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So I had recently started seeing an ex girlfriend again back at the beginning of the new year. When we together before it was very serious just a couple years ago but things didn’t work out. We kind of stayed in touch until she started seeing someone else and we lost contact. She later messaged me after and told me they broke up.
In the beginning we were keeping things VERY casual even discussing seeing other people or fun sex stories. This turned into us fooling around and eventually starting to see eachother a lot more often and acting a lot like we were in a relationship. We did specify that we weren’t official but eventually did say neither of us were seeing / looking to see / or had plans or prospects on seeing anyone else. She even told me “you don’t have anything to worry about” “I’d let you know and tell ypu if I ever wanted to do anything else with anyone” and “I would never be interested in having more than one partner in or around the same time frame” and things start going really well with us hanging out/seeing eachother.
Just a few weeks ago I stumbled into her facebook and found out that she has been intensely Sexting with a friend of hers while talking about wanting to hook up. Not the end of the world but I keep reading and find out just recently they hung out and she blew him, he spanked her, and choked her (all things we like to do and play around with). I’m not so upset about the fact that it happened but that she went out of her way to lie to me and act like nothing was going on. I’m really hurt by the dishonesty and behaviour but I have to admit part of me is really turned on by it. We have discussed before the idea of open relationships or threesomes or bringing someone in but the idea had always included full openness and honesty with eachother. I don’t know if I could trust her again or if I should even give her a chance.
I did call her out and she apologized and promises it wouldn’t happen again but also said she still doesn’t want to make anything official at this time because she isn’t ready because of her breakup. We are hanging out less often but still trying to keep things together while we decide what to do but I’m at a loss.
Does anyone have any advice or help they can give me. (not just looking for the obvious “sissy type” answers or role plays, I’m honestly asking for help.
Thanks.
CHEATER ADVICE
So I had recently started seeing an ex girlfriend again back at the beginning of the new year. When we together before it was very serious just a couple years ago but things didn't work out. We kind of stayed in touch until she started seeing someone else and we lost contact. She later messaged me after and told me they broke up. In the beginning we were keeping things VERY casual even discussing seeing other people or fun sex stories. This turned into us fooling around and eventually starting to see eachother a lot more often and acting a lot like we were in a relationship. We did specify that we weren't official but eventually did say neither of us were seeing / looking to see / or had plans or prospects on seeing anyone else. She even told me "you don't have anything to worry about" "I'd let you know and tell ypu if I ever wanted to do anything else with anyone" and "I would never be interested in having more than one partner in or around the same time frame" and things start going really well with us hanging out/seeing eachother. Just a few weeks ago I stumbled into her facebook and found out that she has been intensely Sexting with a friend of hers while talking about wanting to hook up. Not the end of the world but I keep reading and find out just recently they hung out and she blew him, he spanked her, and choked her (all things we like to do and play around with). I'm not so upset about the fact that it happened but that she went out of her way to lie to me and act like nothing was going on. I'm really hurt by the dishonesty and behaviour but I have to admit part of me is really turned on by it. We have discussed before the idea of open relationships or threesomes or bringing someone in but the idea had always included full openness and honesty with eachother. I don't know if I could trust her again or if I should even give her a chance. I did call her out and she apologized and promises it wouldn't happen again but also said she still doesn't want to make anything official at this time because she isn't ready because of her breakup. We are hanging out less often but still trying to keep things together while we decide what to do but I'm at a loss. Does anyone have any advice or help they can give me. (not just looking for the obvious "sissy type" answers or role plays, I'm honestly asking for help. Thanks.
Lessons for the ladies on how to get your way.
Let him do it. But on these condition. He has to send pictures and narratives and no secret rendezvous. You get the full background before you approve anything. And every time he can do this only on your approval… your honey-dolist is ✅. You tell her it’s okay. No one is in the wonderment of anything going awry. You get the wet real fantasy of knowing he is plowing into another woman’s body with reckless abandon! You can invision the woman with every detail of your new favorite pornstar husband! Some very hot erotica awaits your life ahead!
If you can’t see this then tell him absolutely not you bring this up again we’re done!
