platonic relationships
"love is love" apply to more than same-sex relationships in a world where romantic and sexual relationships are considered more valuable
Remember to advocate for Asexuals and Aromantics this pride. Because we are also here, and we are also queer
okay look, I'm a straight a/demisexual (I have no fucking idea which), but if the opportunity presented itself, would fuck ryan gosling👍
Reblog if you genuinely support asexuals
It terrifies me that there’s so much raging passion in the lgbt+ community that insist on marginalizing asexuals and implying that asexuals don’t deserve to have safe spaces. There’s still so much acephobia so I just wanna know which blogs are genuinely supportive and a safe space for asexuals
Life for LGBT individuals in Kakuma refugee camp can be incredibly challenging. Many face discrimination and violence, both from other refugees and the camp's authorities. The camp is often overcrowded and lacks adequate resources, making it difficult for LGBT individuals to find safe spaces.
Social stigma can lead to isolation, and many struggle with mental health issues due to their experiences. However, there are also organizations and support groups within the camp working to provide advocacy, counseling, and safe spaces for LGBT refugees. Some individuals find solidarity and community among others who share similar experiences, which can be a source of strength in such a difficult environment.
Overall, while the challenges are significant, there are efforts to improve the situation and create a more inclusive atmosphere.
Please buy this comic, be it trades, issues (physical or digital) this is a super feminist LGBT+ comic for all ages.
Raven the Pirate Princess is Sinking
I despise doing posts where I ask for help, but here we are.
About two years ago I started a new creator owned project. It began as a spin-off of Princeless, but the reality is this - Raven The Pirate Princess is its own thing altogether. I knew this from the first issue and if you’ve been reading, so have you.
Sure, the first few issues of Raven: Pirate Princess had that heroic lady feminist banter for which Princeless has become known both among its fans and detractors. I mean, Raven had this scene:
and issue 1 had this scene:
But perhaps much more importantly, the first issue of Raven had this:
but that wasn’t where that ended. This is a book about a community of diverse queer women actively claiming their place in the world and taking what’s theirs. It’s about Raven, who is desperately in love with her childhood best friend Ximena
It’s about Ximena, a girl who was held captive for years by a pirate king who pretended to be her liberator. Who fell in love with the pirate’s daughter, only to be left behind by that father when she outlived her value.
About Sunshine, the thief that chose the wrong target and ended up falling in love with a woman already hopelessly in love with somebody else.
It’s about Katie, the bisexual second in command who’s motivated by honor…and occasionally beating the snot out of a dude or two
Oh and in case I forgot to mention, Katie is also incredibly muscular:
And Jayla, the asexual science genius who’s tired of being treated like a little sister
and Cid, the deaf engineer who quietly keeps the ship running
and of course, these two:
The socially awkward poet and the angry sword fighter who couldn’t stand her who have somehow become these two:
But here’s the thing: this comic is failing. It has a very dedicated and exuberant but at this point SMALL fanbase. Today I had a hard conversation with Action Lab about the reality of the numbers on this book versus what it costs to produce this book and, suffice it to say, Action Lab isn’t ready to cancel the book, but they aren’t ready to greenlight year 3 either. After Year 2 #13, Raven is set to go on the shelf until numbers can support continuing it.
This is where I need your help
If you care about this book full of queer pirate ladies and you want it to continue, we need to find a way to spread the word about it. We don’t need to sell single issues (it would be nice) but ultimately we need the trades sales that back up the continuation of this big YA Pirate/Revenge/Adventure/Romance thing.
Digital copies can be bought instantly right on Comixology: https://www.comixology.com/Princeless-Raven-The-Pirate-Princess/comics-series/46971
You can buy the physical volumes on amazon here: https://www.amazon.com/gp/bookseries/B01BF7U91Q
In fact, if you’ve already purchased volumes 1-4, volume 5 is available for preorder there right now!
Maybe you’ve bought all the issues already. Thank you! If you still want to support Raven, you can review the books on Amazon or other retailers, you can share, reblog or retweet this post. You can tell a friend about the book!
If you have a comics review site or, say, a blog where you talk about LGBT media, contact me for review links or interviews. Please, help us save our ship.
Most of my tags here are pretty self-explanatory, but for all my fellow apothis and aspecs who are simply not in the mood: any shipping related content on this blog will be pretty mild, but you can filter the tag #allo nonsense to not see it here.
Have a wonderful day! 💜🤍🖤🤍❤️/ 💚🤍🖤🤍❤️
hate J K Rowling button. love asexuals button.
This. They hate all of us, we're not any better to them.
There's also a bit of... I think unintentional support of other queerphobia when people say stuff about how asexuals aren't doing anything. As the post discussed, we are seen as a threat to a lot of people, but I think the intent when aspecs say this is more like "we're not hurting anybody/doing anything wrong". But the thing is... Neither are trans people or gay people or other queer identities. When people say stuff like that, it's almost agreeing like "I can see why you don't like them, but we're different".
So there are several issues. I do think a lot of it comes from people not really knowing aphobia exists or even within our community not understanding how strong it is in some groups.
tbh I really dislike how aphobia tends to be discussed whenever there's some kind of incident that makes it visible to general society. The most common response seems to be some variation of "why would anyone hate asexual/aromantic people, they aren't even doing anything" and it just always sits wrong with me. It paints such a passive picture of our existence and feels like a comment influenced by the level of invisibility that aspec people have in society. Why would you be annoyed by someone who is practically invisible? Just go back to ignoring their existence, it's easy!
But despite the invisibility, aspec people are actually doing quite a lot of things that will piss off queerphobic, right-wing and religious people (and hell, even left-wing people). And the most obvious point is that we are actively not performing heterosexuality the way they want us to. People who's entire world view is "cis men and women should be in monogamous, heterosexual marriage and have (white) babies" are not going to lean back and say "oh but those asexuals and aromantics are fine". They will also hate our guts, and they will come up with all sorts of reasons, including insinuating we're all secretly into bestiality, or mentally ill, or not human, or attention seeking children. It's just plain old queerphobia, and like all queerphobia, there's no inherent logic to it which you can worm your way out of by "not doing anything".
And like, there's a lot more that aspec people do which people hate. Raising awareness about amatonormativity? People feel attacked, they hate it. Asexual people having sex? Or not having sex? People hate it! Aromantic people being in (seemingly) romantic relationships? People fucking hate it! Aromantic people having sex? Ohh people hate that!!
I guess the existence of aphobia can be confusing when you haven't spent much time thinking about asexuality and aromanticism, but in the end, these are identities that aren't heteronormative and they will be hit with the same or similar bigotry as any other queer identity. I just get tired of this response after seeing it recycled for 10 years without ever seeming to go any further.
made a meme because what do you mean i’m questioning my sexuality again even tho i’ve been secure in my identity for the past 10 years 😭
Thinking about how I'm both non-binary and aroace like I made only one choice in life and it was "no."
My experience with being oriented aroace is basically just not sexual or romantic attraction but a secret third thing but idk what the secret third thing is and tbh I don't care what it is, I just know that Women