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Marriage in general is fucked in the middle east..
I hate hate HATE living in a country where girls being married off at 15 is seen as something to be envious of.. is seen as something to be admired for..for fuck sakes! That's a fucking child!! I remember a classmate talking about i think a cousin of hers who's 15 who's married to a 29/30 year old man and how MUCH he LOVES her and how everyday he does her FUCKING HAIR FOR FUCKING SCHOOL!!!!
i saw a video of a 26 year old mother selling food on the street to make money and the top comment on that video was a man (sincerely) offering to marry her and he had like 100 replies of people asking him if he did it already and praising him for it..
And you know what's annoying is when i try to point out how fucked up those things are.. I'm almost always in the minority, I'm almost always argued against and people try to justify something like this by being like "this is our culture"....
fuck this culture and religion because you know damn well this shit is rooted in religion.. girls married off when they hit puberty to men twice their age is seen as an accomplishment.. men being encouraged to grace widows and divorced women with their kindness and marry them like they're broken or used (even if it meant getting a second, third or a fourth wife)...
And i know to most people reading this shit it sounds like I'm making it up but I'm not and you have no idea how much i wish i was..
Black Friday/Good Friday is coming up which means it’s time to blast Judas on repeat!!!
it's really weird having a first dog be blind and then getting a second who can see...like how was I supposed to be prepared for this.
this creature can perceive when I put the treats up on the high shelf. or when I hide stuff behind my back. I can't fool her!! she's always watching me and she shouldn't have this much knowledge!!!
I walk around at night and I shine my flash light directly into her eyes and I'll just be standing there staring at her weird blue orbs for like 5 seconds until I realize it's probably extremely annoying to her, because she has eyes!! I'll turn on the light in the room and she gruffs and grumbles like ?? oh right!! light wakes you up!! the fuck??
Just saw another "if you hurt people because of your faith you don't really have any faith" post, and wanted to point out once again that this weird thing we do where we pretend that "real" religion is incapable of doing harm isn't doing us any favors. Of course people with "real" faith can hurt people! Christians beat their queer kids because they have real faith that being queer gets you tortured forever after you die, and that beating kids is a 100% god-approved activity! India's beef vigilantes kill their Muslim neighbors because they have real faith that cows are sacred animals that shouldn't be killed!
Stop this No True Scotsman shit! All it does is cede the moral high ground in every situation to religious belief, automatically agreeing that religion makes you a better person, and anything that makes you a worse person can't be religion.
im sorry reddit made atheism cringe for your or whatever but i'd take an annoying atheist over a weirdo esoteric christofascist any day
Actually, ex-Christians have earned the right to make fun of Christianity. It comes free with the religious trauma.
I can’t think of nothing more cruel than forcing a woman to gestate the child of a rapist because you believe that your imaginary omnipotent friend will be angry otherwise. It’s barbaric.
Hopefully this isn’t something that happens outside of the internet, but i wanna say that no matter how much you’ve been hurt by religion or religious people, do NOT sexualize women who practice modesty for religious purposes, even if it’s out of spite. I saw this going around online and their excuses are always related to their religious trauma regarding purity culture.
I know they have a grudge and many of us do, but sexualizing them only causes harm and does absolutely nothing to criticize religion. I’ve seen (mostly male) atheists who would edit photos of modest religious women (including hijabis and nuns) to put them in clothing that they would never be comfortable in. The sexualization is misogyny disguised as criticism of religion.
libfems be like: FUCK religion. it is OPPRESSIVE. it HARMS WOMEN. it's NONSENSICAL. how could you believe in your SKY DADDY. ANYONE who believes in religion is stupid and not worth the conversation!
... but not that one. that one's fine! listen to the people who practice it!! (in a conveniently western and privileged area) it's okay when they say women is property because it's cultural.
Don’t let them make you feel guilty.
“Not to shade religious people but it’s kinda chilling how some folks praise Abraham for being willing to kill Isaac for God to prove his devotion. Like idk about y’all, but if God told me to kill my son i’d kinda be like maybe this isn’t the god for me.”
Religion prioritizes submission, devotion, obedience, blind faith, etc. so it’s obvious what that tale was trying to do. They’re telling the followers that they will be rewarded for putting their god above any other.
“You must submit, but you have to do it willingly (like Abraham), forced submission is the same as no submission.”
