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What do you think is the best part of embracing a traditionalist dynamic?

I think the best part is being able to truly step into my femininity. I spent most of my childhood & teenage years being told that I was (effectively) a broken man and needed to girlboss. I wasn’t able to express how much I wanted to be a wife & mom and how much I wanted to devote myself to my family or heavily prefer dresses and skirts. I feel like I’ve always been told I’m a defective boy, but with the more traditionalist dynamic, I’m told I’m a woman, and that’s a beautiful thing to be.

What do you think is the biggest misconception of being a trad?

Oo this is a good question!

I think the biggest misconception is that we don’t have voices/opinions. I have tons of opinions and thoughts that I share with my husband and if he’s doing something I disagree with, I vocalize it, we talk about it, and then we move forward. Yes- my husband has final say most of the time, but he is always open to hearing me and coming to a decision together.

I’ve had a cute little llama xylophone for over a year- a gift from a friend when we found out I was pregnant with my daughter- and now she’s big enough to sit up by herself and play with it. It was a bit of a shock that made me tear up a little when I realized it.

Time flies. And God is so good. 🩷

hello i hope you’re doing well! i am not aspiring to be a tradwife by any means, rather my aspirations are completely opposite. nonetheless, i respect women who choose to be stay-at-home mothers. i can’t ever see myself feminine because i don’t identify with it but i truly respect and admire feminine women from a distance. i always wanted to ask – many traditional feminine oriented blogs some questions and i am surprised i found one that allows asking questions! though i shouldn’t be too surprised, since ive seen a lot of hatred being spewed at them by a lot of women on tumblr. one tumblr ask told a traditional femininity blog to kill themselves! it’s very disturbing to me how they preach girls support girls and continue to self project their extreme hatred and toxicity. i am aware that yes tradwives tend to criticize modern feminism but so far i’ve seen too many bitter modern feminists who don’t seem to be too secure in their life choices. if they are secure, why pick on someone who chooses to live differently?

what are your thoughts? if i, am very secure in my choice to be career oriented, i don’t ever see myself picking on women who believe in traditional gender roles? why do modern feminists try too hard to claim biological determinism is a social construct? sorry for long question there but i am curious about what your thoughts about this? thank you!

If I'm totally honest, I think it's because humans- as a whole, not just women- have a proclivity for envy, as well as a misunderstanding of what most traditionally feminine women want.

Most of us just want to be left alone to run our households and love our families and neighbors. What many modern feminists think we want is to shove all women back into the home, which simply isn't true. Am I going to attest that I am far happier at home than I was in my career? Absolutely, because it's the truth. Do I also realize that this life, this career in and of itself, is not meant for everyone? Also yes! I have tons of friends that don't want to be SAHW/SAHMs for whatever reason, and that's respectable!

My other point- envy. Not that I think they're envious of being able to stay home, but I do think that social media highlights only the good things and they perceive tradwives to be ultra-happy all the time, and that is what they're envious about. They see posts of smiling wives or people having fun with their families and think "why can't or don't I have that? why can't I do both?" which leads to envy, which leads to some very hateful comments & views about our community.

I will agree with you that the idea of the "girls supporting girls" is totally contradicted by the idea of them being hateful. While I have my skepticism about modern feminism, I wholeheartedly will defend their right to choose they want and ask that they do the same with me.

I have lots of thoughts and opinions, so if you'd like to ask more, feel free to DM me! I'm always down for a goodhearted debate or chat.

Something I enjoy about my marriage:

My husband actively pushes me to have a life outside our house. I want to go swimming and workout? Fantastic, let him know how much dues are for the gym. I went on a walk? He wants pictures, where did I go, what did I see! I want to join a church group? Absolutely!

He sees me more than just someone to be kept at home. He sees me as whole person with wants and needs. That is more than I could ever ask for. 💕

I will never understand people who say you should have fun instead of getting married young as if those are mutually exclusive.

The only explanations to saying that is either that your idea of fun is fucking anything that breathes without it being considered cheating, or that you’re dating someone toxic.

There is no reason you should be dating someone if you think marrying them would prevent you from doing things you enjoy.

Either find a better partner, or get real hobbies and interests beyond sex.

When I say “people against getting married young” I don’t mean people against getting married the second you turn 18. I mean the people who yell about “enjoy your 20s don’t tie yourself to someone!”

Target has a bunch of sweater tights that are wonderful for making dresses multi-season!! I swear I’m going to practically live in mine now, they’re so comfortable and soft!!

Update: he was SO over the moon when we finally got to eat it, he said it’s the best he’s ever had. I will have to be careful and save it for special occasions or else I will end up with a chubby husband 🤣💕

Something I never thought I’d do:

My husband mentioned before we got married that he loves cheesecake. I took a mental note but was too busy working to actually do anything about it.

Since I came home in October, and he came home from deployment, I’ve been less stressed and happy as can be. So what did I do tonight?