Would you be okay with a hall pass?
So my husband and I had a conversation the other day that really irked me. We are long distance right now, and he made a joke about finding some other girl to fuck cuz he was horny. And I half-joked back and said he wouldn’t do it even if I gave him permission to. And this spiraled into a weird argument because he wouldn’t just admit that he wouldn’t have sex with a rando. Finally I got him to admit it, but his reason was that it would destroy me and I would never be able to forgive him for that. And it kinda hurt my feelings because I wanted him to say it because he loves me and doesn’t want anyone else. Idk. I’m just here to vent. But I would like input. What do you guys think?
Groundrules
some groundrules i want to follow from now on.
•respectfulness
show Men the most respect in everyday live
•obedience
be obedient towards Men if its rational. i mean its important to be obedient towards Men but not if i hurt myself or others in any way.
•dociel
follow Mens lead. dont be stubborn and be changeable. accept if i do something wrong and better myself
•supporting
accept i m in a supporting role in live. Men do the most and hardest work in live. and this mostly better as most girls can do. but i can support Men with other things. make a good and nice enviroment at home or at work. bring coffee, by nice and happy, make people feel good and things like this.
•focus
focus more on my apperiance and improve this. focus on Men and what Men need and want. and focus on things more suitable for girls. focus on my femininity.
•detox
detox on things, ideas and people who are not good for me. people who are very hateful, feminist, untrustworthy or generaly not good people. things or ideas which arent good for girls like leadership roles or some kind of higher knowledge because leadership is just very unatural for girls and some higher knowledge just useless for girls. i just noticed i m very easiely influenced and i think most girls are like me easiely enfluenced. thats why its important to ban bad influence as good as possible.
thats something i just recently begun to understand. girls and Man are different and its pretty normal to make mistakes or act not good. but to make the real effort to listen to good Men, accept your own wrong doing and to improv acording to it is very important.
it helps alot to keep nice and peaceful realationships. and to make everybody feel good.
Pro Tip
Girls,
Being adversarial isn’t strong.
Being defensive isn’t strong.
Being stubborn isn’t strong.
Not listening isn’t strong.
Thinking you know best isn’t strong.
Be soft. Be quiet. Be humble. Be receptive. Listen. Think about what he says. Try to understand why he’s right. Ask him to explain how you’re wrong.
Be.
A.
Good.
Girl.
thats something i have to begin to practise about an year ago because i had the bad happid to interrupt people and as i begun to be more pro patriachiat i noticed how disrespectful this is towards Men.
after some weeks it become pretty normal to shut up when a Man speaks. and the effect it had was big. the Men around me became much more nicer and helpful towards me.
another funny thing is the thing about the eyes. its the first time i read about this and thats something i naturaly do. i must say i m pretty nervous and shy around Men nearly my whole life. so i naturaly lower my gaze around Men
Rules
One of the rules Master has for me is designed to constantly remind me of my place. I am never allowed to interrupt a Man when He is speaking. This is obvious at home with him and his friends but it also extends beyond Master’s home. In a shop, in the street, and at work (for the period that I will be permitted allowed to maintain a regular job) it does not matter what a Man is saying, i have to wait until He finishes speaking before I can speak. i have noticed at work that this has made men more friendly, helpful, condescending and patronising towards me. If only they knew it was making pussy wet as well :)
thats something i have dicvouvert too recently and something what help me alot when i think i cant do it
“It’s never too late to change your life. Don’t give up on the body you want, don’t say you’ll never have it, or that you don’t have time. What you think is what you become. We all have time, and we all started somewhere. Ask yourself what’s really important to you, put things into perspective. - Laci Kay Somers”
— http://positivebarbie.tumblr.com/ (via positivebarbie)
this is wonderful said. acceptance is the thing i think most girls struggle the most, myself included.
when there isent acceptance then i dont think there is a change in oneself.
by the way @bimbotrainer4u has a really wonderful blog and a must here on tumblr
I want to be a Bimbo but…
I wanted to post this because I have been getting alot if messages asking for help and advice. Which is great! I am happy to speak with all of you. Alot of the conversation ends up coming down to this “I want to be a Bimbo but…”
This is because you still have not accepted your natural state. You want to live in both worlds. You want to be taken seriously and be treated like an object when it suits you. Silly girl you are not ready to give up control. You are not ready to be an object.
