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Yes! So, I am a disabled and chronically ill aroace cane user. I fully understand that not all disabled people are aspec and vice versa. But some are! What we really need is more variety in representation, but there's just not enough of it in the first place.
There can be issues with characters like this depending on their story and how their identity is handled. For example, I think the way Viktor from Arcane was confirmed as ace was... not the best, and potentially insulting to some aspecs and disabled people. It could have been done better. BUT that doesn't mean the idea itself is bad!
With Viktor specifically, I totally get why some people don't want him to be ace, and they're welcome to have other headcanons, I will never begrudge someone that. But the problem starts when I tell someone I like him being ace because I see myself even more in him (I was also starting to use a cane around the time I watched the show, and seeing him made me so much more comfortable using it), and they tell me that it's inherently offensive. Because it's not actually, otherwise so is my existence. You don't have to agree or see him as ace, but please do not invalidate my identity and experiences.
I saw a post that made me think.
Why do people say it's ableist for disabled characters to have aromantic or asexual identity in headcanons or canon? It's seriously weird how people are mad at stuff like that. Having an identity like that is not a bad thing.
I'm asexual, autistic and physically disabled. Is it ableist that I exist like that? I like headcanoning characters who are autistic coded as asexual because it makes me happy because they are like me in my head.
I have seen people online be mad at others for headcanoning a disabled character or autistic coded to have an aromantic or asexual identity. People even get mad at disabled people who share those identities for headcanoning like that. I don't know what is up with that.
Some people seem to be mad only because they think things like an aromantic or asexual identity implies that the character that is disabled will not want things like being intimate, but that is not true. It is up to the person who has that identity, they can choose to be intimate or not intimate. Things like that confuse me. Like how people talk about Viktor from arcane.
I like Viktor, I am happy he is asexual canonically. It means he can still have a relationship with Jayce hypothetically, though. His asexuality is valid no matter what way he is portrayed.
Viktor is my favorite character. Seeing Viktor in Arcane made me feel better about using a cane when my health got worse, I felt internalized ableism at that time. Seeing a depiction of someone who is like me in a way helped me. Learning he is asexual made me happier too because he is also like me in that way, too.
Asexuality is defined as experiencing no sexual feelings or desires; not feeling sexual attraction to anyone. And I think it should be fine for Viktor to be like that and it should be fine for everyone who feels that way.
Let people on the aro/ace spectrum be who they are, disabled people can be like that and still have intimate relationships. And let people headcanon whatever they want as long as they're not harming people.
And that is my thoughts on that. I hope I wrote that in an accurate way. I just feel confused about that topic. People are so hard to understand.
[Disclaimer, obviously not all people think the how I described about asexuality. Some people are fine with disabled characters having an aromantic or asexual identity. And when I say aromantic or asexual identity, I am referring to the whole spectrum of those identities.]
actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.
"there is no platonic explanation for this" when characters hug, care for each other, support them, are worried when they are in danger, smile at each other etc
Some of yall just don't have any good friends and it really shows
I really like this, I once explained QPRs as looking at the rules for established relationship types and saying "No, we don't like those," and then building your own relationship, taking pieces you like, leaving what you don't, and even adding your own stuff if you want, to make a new thing that works for you.
i keep seeing misinformation about this, so: queerplatonic relationships do not have a set definition. the name comes from the idea that it's "queering" the platonic relationship, tailoring it to the individual relationships' own desires. it isn't necessarily romance lite, but it also isn't necessarily whatever definition you want to impose on it. the point of queering the platonic relationship is to break away from strict allonormative views on friendship, romance, and sex, not to make a new categorical box to fit in.
the answer to "what is a qpr?" is "whatever you want it to be." sometimes that is romance lite. sometimes it's a deeply committed friendship. sometimes it's friends who have a sexual relationship. sometimes it's based on an entirely different mode of attraction. sometimes it's fluid and impossible to put into words. it's whatever you want it to be. it's queer.
hot take but “it’s perfectly fine to portray aspec characters as having sex/dating bc aspec people still do those things” and “fandom often overwhelmingly portrays aspec characters as having sex/dating with little to no regard for their aspec identity, leaving little room for aspecs who don’t do those things” are two statements that can and should coexist
haha
im an ace jahah its sp fun
When I was twelve or thirteen and thought I was bisexual, I started reading Tomura Shigaraki x readers, but stopped because I realised I just wanted to hang out with him and be his friend instead of be his gf, and that these fics were twisting his character in my mind. That probably should have been a sign of my aromanticism and asexuality, but no, I wouldn’t figure it out for a while.