I baked a cheesecake simply because he likes it.

That is something I never thought I’d do.

I love how people automatically assume that being a homemaker is a decision that doesn’t account for the wants or needs of the woman + her family. Or that our husbands see us as not human- like where on Earth is this logic coming from????

''A woman should submit"

Are you a dog? A child? A servant? You are your own person with your own opinions, wants and needs. You are smart enough to know what's best for you. You deserve to be treated as an equal not as lesser. Being a homemaker isn't what you think it is. You're young; go travel, have fun, get a job you love, study, live your potential and have new experiences instead of daydreaming about erasing who you are and dedicating your entire life for someone who doesn't see you as a person.

You are very respectful and I appreciate that about you so I’m gonna make this nice short and sweet

1. This is my blog full of my opinions

2. My life (which you probably don’t know about)

3. I’m an adult

4. I am capable of understanding the difference being guided and being abused

5. If you are so bothered by me choosing the way I think and how I would like to live my life you are more then welcome to ignore me or leave

Being traditional doesn’t mean I can’t study or travel or do anything cause I marry a traditional man and want a traditional relationship

When traditional women chose the right man for us more often then not these desires are fulfilled even more then anyone can imagine

A husband isn’t meant to hold you back but be your biggest friend and supporter

A husband should be able enhance a woman’s life not downgrade it

I get it not everyone is for tradlife and that’s okay you live your life and I’ll live mine

Thank you very much for your question and I hope you have a wonderful day you wonderful person

Something I never thought I’d do:

My husband mentioned before we got married that he loves cheesecake. I took a mental note but was too busy working to actually do anything about it.

Since I came home in October, and he came home from deployment, I’ve been less stressed and happy as can be. So what did I do tonight?

I baked a cheesecake simply because he likes it.

That is something I never thought I’d do.

I love this. It’s so well written and so true. It’s everything I want in life.

giving up my power brings me peace.

This might make some people uncomfortable, and that’s okay. It’s not for them. But for me? My peace, purpose, and deepest joy come from one thing: being beneath the man I belong to.

Not figuratively. Literally. In our home, in our dynamic, in our life - he is above me. I am his. And I am less.

There. I said it.

Not “equal in different ways.” Not “partners with differing roles.” I am inferior to him in our chosen lifestyle. Willingly. Proudly. With full knowledge and full submission. I gave up my power, and in doing so, I found peace.

Modern culture tells women like me that we should fight to be on top. Or at the very least, to never be less than anyone. We’re supposed to demand equality, keep score, share every burden, lead just as much, assert constantly. And I tried that. I lived that life.

And I was miserable.

Because deep down, I didn’t want to fight for control. I didn’t want to lead. I didn’t want balance. I wanted hierarchy. I wanted to kneel. I wanted to serve. I wanted to surrender completely, not because I’m weak, but because my strength was never meant to be used to dominate—it was meant to be poured into devotion, obedience, care, and loyalty.

So I gave him everything. My choices. My voice. My body. My rules. My freedom.

And what I got in return was structure, safety, protection, purpose. A love that wraps around my soul like a blanket fresh out of the dryer. Warm. Complete. Anchored.

He is above me in every way that matters in our dynamic - his word outweighs mine, his comfort comes before mine, his judgment overrules mine, and his needs always outrank mine. My role is to serve. To obey. To please. Not as a performative thing, but as my actual identity. It’s who I am, every minute of the day.

And strangely, that kind of complete surrender brings freedom. Because I don’t have to be in charge. I don’t have to lead. I don’t have to split everything 50/50. I don’t have to carry the weight of the world alone. I get to kneel in my rightful place and just be. Small. Soft. Humble. His.

It’s not popular to say, and I don’t need it to be. This isn’t for the world to understand, it’s for me to live. And I live it joyfully.

I am beneath him, and I love it here.

A wise person once said:

A man in control will bring about a sense of calm to a woman's mind.

Despite having been together for a significant time, she is instructed by him to put as much effort into date night as she did weren't they first met

That means spending time making herself beautiful. Choosing beautiful and attractive clothing, sometimes from his choice. Playing attention to little things about her body, her perfume, her hairdo

Her friends would have found it strange. Isn't the point of a relationship to get comfortable with each other, to have to do pretenses, they would ask

But she trusted his judgement. His judgement was that, there is a difference between comfort and complacency. Comfort meant being happy with who you are around each other. Complacency meant taking each other for granted. Complacency meant putting in less effort each day and yet expecting magic to happen out of nowhere.

No wonder why she still felt butterflies. No wonder why she blushed and felt shy yet aroused in his presence. No wonder why he claimed her body every time after the date. Because she made it special.

While her friends' relationships withered and waned and turned into roommates, hers flowered with devotion, attraction, and passion.

And yes, he put in just as much effort as day one.

If you are a good leader, your woman will follow. No need for force.