It doesn’t matter what your current body looks like, if you are willing to be obedient and accept your natural state. It doesn’t matter if you think you are too smart. If you truly want to be a bimbo you first have to accept. There is no but… Just acceptance. The rest can be learned and taught to a willing girl.
good looks are important for a girl but i think to be happy and cheerful is similar important
wonderful guide and rules to follow 🤗
Good girls etiquette
Don’t ever wear men’s clothes. Always remember you’re a girl and dress accordingly.
There is a fine line between sexy and slutty. There is a time and place for both.
Never swear and don’t talk loudly. Keep your voice down and keep it pleasant.
Never interrupt a Man while he’s talking. Wait your time. If he cuts you off stop talking and wait patiently until he’s finished before continuing.
Never talk back. If you disagree say so but in a pleasant manner. Never bitch and never complain and never accuse. Recognise when he’s made up his mind. When he’s told you his decision accept it and move on even if it didn’t go your way.
Openly disagreeing with your Man or questioning him in public shows disunity and should be avoided. Keep your disagreements private (and remember 3-5 above).
Always check in with your Man before making any decisions. Saying “I need to check with my boyfriend/husband” is a perfectly valid answer to most questions.
Be happy and be positive. Do your best to please the people around you and especially your Man. Always ask yourself what more you can do. Look for opportunities to please and be of use.
Always be polite and respectful. Say “thank you” and “please.” If you’ve done anything to upset your Man remember to say “I’m sorry.”
Ask your Man if any of the above is unclear.
wonderful groundrules to live by ☝🏻
Subtle ways to serve the patriarchy in your daily life:
1. Be respectful
When talking to strange men, always refer to them as "sir" or as a "gentleman." This may seem outdated, but some people still talk like that. It shows your respect and harkens back to a time when men were in charge and women knew their place.
2. Be polite
Always say please and thank you, even if it doesn't seem necessary. For example, instead of saying, "Hey, do you know where the restroom is?" say, "Excuse me, sir, could you please show me where the restroom is?"
3. Be dependent
If you go out with a man, let him hold your phone. He'll decide what you need to see and who you need to communicate with. If he goes through your texts and photos, that's his right.
4. Be a doll
If you go out with a man, let him choose your outfit, how you do your makeup, and your hair. Don't leave until he is completely satisfied with your appearance.
5. Dress to impress
If you go out without a man, choose makeup and an outfit based entirely on what you think men find attractive. (Unfortunately, you will have to use your brain just a little bit for this one 😥) It doesn't matter if you like it, or if it's comfortable, men's taste is your taste.
6. Be helpless
If you think you might need help with something, ask a man. Even if you think you could probably do it on your own, remember that you can't. If you're lost, don't try to use Google maps. Ask a man for help. If there's something wrong with your car, don't even try to figure out what it is, take it to a mechanic, and say, "It makes a weird noise when I do this" and let him handle everything for you (ideally you wouldn't be driving at all)
7. Be approachable
If ANY man flirts with you or compliments you, be receptive. If a dirty homeless man says you have nice tit's, smile at him and say, "Thank you, sir." If a group of men are hollering at you, stick around, give them a spin so they can see and judge every part of your body, invite them to come over and grope you.
8. Be submisive
Never talk back to a man. If a man is rude to you, be grateful for the attention and ask him what you can do to make it right.
9. Be dumb
Don't use big words, in text or in speech. If you have an idea that you don't know how to express, it's probably too complicated for you. Only read when you have to. Never try to understand current events, occupy your mind with porn. If you really need more intellectual stimulation, you can watch something like celebrity gossip news.
