Coming Out - Blog Posts

About to come out as a boy to my dad

Wish me luck

So uh

Here, have a lil goofy animation! Hmm, what could this be leading to? This was made in 2021 iirc on flipnote studio 3D :D!

Kaede with a s/o coming out as lesbian

Word count: 309

Author’s note: Sorry for making you guys wait so long, I was out of town for the past few days. I’m back now though, so I’ll be able to catch up and keep working. I also wasn’t sure how to just focus on her reaction without it being a single sentence, so  I hope my take is okay.  Please enjoy! 

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At first when you told Kaede you had something important you wanted to tell her, she was really nervous

I mean you guys, at this point, were just best friends so obviously you two told each other everything

When you actually told her you were a lesbian, she couldn’t contain her excitement, for two reasons:

The first being that she was proud that you know who you are and that you can trust her enough to tell her too 

And secondly… She felt like maybe she wanted to be more than best friends with you, but didn’t think she had the chance before

She would wrap you in a huge hug 

“S/o that’s awesome, thank you so much for telling me”

You were super glad she accepted you

She already knew what that meant, so she didn’t really have any questions for you about it

“Hey s/o? Um, since we’re on the topic of telling each other things, I sorta.. Think I like you. But if you don’t feel the same, that’s okay, I’m still proud of you telling me I just thought-” 

You cut her off by hugging her tightly again, and admitting your own feelings

Now when you guys walk down the halls together, she holds your hand tightly; and even goes with you for moral support when you come out to others (if you’re comfortable with her being there, but of course you are)

She’d offer to buy you a lesbian pride flag for your room, and tons of little things in lesbian colors

Like bracelets, stuffed animals, shirts, and tons of other things too

Oh, and she definitely proudly tells anyone, who wants to know, that you’re her girlfriend

Overall, she’d treat you the same as before because you’re still her best friend, but now also her girlfriend, and she couldn’t be happier

My parents try to be supportive of the 2SLGBTQIA+ community but they're not the greatest with pronouns... And by that I mean they try a little to hard to use the pronoun they in a sentence like "oh did THEY say that?" and idk if it'll be weird...

Okay but on some serious shit for those in the lgbtqia+ community or an ally of the community that are out here pushing people out of the closet because it's your belief that everyone should be out and proud, while yes I understand people should be proud to be themselves and love who they are with no restraints it also is not up to you. If someone is not comfortable or safe to come out you should comfort them and stay by them till they are strong enough to let that side out, not push them into a situation were they can fall into a depressive state or even receive physical, emotional, or mental harm. By forcing someone out of the closet you could be putting them in harms way so please if you have a friend or family member that is lgbtqia+ please wait for them to come out at their own time and reassure them you'll be here for every step of the way.

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If/when this posts reaches 5555 notes, I’ll come out as trans to my parents.

No rules. Spam however much you want (But please have some mercy, like at least let this post take a few months 🙏).

Words don’t even. 🏳️‍🌈 I am emotionally drained but oh my god. I have never been more rapid if someone ever. Just. Wow. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

Ppl should stop putting so much pressure on gay ppl to "come out" and more pressure on straight ppl to stop assuming everyone's sexuality is fucking straight

You know what. We need a bisexual guy coming out story but where he had thought he was gay before he fell in love with a girl. Like we don't get these kind of stories okay

When Pran said "You've got to stop doing this to me. We are not a thing" on the rooftop, I found the English translation a little confusing. The first sentence makes it sound like Pran is asking Pat to stop being clearly romantic with him because it's hurting him, but the second sentence makes it sound like he's telling Pat to stop being clearly romantic because it's not appropriate to the kind of relationship they have, without any romantic feelings on Pran's part. Can you shed any light on what exactly Pran was trying to communicate?

Oh certainly.

This was one of my favorite parts because they used super subtle language rather than the usual Thai words for couple (which I can't spell but can now recognize) or faen.

The first bit is Pran saying basically:

"I've had enough. Stop jerking me around, emotionally. You've been flirting on and off with me for years and it's not fair. Because i know what's going on and how I feel about you. And I kind of always have since the pond incident."

The second bit is:

"It's not fair of you, Pat, to do these kind of things to me (possession, jealousy, casual affection, flirting) without you, Pat, having actual romantic feels for me. (And acknowledging them.)"

Pran thinks Pat is being casual with him. But Pran is not a casual person. This is about sincerity. 

I think Pran also thinks that Pat hasn't acknowledged his own feelings to himself yet. Remember, they have known each other a very long time. And Pran is a lot more self aware than Pat is (and he also knows that). I think he realizes that Pat is a little in love with him but Pran believes that Pat will never come to place where he can admit that to HIMSELF.

Thus the kiss is a real shocker to Pran, because he didn't think it would ever happen. And it's not that he thought Pat didn't have the guts, or wasn't action orientated, it's just that he didn't think Pat would ever have the level of self awareness required.

Pat grew up in the course of one episode, if I were Pran, I'd be surprised too.

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As an IRL example, it's not quite the same thing but...

You ever have that friend who is clearly queer but just isn't yet?

So they aren't pretending, it's not even self delusion, because they just don't realize it. Sometimes it's family background, but sometimes it's just that they are too emotionally young. They haven't figured themselves out. How can they when they haven't had the right life experiences yet? They aren't to be blamed or pushed because of this. It's a void not a wound.

As friends (or sometimes family members) I think we often see queerness in the people we love before they see it in themselves. (Especially if we are a little older and already out.)

