And There Will Come A Day When You Suddenly Go, Oh. That’s Why. That’s Why It Was Worth Living And

Let me ask you a question, and be honest. Can you tell me, among all of the people that you know, how many of them are genuinely happy?

I asked myself this question earlier in the day and the answer is quite disturbing.

Not that many. Just a few of them. Most of my loved ones are struggling. Are having a rough time. Are feeling stressed, anxious, unmotivated, sad. Need support, understanding, time. And that is okay.

What I want to emphasize is that I believe we should cherish every little joy, every pleasant day, every warm smile that we experience. Because they can be so rare. Collect those precious moments within your heart and who knows, one day, you might end up exactly where you've always wanted to be.

I don’t care how problematic someone’s opinion is. They could spew the most racist, sexist trash in the world, but that person will never be worse to me than the cancel culture mob. Why? Because having an opinion isn’t an action. It can be ignored. It can be changed as the person grows. It is reversible.

You know what isn’t reversible? Murdering someone’s reputation. Ruining a life. Making death threats. Burying someone in shame with the FULL INTENTION of NEVER allowing them to become a better person, all so you can feel righteous for having “beaten the bad guy.”

Stop ruining lives. We need to learn how to express disagreement maturely. Cancel culture isn’t some ghostly all-powerful entity; it is individuals making the choice to add their screams to the mob. If you have participated, then YOU are culpable in this crime against human decency. And I know you are better than that.

We have court systems and juries to accuse people if they have committed a crime, if they have actively broken a law. Freedom of speech means having an opinion is not a crime, no matter how distasteful we find it. Hurting someone with words isn’t right, but it still is not a crime. And we should be thankful, otherwise everyone who has added their screams of hate and outrage on social media would be in prison.

Please. Let’s relearn how to love each other. Let’s relearn how to have grace with each other, educate each other, be good examples to each other so others will WANT to follow our example. No one has EVER genuinely changed their opinion because someone was degrading them as a person, and forcing everyone to follow popular opinion out of fear of public backlash isn’t freedom. It is tyranny. And it’s just going to lead to more hate.

Thank you for your time.

When things are coming up (new workplace, a trip, a presentation) they feel scary sometimes because you’re not ready for them. The biggest mistake you can make is to think that you not being ready is just a state you’re in forever, when in reality it’s often just a matter of time. If you’re afraid, try not to use it as an excuse but as an indication that there’s room for improvement. Until the time comes, figure out what you can do in preparation, where you can ask for help, what you can practice and improve. You are dynamic: you have the ability to grow into the version of yourself who, despite the fact that they’re still a little nervous, is ready for whatever’s coming.

“Don’t lie to an over thinker. It never ends well. Such people have trained their brains to look for holes in a story. If shit doesn’t make sense, they think about it over and over until it makes sense. I’m that person.”

— Unknown

It is okay to completely change your beliefs, ideas, intentions, boundaries, expectations and desires. You are a dynamic being. You are “supposed” to explore more and change. Change is a core part of your expansion.

Men need to normalize having friendships with women without a sexual or romantic foundation. Some women are just really cool people to know, regardless of your attraction to them.

I always feel that and it's true

I will try to follow these definitely

How to remain productive with online classes:

A few tips from a broke neuro-divergent academic

Try and wake up early, and go to bed early too. I’m not saying get up at 5 (unless that’s you’re thing) but sleeping into noon is a productivity blackhole. I go for 8 or 8:30, generally, but that’s just what works for me.

Get dressed for the day. I’m not talking like, jeans and a business casual outfit, but a clean pair of sweatpants, fresh underwear, and a new shirt can really put you in the mood for a new morning.

Have a workspace. Whether it be the kitchen table, a desk, a spot on the floor with a lap desk, have a place that’s dedicated to your work. Have items that signify that workspace too, like your book, planner, laptop, lamp, whatever. It can help you get into the zone, being in that space.

Have a morning drink. I choose earl grey tea with honey and cream, but black coffee, herbal tea, lemon water, whatever works for you is awesome, as long as itll wake you up and start your day.

To do lists. To do lists and to do lists and more to do lists. I have three. One is a post it weekly planner deal (3.99 at a local grocery store). it’s a weekly spread already set up, and if you’re anything like me, its really hard to set up a weekly spread. Then I have an app called Ike. I have a daily to do list I write on that app, and then I have four more to-do lists of what I have to for each specific class.

Spread out your assignments. Don’t overwhelm yourself. If you’re professors are like mine, and have the due date for each module as Sunday at midnight. What I do is spread out all my assignments from Monday to Saturday, and I leave Sunday blank, so anything I didn’t do that week, I finish on Sunday. It works for me, it might work for you.

Have a folder for each class, and a notebook for each class. I hate spending money, I’m broke as hell, sono al verde as the Italians say, but a 0.99 cent folder and a 0.25 cent notebook can do wonders for motivating one to fill them up.

Study with a drink. Tea, water, coffee, whatever, but my go to is generally a warm drink. I cannot study if I’m cold, I get tired and groggy, so warm socks, a robe, and a hot drink really keep me going.

Take breaks. Make time for your hobbies, for something fun. Working without stopping absolutely destroys my motivation, and let me tell you, when I feel like that, an episode of Avatar and a snack gets me right back on the wagon.

Do self check ins. Does your back hurt? Are you sad? Stressed? Do you have to pee? Are you hungry? Never put your homework over your health. You won’t be able to get anything done well anyway if you’ve got those blocks.

Most importantly, get enough sleep. I beg of you. Sleep is so important, and it’s the game changer, at least to me. We as students have such an amazing opportunity to get more sleep than we ever have before during the year. Take advantage of that.

Not very dear modi ji

Aapse nahi ho payega

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