They’re portraying this behavior as something to be praised and something to strive for. Abrahamic religions only give the illusion of “choice”. The tale is used to keep the followers in line while making them think that they’re admirable and worthy of praise because they chose to submit.
Plot holes in the bible? What next, the sky is blue?
Kids who were called "one of the most deep spiritual thinkers I've seen" by their pastors are all apostates now
Another fine case of “practice what you preach.” It’s not the woman’s fault that you lack self control.
Oddly enough, certain groups of women do find it beautiful when a man says it to them. Wonder why.
In my personal experience, i’ve heard of women around me with undiagnosed disorders get called “possessed” and sent to priests and other religious figures, meanwhile men get the luxury of mental healthcare more often.
"No one cares about men's mental health" is such a lie when women are massively underdiagnosed with just about everything else except "hysteric" cluster B disorders and everyone's up in arms when men go rape kids in war and come back with PTSD but no one has cared about prostituted and abused women's trauma since the beginning of time and there's so many girls and women with ADHD and autism who never get diagnosed because they don't fit into the male-centric diagnostic traits
it’s so isolating being an ex muslim, i left islam for my liberal values and trauma only for a lot of people on the left to coddle islam and defend it from any criticism while ex muslims are still being killed, tortured, honour killed by their own family, it was very disheartening to see that the side that says that they are “here” for the people who are suffering to constantly demonize ex muslims and their trauma and suffering and actively create a hostile environment against them and then they wonder why some ex muslims turn to the right, cause they listen to them even though they may know that they are probably nothing but a token they still will be there cause they think that the right hears their criticisms and suffering.
I can understand that a lot of fellow leftists don’t want muslim folks to get attacked for simply having their faith or wearing hijab, but apparently for most of them, it ended up being translated to “we’re not allowed to criticize islam as a religion.”
I wish we can separate attacks with criticism because the latter is very necessary. I can absolutely talk about how islam, like other abrahamic religions, can teach some very harmful things and become a tool for the justification of violence, without attacking people who happen to only hold some parts of the faith that doesn’t include the bigotry. (Or without attacking people in general)
it’s so isolating being an ex muslim, i left islam for my liberal values and trauma only for a lot of people on the left to coddle islam and defend it from any criticism while ex muslims are still being killed, tortured, honour killed by their own family, it was very disheartening to see that the side that says that they are “here” for the people who are suffering to constantly demonize ex muslims and their trauma and suffering and actively create a hostile environment against them and then they wonder why some ex muslims turn to the right, cause they listen to them even though they may know that they are probably nothing but a token they still will be there cause they think that the right hears their criticisms and suffering.
Jeanie Tomanek, Assumptions
im literally forever obsessed with this because it implies the following:
The Rapture, as described by Christian Evangelicals, has happened
Parents witnessed their son disappear during The Rapture, but remained atheists anyway (based)
Instead of sinners and nonbelievers going to hell or getting killed, they just... stay on Earth.
In the country i live in, christianity is not the dominant religion, and it’s pretty crazy how the christians always mention religious freedom when another religion tries to convert them, yet the same people would then go around harassing non-christians and trying to convert them.
The worst part is they always target people who are at a low point in their life where they’re desperate and vulnerable. Not surprised though, the bible basically told them to force others to convert under the belief that they’re “saving” people from the eternal abyss of hell or whatever.
I also find it weird how hypocritical they are in general and not just on this specific manner, like how they cherry pick which rules to follow on the bible, like not getting tattoos for example and then they go off wearing mixed fabric (which is apparently forbidden.)
I think it’s weird how there’s a double standard when it comes to atheists. So if i tell a religious person that i’m atheist, they’ll start interrogating me about my life. They would just assume that my atheism is because of some trauma that happened to me.
And then they would assume that atheists know everything about the universe. They would show you a phenomenon or whatever and tell you to explain it. And if you don’t know, they’ll think it’s a “gotcha” moment. Yet they allow it when people who identify with their religion barely know anything about it.
Like you can’t expect an atheist to debate with you anytime. We’re not omnipotent. We don’t know every single thing about the world, just like they don’t know every single thing about their religion. They’re holding us on a higher standard. And the reason is obvious.
For me it was moral perfectionism, i would constantly feel like i'm evil and immoral. I would sometimes become a doormat and let others push me around for the sake of that sweet, sweet, moral high ground. And back when i was religious, i would cope with others pushing me around by thinking "they'll be going to hell anyways".
Open discussion: has anyone dealt with perfectionism that most likely came from years of religious trauma?