10. Spead the word
Subtly try to teach other women their place, compliment them on their appearance, and nothing else. Discourage them from valuing things like their education and career. Encorage them to dress more slutty, if possible get them drunk and makeout with them for men to watch.
thats sooo motivating! i think there ar still many things to improve on my body. cant even stop to count.....
but this is just wonderful!
thats such a good advice! just needed to reblog it 🔥
Dress for the life you wish to lead
I know you are strapped for cash, but every time you need to buy some cothes, make sure you buy silly slutty clothes. bit by bit, over time, you will slwoly revolutionise your wardrobe until you spend all day and every day dressed like a dumb bimbo doll.
thats so true! it only makes things difficult and confusid. and it can to lead to wrong thinking for girls
that something that took time till i understand it. pleasere and pain. not only with heels but with other stuff too. its easy to focus only on pleasure but when u want to improve realy and want to make the change pain is something which comes along. from wake up earlier to get ready even when u want sleep to wearing heels for long time even when the legs hurt.
its just part of it when u want to make real progress 💁♀️
for many years i coulnd understand why some people like it. i fought its gross and strange till i tried it for myself the first time with a now exbf. and that what this girls ar talking about is just 100% true!
Anal it is then 😂
thats something i do alot recently. it helps to be focused and find the things to improve
very good rules to live by ☝️
10 Ways To Surrender
I need to find a man to impose these rules on me. We tell you to surrender. Sometimes directly, sometimes in subtle ways. You wonder what it really means. How do you let Men win. How do you truly surrender. After all, you’re so tired of resisting. So tired of fighting.Here’s how.
Surrender your own style. Your style is ‘sexy.’ Not goth, or punk, or chic, or professional. Hot. Show off your body. Wear makeup. You have no style or fashion sense, just parts to expose and reveal.
Surrender your opinion. This can feel optional. It isn’t. If a man says something you think is wrong, agree with it. If a man says something you think is right, agree as well. Agreement doesn’t have to be enthusiastic, just permanent. Nod your head whenever Men speak.
Surrender your will. Do as you’re told. Get coffee, suck cock, make copies, leave the room, kneel, put on a collar, slap yourself in the face. Whatever it is, do it instantly. If you can’t do it instantly, apologize. If you don’t know how to do something, admit you’re not smart enough and get help.
Surrender the word ‘No.’ Forget it. It doesn’t exist for you.
Surrender your pride. Never compete with a man and never feel proud of your accomplishments. You have value only in the pleasure you provide. Accept that you’re not good enough and you’re not pretty enough and you’re not smart.
Surrender your name. Do everyone know you as Jennifer or Rebecca or Mrs. Smith? Call yourself Jenni with an “i” or answer only to ‘bitch’ or ‘slut.’ Don’t give your full name and don’t answer to it. You have a silly stripper’s name, a child’s name. Don’t be taken seriously.
Surrender your ambition. Are you getting a degree? Quit. Are you up for a promotion? Stop trying. Are you looking for work? Look for a husband instead. The highest level you can hope to achieve is being a good girl.
Surrender your limits. Did you have hard limits on posting pics? Anal sex? BDSM? Do you always negotiate a safe word? You have no limits anymore. Surrender them. Let others decide if you need thresholds or boundaries. It’s not up to you.
Surrender your interests. No more reading books, no more reading magazines, no more learning about politics or ideas. Read texts, look at pictures. No more hobbies. Surrender the part of you that wants to learn and express yourself. No one cares what you think or what you can do. Give up.
Surrender your body. Does a man think you should have bigger tits? Pay to be plastic. A smaller waist? Diet and work out. Does he want piercings? Tattoos? Change for Him. He wants your pussy shaved? Shave it. It’s not your body anymore
this sums it completly up! i could never say it better than this.
Girls:
Your appearance matters. In a screen-centric, social-media-obsessed world, most people will only ever know you by the images they see. You want to present yourself in the best possible light, and that means you have to wear the sexiest clothes, strike the most seductive poses, and push your body to perfection. Otherwise, everyone who sees you will think you don't care about yourself or anyone else.
But for the select few that actually get to know you, perfect behavior matters more than perfect appearance. You'll be happy when the people around you are happy. Pay minute attention to their needs and wants, and make them your own. Ask them what they want you to be. Let them train you to fulfill their desires. You don't have to worry about "discovering yourself" or "thinking for yourself". That's all aimless wandering that distracts you from your true purpose. You can't afford to waste time looking for answers when the answers are right in front of you.
thats just too good not to reblog!
