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Why did someone send me this and claim it was proof women’s rights were under attack?

Yeah women aren’t the only caregiver and often due to socialization they push males out of parenting roles and often undermine males in these situations.

It’s actually part of the whole “women have historically been the child raisers” narrative. As a society women see themselves as the only ones who know how to raise kids and we even specifically use women as symbols of good parents despite men being statistically just as good at parenting.

You aren’t being attacked by this and if you see this as an attack you are a brainwashed idiot who thinks women’s only role is a walking womb who is meant to push out spawn and then raise them while the rock person you are married too go and dies in a war or something.

Toxic moms vs Good Fathers

The Crucial Role of Fathers in Child Development and Overcoming Maternal Gatekeeping

As a psychotherapist, I've observed firsthand how deeply impactful a father's role is in a child's emotional, psychological, and behavioral development. Current research underscores the importance of paternal involvement, highlighting the structured, authoritative approach fathers commonly adopt, characterized by clear expectations, discipline, and consistent guidance. These aspects of fatherhood foster independence, emotional resilience, and social competence in children (Frontiers in Psychology, 2022).

Why Fathers are Essential

Fathers uniquely contribute to children's growth through structured play and consistent discipline, significantly influencing children's emotional regulation, academic performance, and social interactions. Research shows that children with engaged fathers exhibit improved cognitive development, better behavioral outcomes, and enhanced emotional stability. Conversely, the absence of a father correlates strongly with increased risks for mood disorders, behavioral problems, and difficulties with emotional regulation (PMC, 2023).

Understanding Toxic Maternal Gatekeeping

While mothers often excel at nurturing, some behaviors, especially maternal gatekeeping, can inadvertently hinder a father's involvement. Maternal gatekeeping refers to behaviors where a mother may limit or restrict the father's access to the child, often through criticism, control, or undermining his parenting efforts. This behavior frequently stems from unresolved attachment issues, emotional insecurity, or distrust, particularly among mothers who themselves lacked a father figure in their upbringing (PMC, 2016).

Maternal gatekeeping not only undermines paternal engagement but can perpetuate generational cycles of absenteeism. Women raised without fathers are more likely to experience similar patterns in their own families, leading to ongoing familial dysfunction and emotional instability (Fatherhood.org, 2023).

Economic and Emotional Challenges in Father-Absent Households

Families without an actively involved father, particularly single-mother households, commonly experience economic hardships, increased stress, and limited social support. These stressors can negatively impact children's psychological and emotional well-being, highlighting the need for paternal presence to provide stability and structure. In contrast, single-father households typically report higher incomes and better resource accessibility, underscoring the socio-economic advantages of paternal involvement (Pew Research Center, 2013).

Strategies for Overcoming Maternal Gatekeeping

Fathers facing toxic maternal gatekeeping can employ several effective strategies:

Open Communication: Initiate respectful, non-confrontational discussions focused on the child's best interests.

Clearly Defined Roles: Establish written agreements outlining parental responsibilities and visitation.

Legal Support: Consult legal professionals early and document interactions meticulously.

Mediation and Therapy: Engage in mediation or family counseling to facilitate healthy co-parenting communication.

Parenting Education: Participate in parenting workshops to strengthen parenting skills and demonstrate commitment.

Child-Centric Approach: Prioritize the child's emotional health and consistently avoid negative speech about the other parent.

Strong Emotional Connections: Maximize quality time to build trust and strengthen bonds with the child.

Professional Support: Utilize individual and child-focused counseling to navigate emotional challenges and familial tensions.

Conclusion

As a psychotherapist, I've witnessed the transformative impact that involved fathers can have on their children's lives. Addressing and overcoming maternal gatekeeping behaviors is critical for fostering healthier family environments. By advocating for structured paternal involvement, supporting co-parenting strategies, and understanding the root causes of gatekeeping, we can significantly improve children's developmental outcomes, ensuring emotional, social, and psychological health for generations to come.