At school we had yearly letters that we would write to ourselves, and in one from when I was perhaps fourteen, I wrote something akin to ‘no crushes yet, but I’m hopeful’. Reading that when I graduated and got the letters back was fun, I enjoyed laughing at myself.
shoutout to nine-year-old me who was very much aroace but didnt know the difference between hyperfixating on a character and having a crush on them so for the next few years i told everyone that the only crush i ever had was on lord voldemort
reblog to scare the aphobes
👏 GAY 👏 RODENTS 👏
okay someone needs to do something to stop me from drawing this is too gay and too furry/j
༼;´༎ຶ ༎ຶ༽ they are so gaaaaaaay (romantic)
(sorry I made y'all pine they are asexual, just kinda uh romanticly interested in each other to an extreme 👍)
Hell yes
sexualizing your fav characters? Nah mate you got me wrong, I’m asexualizing them, that one’s demi now
Man, I need to lay down (I say, as I'm already laying in bed)
Here's Mc's artfight ref, I decided to change their scar a little
In honor of pride month I have decided to finally accept that I am ace after being in denial for like a year (yay!)
Also might not be a post today because its already almost 8 and I haven't decided on a character
Glow up of the century right here ⬇️
I decided to change some stuff from their first design, like changing their skin tone(MC was pale as hell before) and making their hair naturally curly instead of straight.
Small (?) mention of death below
MC is a character of mine I haven't thought about very much recently but they have such a cool story that could very much be explored.
For those not aware, MC is long dead in this drawing, having died in a post apocalyptic scenario and they looked ROUGH at their time of death.
The only reason they look somewhat cute here is because you can still change your appearance to a degree in the afterlife even if you keep any scars.
MC also uses any pronouns without a preference but that is not really connected to any gender, just a personal preference, so I only included the Ace flag :)
OC fun fact: MC actually had/still has an older brother named Robin who is still alive and is about 9 years older than them, so in his mid twenties. Robin is their adoptive brother.
OC not-so-fun fact: MC never really learned to read in any language. This was a problem in life and has continued on into their afterlife, but an effort is being made to try and teach them.
If enough people are interested (and probably even if you aren't) I'll post some more lore about them and such.
Have a good day/evening/night or whatever it is for you 💛🧡💛🧡 and happy pride!!
Random example question to ask aphobes :
Why is it considered sexual harassment to push a straight woman into having sex, but not when she's asexual?
Why does it change anything, I thought a "no" is a "no"?
Mah pookie sivul
I love them
HELL YES ARO/ACES ARE QUEER LIKE WTF AH JUUSIDORJKH
I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT
To prove something to a friend, please
REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH
A bit late hehe
Be careful both are in clear distress about seeing the colour purple for the first time
I legit forgot today was ace day so I made this in a rush 😭
Work had been so painfully slow for the last two hours and while writing me (an asexual) and my coworker (an asexual) have been jamming out to the sluttiest songs known to man
Y'all means all
can somebody tell me some more info about queerplatonic relationships as me and my friend are considering entering one and neither of us know much about it?????
asexual pluto ftw - the weirdo next to me
i dont know if i’ve made a post about this yet but i wanted to go over my views on relationships and sex as i was rambling about it to my brother the other day
personally, i view sex as just another part of your relationship with somebody. like i will casually sleep with friends, but not all of them. some of them i will casually cuddle and stuff, but again, not all of them. it just depends on the relationship you have with them.
and when it comes to dating, again, i just view that as your unique relationship with somebody. i understand that not everybody views dating this way, and it’s a conversation to have with any future partners, but i personally would want to still sleep with and date other people while in a relationship, and would be fine with my partner doing that too. i don’t like the idea of devoting my entire body to one singular person.
Happy Ace Week Everyone!
You are valid and welcome here
— ur local aroace 🧡💛🤍🩵💙