Hello again! I've changed quite a bit since the last time I did an ask. My boyfriend has effectively turned me into his housewife, and my view on the world, especially on how women should be treated, has drastically changed.
My first question is, how does one fully achieve a state of docile obedience?
My second is, how might I, as a future mother, teach our God-given roles to our youth? Especially for me, as I will have to adopt.
Glad to hear you've grown so much since your last ask and congrats on finding your place as a woman. Make sure you spread patriarchy to your girlfriends so you can share in each other's experiences as submissive women!
Let's focus on the principles that align with patriarchy:
Achieving a state of docile obedience:
The main aspect of this journey is understanding and accepting the guiding role of your partner in your relationship. Here are some suggestions:
Surrendering Control: As a woman, you're embracing a supportive role, which can be seen as surrendering control. This doesn't mean losing your self-worth, but rather entrusting your man with the decision-making power.
Faith in His Leadership: Build trust in your boyfriend's ability to make the right decisions. Practice obedience by accepting his decisions, even if they differ from your initial thoughts.
Servitude: Seek to serve your man in ways that are meaningful to him, whether it's through household duties, affection, or emotional support.
Teaching God-given roles to our youth:
As for raising your future children, you'll want to instill these values from a young age.
Demonstrating Roles: Show them through your daily actions what it means to be a woman who respects her man's authority and a man who takes charge.
Teach Respect: Teach them the importance of respecting the roles of each gender as different but complementary.
Encourage Obedience: From a young age, instill in them the importance of listening to male authority figures, respecting their elders, and understanding their place in the family hierarchy.
It's essential to remember that while you're teaching these traditional values, every individual should be treated with kindness, respect, and love. This ensures a balanced upbringing where children feel valued and heard, even within a traditional familial structure.
smiling is much better then anything i could say. i practice this for some time now and its totaly unbelievinle how much it works
all in all i think thats true ☝️
Speaking for cunts
§1 Nothing you say will interest Men
§2 If you have to say anything, let it be something that please Men
§3 Never interrupt a Man when He is speaking
§4 Keep it simple. Talk about things you understand.
§5 If you’re not sure what to say, be quiet
§6 If you think you have something clever to say it’s probably just you
§7 Silence is golden.
§8 Prefer giggles over words
§9 You opinion does not count
§10 If God intended women to speak, he would have made them Men
its like this is writen for me. it was very hart and hurtful for myself because its not easy to accept the true. but its alredy a year since i begun to accept myself more. and the changes since that are realy big. i know by now i cant do much on my own or understand stuff like other people do. i m not capable enough. i dont trust my own decicins any more. i dont try anymore to go behind my limits. i know by know when i try to do that i make mistakes which hurt myself or other people.
this all sound awful but it made me more obediant, more trustfuler, better at follow rules and orders, less stressfuler and safer.
all in all i think it made me a better person and girl.
Be who you are.
Don't try to hide the fact that you're a dim witted little cunt. People around you most likely already know. you're not fooling them. Each time you try to cover a mistake or attempt to appear smarter than you are, people only roll their eyes, laugh or tell stories about you when you leave.
Instead, own it. Be proud to ask for help. Tell those who offer their help how stupid you really are. It's not like you can change who you are so why try?
Wear your stupidity like a badge. It's likely that no one has faith enough in your abilities to give you important tasks by now anyway.
Change the way you look at yourself and those around you will do the same.
Become the office air head. your brain is of little importance to those around you so shift their focus onto those areas that do matter.
Start wearing more provocative outfits that show off your natural talents. Shorter skirts that show off your ass. Low cut tops that show more of your tits.
Show those around you that you have other worth to them.
If you can't contribute mentally, isn't it better to provide those around you with the entertainment that will help their days go a little faster?
you owe it to them.
cant say it better!!!
Women should be feminine again.
•Learn about serving men rather questioning them.
•Never say 'No' to anything he says.
•Do exactly how he instructs/orders.
•Accept inferiority in yourself.
•Please him.
•Accept the fact that you need men's approval.