Because we, personally, aren't dealing with the guilt, shame, fear, loss, and rebuilding of identity that society's expectations place on our friend's way of thinking about themself. (Even if we've been through it, it's different for everyone, and we can easily forget because we want to.)

Even if the friendship group or family is accepting, it can be super hard. Because then there is a whole new set of expectations to come up against.

When analyzing Color Rush, I mentioned that no one really talks about how first love as a queer person is also a grieving process. (And anger: why must we grieve as we experience passion for the first time when the hets don't have to?)

Because as we open the closet door and walk into a queer identity we mourn the dead straight identity we left behind.

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Which is a long way of saying, what we see on this rooftop with Pat & Pran is first love and new passion, but it is also grief.

URGENT

With 👇

I will give it to my mother and see her reaction

It really doesn't need to be a big deal!

Anyone else get that feeling where they want to come out to people but simply can't be bothered to deal with all the surprise and what a big deal it will be made into?

happy national coming out day to everyone who plans on coming out today

happy national coming out day to everyone who’s been out for a while

happy national coming out day to everyone who can’t come out

happy national coming out day to everyone who could come out but isn’t ready

you’re all valid and i love you

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Don’t feel forced to come out, regardless of the day.

Leo coming out-

Leo to the seven+nico, reyna, will, Calypso and Thalia: everyone, I want to tell you something.

Jason: what is it Leo?

Leo: for the last couple of weeks I was thinking and trying to figure something out an-

Piper: what was it?

Leo: my sexuality, it was on my mind for the last couple weeks and I finally figured it down and I wanted to tell you.

Calypso & Hazel: what is a sexuality?

Annabeth: ho right, you don't know. A sexuality is what you are attracted to or when or how or who to people.

Calypso & Hazel: thanks for the explanation.

Percy: so Leo, what is your sexuality?

Leo: everyone, I am aromantic asexual.

Calypso & Hazel: what does it mean?

Leo: aromantic means you experience little to no romantic attraction, and asexual means you experience little to no sexual attraction. Its a spectrum, in my case I don't feel any romantic or sexual attraction to people.

Hazel: oh, thanks for the explanation.

Reyna: but what about all the times that you flirted with people?

Leo: oh that time I just confused other kinds of attraction as romantic one.

Reyna: oh, alright.

Jason: and don't worry Leo, we except you just the way you are.

Leo: thank you Jason.

Ooc

yo, fellow trans people, I’ve got a question-

Is this alr to give to my mom so i can come out??? Should I change it up or-

She is supportive but she also thinks im also sorta young :/

For those who can’t read my messy handwriting, it says:

Hey mom, I need to tell you something.

I’m transgender.

I use he/they.

My new name is Royce.

I’ve been doing quite a bit of thinking, and I’m pretty sure I’m male-aligning (non-binary, enby, demiboy, etc.)

Please don’t tell me I’m too young. I wouldn’t know if I was too young.

OK, so, I was just reading in my room with my music blasting into my ears through my headphones so I can't hear my family, and then 'This is what you came for' by Calvin Harris and Rihanna starts playing. And do you know what my first thought was?

'This feels very Robin-coming-out-y'.

Then that FUCKING scene in season 3 when Robin comes out to Steve in the Starcourt bathroom after they got kidnapped and drugged by the Russians kept playing OVER AND OVER IN MY HEAD...............

And that concludes my rant about why someone needs to make this an edit on YouTube or something.

I just had one of the most positive "coming out" therian experiences Ive ever had the other day.

I was hanging out with a couple friends I hadn't seen in a while (technically it'd been years, but we've all kept in good contact online so it felt like much less), and one of them asked me about therianthropy because they had seen me post about it once or twice on my main. So I tried to be less awkward about it than usual and just told them straight up "It means I identify as an animal".

And there were no weird looks, no blank stares or awkward silence. They just kinda laughed and were like "Oh yeah that makes perfect sense for you :)"

We talked about it a little bit off and on during the rest of the hang out, I told them about my phantom shifts and mental shifts, about how I met my irl therian friends, about how I found the community. They asked me genuine questions, and while talking about alterhumanity irl is still a rather uncomfortable experience given how infrequently I do it, I never once felt judged.

And the thing is that neither of these friends are even part of adjacent/intersecting communities. Neither are furries, neither are cosplayers or really even into fandom at all. By all accounts they're both very "normie", but they accepted me with open arms.

After really only having coming out experiences where the other person just responds with "okay 🙂" and then never acknowledges it again, it felt soooo good to just have a normal open conversation about it, just like I would with any other aspect of my identity.

Sometimes humans are really cool :)

Coming out

So I found out I liked girls in high school and, when I did, I told my parents.

 Their response was, “Oh, ok, that’s cool. Just don’t make any concrete decisions yet, alright? Cus’ you never know when you might want to give something new a try.”

Also, “Don’t be an angry lesbian, ok? Cus’ we know a few of those and they’re really annoying to deal with.”

Right. So keep an open mind and don’t be pissed off about life. I can deal with that.

He is risen, gang! Whoo! Let’s go!

So since it’s Easter, I thought it would be nice to share about what God did for me.

I was suicidal due to a porn addiction. God removed BOTH my suicidal tendencies and my lustful desires in one night on November 3rd, 2022. Now I help others follow Matthew 5:28

all my self harm scars are gone. Just vanished.

I was bisexual-ish, and God removed that on November 3rd, 2022, as well.

yeah. Just stuff God did for me. If He’ll do that for me, how much more will He do for you?

Happy Easter!