References

Frontiers in Psychology (2022). "The Role of Fathers in Child Development." https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.772023/full

PMC (2023). "Psychological Effects of Father Absence." https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5648344

PMC (2016). "Maternal Gatekeeping and Father Involvement." https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4922533

Fatherhood.org (2023). "Father Absence and Intergenerational Patterns." https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic

Pew Research Center (2013). "The Rise of Single Fathers." https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/07/02/the-rise-of-single-fathers

Source: Toxic moms vs Good Fathers

That entire first bit is you degrading women down to their basic components like a misogynist would. Why do terfs constantly insist womenhood is just “yeah womb and tits is about it” like it’s some own? Lady the patriarchy wants you to be defined by your biology cause it’s used as a weapon against women and historically has been the key point to oppression by the patriarchy.

You also don’t know anything about the titanic and you claiming the “women and children first” thing is about vulnerable class? Lady it was done that way cause of patriarchy. You as a woman under this standard is WEAK and panic prone therefore you were evacuated first cause you couldn’t handle the situation like a man would the stronger sex. It wasn’t protecting you so much as stating “women are too weak to handle this send them away to cry while MEN take care of the problems”.

You are so lost in your sauce you push the patriarchy like an incel or right winger. Go read some feminist theory and then try again cause you would get a zero in any women’s study course with this nonsense.

Women celebrating a gov looking at them and saying “you are defined BY YOUR BIOLOGICAL FUNCTION LEGALLY” should terrify all women. It’s a patriarchal statement to dehumanize women into their purely “biological” position.

It’s the same argument used to force women into being the child wrangler and keeping them out of societal positions throughout history. Why are so many women and “feminists” celebrating this like it’s some mega dunk? You are being labeled and degraded to “womb” every time you let a gov dictate your place in the world based on your “biology” as a woman and it’s disgusting and will only lead to harm for all women.

Note to Society #36

Happy International Women’s Day!

As we come together to celebrate the achievements of women throughout history, it’s important to remember the ongoing struggles women across the world are facing.

Today, let’s keep a special focus on all of our sisters of color, queer sisters, trans sisters, Palestinian sisters, working class sisters, disabled sisters, and sisters struggling with reproductive Justice.

We must not forget where we come from, and we must remember who we are working to protect now. I hope you all have a wonderful day - and pass along some kind words to the wonderful women in your lives!

If I catch any of you hoes shaming/mocking/victim-blaming/bullying/harassing or any other bullshit to hyper feminine women just because of how they dress I will personally rip out your eyes and eat your weak ass stomach.

Hyper feminine women are women.  You know what women are? Feminists, so shut the fuck up with your “you can’t be a real feminist if you’re so willing to embrace the patriarchy’s ideal of a woman” and instead leave them fuck alone and maybe take some time to analyze why you really think it’s so bad for a woman to embrace her femininity in a way that doesn’t fit your “gaslit, gatekeep, girlboss” mindset.

You know what, I’ll do it for you, the only reason you get so pissed off when you see a hyperfeminine woman indulge in her femininity is because your idea of feminism is that in order for women to be equal to men they must in some way be masculine (ex: the girlboss CEO stereotype, or the sporty girl stereotype, etc) and because you have been conditioned by our media and our society to hate hyper femininity because society knows if a woman is hyper feminine or a ‘bimbo’ she isn’t doing it for society and that pisses them the fuck off.

Hyper feminine women are not and never have been doing this to please society, they’ve been doing it because they like feminine things and they want to indulge in them.  Men and society have nothing to do with their happiness and because patriarchy can’t handle the thought of a woman doing something that isn’t made to in someway pander or please a man they flip out and have taught us to hate them (hyper feminine women).

If you don’t believe me think of all the movies you’ve watched where the hyper feminine woman has in someway been demonized, shamed, made to be the villain, looked down upon, or used as a sick joke.  There’s a lot.

You calling hyper feminine women anti-feminist is feeding into TERF ideology, and if you know anything about TERF ideology you know that one of it’s core values is turning women on each other and destroying sisterhood.   Any woman who is; respectful of her sisters, wishes equality between men and women, wishes for equality among her sisters, doesn’t turn a woman away because of something she cannot control (ex: sexual orientation, race, finical situation, etc), and most importantly is in tune with her person and is able to find her liberation (however that liberation may look) IS A FEMINIST.

There is no dress code for feminism aside from wanting equality FOR EVERYONE, now stop shaming our feminine sisters and take down your inner misogynist.